Fang-tastic fannies, Baywatch Blowjobs and good old british summer (arse) rain). It's JSing Grads 30!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 30th grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 48th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

Here is the stats list, please update your own spot with any updates: Stats

Hoorah jelly, isn't it amazing seeing that little heartbeat? It's just mind blowing thinking a few weeks ago it was an egg and some jizz...

JC sorry to hear you're struggling but good to seek help. After the first trimester you have had it would not be at all surprising if you're a bit down - the physical struggles you've been through must have had an impact on your mood. I've been told I'll be referred to a special team of lovely midwives for slightly mad ladies such as myself, or in official terms, those who have a history of anxiety/depression. I am still on the meds and they're very keen I don't stop! I'm finding it hard to deal with the moodswings and to know whether it's just normal hormonal/pregnancy stuff, or something to worry about. It's a very confusing time and extra help can only be a good thing.

Pud sorry to hear about catpud. Sniff. It's nice you're getting cuddles with her beforehand though.

Will post Scan pics tomorrow - it's been such a hectic week, I am exhausted, but getting a train to the NW tonight to visit dh's parents. It's at 7:40pm, where in central London can I nap between now and then? Help viroids!

Thanks everyone, I'm fed up of feeling so disconnected from everything, can't seem to enjoy stuff and I know I'm withdrawing from DP.

I want to be able to join you all in your conversations. I always read everything and it's great to hear about you all.

JC- I'm glad you're seeking help. Hope you don't put extra pressure on yourself to 'deal with it' before baby arrives though- can only speak from my DH's experience (ongoing anxiety/depression diagnosed as a teenager) but when he's having a rough patch if he puts pressure on himself to 'get better' he just gets more anxious about it. I hope you feel better in 2nd trimester -physically and mentally.

Jelly, niff- yay for good scans!

I talk to my bump as in I just talk out loud and imagine I'm talking to baby, only when I'm alone though- usually in the car! I can't stop rubbing it though. I don't play music to baby- how does that work? I just put music on in the car anyway, baby can listen if she wants to!

We have a front runner from our names shortlist- actually the only runner we both properly agree on. I keep using the name in my head but feel like I shouldn't as I've never wanted to decide on a name before we meet her- what if she doesn't look like the name we like?! We need other options, though at the moment I don't like anything else as much.

Thanks for your tips everyone! Unfortunately there's very limited in the way of classes offered in my area, the midwife said it herself I've signed up to start a pregnancy yoga class for when I'm 16 weeks though so I will hopefully make mum friends there as very few of my friends have kids and as much as I adore my own mother she's very controlling so I don't want to have to go to her with every little thing.

jc I'm so sorry you're having to deal with depression on top of your crap 1st trimester. It's good that you have the option and are open to CBT though, I suffer terribly with anxiety (not at all obvious from my posts ) and I wish I'd done cbt before really. Gx things start looking up for you.

pud so sorry to hear about your big cat give little cat an extra big cuddle xx

pud sorry about you kitty. At least your doing the best thing for her x

Oh pud! Your kitty! Sorry to hear sad news, pleased you had some time to snuggle today. Bet she loved her Parmesan lunch xx

Sorry about your cat pud. Sounds like you've given her a lovely day

Thanks for the cat love Viroids. The vet was amazing and it was very gentle and quick for her. Feel okay now that it is all done and heading up to Yorkshire for some family time so that will be good.

Take it easy JC, you have had a horrible 1st trimester, be good to yourself

Yeeeaahh go jellybaby - awesome news on the scan

pud I'm so sorry to hear about your cat, you're doing a kind thing

jc well done on getting some help and I hope you start to feel more like yourself soon. With the not believing it thing - I am almost 24 weeks fuck time is flying and I have only recently started to believe there is really something in there and still don't feel bonded so don't put pressure on yourself about that bit

I don't think I can see all the messages as I can't see anything from pud about the cat but doesn't sound good. So sorry lovely, it's so horrible. I still miss my old boy.

You have had a shit time JC but hopefully you can get the support to get you through it. Use us as much as you need too.

Congrats jelly! 3d 10 week scan? Fancy!

Everyone is willing their babies on immediately and I don't want mine yet! I'm not ready! I don't know how this many weeks happened!

Oh, and it was Carol that said it would be hot la. Other people at work heard it too. Bloody liar! (She may have been talking about yesterday as it's raining now!)

Sorry to hear about your cat pud

JC I also suffer from Generalised Anxiety Disorder. I did try CBT but actually found it made me worse and more on edge! Obviously wasn't for me but works for others. I don't take any kind of medication for it and it's only some circumstances now that I feel overly anxious and try to keep calm. Keep at it if it's working for you they say it takes a few weeks for it to start working so stick with it
My step dad goes sailing for a week tomorrow so he won't be here for when I have my c section. I think he's a bit disappointed that he's not going to be here now as I'm pretty sure he's convinced himself that I would've had him before he went!
As my mum will be on her own I'm taking her out for lunch tomorrow and she's going to stay with us for a few days as of Tuesday night so we can juggle the childcare for DD whilst I'm in hospital. Looking forward to tomorrow, as I'm going to use the day to get some last bits as well for DS and hopefully pack my hospital bag!
I'm so rxcited but still quite nervous about having the procedure. I'm a bugger for reading stuff on google and horror stories about c sections and it's not helping. The people I've spoken to in real life who've had them have all said they'd have them again and o have nothing to worry about. Fingers crossed they're right and I'm worrying over nothing (as usual!)

Oh Pud I'm sorry about your cat

Morning

Pud - poor puss tat, I'm so sorry. sending you a hug xxx

JC this is a huge thing that's happening in your life and so far you've had a rotten time being sick, so you've probably had no time to get your head round it and get excited with your dh. I really hope your nausea eases so you can start to enjoy being pg a bit. I suffer from generalised anxiety disorder and the pregnancy was a massive adjustment to get my head round. Money, stuff we need, how will we cope, are we ready, all of these questions set off my spiralling.

I did CBT years ago and it really helped me. I now write every thing down and it helps me cope. I also found dh didn't connect with me being pg until the 12 week scan - and even then not properly until 20 week scan. Only then did he get how I was feeling. Keep talking to your dh, tell him how you're feeling, write it down if it helps. I have a pregnancy journal where I write down how I'm feeling. I so use CBT by making spreadsheets - I have one of stuff we need, one of maternity pay to show how we can manage on the money and one with the stuff we needed to do before baby came.

All these are coping mechanisms and ticking off helps me (hence I like the stats sheet as it calms my mind to see it written down). Do see if CBT works for you - it's not for everyone but it helped me.

You will be ok xx

Oh and that's why the nursery so die not being fixed is upsetting me so much - because it has upset the balance of the 'what I need to do before baby comes' sheet. Something so insignificant to other people (dh!) can have quite a bad effect on my mind. I spent yesterday getting angry at dh for no reason because I felt upset about it

*so die = window!

We had date night last night - went for pizza then to watch Jurassic World. God I love dinosaurs!!!!

I was a right geek though - there's loads of incorrect animal behaviour science in it that I enjoyed picking to pieces afterwards

Today my fil is coming to see us from Scotland and we are going to lunch. I love my fil he's like my dh but 30 years older and with no hair. Really looking forward to seeing him

Oh and I have another excerpt from 'tactless mil'. As you'll remember my mil is nice but tactless. Hence her daughter singing at my wedding was 'the highlight of the day' and she decided the snuzpod mattress was hard 'I felt it, poor baby having to sleep on that!' (It was still in the cardboard box)

I'm nice and keep her up to date on the baby progress so I sent her email yesterday saying mw went well, all ok and estimated at 8.5-9lb if reach due date.

Her response was lovely and encouraging:

'Lets hope the baby is not any more than the estimated size. That's plenty big enough! Both Of mine were around 8 pounds and that was no picnic!'

Great. Thanks.

Oh La, mil certainly seems to speak before she thinks. I hope you manage to shrug it off and not let it get you down. I'm very jealous of your date night too, Dp and I never seem to get out by ourselves any more.

I spent yesterday in varying degrees of back pain, I think it's sciatica. Today I feel loads better though so I'm kidding myself hoping it's temporary especially as I have DD's birthday party to deal with later.

I just replied saying 'thanks for that! I'm already terrified but that was very reassuring!'. My tactic with her is to be just as blunt back and perhaps she'll learn to be less tactless!

Sciatica isn't fun - have you taken painkillers? What are the plans for the birthday party?

Ah MiL's are the best aren't they!

La your mil needs a dose of tact! What size babies did your mum have? That has far more to do with it. Sil who had the 12lb baby, her mum had 3 10-11lb babies.
My mum and my sister had babies from 7:7 (me) to 9:15 (nephew) - most were 8-9lbs
Full term I imagine mine will be at least 8lbs esp with diabetes

NFMA is nada since Thursday lunchtime when I had a epic bout of arse rain. I'm normally an every morning girl. I was a bit scared I'd not make it to the loo in time. I'm now hoping if I sit up for a bit, gravity will help

I also suffer with generalised anxiety disorder and have been on citalopram in the past and had counselling. I never had CBT though and I probably should have.

I've been panicking about money during mat leave. I was debating selling the car for something cheaper but I've seen sense now. It won't help much and I do love it. I checked my savings and I now have enough to keep me going for 9 months of mat leave. I won't have loads of money but enough. I had massive money and debt problems when I was younger which makes me panic.

I'm so far coping with the unknown but I do get a bit overwhelmed at times especially when people talk about when the baby is here. I'm scared I won't cope with no sleep, I'm scared I won't know what to do with the baby. The risks associated with babies of diabetics are also causing a bit of panic. I'm working through each panic by making a plan (also using a lot of spreadsheets)

A word to the wise for the people in their first tri, I couldn't get on NCT classes as they are full! I also got the last place on the NHS ones, so don't leave it until 25 weeks to book!

Oops sorry for the epic post

La I was told that and baby was 7.6 so don't stress. Also, my friend's baby was 11lb - delivered just with gas and air and no tearing, so bigger isn't always harder. My MIL always goes on about how big my babies are because hers were about 5lbs. She still says it about micro even though she is the teeniest wee thing and lower than 9th centile. Weird.

Morning ladies, for those of you struggling with anxiety. Having a baby is scary enough without my brain warping those worries for me. Hope you are all okay.

So WTF? I have ewcm this morning! My first thought was 'quick, shag, I might get pregnant!' Wish me luck on the gee gees today. I am notoriously bad at picking winners (last time I won I was 16 ha ha!) But then I do base my choices on the best name/snazziest jockey hat so that may explain it...

I think that's a pretty good tactic La, hopefully you'll get some success. I have DM that's as subtle as a brick. We didn't get as many RSVPs to DD's party as we hoped, one of the girls I invited from playgroup told me her party was on the same day so that explains some of it. But my mother just rang saying DD isn't popular enough and blames me for not mixing with her friends' parents more. It's hard work having to ignore horrible comments like that. My mother is a complete cock sometimes. DD mixes fine and has lots of friends but they are mostly older than her and in playgroup full time where she's only there for 2.5 hrs a day. I don't see her friends' parents so it's hard to mix then, isn't it?

I took paracetamol for my back yesterday but I don't know what else I can take. It's not too bad today but the party is in a soft play centre so I was hoping to be going down the slide and swimming in the ball pit but we'll see

Thanks everyone, it is reassuring to know I'm not the only one some useful suggestions La thank you. I have a spreadsheet for what we need and I know we have to save a certain amount each month to pay for it. DP doesn't quite understand my worries with money. I need to work out my mat pay again. I can only really do it generally coz I don't actually know what I'll get but it's worrying me at the moment coz I've had to change to a job with a lower pay and the only way to increase it is to work nights and weekends. I did a night on Thursday night and spent yesterday with a migraine throwing up so I'm not sure they are good for me but if I don't do them then I might not be able to afford the whole year off work that I'd like to take. And breathe.........

I was 5 pound 13 (and two weeks late) and my sister was 7 pound something so I'm hoping I won't produce giant babies either. (Though I also hope I don't go 2 weeks late!)