Fang-tastic fannies, Baywatch Blowjobs and good old british summer (arse) rain). It's JSing Grads 30!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 30th grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 48th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

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Thinking of you today Jelly, hope it goes well!

So that sounded really shit, what I mean is I hope you get to see a nice clear picture and rampaging heart beat!!!

Ooh yes, Gx for the scan Jelly

Thanks pixie I know it's not easy to admit. I do feel like a bit of an ice queen when people ask me about the bump and how excited I am etc.

I think it's partly because I never had that burning desire to have a baby. I like children and I want a family but a baby - not fussed. Plus it was a kind of now or never situation, DH is pushing 40 and I am almost 35 so, although we still have time that clock is definitely ticking.

I am sure I will love the baby but I am fully expecting it not to come completely naturally to me.

www.iflscience.com/health-and-medicine/are-hospitals-safest-place-healthy-women-have-babies-obstetrician-thinks-twice

purple here's an article I read recently written by an obstetrician, found it quite interesting.

Presumably other types of induction are also offered if a viable alternative? 11 days over due is not unsubstantial after all!

We don't have midwife led care in France either (it's gynaecologist led, and midwives only appear during the actual birth), nor does anybody really have home births, as the insurance will rarely cover it. Gas and air exists, but it's used nowhere near as widely as in the UK.

I don't think any approach is better. From an outsider's perspective, it seems like there is a lot of social pressure on women in the uk to give birth as "naturally" as possible, and anything less than total earth mother birth is seen as varying degrees of failure. I really like the fact that there is none of that attitude over here. It's just - you go to hospital, you have your epidural (unless you don't want one in which case they think you are legit insane but let you get on with it), and you have the procedures necessary to get the baby out.

I guess in an ideal world both approaches would be equally respected.

I think it can be difficult for some people to bond with their babies and it's not something to feel ashamed of! My best mate struggled until hers was toddler stage, she just didn't feel it. Now she adores him but only when his personality started to come through.

Just seen mw - all fine. Baby is measuring large though so she said we may be early. That would make sense as my dates are bit weird due to the MC and getting pg on the wtf cycle.

She had a bit of a go at me for still being at work. 1 more week!

Got my strep test kit through post so going to do that today.

fleur I feel exactly the same - I also have never been desperate to have children which makes me feel very guilty when I have friends who are and can't. I have always known I would regret not having them but I have never been broody. I don't get all gooey over other people's babies - I think they're cute but I don't especially want to cuddle them or babysit. I don't feel bonded with my bump either. Yes I would be absolutely devastated if anything happened (I crap myself at the slightest pain that I worry is abnormal) and I love showing off the scan pics and I love feeling the kicks. But I wouldn't say I love the baby and I also have thought this makes me totally heartless. I am sure I do love it as in I want to keep it safe and for it to be healthy but just not in a rush of love kind of way. I have a friend who thinks I am very weird as she is constantly asking me if I am excited (and she kissed my belly the other day, awkward) and when I don't get totally over the top hyped about it she looks worried. I said to her I don't feel broody and you'd think I'd have said I don't want the baby or something. So I'm going to put on a nice fake show of excitement for her now before she reports me to social services I am excited and am looking forward to buying things and preparing the nursery, just not excited in a giddy kind of way. More realistic as I am scared of the hard bits too. It is good to know I'm not the only one who isn't all giddy and bonding and all the rest of it.

pixie thank you for your honesty about how you have felt with your daughter, not something you should ever feel ashamed of sharing

My sil is just desperate to have baby without cs so I think she's getting upset as date approaches. She was induced yesterday so hopefully she'll get her wish. They do have gas and air there because I'm sure she's mentioned it.

Oh I forgot to say - midwife reckons in looking at having a 8.5-9lb baby

I waddle rather a lot! It looks sooooo elegant... NOT! Couple that with flipflops as shoes will not fit and clothes that look like I'm wearing a tent and you can imagine how glamorous I look.
Yes, I know there is pretty maternity wear. But I'm not going to spend a fortune on clothes that I won't need much longer. I've started wearing DH's shirts as they fit over the bump and pair them with very simple skirts. Or I'm in a floaty beach dress.

Gx the induction works La, seems a bit barbaric to force a cs to me

I'm getting more connected since he started moving more. I'm still terrified something will go wrong. I don't know about bonding. I know it's not always immediate but I'm ok with that. DH kisses my bump often and talks to it. I talk to it more now.

I'm not sure size predictions are that accurate La. I know someone who was told 8-9lbs the week before due date and had a 12:5 baby 2 weeks later. My friend was induced because her baby was measuring small. She was 6:8 at 37 weeks so not that small!
I think it's a bit of a dark art!

Yeah hopefully will be a bit smaller - a girl at work was induced on her due date as they said her baby was going to be too big and then she was only 8lb

Yeah, I thought the weather said hottest day of the year today but it's dreary out there!

Work did give me a fan as part of my risk assessment purple. Better than nothing but not much when competing against a building that is trying to cook its residents! Don't know if I have had BH, it does go hard and uncomfortable but never really painful. Probably have though, just not been paying too much attention.

I hope you are right wil! The fear is an early baby now after many early baby stories. Our NCT lady that had hers at 34 weeks came to class with him yesterday. So small and real!

I would be a bit shocked at the automatic CS at 11 days too la! I know there is a lot more intervention in US but you should still get a choice! 9 lb-er for you though... whoa! Better get doing those pelvic floor exercises!

la - gerk, good luck!!! Hopefully it will go so smoothly you'll be like "no way did something that big just come out of me" at the end of it!

I feel sorry for my mil. DH was a giant baby (10lbs) AND he has an absolutely MASSIVE head. All hats just perch on top of his enormous skull.

Another friend was measuring small and had a normal size baby
I really wouldn't worry La, I kind of think better big than small.

fatty I hear you! I'm in whatever fits and feels comfy now - fuck whether it looks good :)

I'm not worried about the weight, I just thought it was interesting. It will be interesting to see what it turns out to be. My mum said both me and my dbro were 8.5lb. My dh is 6'1" so I was expecting a long baby.

Either way I'm going to just see how we go - both me and dh have big bawheeds so it's likely baby will too! I'll get on the perineal massage pronto!

I do talk to my bump now and I feel more connected. Dh asked me if I talk/sing to it a while back and I said no and felt bad because I thought that showed I didn't care! It just hadn't occurred to me to talk to it. It can hear my voice either way when I'm talking to other people, so does it matter if it's directed to bump or not? Ditto playing music to it - one of those things I keep meaning to get around to but haven't so far bad earth mum! Do you think Take That counts?

sil just messaged me to say they are putting pressure on her to be induced but she's holding out. She is having another sweep today and is hoping that'll do the trick. Otherwise it's a CS in 4-5 days whether she wants it or not.

It feels pretty muggy today out there but it's not meant to be suny - which weather forecast are you looking at dulcet?? :D You're not far from me and mine says cloud!

I think I would actually rather have a cs than be induced if I'm overdue. I've read such horrible things about the induction process that I really don't want that.

I haven't talked to my bump either, I still can't quite connect that the baby I'm going to get is the thing that's squirming away inside me, I still think the stork will bring me my baby in the hospital and this is just one massive poo I've been brewing for 9 months!

I'm getting so impatient, I want baby to arrive NOW, I'm actually getting quite angry! I'm not working, I'm bored, I've nothing to do, I should be having this time with my newborn!

I know RM! I think I'm going to be very bored when I finish work.

The only thing I say to my baby is 'Hi baby!' when it squirms. Other than that I feel like a bit of a fanny talking to my belly!

I would have a section too but it's my choice. I don't think that forcing it is fair.

I sing along to the radio in the car - that's as much as I do.

I talk to the baby like I talk to myself - not contorting myself to talk through belly button

Actually I'm not sure I could get to my belly button these days
What I was trying to say was I just have a conversation with it.
We gave it a nickname so we use that and talk to it like its in the room
now wondering if we don't look a pair of fannys

Im sooo hot. The sun is out, my feet are swollen, im too big for all this weather. Hoping for a good thunder storm tonight.
Managed to do the weekly shop with DD2. Going out for lunch with a friend in a bit, with 2 of the monkeys. Then its DD1's swimming lessons.
Due date tomorrow, please dont be late!

I think it's cute when people talk to their bumps (in private - in public I find it a bit like when people have one sided conversations with their pets lol). A friend was saying that her DH has been talking to her bump as someone said it helps the man to "bond" before the birth.

Personally, I don't think it's something I could do as it would feel too surreal, and I think it would irritate me if DH was speaking "at" me rather than "to" me. I would definitely play music though!!

It's definitely a sweet thing some people do, but I don't really see it as any indication of how "bonded" you are to the unborn child....

By the way - a bit random, but does anyone have any experience/friends with experience- of the new egg pram thing that came out earlier this year?

It looks pretty fucking swish, can convert to a double, AND is still cheaper than a bugaboo. Problem is it's so new it's difficult to find reviews for.

Crossing everything for your baby coming soon cym! Get the paddling pool out and sit in it for the afternoon :)

I forget my baby's there sometimes until it wiggles. Definitely found that I've got my head round the birth a bit more since knowing the sex, but either way I don't think talking/not talking to your bump is a sign of being bonded or not :D

dh makes me laugh - he keeps playing David Bowie and the Beatles, as he wants the baby to think his parents are cool. He normally listens to AC/DC .

We have a nickname for the bump too, it's really silly and we agreed to keep it between us but then DH used it in front of his mother who now uses it too

I think it doesn't help that we can't agree on a name and it is quietly stressing me out. I am hoping DH sees sense and just agrees with me once I have squeezed him/her out