February 2016 babies - let the chundering commence

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Stats sheet here :) docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1dWmvdD9SkvPQqKn7rpFHazgufmda2FOTMtL093cZFj8/htmlview

Purdie glad to hear you are feeling hungover and a bit sick, was thinking about you overnight. In my successful pregnancies with ds and dd I had my symptoms disappear for two days early on but then they returned with a vengeance. I don't think it means anything. I felt sick at the beginning of last week but then was pretty much fine until a bit of retching over the last few days and today I feel sick as a dog. I have my fingers crossed that your boobs are hurting again soon, or perhaps they have just acclimatised to the Brillo pad feeling

Charlotte I really hope you manage to get your anxiety under control. I can't remember who suggested it but CBD is excellent and I would second an urgent appointment somewhere. Is that possible do you think?
I know you are scared, and you believe it won't work, but it might. There is no way of knowing what's going to happen, so you somehow have to try to accept that for the moment you are pregnant. I was worried in my last pregnancy - it was my tenth pregnancy and was after our fifth round of IVF. I was terrified it would fail, and I almost went into denial refusing to think about the possibility of having our longed for second child. I decided that the only way to progress was to think positively and to believe that it could happen. After all, why shouldn't it? Find a way to calm yourself down, and try to trust in your body. A bit of positivity never hurt anyone. Good luck.

Hi to everyone else and welcome and congrats to the recent BFP's!

Thank you so much...you are all so positive and upbeat in the face of so many worries that we all recognise....it really does help! I am having a quiet lie down on my bed before I take my dog to the vet. I am getting myself together again.

Very keen to know how others are feeling today...and excuse me if I have a quiet smile when a few of you reach over 6-7 weeks and start feeling like me!!! Because I know you will all be better humoured about it too!

My mum keeps telling me that my little baby isn't making me feel awful on purpose...he/she is just trying to anchor down and get strong and needs to use me to do that, I quite like this concept. Baby doesn't want to make life horrible for mummy!

chintaria I'm so pleased it worked out for you. Is this pregnancy natural?
I think you must be stronger than me. I don't think I can put myself through it again.

Hello all. Can I join you? I found out I am pregnant last thursday. Tentatively excited! My cycle ranges from 28-31 days so not sure how pregnant I am. This will be DC3 and we haven't told anyone yet. I'm quite enjoying the secret. Not much in the way of symptoms, maybe a bit of sore boobage but that is probably from constant poking.

Lahottie that sounds absolutely horrendous you poor thing. I hope that you get some relief soon.

Hi to everyone else! Lovely weather here today I think I will take a stroll at lunchtime and stock up on some snacks! I'm very hungry these days.

Poor you Lahottie!!! Rest up if you can! Purdie I'm glad you're feeling sick today too! Had some soup with my boy for lunch and now I'm laying in my bed again while he naps!

Welcome and congratulations Raaaaaah! (Had to count your "a's" a few times! Hope I got it right!) x

lahottie that sounds awful, I hope you feel better soon!

I feel fine after an initial wave of nausea when I woke up this morning and a bit of an upset stomach

I'm so excited to have a big bump at Christmas! I'm going to get one of those Christmas pudding jumpers and look like a giant Christmas pudding

Lahottie so sorry I missed your post while I was writing mine. You poor thing!! I know exactly how terrible it is to be so sick. I get hyperemisis when pregnant, and my goodness it's awful. Just take it one day at a time, and try to eat and drink as much as you can (difficult I know). Are you taking medication? With dd I was in hospital by 6+3 and took meds from then until 26 weeks. All you can do is get through it the best you can and remember that when your baby arrives it will all have been worth it. When you're in it it feels like it's going to last forever, but looking back it'll be a tiny blip, I promise

Raffertys hope the funeral goes as well as it can today. I hope you DH is okay... In the nicest possible way I hope you're feeling as sick again soon

Don't forget Halloween too Carlton! Ds was a February baby and I dressed my bump with him up as a pumpkin

Ah yes chintaria!! My first was an August baby so I missed out on bumps for Halloween and Christmas!

Welcome AbFab so glad someone else from TTC PCOS made it here!

I've had no symptoms for 2 days other then water retention, actually been feeling really good and normal, hope my symptoms come back soon!

I've decided to come off this thread. I don't think it's the right place for me as many of you will not have experienced what I have been through.

I've tried not to talk too much about my 3 miscarriages - but as I have no children yet, I don't know what will happen or if it happens again how many losses I can go through. So I really am feeling the fear.

I am feeling though that people don't like to be reminded of what could happen, probably because they find it frightening. I've only used it as examples or to explain why I'm scared. And I think I have a right to be terrified.

This thread has made me feel really unwelcome and that I don't belong. I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable and I don't want feel uncomfortable.

Whether it was meant in that way - Purdie I found your comment "I'm fucking sick of reading about miscarriages" really offensive and really upsetting. Which makes me realise my fear really is still very raw at the moment. I've only just finished my counselling!

So this is why I'm leaving. I am in a different place to everyone else and I don't feel I can get the support on here. Which makes me really sad. But it's my issue.

So I wish you all happy healthy boring pregnancies. All the best

brummie, my post wasn't directed at you. Your fears are real and you're entitled to express what horrible times have preceded this pregnancy. Sorry for crossed wires.

Brummiegirl I'm so sorry that this thread has upset you. I think you are frigging amazing to have gone through what you have been through and still remain so strong in this new pregnancy. Personally I have found your posts to be very positive - that you are pregnant and that you have better odds than previously. I really wish you all the best.

I agree with flowers, Brummie. Keep your head up and keep being so positive, wishing you all the best

Brummie you've been so positive on this thread despite your justified fears, please stay I'm finding your attitude very inspiring and reassuring

Thanks for the kind words and thanks for the note Purdie I do appreciate it.

I may try and pop back later on in my pregnancy - I need to get past my 12 wk scan and then I will be in a new situation as never got that far yet. But I don't want to feel like a dark cloud comes over everytime I mention my mc's

Everyone's journey is different though , I'm in awe of the IVF and donor egg peeps. That can't be easy

Hey everyone! Welcome newbies! Well, sparkles family back from a crazy week in Wales. Have read back and it took me quite some time I can tell you!!!

I am completely symptom free and revelling in it! This will be dc4 and I fortunately have never experienced any losses therefore have a very (possibly misplaced) stress free attitude towards things. Have always struggled with morning sickness quite badly and figure that every day that passes where I'm not hugging the toilet seat (and weeing myself whilst retching-thank you shot pelvic floor muscles) is one day closer to the end!

Have the chemical tiredness but having to power through as the others don't give me any concessions. Having said that my 10 month old dd is very considerately still asleep after 3 hours. Have made the tea, unpacked and done some washing.

Feeling sorry for all those suffering with sickness.

Brummie I second Stepaway, I always thought your posts were positive and caring. I wish you the best of luck and hopefully see you back on here soon

Charlotte As a fellow anxiety sufferer, please go see the GP. CBT is brilliant. I wasn't going to mention it on here but I feel the need to: I also take beta blockers and Amytriptylene as it is so severe. I am currently tailing off them, however several GPs and a Peri Natal Pysch has assured me that both are very, very safe to take during pregnancy should I relapse or need them. I also have BiPolar disorder which is more or less stable and has been for a few years now, but I will be watched very closely and the Peri Natal team have been nothing but amazing for the last decade that I have been their patient.

Medication isn't needed for the majority of cases but you should at least go and get some talking therapy for these intrusive, repetitive thoughts.

brummie I've PM'd you, I remember you from the MC thread I joined last December.

Dental surgeon wants to postpone until 2nd trimester, the first date he offered me once we had worked it out is my 2nd wedding anniversary! He said usually it would be left until after pregnancy but its too severe to be left (there's an abscess on the root of the tooth ) And local anaesthetic is now my only option, unless he sends me to hospital for GA which carries its own risks. I can't have the Inhalation Sedation, the IV sedation nor diazepam. I would be annoyed/upset/anxious, but I can't have them because I am pregnant and this makes me As long as I am 100000% numb and can't feel any pain, just pressure, I don't care. The noises will bother me however I shall just take my iPod and crank up some music. Its going to be a rather messy procedure with a fortnights recovery time, so summer holidays is the best time really, as my DDs will be at my DDads having their annual summer holiday with him and my darling Step Mother. I can just lie on the sofa for a week. Minimal pain meds scares me a little as I needed codeine and strong ibuprofen just for a routine extraction... Eeeep.

purdie My church is also Evangelical! I cannot believe the amount of sisters in Christ that are on this thread!

Hello everyone and congratulations on your BFPs!! [flower]

Can I join you? I checked the spreadsheet, can see similar EDD and locations(Cambridge) :)
I'm due on 29 January.
I felt pregnant even before my period was late, but was trying to ignore it. We were very happy since BFP on the test though.
I had a day when I was very sad and irritable, I thought then that my period will actually come and pregnancy will end. Instead I started spotting, kind of brown discharge when I go to the toilet. I've read online that most of the times it's going away and everything is fine, but reading the thread.. and other things online.. I also stopped feeling pregnant. I do feel slight discomfort like before period in my lower abdominal. It's been like this since the beginning.
I do have bigger boobs, painful when you squeeze, bloated belly that looks pregnant already ( I'm 6w4d). I don't have nausea, sleepiness went away.

I got my booking app today. Don't really want to ask for earlier scan,as I'm afraid it will be ok and then I will MC. I'm kind of afraid to be happy and attached as yet if you know what I mean.
Anyone has got similar experience? It's my first pregnancy and I'm 37!

a bit anxious..

Congrats blue! We have the same edd :)

Is the spotting still ongoing? A bit if brown spotting is quite common but the best thing is probably to keep an eye on it and contact your doctor/midwife if it's concerning you.

I think I was simply frustrated by Rose's insistence that she is losing her baby when those of us who have suffered mc's are trying to keep it together in the face of our own fears.

I'm not trying to censor people's conversations, I'm just worried that having to read the same unsubstantiated fears over and over again will send people into a dark place of their own.