Active discussions

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Birth clubs

Connect with mums-to-be with similar due dates to share experiences and support.

Original poster

November 2015 ladies! Time to feel the glow!

953 replies

Focusfocus · 20/05/2015 19:57

Are you expecting a babe in November this year? If so, get ready to get glowing. Breaking out in spots, or tears, or both is part of the so called glow. Feeling sick, contemplating births and having the odd good day of eating well is also all glow.

Come on then. Wee in the corner to mark your spot. Have some Brew or Cake or Wine. Then glow.

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Set a reminder
Heather101 · 28/05/2015 22:42

Hi ladies! Hope you're all well! I'm still waiting to get the results of the Down syndrome test. It's been 2 weeks tomorrow. Do you think no news is good news and we can start telling people? Time is going so slowly!!

gennibugs · 28/05/2015 22:47

We aren't finding out abbey, DH really wants a surprise and I've now come round to the idea and am excited not to know. I think we are in the minority though, everyone seems to find out now which I can understand why too!

I've seen loads of posts on FB of Aldi hauls - seems like people have got some good bargains!

TakesTwoToTango · 28/05/2015 22:49

Heather, how long did they say it would take? Usually you hear within 2 weeks and within three days if there's a problem, so yes, no news is good news. You could always give them a call if it doesn't turn up tomorrow morning, then you can have fun telling people over the weekend Grin

SnozzberryPie · 28/05/2015 23:22

Heather I was told that if I didn't hear within three days that meant a low risk result. I'm still waiting for the letter but have been telling people as I assume it is all OK.

HeirToTheIronThrone · 29/05/2015 08:01

Abbey we're not finding out either. I am very conscious of not forcing a personality on him/her before they are born if that makes any sense?! It's so weird, people keep saying 'but how will you plan?' - I think I'll plan to have a baby thanks, that should work!

Heather my hospital said I will get a phone call within a few days if there are any problems with the downs test, so I agree that no news is good news. Mine said if everything was fine they just send you a letter but it might take 3 weeks for it!

Topsy34 · 29/05/2015 08:03

I dont normally drink cider, but a kopperberg pear no alcohol went down rather well last night :)

Dh seems very keen to go and buy stuff, but im not yet at the excitment stage, just feeling really anxious and like a fatty, i dont even have a bump yet :(

GoEasyJulia · 29/05/2015 09:29

We're not finding out either abbey although it is tempting.

I have all neutral coloured babygros and nursery stuff from my DS where we didn't find out either so I don't think I'll have to buy too much (although I'm sure I will!)

There's plenty of brightly coloured clothes and equipment available so I didn't mind not finding out. Plus it means if you have another baby of a different sex then it will do for them too.

GoEasyJulia · 29/05/2015 09:31

Topsy the cider sounds good. I'm doing ok without alcohol at the moment but I know once the weather gets hotter and BBQ season starts then I'll get sick of sparkling water and want something that resembles alcohol Grin

flyingsprocket · 29/05/2015 09:32

abbey we're having an early anomaly scan on Monday at 17+2 which is the exact gestation I was when I MCed 2 years ago. I'm very excited but I'm not sure about finding out the sex. I think DP really wants to, so considering I don't have very strong feelings on the subject we probably will. We still get the full 20 weeks scan too so if we can't quite see on Monday I'm sure we will be able to in 3 weeks time.

AbbeyRoadCrossing · 29/05/2015 10:21

I had quite a bit of "how will you plan" and "how will you bond with the baby" last time. We bought mainly brightly coloured stuff but neutral-ish, and I just had DS in babygros for the first few months anyway. Toys, I dont think they care at first, any girl babies that come round are equally as fascinated by DS's truck - I think its simply movement and colour that interests babies at first and preferences come when they're older. The how will you bond question I thought was a bit rude, but maybe that's my over sensitive pregnant self! Same goes for needing 'one of each' which would be lovely but so would 2 boys

I hope it goes well flying

Frescoed · 29/05/2015 10:31

I think we won't find out the sex, but it's already the question everyone else asks. I've had a few wondering how we'll 'plan' too, and on the whole I'm resisting the urge to launch into a full on Gender Studies 101 rant Angry

More worrying is the fact that we're already tired of trying to think of names we like. It feels like a big responsibility to land someone with a name for the rest of their lives, but I guess it's not really on to call the kid 'it' until it's old enough to make it's own decision...Grin

Gr33dyeggs · 29/05/2015 10:52

We won't be finding out either. If it's s boy - great, we can reuse ds stuff. If it's a girl, she'll be wearing a lot of boys stuff with pink baby gros Wink. We're struggling on boys names. Have one for a girl.

cryingbabymess · 29/05/2015 11:03

We aren't finding out either! I don't want to know, I was my OH to tell me what we've got once monkey is born! Smile Loads of people are like why would you not want to find out? Who wants to buy neutral stuff, paint the nursery neutral etc. my friend went a bit OTT with her comments which annoyed me slightly! Plus there's always the chance that they're wrong.....!Shock

Oddicombe37 · 29/05/2015 11:10

Heather I was told 10 days for a letter but that I would get a phone call in 4 days if there was a problem. It was nearly 2 weeks for the letter and there was a problem, although not especially high risk for Down's, I am high risk of various other things based on my blood results, so I'd hold off telling people until you get the letter.

ChicBabyP · 29/05/2015 11:10

Abbey, we didn't want to find out with dd but then I saw the scan and new it was a girl ( I knew what I was looking at but also had a strong feeling before then). This time I normally wouldn't want to know but I think with twins I kind of need to get ready to the idea, I think it will be too much for me to take in at birth ( especially if 2 boys as boys in both out families tend to be extremely hard work, very active no sleep etc...). So I think we'll find out but not sure yet at which scan, don't want to know too early.
But I think it's so nice to have a surprise at birth.

Haven't thought much about names yet, I always had a girl'sname I liked and that's dd. But now I really have no idea, not for boy or girl, and I need TWO! Dh is also clueless so really going to have to look into it properly, maybe once we know what we're having.

NoMoreSashimi · 29/05/2015 11:35

We are not finding out either, trying to avoid gender stereotypes for as long as possible. Family and friends know that we are both like that, never get any gendered presents for their kids. I want our child to be able to play with everything they choose to regardless of their gender. I get to visit nurseries for work a lot and always find it quite sad when little boys tell me they can't go into the home corner, that's for girls only. Or girls not playing at the computer, as that's not girly. I know you can't avoid the strong influence from the environment, but we'll make an effort to do so.

SnozzberryPie · 29/05/2015 12:01

I'm in the finding out camp....but I was always the one who couldn't wait till Christmas morning to open my Christmas presents Wink

HeirToTheIronThrone · 29/05/2015 12:09

That's exactly it NoMore, we seem to have very similar views. A friend in expecting her 2nd and already has a DS, she was going on and on about how she wants to find out as if it's a girl it 'couldn't wear his clothes'. But WHY? They dress him in jeans and jumpers mostly, why can't girls wear those??? I think it helps that I can't bear all the pastel baby clothes aimed at both boys and girls, ours will I think be firmly primary coloured as far as possible :)

Alittlebitofeverything · 29/05/2015 12:35

I had commented on this and completely forgot about it, really should pay more attention!

Amyyy27 we are going with the Joolz, not exactly sure on colours yet but we will certainly be choosing from their range.

I actually feel more poorly today than I have done the rest of the time, must be hunger, that is what I have put everything else down to.. might explain all the biscuits I've consumed!!

CoffeeTwo · 29/05/2015 12:38

I can't wait to find out. I have no preference and I certainly won't be rushing out to buy pink or blue things but with my last pregnancy I felt a bit detached from the baby and after I found out it was a boy I had this huge rush of love and the bonding really started. It's a very personal thing and different for everyone. I'm just keen to be able to say he or she rather than it :)

Amyyy27 · 29/05/2015 12:43

Another one here finding out but won't be going mad on pink or blue. I like neutral colours for the nursery and clothes, but won't feel guilty buying the odd pink or blue thing :)

alittle we looked at the Joolz range too, very nice!

mrscatmad31 · 29/05/2015 12:58

We are finding out Smile I've had so many people telling me it's a shame we aren't leaving it as a surprise so it's funny to hear people leaving it as a surprise are getting why aren't you finding out?! seems we can't win, lol!

Frescoed · 29/05/2015 13:29

mrscat funny isn't it, as you say there's no winning! I guess this begins a lifetime of someone always thinking you're doing something not quite right Grin

feathergirl1 · 29/05/2015 13:41

We're not finding out. It's just down to personal choice isn't it? I popped out to do a bit of shopping earlier and ended up buying my first lot of maternity clothes eeek! I bought two tops and two pairs of leggings from Aldi. The tops are nice and good quality cotton. Very roomy though so although I'm not filling them now bumpwise, they'll be good to grown into and chuck on in the house when I want something comfy to wear. The leggings though... Hmmm! They're aimed at women with a big bump. I looked like a kangaroo in them - massive fabric pouch at the front!!
I bought a lovely pale chambray dress from H & M Mama range too and some long line vests.
Also popped into Boots and felt really light headed. Has anyone else had this? Same happened on Weds too.

NoMoreSashimi · 29/05/2015 13:49

Heir, I completely agree! So glad DP is of the same opinion as he will take on most of our parental leave.

Feather, I feel dizzy a lot and have fainted before. I've got quite low blood pressure, so I just try not getting up quickly, and have salty snacks and plenty of water in every bag when I head out.