July 2015 (thread 10) - the one where the bumps are huge, feet become unreachable and nesting seriously kicks in.

[Fattycow]

Welcome, welcome, to the 10th thread for babies expected in July 2015.
We are all counting the days and might even see the arrival of the first babies on this thread!

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I'm dreading this hot June we are being predicted. Would be fine if no scooter obsessed toddler but heavily pg plus preggo plus heat plus said scooter....not a happy me.

charlie, I wouldn't really bother reading up much more than you already have on natural childbirth tbh. Let your body just do what it will do and go with it. Are you doing any pg yoga or hypnobirthing? Those courses often cover the basics. Does your local birth centre do tours? They may be able to answer any questions you've got. Or your mw. I was set on a natural, drug free birth with dd and I'm hoping for the same again as it was such a good experience

I am looking forward to it fatty, there are things I miss about the UK. It is nice to get a break from here every now and then too as much as I miss Panama when I am away. TBH we were in the UK about 6 months of last year though what with getting married and other things, so we do get back quite a bit! At the minute it feels as if I have 2 homes TBH!

charlie I would say so far as natural birthing goes, it is the fear that gets most women. Often in labour all of a sudden, as things gear up women can become afraid that what they are experiencing will never end, or that what is going on isn't normal etc etc. It is totally irrational because we all know labour has to end, but it happens. SO being informed is good, knowing how to focus and breath in a controlled way (because if that is controlled you are in control) but also asking questions as you go along, don't let little things niggle in the back of your mind. And most of all know that it will end, it is normal and you can do it! (And if you can't or you get to tired that what all the back up of pain relief is for).

I agree jmo. I don't think it's bad to read up on what usually happens for natural or section births but I think there's also a lot to be said for not always knowing every single little possible detail or outcome. In my own experience and that of my friends, sometimes the more you know and research, the more you wind yourself up about it if things don't always turn out exactly as the book says.

my biggest piece of advice is to not listen to the horror stories! it seems everyone knows someone who had a traumatic time and they just have to tell you about it! but honestly it's not that bad, if it was nobody would ever have more than one. just keep calm and remember that your body knows it's job. it's what we are designed to do (which is why we are obviously superior )

I like to think of animals when thinking of birth. They don't have books, dvds, classes or stories. But somehow they manage to have their babies! Our bodies do know what to do, we just have to trust on them.

Forgot to say that while at Primark a chap pulled his son out of my way scolding him saying "Pay attention! Baby on board!"

Also discovered this evening that 5 members of staff at my local supermarket are expecting babies shortly or have just had them. And that my cashier had her daughter in July. I think I'm going to have to introduce the baby to all the staff when she arrives - they definitely seem to have been taking about me behind the scenes!

Meanwhile LO has wedged herself into some awkward position that is very uncomfy and makes me feel enormous. Shame they called off the rail strike - I was rather hoping for less uncomfy bump time on the train. I'm all for nice warm weather except for on the train - I often feel quite ill.

Glad you're feeling a bit better luckystar

fattymc, sooo right!! What is it with women who want to tell their sisterhood - often in the same breath they say "ah congrats on your pregnancy" - about how horrific their birth was, how the whole experience was so dreadful blah blah blah?! It's just ridic. So it was that bad you went on to have another one or two children?! Yeah. Must've been horrendous I always put it down to jealousy as they're not going to be getting those gorgeous newborn snuggles.

it tends to be the same ones who say, it's definitely a girl because that's what I want you to have you are eating this.
or ooh you can't be eating that! etc etc. (I may have had a couple of people disappointed that I am having a boy and I drink lucozade! ) forgetting that I've done this twice before so Im pretty much an expert now!

Oh yes, they also say "girl because of the way you're carrying". What friggin ever!

Baby is very active tonight.

How are your babies behaving this evening, ladies?

mines like an alien trying to claw its way out! (bloody hurts though as he is right down in my pelvis and is knocking against the hips and "poorly bone" as DS calls it )
bless DS he asked me if I was ok the other Day because he knows I've got homers in my body that make me a bit silly sometimes! I think he meant hormones.

Your DS sounds so cute!

he is when he wants to be. shame it won't last, he's halfway to being a stroppy teen now! ( can't believe he's six and a half)

Teens don't have to be stroppy! My younger siblings are all quite nice and mellow in pregnancy. Only getting up early makes them narky, which makes me happy that I'm no longer living at my parents'!

well that's true, my brother is still a sweetheart at 13 but I was awful and it will be karma coming to get its own back on me!

I am hoping my baby will be as chilled out as DH was as a teen. He seems to have skipped all the stroppy narky behaviour all together!

My DS will be 13 in January, he is a really sweet boy. He does get a bit moody in the mornings, but it doesn't last, other than that, he can never do enough for me!

I think people tend to share their childbirth stories for several reasons, I share mine to warn people of what can happen, and if it means one less person has to go through what me and DS did, then I'm afraid you have to listen and be scared for a bit.

However, I do think some people love to go well over the top, I had a friend like that (who had 5 kids) and she had one story which she would constantly repeat. Perhaps she needed some counselling or something I don't know.

Best just to stick to the facts I say.

Every woman is different, every pregnancy is different, every birth is different. I had a woman telling me her horror story and her way of telling it wasn't so much as a warning of what could happen, but just plain scaremongering. I just nodded and smiled and told her I hope I'll be lucky and won't give birth to 'a demon from hell, from the way it felt'. Seriously, that is how she described it!

Oh my, I certainly wouldn't describe my childbirth as that, it was great in parts, but had a dodgy bit in the middle. Was actually nothing to do with the pain (which was nothing in comparison to having back operations and I coped fine) or any tearing etc (he was an EMCS in the end)

Not going to lie, I went straight and had the 5 year implant put in as soon as I could, but had it removed 6 months later, that was more from the shock of what happened that anything physical with my body.

Didn't fall pregnant for a long time after, and my planned C-section with DD was amazing.

That's why I am happy to do it again.

Been for my mw apt 33+4 and come out feeling a little abandoned :-( I didn't have a wee sample as oh had thrown out my bottle but expected her to ask me to do one, nope! She took bp, looking good, lay me down had quick feel, head down n free but very low. Quick listen to heart beat, all good. And that's it for 4 weeks!!

I'm getting growth scans already and I'm there next week but feel that she should have checked my wee and measured bump. Then by time I see her again I'll be 37weeks. I really don't think he'll still be in there then.

Charliej86

I am on weekly MW checks, but if I have a scan that week (on two weekly scans) I pop in to ante natal at the hospital and they do it for me.

They are really good, I just grab the first midwife I see and they do it there and then.

See if you can do that next week?

I never need to take in my wee!

I got in trouble off the mw today she even made a doctors appointment for me to get some codeine as "I will not have you walking around for the next 7 week's in agony, especially with the size you are"

she doesn't think baby will be overly massive, but he isn't exactly a little thing either haha. my bump is creeping up to the 95th centile now but she said it's fine. I also have to see them more often than the notes say. I don't know why though, I think they are just keeping an eye on size and what have you.
he is head down and free at the moment but he pops in and out, you can tell with position of bump.

My bump is rock hard on the right side and completely empty on the left. Right is definitely the preferred side here! Head was down at last appointment, so very likely to stay that way. I'll get the midwife to check again next week.