July 2015 (thread 10) - the one where the bumps are huge, feet become unreachable and nesting seriously kicks in.

[Fattycow]

Welcome, welcome, to the 10th thread for babies expected in July 2015.
We are all counting the days and might even see the arrival of the first babies on this thread!

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The first time I breastfed in public I was really nervous so went to a cafe with friends from my NCT antenatal group, so 4 or 5 of us all bfing at some point during the afternoon. I would really recommend something similar, it made me feel so much braver to be part of a group and soon I was bfing anywhere and everywhere without a second thought. Personally I found trying to cover up and be ' discrete' rather stressful and awkward, it also made DS fidgety. I think there is too much pressure to be discrete about it when it's really nothing to be ashamed of. However, whatever makes you feel most comfortable is the best way to go, be it full on breastfeeding cover or boob out and free

*discreet

I was hiding to breastfeed DS, when I had DD I didn't give a shit and would feed her anywhere (including on the bus)

Honestly, saved me a lot of hassle and heartache.

mister, that's how I overcame my first public breastfeed - with other NCT girls in the m&s cafe. It definitely felt easier in a group, then I was good to go anywhere and everywhere.

fattymc, oh my, I would've been livid at Pizza Hut too! Disgraceful.

I was never nervous about bf-ing in public, just hate my massive boobs!

I guess you don't know how you will feel about bf in public until you give it a go! I will probably seek reassurance from my DH that he can't see my (massive) boobies when bf. I'm a little worried about being to get a comfy nursing bra as I've got quite a large bust. I'm quite used to people looking at my boobs though (mainly women!) as they are quite noticeable so I guess I'm used to it. I do like to wear light scarves so won't look weird to people who know me if I use to cover up.

smallbanana thanks for the vibrations tip for my sinusitus - I used the motor for my hubby's clippers - he actually did it and it worked really well. Feels a lot 'looser' now! Still feel like crap but hopefully I will start to feel better over the weekend. Feel so guilty for having 3 days off sick so close to my maternity leave, but my boss has been very nice about it.

p.s. very good idea about bf in public with others in the same boat - somewhere bf friendly like a cafe which is frequented by new mums. There are a few places near me I know of

Culture has so much to do with BF and how people see it. Bf rates are not that high by 6 months here in Central America, but it is seen as a natural thing to do and certainly lots of women seem to start off BF. There are no classes as such (there are bf advisors for those that can affird hospitals) but from what I have heard women expect to be able to and do just bf. There is a lot more family support/co living with relatives which probably means they see it as part of life. I will be interested to see if if get comments when bf in public. My sil didn't though.

Also you get treated well when you are pregnant, i have been ushered to the front of queues in banks and bathrooms. Aparently it is expected that I don't wait!! Love it!

I see myself as an introvert and bought a breastfeeding shawl type thing from jl that was supposed to give the baby room but I actually only used it a handful of times as I found it such a faff and didn't like inhibiting dd.
I found it ok and was probably one of the first in my nct group to be ok with feeding out but that was before I heard so many stories of idiots complaining about it. I know it shouldn't but I think that will really affect my confidence to do it if anything like that happens to me.

Funnily enough, my app today also talks of breastfeeding but more about preparing for it...
You don't need to use creams to toughen your skin beforehand or express colostrum either. In particular, don't rub or scrub your nipples - this will only hurt you and make breastfeeding difficult. The best preparation for breastfeeding is getting your partner to back you in your decision to breastfeed. You're more likely to keep going with breastfeeding if your partner supports you.

I never had comments about public bfing but I did sometimes have ppl looking. Didn't ever bother me but I know it made my mum uncomfortable when we were out and about. I always said to her that more ppl would be looking if I didn't feed dd because she'd be screaming her head off.

My OH isn't too keen on my BF'ding.
Not sure why? It's his first baby and he knows I have BF the last two.
At first he was saying if it ruins my boobs again I will be upset (I have already said previously my boobs were in a right state, so had an uplift with implants after DD)
I am of course a little worried about that, but figure that seeing as they have implants in, they won't end up totally deflated!

He also says he wants to do his share of the feeds and take baby out etc.

I am confident I can express so he can get involved, but obviously this isn't instant.

I am hoping he will see my way of thinking!

I must add, he is by no means expressing this in a negative way, just more of a 'concerned' way. I know he will support me no matter what.

I had a wax today, as I was so fed up of being hairy. Tried a new salon (as it is close to home and the one I used to go last year is near uni and an hour away). Turns out they don't do a full wax of you fanjo there... My flaps are now still hairy!

You know, I have never had a wax down there below (apart from trying to do it myself once, big mistake)

I really need to do it, but I am scared.

Truth be told, I actually need a bum wax more than anything at the moment

Ooh that's a tricky one, number. Do you think he might change his mind when lo arrives or is he one who sticks to his guns? I'd have thought your boobs would still look ace because of the implants too. Maybe he is just really mega keen on being a very hands on daddy? Or worried about you getting your boobs out in public? Or doing a brelfie? Lol! Like you say, once you start expressing, he can step in and give a few bottles. Then he will be able to take baby out for longer than an hour or two to give you a break xx

I had a was a few times before my wedding. Then didn't bother going for ages. I now went because I was so fed up of being hairy... Will ask the OH if he could please do my flaps a bit. Even just trimming would be fine, but I can't see my fanjo to do it myself!

I was using hair removal cream, just doing the whole lot, gets a bit tricky when you can't see ha!

Broody I think he will be fine, I think he is worried for my sake, but also really wants to be involved. He is very excited about the fact he will be the first person to hold baby (I am c-section under a GA so baby will go straight to Dad for skin on skin) and he wanted to feed him, but I said no, as I will feed him later. he won't be hungry anyway!

I'm allergic to hair removal creams and I'm scared of waxing. I positioned a mirror and very awkwardly shaved it the other day. it was like a yeti had moved in under my bump!

I'm still doing OK on keep the foof trimmed (shaved last weekend) although was much harder to do than the last time. So had to get MrF to have a check and help get last few stray hairy bits. He was scared to use a razor on my bikini line saying how do you do this it's all crinkly or such like. He told me to leave it now on but I just couldn't. So will be trying the mirror thing next if I get no further help! then onto removal cream or a possible wax later on.

I had a bikini wax before hols but I'm in need of a trim, apparently. I can't see there, not sure how oh knows either, he hasn't been there in months.

Had a lovely family day today, we went to the zoo. Was fabulous, we took my niece (not the one that lives with us) as her bday treat too. I couldn't have asked for better kids. Was ready for the sit when we finished tho. Bump and feet were very achy.

I think the BF and personality article is about right. I'm self conscious about BF, but determined to give it a good go and not give up because I feel like I'm being watched

I ended up in hospital today for 6 hours I called the midwife unit at lunch time as I hadn't felt baby move all morning which was rely unusual. They asked me to go in to the assessment unit. After an hour and a half in the fetal monitor they were satisfied baby was fine.

But I had to stay in and have urine, blood tests and blood pressure done. I have had a few pre eclampsia symptoms (swelling, rib pain, headaches) so they were being cautious. Bloods and urine came back as slightly abnormal, with signs of infection, but nothing major. The doctor eventually signed me off to go home. So quite an eventful day! Glad I went in, better to be safe than sorry and the staff were lovely

Home now & Chinese takeaway ordered! [smile

Those of you who are shavers are brave... not sure I could be doing regrowth and new motherhood at the same time

Taking advantage of DH being away to YouTube episodes of One Born. Ugh I need better self control!

Oh sherbert, that must've been a real worry. Glad you went and everything was good Lets hope that's your last scare! X

sherbert glad you and LO are safely home!

luckystar very enterprising of your OH - glad it worked. The things we have to do!

Morning xxx

Enjoying the BF banter, I am so confused, and never understand some people in the UK, why are some against public bf?
Who cares! As self conscious as I am, if I have to do it in public don't care and will do it. I am actually looking forward to the person that will have the courage to say something to me about it. What a conversation that would be. I agree it might seem odd seeing someone bf, but not odd that I want them to stop, doesn't bother me the least.

Anyway..., on more exciting news growth scan yesterday, AF level normal, baby growing well, 5lb 4 already with an estimated bw of ~7lb-8lb. To those annoying people that say your bump is massive!

My bloods came back as well and glad to say HB level gone up 111, so happy - spatone, weetabix with soya and eating lots of kale has helped whoop whoop.

Got my second baby shower gift from a cousin who can't attend next week, a nappy cake. Pic attached

My outfit sorted for baby shower, stumbled upon a nice maxi dress from H&M was soooo way below the budget I set for an outfit so counting my self lucky and it is very flattering will glam it up with accessories and a full face of professionally done makeup

BTW- a friend gave me a brand new Joolz carry cot( she got it when her Ds was born but had her Joolz push chair stolen, so never got round to using it, new and still in the box) unfortunately the Joolz will not fit on the Stokke push chair we are plan to get. Why can't manufactures make their systems compatible?! So confused as to what to do, don't want to waste it . Any ideas?? xx

Hi everyone
Keeping up with you all from the side lines :)
We are doing ok.

Just wanting to check in !