October baby bus take 4! 20wk scans and big pram buying plans!

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Welcome all to the new Fred. FB group runs along side this pm me for details.

I might be wrong but I don't think they do them for everyone in the UK, just if considered a potential diabetes risk. Here they do for everyone just because they do every test possible to get extra cash from the insurance!

Good thinking Batfish.

Haven't heard about a glucose test but am only 23 weeks so maybe they wouldn't tell me yet

Glucose tests are only offered to women with at least one high risk factor (in the UK). I had my GTT appointment letter one week after my midwife booking appointment. If you haven't had an appointment by now then you are probably considered low risk and won't need one.

I'm not in the UK Super, so was just wondering whether my consultant here has missed out on something. Apart from being old (40) I'm not a high risk case afaik.

i had mw appointment today, did that tummy measurement thing. im 23+5 but measuring 26+2 lol! wonder how accurate those things are?

hope everyone is well.

i am good specially pregnancy wise after hearing that hb today and all those wooshing movements

Hi all, just found this thread. Due 10th October (2 days before my birthday).

Congrants Trurouge! What a birthday you'll have!

That little hb is the best sound in the world isn't it? I've got a mw appointment next Tuesday and can't wait. It feels like ages since the last one. And I've changed my midwife so it'll be my first with the new one. She seems lovely so hopefully a more positive experience than my previous appointments.

I'm curious to know what my measurements will be. I'm a bit worried I'll be small as bump doesn't seem to be quite over my belly button yet, which I think it should be..? Who knows how accurate the measurements actually are.

mine is but i was overweight anyway which is why i was questioning the accuracy. she said she feels your womb tho. my baby was coming up above the 95th percentile but i was scanned last wednesday and everything apartfromhisbighead was all in the ranges so i dont know tbh.

have you had troubles with your previous midwife?

welcome to the bus and congratulations!!!!

Funny you should mention troubles with mw, I went for my second booking in appointment yesterday. I've changed as my local hospital is MW lead but I'm high risk so have now moved to another where I've basically had to start again. Anyway met new MW yesterday and to put it kindly we really haven't gelled. This is my 5th baby so know generally what to expect and when and my MW's have always pretty much let me get on with things. I have no health issues and pregnancy has always been pretty kind to me. This new lady has taken it upon herself to make me her little project (she actually used these words). Im not feeling the love on this new approach and really quite worried about my next appointment in a week.

My previous mw didn't do anything awful, I just didn't like her approach. She was very process driven and prioritised doing things 'by the book' rather than having any kind of relationship with me. She was quite judgemental of some of my choices (a small glass of wine once a week, preference for home birth etc), had no sense of humour and distinctly didn't do small talk. I'd just moved to a new part of the country when I got pregnant and my mum died a few years ago so I felt I needed someone a bit more approachable and supportive that I looked forward to seeing rather than dreaded.

What sealed the deal for me was having an appointment that, by chance, was taken by another midwife. It was such a different experience, and all these anxieties I hadn't expressed came tumbling out of my mouth. I realised how much more comfortable I felt in her company and how nervous I'd been of seeing the previous woman.

See how you get on Trurouge. I found changing really easy. The person who organised it was really supportive. Can't speak for all trusts but I'd encourage anyone to do it if they're not totally happy, your mw should be someone who makes you feel better not worse. Maybe I'm just a tricky customer!

Sorry for the essay

Hi all. Sorry to hear about your negative midwives. I initially thought mine was a bit of a twit but I'm getting used to her! She wasn't being very supportive. Trurouge it's my fifth too and I think my midwife was a bit the same even though I'm not high risk.

Saw her today for a normal antenatal appointment, everything fine, she just phoned and has managed to get my results from the gtt I had yesterday. I don't have diabetes! Yayy!! So can proceed with the home birth.

i also think you should change if not happy. the first two times i say mine we didnt gel at all i felt like i was just another number although yesterdays went a little better and im warming to her now. there was nothing 'bad' about her i just thought id be made a fuss of and have a connection and we didnt. as i say i am warming to her now tho.

good news about the gtt test!

im one of 5 btw i have 4 dbs

I have to have the GTT later this mnth because I have type one diabetes in my family, as far as I know they don't offer it to all women. My midwife told me that they offer it to ladies with family history, with a bmi over 30 at booking attp, with a baby measuring above average size at 20 week scan. Those are the main ones so if you haven't had anything like that I don't think they will offer it!

Hi Trurouge I wonder if you and your baby will have the same birthday? :) Sorry you havent clicked with your MW, I would consider asking for another, you are well within your rights to change!

I had my 24 week appt. today, my bump was measuring 24 cms and she sai that was spot on. She had a really good feel of the baby, told us where he/she was laying (baby had a good kick when she was man handling!) and hearing that heartbeat really is amazing, we were proud as punch!

I was convinced something would be up when she tested my urine though because it looked really cloudy (sorry if that was a bit tmi!) but it was all clear, my bp was quite low as well. I'm expecting that to go up when I hit the third trimester soon.

Ginger glad to hear you could hear a lovely strong heartbeat too!

Forgot to add! Stinkers Your post about DH seeing the baby kick for the first time made me so emotional! My Dh saw ours go for the first time too this morning.

Hello ladies, I fell off this thread after #2 so I hope you don't mind me jumping back on

I can't believe how much faster this pregnancy is going compared to my first one! I'll be 28 weeks on Tuesday and time is flying by. Don't remind me I said this when I'm complaining at the end!

I had to change midwives due to a house move and I really miss my first one. This one seems to focus on the fact I have low platelets (again). I'm having blood taken every four weeks until 36w when it's increased to weekly. I don't mind the attention but they've said that it might affect my choice to have the baby in the birth centre. I'm really hoping they stay high enough as my first labour was pretty medicalised (induction) so I'd love a more active labour this time.

Hope everyone is feeling well!

Going a bit out on a limb here, so tell me to bugger off if tmi!

I'm going through a phase of being a bit sick of DP . To spare you any gory relationship details, I feel like an incubator-come-housekeeper and not much like his partner, friend or (shocker!) lover. He's not doing anything wrong really, just omitting to do a lot of the things I'd like him to. He's never been big on the demonstrative romance but I can't help thinking we don't have much time left when it's just the two of us and I want to make the most of it, not fall into a pattern of co-parenting co-habitees before our DC is even here! I'm feeling a bit vulnerable and unattractive and a bit of extra effort on his part wouldn't go a miss.

Sorry it's not strictly baby related. And a moany moany post. Anyone else experiencing this? Any tips???

I think that's very baby-related! I do (although I hate to admit it) need a bit more attention whilst pregnant. Even if it's just DH reassuring me he stills loves me. Pregnancy feels a bit all-encompassing sometimes, which is why I think babymoons are quite popular. Is there any way you could book a night/weekend away where dishes/hoovering/general life isn't the focus?

In my first pregnancy, I insisted DH and I go to see Bon Jovi as it felt like a normal non-baby thing to do. I had a great time!

heart we have been a bit like this. dp and i are hardly ever intimate at the minute. it is stress and worry about doing anything to the pregnancy i know that but its a nice bit of closeness i really miss.

we have had nothing but a shit time since november last year. dps dm just passed away today. we knew it was coming have known since saturday but its just another thing in a long line of shit weve had come our way. hopefully the only way is up now.

were going to plan a holiday i think just me and dp just to take everything in and get a bit of us before its a bit of all 3 of us haha! we moved at the wkend and seeing what will be the nursery has made it hit home 'were having a baby'!!!!

Oh shit gingerbread, really sorry to hear about dps mum, for him obviously but for you too. something like that is a bit of a head fuck no matter how much you knew it was coming, and without expecting a baby in the mix! Glad the move went well. Things will be on the up from here, as you say x

i know. im heartbroken having to watch him go through this. i wouldnt care im crying more than he is, im ridiculous.

anyway back to baby talk i need that little brightness in my life.

can you look at a little break with dp?

I keep suggesting we book a weekend away. He wants to go to London for the weekend, where we lived until 4 months ago, which will involve him getting wrecked with his/our mates while I get bored and annoyed with people for smoking all the time (at our London leaving party I was left on my own for half an hour while everyone went outside for a fag and forgot to come back in, so I went home). We can't afford much. Thought about booking Liverpool for a night but I sort of want him to take the MASSIVE hints and do it himself, rather than drag along reluctantly behind me.

Can you tell what kind of mood I'm in? Should shake off the self pitying nonsense and get on with it probably.

ginger, you have a bloody good cry. You have to deal with your feelings too.

Then let's talk painting nurseries and buying prams!

where are you living now? yes london doesnt sound like much of a break a night somewhere different and just you two would be better.

highly unlikely he will book haha jus take the reigns and do it yourself then least you know youre going

oh ive cried on and off all day and probs will keep doing so for the forseeable! better out than in i spose.

Hello. The member formally known as Stinkersmum here - not sure what's wrong with my old login. It won't work and I'm not getting any response from mumsnet hq....

Just an update - dh actually felt the baby kick tonight. It had to happen soon, the little sod hasn't stopped moving for days.

Ginger so sorry about your dps dm, that's so sad :(

Ollie I cried again tonight when dh felt the first kick. It's truly emotional.

ohr how lovely! glad he got a good feel. all getting real now.