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December 2015 #3 - riding out the first trimester!!

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ChandlersFarang · 13/05/2015 06:55

Noticed we were getting a bit full in the last thread! Roll up, roll up for more scanning, puking, worrying and other distractions to take us through the first trimester! Grin

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chopsface · 15/05/2015 09:30

No idea about the childbirth links waiting there is meant to be a link between mothers and daughters and siblings with morning sickness, so maybe there is? I'd mention it just in case.

Really can't get motivated today. Still in bed. I'm on annual leave until Monday. Not done any unpacking from holiday yet after arriving back Tuesday lunchtime! Just not been feeling well enough! Not even got my face cream or make up out of the case or hairbrush! BlushShock

I think my friend wants to meet up this afternoon as she has half day on Fridays. I really don't think I can do it! I've not told her I'm preg yet and I do want to face to face but I need to meet her first! Not seen her since April 16th when I'd only found out on the 14th I was preg! She probably thinks I'm avoiding her Sad In a way I'm dreading her reaction too. She is a single 38 year old and I'm her only real friend who lives local. I had a feeling she was secretly pleased we were having trouble conceiving so that I wouldn't 'abandon her' to go off and have babies. I'm usually her plus one to some events she doesn't want to go alone to. I have no plans to abandon my friends and I was hoping to involve her in my life as before. It just will be a little different. We can still go for lunch and shopping with tot in tow, and if she wanted a theatre companion or something dh will be a stay at home parent for the night. If my friend doesn't have kids of her own I want her to be 'auntie' to my bub. Sorry that went on for longer than planned... Anyway, long story short. I feel too rough to do anything! Argh!

WaitingForEgg · 15/05/2015 09:42

Chops poor you, make sure you take the time to recuperate. You are on annual leave so it doesn't really count.
I wouldn't worry too much about your friend. I completely see where you are coming from though, it's a big change in your life, and everyone close to you, and it is bound to alter the dynamics of things. But if she is your friend she will be happy for you (with a selfish part of her that also isn't, but that's natural)

ChandlersFarang · 15/05/2015 10:03

Thanks for the bra chat ladies, and to you Flor for kindly offering to send me stuff! Smile Super sweet of you. From what I've read I'm not going to panic about the underwire thing... I went through an old drawer and found two old bras that are a bit stretched so wasn't wearing as they were too big - they will have to do until I get home I guess.

Really pleased to see that others are finding their symptoms are 'levelling off' a bit (sorry to those still suffering though, inc you chops!). I felt practically normal the last two days but then threw up before breakfast this morning... Have felt fine since then though! Am trying really hard not to think the worst... Tbh I have other things going on which are reassuring, like v sore nips, diva bowel and also tons more watery CM (I remember someone else mentioned that - yes totally hear ya now!). Shock

Christmas is a loooooong way off yet. I think it's my parents turn to have me and DH but God knows what we'll end up doing. Before that I need to move home to the UK, start my new job, sell our tiny 1 bed flat and move into a bigger place... Faaaaack! ShockShockShock

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Jebel · 15/05/2015 10:06

Metal yay such great news.

Fizzie my BMI and size are the same as yours. I had a very healthy last pregnancy and gave birth to a normal sized baby (slightly on the small side). I didn't put on much weight, my blood pressure remained low. Other super-skinny friends got gestational diabetes which was something I was conscious of but didn't get.

chops sorry you are feeling so rubbish. I am just 9 weeks and feeling much more functional the last two days.

Flor My DD was 7 weeks for her first Christmas. We didn't travel to the UK as were worried about the hassle of getting a passport in time. My sister arrived with her kids on Christmas night. We had a lovely chilled Christmas day and went to lunch at friends, I spent most of the time in a chair breastfeeding. When they are that little they are actually quite easy to take somewhere and sleep through all the noise. I spent the time with my sister going for lots of walks and ventured out for 2 hours one night just the two of us.

I think this time we will have m-i-l to stay. She is a pain most of the time but I think will be fine with a newborn as all the attention will be on the baby and DD. I am also very conscious that DD will want lots of attention that I won't be able to give her.

Boobs! Think I mentioned before but am sitting now in my Bravado nursing vest top and those were the best bras I ever bought! I think figleaves sell them in the UK.

Sweets27 · 15/05/2015 10:07

Morning all! Hope everyone's having a good day, chops hope you feel better soon. I understand how you feel about telling friends who don't have children - I think it does change your relationship as friends, because you just have very different priorities. Only one of my close friends has children, and I definitely see her a bit less and it's strange not to be going out with her for drinks any more without her having to find a babysitter. It's part of life, though - I was really happy for her when I found out she was pregnant, and it's an exciting time. I'm sure your friend will be the same. I just hope my other friends will be the same with me too!

As for Christmas, my EDD is 9 Dec so if all goes according to plan I'll definitely have a little one by Christmas day. We think my parents might come to us for a low-key Christmas lunch, but I don't think we'll be going out anywhere. We're lucky that both parents and PIL live less than an hour away, so quick visits are easy. I don't think I'd be able to manage overnight trips, never mind house guests!

Sweets27 · 15/05/2015 10:11

Oh and as for tiredness, I had been feeling better but the last few days I've just been exhausted. Doesn't help that DH has a stinking cold and has been snoring like a pig and waking me up every few hours!

TerryTheGreenHorse · 15/05/2015 10:33

Hasnt Tara Palmer-Tomkinson got a sister called Santa or am I imagining that?

Ive still not got very far, I have a GP Appointment Tuesday and I'll be 10 weeks on the Wednesday, I'm not sure if ive left it really late or not the receptionist wasn't too helpful.

ChandlersFarang · 15/05/2015 10:34

Yeah I have one set of childless friends who I know will not be massively impressed with this news, although I think they will be happy for us, as they know how much we struggled TTC. I think the fact the four of us are going to Glastonbury together will be quite annoying for them too, I'm going to be about as much fun as a mobile corpse compared to usual antics GrinGrin

Sweets I was meaning to ask - you mentioned you went back for a cyst checkup, had it changed at all? It was 9cms, is that right? Are you getting scanned more often to check it out? My doc was so chilled about my two 7cm/5cm (or maybe one big 12cm one, couldn't tell!) that he just said he'd have another look at the 12 week scan, which isn't for another 3 weeks. Do you feel yours much? I'm conscious that it's there now that I know about it but I can't say I can feel it really.

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Sweets27 · 15/05/2015 10:55

chandlers, thanks for asking! No change on the cyst, it measured I think around 9.5 or 10cm and I'm due for another checkup in just under two weeks' time (couple of days before my 12 week scan).

It's a bit frustrating, really - they've given me lots of information, but it's hard to know what (if anything) to do about it. I've spent a lot of time on google. Essentially, because it's so large it's at slightly increased risk of rupturing. Also, it might twist. Both are apparently v painful. If either of those things happen at any time while I'm still pregnant, they'll have to operate in emergency circumstances to remove it. Alternatively, at around 14 weeks they can schedule surgery to remove it, which would be a bit less fraught. When they operate, it has to be under general anaesthetic which is generally advisable to avoid when pregnant because it can result in decreased blood flow to the uterus; also, the operation itself is close to the uterus so there is some (I think small) risk of harm to the baby. If they have to operate in an emergency later on in the pregnancy, the risk is higher because the baby is bigger and the operation to remove the cyst is harder.

It boils down to whether I hold out and hope nothing happens for the whole pregnancy, or take the (hopefully smallish) risk and schedule the surgery for around week 14. It's a really hard decision!

Anyone on the thread had experience of getting a cyst removed during pregnancy, or surviving through pregnancy with a big one?

Chandlers, I reckon as long as they keep monitoring you closely you're OK, and 5-7cm is not so bad, but if I were you I'd ask them to fully explain your options.

ineedsomeinspiration · 15/05/2015 11:11

waiting my labour was nothing like my mums. She did however ho very overdue with both myself and brother as I did with ds. It was a fair few years ago though and they didn't do inductions snd I don't think dates were as accurate.

I'm out for lunch today with a very close single childless friend today. She was one of the first people I told. When I had ds she was an amazing support and even used to stay over when dh was working nights and get up with a screaming colicky baby and put me back to bed once I'd fed him. DS loves her so you can keep a relationship going. She is a pretty awesome friend though.

abi2790 · 15/05/2015 12:05

Sorry you're in a bit of limbo with your cyst sweets. I couldn't advice you on any decision because I've no experience of it but I hope you find somebody that can help you a bit Smile

I've just had my hair cut and feel a million times better. It's amazing what a bit of you-time can do for your well being! My hair was very long and because of being pregnant had gotten really brittle and horrible so I've had it all chopped off and I feel great now! Still knackered today but I woke up with a horrible headache and it's all gone now Smile

Btw does anybody suffer with severe migraines/ cluster headaches?

chopsface · 15/05/2015 12:17

FFS! Just got a call from the midwife 'hub' saying my appointment is Monday! This only came after leaving them an answer phone message yesterday wondering where it was! Had to phone work to tell them I won't be in until lunch time now! After having 2 weeks off! One hour and a half including taking blood and wee! Lol. I will be 9+1

Sweets27 · 15/05/2015 12:23

Thanks abi Smile I'm having my hair cut tomorrow too, haven't done it for ages and it's looking a mess so I'm really looking forward to some 'me' time with my lovely hairdresser sorting out my locks!

chops, how infuriating. I've had this with two of my hosp appointments - I've been told I'd receive a letter in the post, then chased and chased, and finally been told on the phone that my appointment's been scheduled for X date and I should have received a letter or it should be in the post. Neither letters have ever turned up. Quite how these places function I do not know!

Sweets27 · 15/05/2015 12:25

Oh, I keep meaning to post about the stats - can't remember who brought it up, but I agree we should do a new spreadsheet by copying the content from Toadie's.

I'm not quite computer-literate enough to set one up, but if someone else does I can PM you my email address and am happy to help keep it updated once it's up there. I think the person who sets it up can give a handful of other people rights to edit the spreadsheet, so I think with a small team it'd be easy to keep it up-to-date.

chopsface · 15/05/2015 12:43

Sorry ladies I'm not computer literate either so cannot do stats :-( someone's got to be clever in 'ere right?! Confused

Metalhead · 15/05/2015 13:35

I'd be happy to help with stats but I think you need a Googlemail address to log in and edit it, which I don't have.

Just dug out some of my old maternity clothes as my trousers are all getting very tight... Blush

TerryTheGreenHorse · 15/05/2015 13:46

Ive got a gmail email account, but I haven't got a clue how to do it.

TerryTheGreenHorse · 15/05/2015 13:46

Happy to help though!

Wishful80smontage · 15/05/2015 14:59

Hello ladies hope everyone is doing well need to have a proper read through this thread and see how everyone is doing but I'm hoping everyone is good and feeling less rough than me :)

MrsMcJnr · 15/05/2015 16:58

Hello :) Making sure I stay on the thread. 10 weeks today. 4 sleeps until my scan. very excited. DH unlikely to come with me :(

MrsMcJnr · 15/05/2015 17:01

Glad to hear the sickness is fading for some of you, mine is just kicking in, this happened with my DD too!

shinysparklythings · 15/05/2015 17:22

I will investigate the spreadsheet tomorrow! I'm on my iPad at the mo, and I'm assuming I need to be on my laptop!

Sweets no experience of cyst in pregnancy but I did have a ruptured cyst last year which was extremely painful and mistaken for appendicitis they removed that at the same time though so at least I don't need to worry about a rouge appendix

At Xmas we normally spend Xmas day at the in laws which is in the same city and then head four hours away to my uncle and dads for a couple of nights on Boxing Day, then back home and my mum arrives for a week from down south.

Not sure quite what we will be doing but I intend to stay in my own home and people can come to me. I'm due on the 5th so bean should be here by then even if I go overdue.

Sweets27 · 15/05/2015 17:45

Hi mrsmc, nice to see you! How come your DH won't be going with you to your scan? Sad

shiny, that sounds pretty nasty. Do you know how big the cyst was, or did you only discover it when it ruptured?

shinysparklythings · 15/05/2015 17:52

sweets it was only discovered when they went in to get my appendix! They thought it was that causing the pain, but from what they said afterwards it was mostly the cyst, although my appendix was a bit dodgy!

mrsmc nice to see you are still about. Take it the dh is still not on board?

I just had a proper baby brain moment, went to pay for shopping whilst dh was bagging it all up and I completely forgot his pin. I knew the four numbers but couldn't work out the order they went in at all! Luckily after I got it wrong once, I told dh and he did it! And then told the cashier it was baby brain!

Sweets27 · 15/05/2015 18:00

Wow, that's weird - good job they were going in to at least get something out, even if it turned out they were going for the wrong thing!

I keep getting what I'm sure is baby brain, although DH tells me I'm just making up excuses for being ditsy...