Due March 2007 - Heading for the third trimester

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Thought I'd start a new thread as the other one's about to run out.

Rosy, I always call my children by the wrong names so I don't think it will make much difference. Actually I find it easier to number them when talking about them to others !!

Foxy, I don't know how you have the energy to go out

Diva, so it's going to be a bit mad in your house over the next few days? V, excititng though eh?

Onilly, you are v, brave. if that happened to me I would be really freaked out. I supose a consolation is that you wern't the only one, still let's hope it's all done and dusted now.

Boo, I suspect I need more sleep. v. much like the rest of us really

My lovely Doula came to talk things through with me today. I was talking about my other births and what I hoped for this one and I became really, really freaked out by the whole prospect of labour again. It was very strange because it was like my body remembered the sensation of labour but without the pain. I went from 2 to 10 cm in half and hour and that wasn't nice. i would like a water borth this time and am looking into different pools. Anyone else thinking of having one ?

fox-we need to get the keys so we can measure for the carpets before we can look for any.i really want to go into the house asap and see what we need re curtain rails etc.men dont think of these things or see them as important but curtains are a priority with small children.

ds and dd1 havent even noticed that more than 3/4 of their toys have gone-shows how much they played with them.

i want a magic wand so i can magic everything into the new house

kitty-i get my kids names mixed up all the time.i did even when i only had 2

hi everyone, hope you're all doing well, just waving hello really, can't possibly say hi to everyone separately i don't know how you all manage it, do you have notebooks or just really good memories ?!

i've given up trying to work out in my head who every1 is coz there are just too many people.. and my head feels like cotton wool.. maybe if i stick around i'll have it worked out by the spring [hmm}

anyway, welcome noodlekitty

piffle glad you are ok now what a nightmare..

onilly hiya nice to meet you ..

all going fine with my LO, 20 weeks today and he's moving round a lot specially when i sing, which i do a lot (can babies hear at 20 weeks?)..

have started to think seriously about the birth, terrified tho i am, and have joined in the debate on VBAC vs c-section (planned), what a good thread, but what a minefield, i'm just plain scared of either option.. i always thought i would try for VBAC i was adamant as had such a horrible emergency c-section with dd.. but now in my current situation, just don't know what to do. neither option seems appealing!!

Rainbowgirl, look into getting a doula, they are worth their weight gold and for someone in your position would provide crucial emotional support. Basically they act as mummy to the mummy. I've had 3 vbacs after2 sections and have had a doula at all the vbacs, couldn't have done it without them,

thanx kitty it is high on my list of things to do! wow that thread about VBAC certainly has food for thought

encouraging that you have done it three times [smile}

i can't type tonight

i guess the thing is, the experience of a c-section without my dp there will be bad as well, i mean, it's not just a case of 'getting it over with' as after my dd was born by emergency c-section i couldn't get up for days and was in so much agony i kept demanding morphine!! it would be so nice to recover a bit quicker

but frankly at the moment the more i think about it the more scared i get .. suppose the baby has to come out somehow tho lol

Rg if you have a doula you will be able to discuss all your needs, hopes and fears regarding the birth. Their job is to support you in the way you want. The outcome they want is for you to be happy with your birth experience, whatever you chose it to be.
When my doulas are with me I feel safe and cared for, I think you could really do with some of that right now ?

Laidback - yes still got 1 left (grabbed two when I saw them, in case they all disappeared!). Didn't you say you were coming back for Christmas? Perhaps I could post it to your parents for you?

kitty do you think a doula might support me thru a planned c-section? i know it's a bit unusual but..

btw i had a doula in london when i had dd, but only after the birth.. she was fantastic, really helped me out, and ended up being quite affordable too.. am scared about cost this time tho

been trying to sort out name options with dh - being an ex teacher - hard to pick names that have no connotations - good or bad....

good site we were checking this out after a tv show and it was interesting to see what was online - found dd1's birth registration. Good thing - already has names attached toy our last name iyswim - helps with hearing how it will all sound.

Rainbowgirl, they will support you through whatever birth you chose, planned sections too. They also have a hardship fund for those who really need the support but who are abit strapped for cash.

Hi everyone - had a really nice night out last night with my west London N chums. We were only five, but we went to a noodle bar and had a god chat. I actually feel very positive today (had been feeling depressed for weeks). I think that trip to Morocco did us all good, plus I'm back on the chocolate . I'm sure it really does make me feel happier you know. I just need a non fattening one

Also:

Found a custard tart this morning in the fridge (how did it survive 24 hours without me remembering to eat it?)

Went to MP last night about the tax credits overpayment. No idea what will happen but it felt like a burden shared i.e. its good to have some else giving me a hand (DH is useless at all that stuff). She was lovely (Susan Kramer) - really bright and not at all up her own rear end like most MPs are.

Also had a chat with our mortgage broker yesterday about reviewing our mortgage soon (discounted period is due to expire). Turns out we have more options than I'd even imagined - including having a 12 month interest only period while I'm off work with the baby, which would really take the pressure off financially, then reverting back to repayments when I return to work. He also said we've got leverage to take out some equity on an "as and when we need it" basis next year, so I could take a bit longer off

Ooops this is such a long winded and self indulgent post I've now forgotten everyone elses news

Sorry

23+6

Kitty/Rainbow - how much do Doula's cost?

Onilly it may well be delia that my sister uses, she is a fan but recently she has gone on a gi diet and keeps baking healthy muffins etc.

But last night she took me out to a posh restaurant (she had vouchers) and it was pure food bliss. (descends into homer simpson like drooling)

Of course I should get a recipe and learn to make it myself and some treacle puddings! oh well can't be bothered yet.

I call all my children bunny, pet, sweetypie, and such like, it saves confusion.

I'm thinking about labour and wishing it was soon so I could get it over with! This pregnancy malarky is too uncomfortable.

Foxy, this time it's costong £500. but the cost varies greatly depending on how experinced the doula is. As I mentioned there is also a doula fund to help those who can't afford to pay the full price but who really need the support

i wish i'd known about the hardship thingy when i was inn that situation,so many people recomended i hire a doula but as a single mum on benefits i just didnt think there would be any way i could afford it.it wasnt the giving birth on my owni was scared of just the run up to it,with my consultant giving me grief for refusing to be admitted to hospital etc.
i would so love to give birth on my own again this time...dp wants to be there though.

fox-sounds like you had a good night out and are getting things sorted.
i have to go box-hunting.

22+3

Hello all, i'm a fairly new Mner and new on this thread. Due 6.3. Getting lots of achy tired feelings around bump - does anyone else? Not every day, just some. Also (pardon thickness) are BHs unmistakeable? Not sure if i've had any yet. having a boy, all scans good but i'm a nervous wreck due to funny shaped womb which complicates things (maybe.

Hi Ettena and nice to have you on board. There are lots of boys due on this thread How are you feeling generally?

There have been lots of aches and period like pains on here amongst our collective pot bellies, so try not to worry. Its probably the ligaments stretching to accomodate your rapidly growing boy.

Kitty - £500 is less than I thought. How much Doula-time does that buy?

Rosy - I call mine all the names under the sun too , including stinky bums, monsters, naughty monkeys, pooky and fluffy [bush] Embarassing parent alert!

Diva - that's exiting about the boxes. DS and DDs fave toy is a huge cardboard box with windows and doors cut out Its great throwing stuff out as well isn@t (like all those toys you mentioned earlier)

not bush!

Anyone heard from rainbow after her horrible emails from dp?

Welcome Etenna - I think different people feel BH's differently! Mine are like a tight band around my bump. I also have been getting aches and pains these last couple of weeks - just tell myself it's the uterus stretching and try to ignore it, but I know what you mean about worrying!

23 (boy)

welcome ettennastretching and tightening pains are quite normal at this stage.bh's i find start off hardly noticeable,just like your bump has gone a bit tight,but they get stronger and happen more often the further on you get.
i havent had many stretching pains in my womb yet.i got them really bad in my first pg but my womb is probably like an old sock by now

i 'found' some boxes behind a shop so ive been packing all afternoon.which isnt easy when 3 year olds dont understand that you are just packing their toys and dvds,not throwing them out.ds2 was only 21months when i moved last time and i managed to pack(by myself)in 5 days.

Hi Eteena

i'm tired out. had dd1's 5th birthday and party today. There were thousands of little 4 and 5 year olds running around like ants . Had a great entertainer though. Still I'm v. tired and now am starting to finmd bending down difficult .

Foxy for £500 I get an intial visit frokm the doula, 2 further ante natal vsits and as much phone, email contact as I want. She is there through out labour and birth and stays for as long as a want immediately afterwards. I then get 2 post natal visits which are great because we can talk over the birth etc.

Good luck with the packing Diva