We'd rather have a finger than a funnel whilst eating our bodyweight in Raspberry Magnums to ease the fanny daggers... keep growing those babies viroids, its JS Grads no 27

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 27th grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 42nd outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread in postnatal clubs here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

Here is the stats list, please update your own spot with any updates: docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1oLJqpadAb2givKYq8OJfGCti3s6xzsTGlI-GoaBfM_M/edit?pli=1#gid=0

Not weird at all La, maybe you can just enjoy the last few weeks at work now.

Deeply I have issues round failing too. Sometimes it's a good thing as it makes me stubborn - like with the breastfeeding - but mostly it holds me back from attempting things I think I might not be able to do.

pud it's a tricky one because I agree I would struggle to teach and be a parent during term time. But then the holidays are ace and make things so much easier for childcare issues.

No idea how the random smiley face inserted itself in there.

Morning crew!

That does sound liberating la. Handover notes time too! I've had mine on the screen for a week and not actually written anything. But then my replacement hasn't accepted the role so who knows what will happen.

Please don't feel guilty about it deeply, it's completely personal choice and what works for you and your baby. Some people just can't do it and they are no worse off than people that do. Some people just choose not to.

I think a sleepover at grandparents is the best plan pixie, then just stay in bed as long as you can!

NCT class was good yesterday, group seems nice and hoping we get more chance to chat next week. Excellent selection of biscuits.

32 weeks today!

Anxiety/perfectionist issues here too, Deeply. Motherhood does 'cure' you of certain aspects of it, if you let it. Realising your offspring have a mind of their own can be hard though!

Terrible night's sleep here. The cat refused to come in last night, which she does periodically. No problem, until 3am when I heard the strangest noise...pop downstairs to find her facing off with a fox! This is normally the world's wimpiest cat. Came inside (almost followed in by said fox) and she was shaking, so spent the rest of the night in with me. Joined at 5am by DD, who thought she had wet the bed, having forgotten she still wears nappies at night

Chilled out day today - it's Ascension so another bank holiday. Park if the sun stays and baking banana cookies (apparently - I need to see if such things exist) are DD's requests. I'll be washing the tiny baby clothes and the car seat cover too.

Aww poor cat! We generally advise people that cats and foxes avoid each other but obviously paths cross sometimes. Hope she's ok now. Have a nice day in the park, hope it makes up for lack of sleep.

Dulcet did you recruit the person you thought would pull out in the end? When do they start?

Deeply I think it's natural to worry that you might not be able to bf if you really want to. I think mums have a raw deal with the pressure that's put on them to be able to do it. I think you can only try and see how you get on. Not being able to do it isn't failing, there are plenty of women who just find it too hard - or too uncomfortable.

I worry that I'm going to fuck up my child, just because of my anxiety. But I'm putting my faith in my dh that he will balance things out - he's very chilled out and hopefully can help me to strike a balance.

I'm gutted I missed nct on mon dulcet! Was it good? What did you cover?

Work have decided suitable replacement is too expensive

So I have 17 working days left and no cover. I have told my boss that she will just have to do some work. I got a cat's bum face in return. She is covering for me for the next two weeks - I have been slogging my guts out to get everything up to date and problematic matters dealt with so she will have an easy time of it.

After taking work home with me last night (and DH being a HUGE arse about it) I have decided I am working 9am - 5pm from now on and if it isn't done before I go she will just need to deal with it.

Morning ladies! Amazingly I didn't get the urge to strangle MiL last night! Maybe we've turned a corner! She only mentioned her disappointment we weren't going on holiday with her twice instead of the the usual six!

Does anyone have s sheepskin car seat/pram liner? Are they worth it? My mum swore by the one we used to have when we were kids, she still has it 30 odd years later and uses it on the seat of her motorbike, it does resemble roadkill now however.
Don't have much planned today, Thursday is usually shopping but dm is babysitting dn so I'm going to get a delivery I think. I've got some treatment vouchers leftover from my birthday but can't decide how I want to use them. (Or when). Also have another three ER box sets to binge on :)

I keep having to remind myself that the shops won't be shut when he turns up and if I've forgotten anything, Mr tee will just have to go and get it. My biggest worry is actually Mr tee. He is so so head in the sand at the moment, and even after yesterday's appointment, I asked him if he was going to come to my 38 wk one with the consultant and he sort of shrugged, sighed and said 'well it depends on work, do you NEED me to take you?' And then said he felt like a bit of a spare part at today's appt. I didn't entirely lose my shit, but did say I thought he'd want to be involved so close to end game. I usually take dm to my 'big' appts and go on my own to my mw ones, he's just done the booking and scans, it's not like I've asked him to take loads of time off. . Tbh I wouldn't feel so miffed if I could still drive, i dislike being reliant on other people to ferry me everywhere, but I can't understand why he's being a knobber about it. ('I can't wait for paternity leave to start so I can have a break') what. The. Fuck. He has no idea! He's away oop norff all next week, in spite of my protesting, I almost think it'll serve him right if he misses anything.

I hope MIL tolerance is catching - I am spending a whole week with my MIL next week

DH is grumpy about it as it has just dawned on him that in 9 weeks we will never be on our own again. But then he was the one rushing into booking this trip when we had just got our BFP......

He also now realises that he will be carting around 3 suitcases although I have so few clothes left that fit I will barely need a carrier bag.

Hope your DH gets his moment of realisation soon tee it's upsetting when they don't seem to give a toss (when I am sure it's not the case).

That's so shit Fleur.

How else does he expect you to get to appointments in your current physical state Tee?

Tee we've got a sheep skin thingy for the pram, makes it a lot comfier, the icandy without it is rock hard and DD would wriggle about and not settle. My OH is obsessed with stuff being "snugly" so instead of the normal liner we bought the posher one. She seems to like it and apparently it's good for regulating temperature so keeps baby cool in summer and warm in winter.
I also don't understand how your DH expects you to get to places! Tell him that I ferry my OH around the north west so he can work as he cant drive. Doing that at 34 weeks pregnant with sciatica is a bitch! He needs to shush his cake whole!

MrPis is obsessed with keeping BabyPis cool for some reason. It's as much as I can do to keep a blanket on her let alone a sheepskin he'd make her take naps on the fridge if he had his way.

I wasn't replaced at work - way to make me feel important! However I did have to come up with a list of tasks to be handed over to various people for my boss to sort out

More details on the biscuits Dulce?

BabyPis is having a chat with the curtains. She's laughing from time to time so they must be quite witty

Urgh I feel so ill! Please tell me this is all worth it right! I'm not managing to do much more than sleep or lie down. Feel so lazy!

Tee he is going to have a massive shock when baby arrives! Maybe he's just going through some nerves at the thought of his life changing. Hopefully it's just a wobble and he'll figure out the right thing to do soon

Oh tee how can Mr tee be thinking he will get a break on paternity leave?? He will be wondering why he ever said that after a couple of days! I don't think it's unreasonable to expect him to want to go to your appt with you, he is obviously slightly naive if he thinks he will be getting a break soon so I think the more he can get involved the better. I have a friend whose hubby was really crap when she was pregnant and I used to tell my hubby everything about him and how terrible he was so luckily my hubby is showing lots of enthusiasm - it is still fairly early days yet though as I'm sure most of them go through stages of being in denial about it all!

Aww jcandy you shouldn't feel lazy - get as much rest as you can if you're feeling crappy and it will pass soon hopefully! How many weeks are you now?

Hope it passes soon jcandy

9+4 today. I'd like to go back to work next week as there's so much to do but then I don't know how when I feel like this. I know it'll go soon.

Oh JCandy you poor thing! I remember weeks9 & 10 well....they weren't nice. Sending eclairs...

Fleur I wasn't replaced either, :( and my boss spent the entire time I was signed off calling me to tell me how much she had to do. In a similar vein, I'd carried her for a really long time and she spent most of her day on the phone to friends, online shopping/dating etc. Thankfully she's stopped ringing me now, but ugh! It's not like she'd not had any notice I was going to be off & I left as comprehensive a handover as I could.

So Mr Tee has just text to say he's taking the day off for the next appt. I think we collectively guilted him with our brains viroids! He also said we should go for a nice lunch beforehand. I just don't think he thinks. He's also not handling the not being able to do much part - from a physical perspective, yeah I've got all the heavy lifting to do, but from a support perspective he just needs to pull himself together and fucking READ some of the advice!

I also have never had to rely on him so heavily, and it's a bit odd, so I'm going to excuse his behaviour as dad-baby brain. For now. With the whole pat leave, well, I think he's just going to have to experience newborn life to understand it. not that I really know what I'm doing either, but I'm preparing for every worst case scenario, and if he wants to whip me up Eggs Cumberbatch every morning, breezing in with coffee and orange juice with a selection of pastries, followed by long, peaceful walks, then I'm just going to let him run with it. And then maybe remind him of this at 3am when we're covered in poo and milk and haven't slept for days. :D

Ugh, it's so grey today, I emptied the fridge and found some interesting wildlife tho! And made lots of room for my cream cake Tesco delivery.

Hello viroids. I need your help, got a bit of a dilemma. DH wants us to go to. His mums next weekend (bank holiday wkend) she lives down in cardiff, and without giving too much away its a 4 hour drive each way, and there is mostly no moblie signal on the way, plus hospitals are very scarce. Ill be 37 weeks that wkend. Beeing down there isnt the problem, im worried about the getting there and back. Last time we tried to go down, the car broke down on top of a pass, with no signal, DH drove us down to the nearest town without a clutch before we were rescued by AA and FIL.
What would you do?

Umm! I wouldn't go cymraes Wales is particularly remote in places and not somewhere I would want to be stuck at term.

Can your MIL come to you?

Gulp Cym, sounds hairy. What are the chances of a repeat performance...? I went to the in laws at 37w...and went into labour there. But it was only a 90-minute journey home, They did treat us to a delicious meal out while we were there and MiL told me I'd be in labour by the end of the weekend.

JC it's totally worth it, but that doesn't minimise how crap you're feeling now. Many sympathies. If it helps, I've found the third trimester a refreshing break. Now I don't battle to the end of the school run without vomiting, I battle to get it done without needing a wee. Glam.

I wouldn't fancy it at all cym and if you're going the route I think you might go, it's super remote and super hilly, so uncomfortable at best?! Also if you end up having to abandon it and get back quickly you can't because there's always bloody agricultural or military convoys in the way...I agree with fleur - could they not come to you?

Not sure I would fancy a break down on A470 in between towns cym. (Might not be that road, just me terms of defence of welsh roads!) You don't know it will happen of course, but as a just in case I would try and discourage. Why is he so keen to go?

I advocate you sticking to your hours fleur! Just do what you are paid to do as a minimum until the weeks are up - we can try and do it together if you like as I am shit at it and DH gets well annoyed when I bring work home.

They offered him yesterday la, he accepted today but wanted time. Holding out for another job he didn't get. Not sure he will stick it out but at least it's someone. I get two week handover, well 8 days.

Glad he's made it up to you a bit tee. Does seem like he doesn't really think through the situation. Maybe he realises a bit late, but he will have to think quicker soon in a few weeks! What treats did tesco bring?

Rest all you can JC, you will get through it. See how you feel by Sunday to decide about next week, work will deal with it.

Group seemed nice actually, not sure how we become 'friends' but only two hours so far! (I know I'm being weird about the friend thing!) nice your teacher sent you a photo la, that's a good touch. There are 8 couples in mine I think.

pis, biscuits I remember are choc chip digestives, pink wafers, oaty things and Jaffa cakes - if you want that to be a biscuit for this purpose!

MiL could come if she wanted to. (She comes up, and goes home in a day without popping in though) she likes things on her terms. We do get on, I dont dislike her, but we dont see her often. DHs parents split up when we started seeing eachother (when we were 15/16)
She was very dissapointed when we didnt make it last time, but only managed a 15 minute visit the next time she was up.
She wants to be able to take DCs out, and likes DH and I to go out shopping and stuff (we hate shopping) so we get to spend time together without DCs.
DH doesnt want to dissapoint her again, neither do I. I quite like going there. But the journey scares me a bit at the moment, and im not sure if im beeing paranoid/unreasonable.......

It is the fantastic A470 we would be using dulcet!

Jcandy, sorry you are struggling so much, for you. I feel more tired than I did when I had glandular fever, and my appetite is monstrous! Today was slightly better though so hoping I am turning a corner (8 weeks) and that it is not a bad sign.

Dulcet glad the biscuits nct class was good!

Cym I wouldn't be going to the middle of nowhere, Eep! (Already live 45 mins from hospital!)

I have been doing my bosses job all year and they are interviewing for a replacement on Monday, but have said they might not appoint. This would be their last chance to do so before Xmas so think I am going to have to tell my line manager about being upduffed tomorrow as I don't want to continue doing two jobs in September!