April 2015 - thread 17. The babies are still coming thick and fast, waving Pom poms a plenty in support!

[PenguinPoser]

Felt we might need a new thread to get through the night feeds and labours!

Anyone else feeling a bit jaded? When I sit down when DS is asleep I'm not quite sure what to do with myself. Just tend to watch tv and just think - probably lack of sleep. Feeling a bit fed up of how I look too - but I haven't made any effort as I haven't been anywhere. Feel like I need to do something on my own with DS to get a bit more confident, like take a walk with him myself or just for a short car journey, I don't know.
Who was it that said last week they were feeling a bit jealous of their DP having time to his self? I'm starting to feel a bit like that now obviously he's back at work (he's agency so we don't have a choice at the minute unless we go without) and I feel a bit envious but then on the other hand at least I am with DS whilst he is tiny whereas he only sees him at night.
Silly emotions, suppose I'm making up for it now as my hormones weren't too bad during pregnancy. I think I just need to feel back to myself, as I haven't been driving, or been to the shops, or done my hair and makeup etc. Mum has bought me a voucher towards a treatment at a local beauty salon so very grateful for that, have booked in for a pedicure next Wednesday and mum is going to look after DS.

I've had my appointment come through for my heart scan that hospital want me to have for irregular heartbeat (have had it for a few years now but they were more concerned about it during the birth), and it had been booked for 8.45am! My mum works mornings and I would need to leave out early because of traffic, the distance is about 20-25 mins, and oh yes...having who would be a 2 week old baby by then! Are they crazy? I would need to ask OH's mum to look after him from about 7am and that's just silly on me and on her. So I rang up and they've cancelled it and are sending me out a new appointment .

Have had to start DS on the hungry baby milk as he's just drinking so much, but doesn't seem to necessarily be making him more tired?! He can't be having a growth spurt already at 9 days old!

Daholster your running commentary post made me laugh . Hope you feel a bit better after the mini-wash!

FiRaffe sorry to hear you think they thought like that (does that even make sense?). I wanted to ask about possible colic but midwife hasn't turned up as yet, I know they work up until 5pm but they have always been here before 2pm so far. I know you can ring if they're not here before 3pm so don't know whether to bother or not. Hmm. Might just leave it until 5pm and then ring tomorrow if they haven't turned up.

I think it was me saying about dh having his time RL. Possibly other people too. I've found that making sure I at least have a shower every day (normally before dh goes to work) and getting dressed really helps. Trying to get my makeup on most days too. I know if your OH starts work that early it's unlikely you'll want a shower or bath at that time but even if it's on an evening that 20mins to yourself is valuable.
Sounds great about the pedicure!
The more you do get out the easier it gets too. I'm still planning outings around when night she need feeding next - but getting there. Little outings break the days up nicely.
PS if ds is sleeping try and have a nap

Glad to make you smile RL The first day you get out of the house you will feel better. The day after I went out was the day I had my last proper cry. Then I went put again (twice in 3 days) and I felt much much more normal. Yes he can be having a growth spurt. The first month is pretty much a constant growth spurt!!! Ds gained 14oz this week. That's ridiculous. Jaded is normal but you must do things for yourself asap and value yourself and find out that although now your life is all about your little boy, your life is still yours, not all his and you manage it as you please. There is a decision you can make about everything. Next time he is fed and you are going to put him down, perhaps try the pram and maybe just get out and walk round the block. Make up not required. You will feel much more human! Oh, once the midwife has been of course...

Happy birthday wine, I forgot to congratulate you!

Somebody is konked out on the settee. Shall I go for a shower and properly de-stink? And risk moving him to the bassinet while I do... Or shall I snooze... Or shall I go round the house with a bin bag to clean up the tip which is the one job I told myself I'd do today?

Saw a friend while we were out. She had a cuddle with him. He instantly threw up. Oops And I could only offer a muslin he had already puked all over!!!

Dunno what to make for dinner. I think tuna pasta but I know dd won't eat it, monkey...

Konked out... Might join him... Oh, its quite late... Should do bin bag thing and bath with dd instead... sigh

Thanks both. Midwife has now been so I am pretty much free but DS had just woken up and I've fed him so now he's napping on me so I'll wait to get out until tomorrow!
Muscle is healing well but where stitches have come undone on the skin aren't healing well but aren't likely to apparently, and will possibly just leave a slight dent in the skin. But it is affecting me going for a wee now as it doesn't sting anymore so that's the main thing. Hopefully it stays that way, have a few more days of antibiotics yet though.

Silly question but when I want a shower and it's just me and DS, what do I do with him?! Do I leave him asleep in the Moses basket in the front room? (Next to the bathroom) I feel like I won't be able to hear him with the shower on! Have been showering when oh is home or when mum is here.

Pasta sounds good Daholster. I just did a microwave lasagne yesterday and jacket potatoes with cheese and beans. Nice and easy. Leaving dinner to OH today though, I can't be bothered to think what to do and were running out of food anyway until I go to the shop, so hoping he'll come up with something.

Penguin yes I think it was possibly you that said it. Just pleased I'm not alone in feeling like that! Although obviously it's not nice.

Have a bit of tummy ache today, don't know whether it's stress/not eating healthy meals/or I need to lay off the ibuprofen a bit!

*isn't affecting

Sleep is tempting!!! We've done lots of sorting today in anticipation of my dad arriving. So excited for him to meet DS!

Glad you had success getting a bra daholster but sorry about the sick etc. Part of the territory I guess!

Good question about the shower RL - interested to know!

Ahh what a cutie daholster I like his outfit

Well we managed lunch out and nipped to Asda to change some baby clothes that somebody bought us as they had bought tiny baby 6lb and she was 7lb 12oz at birth.
I'm back in my pre pregnancy jeans and got make up on as well it must be my birthday I got money any vouchers for my birthday with strict instructions that they are to be spent on me and not baby clothes.

My Mum has made our tea which only needs warming up so once she has finished feeding we are going to go for a walk and pick it up.

Don't rush to drive RL20 but definitely get out of the house every day! Fresh air will do you good and will be good for ds. I don't wear make up but I do make sure I have a shower and wash my hair daily as I did before I had baby, it makes you feel more human. Walking gently will help you heal as will doing your pelvic floor exercises as it increases blood flow to the area. I don't know about how much a ff baby should have but he seems very young for hungry baby? I agree about midwife, shame they can't text a rough appointment time, mine turned up at 9 for my last apt and I wasn't home front taking ds1 to school so got an annoyed call from her!

It's a relief PenguinPoser both my older boys were so big and gained very quickly so I've been a bit worried! Ds1 was 8lb 12 at birth and 10lb 12 at 3 weeks and ds2 9lb 2 at birth and 11lb at 3 weeks. 6oz is good

Definitely agree that getting out the house will make you feel more human, RL - give it a go tomorrow even if it's just a short walk. I think at the beginning it's just about building confidence. And you may well find that DS is really settled when you're out - they like a change of scenery/fresh air too! Re having a shower, if DD is awake, I tend to put her in the bouncy chair next to the shower so that I can keep and eye on her and I think she likes the noise of the shower. But I she's fast asleep in the basket I would happily leave her in the next room with the door open. You don't have pets or anything do you?

X loads of posts with my last post will read back a bit later!

Well oh isn't coming back early from work as planned . Oh well.

Going to give DS a bath by myself soon, have only ever done it with my mum! Got to learn somehow! Will give it a bit longer then give him a feed then he might sleep for a couple of hours when we go to bed. We'll see.

Thanks for the uplifts, will get out tomorrow. Didn't think that I would have this little confidence in everything - it's hard! I'm worrying about silly little things like how do I get the pushchair down the stairs (first floor flat) and what if I get to the destination by car and can't unfold the pushchair?! Need to get practicing.

Sounds like you had a lovely day wine .

Hmm whole post seems to have gone AWOL. Going to have to re type now.

Got the mw coming tomorrow, I hope she is actually coming in the morning like I asked. We have DDs hearing test at the hospital at 1.45 which I forgot about until about an hour ago.

Going to try some new tactics tonight with the basket before I ask the mw about it tomorrow. Going to try hot water bottle on the sheets to warm it and snuggling with the blanket before I put her down. Worth a try at least once right?

Going out tomorrow night for a big family meal at a Chinese really looking forward to it. DD has never had it before but at least I know she will happily sit and eat rice if she turns her nose up at it all.

How many ladies are left waiting now? Can't be many of you lurking.

Definitely practise putting pushchair up and down before you go out and DONT attempt to carry a pushchair down a flight of stairs at 9 days post partem please RL20, is there a foyer you can get dh to leave it in before he goes to work? I leave Sam wherever he is sleeping to have a shower, if he starts crying I would insist my shower quickly anyway so doesn't matter if I can hear him. If he's awake I'd take him in bouncy chair with me as others have said. Glad midwife came in the end! Yes it is scary, first time around I was terrified and was so stressed ds1 would cry while out or need feeding but it does get easier and you do get more confident very quickly, so please try not to worry and trust yourself he's your ds and you will always do your best for him!

Glad you are sorted with bras daholster and I'm sure you weren't actually stinky! Don't worry about the sick, he's a baby people expect them to vomit!

Sounds like a lovely trip out wineandchoccy!

Hope your boobs aren't too uncomfortable cowbiscuits!

Did you make it to your lunch kismac?

I had a go at a run this evening. Sam was fed and sleeping, I walked dogs and feel full of energy not sure where it came from! Did a lap of my parkrun which was 1.75 miles and felt good apart from my boobs being a bit uncomfortable but he was grizzly on dh when I got back which he had apparently only just started doing. Nice to know I haven't lost all my fitness! Not sure when I'll manage it again but I should try.

I'm still waiting. Was anticipating a sweep today but everything is clamped shut tighter than a ducks arse so no point. Defo a May baby now assessment on 7th for induction if nothing had happened before hand. He's still growing nicely but head is still only 2/5th engaged as has been for last few weeks although bump has dropped so maybe he just pops in and out. Glad I'm doing a good job of incubating him but really starting to resent this pregnancy lark as the longer it drags on and the less I can do because pelvis aches or back aches or legs have muscle spasms because they're over compensating for the fact I now do a part waddle/walk/shuffle.

Bad mood hormones.

On another note glad your babies are settling well and putting on weight etc.

Aww Brum, I feel your pain. My back is killing me. I can barely walk today. Baby is being evicted tomorrow. Thank God!

Good work on the run cinnamon and on the jeans Wine. I feel my my tummy is bigger now than the first week after DS was born. I haven't been eating badly though or more than usual.

Fingers crossed for a good night for everyone!

Oh you little monster! Im now having contractions 7 min apart. I have such a nice day planned for tomorrow. I want my sundae!

So many things start over night kismac! Better to start naturally than by induction, less monitoring and messing about

Hope this is it for you Kismac.

Well she has been in the basket for 10mins now, still made some grunty noises but so far has yet to wake herself up. Done the rolled towels under the sheet and Harry potter order of the phenix is propping up the top end. (It was the fattest book I could find.)I tried pride and prejudice first but it barely raised the end. Just going to stay up a bit longer to make sure she is ok and not over heating now she is more squished in and trying not to get too excited.

Oh Kismac your baby is a cheeky one! Hope you have an OK night, maybe things will really start this time and you won't need induction!

And we appear to have cracked it. Just woke up for a feed. almost 2 hours woo hoo. She has just filled her nappy though going to have to smell that till I can swap sides.

Sleeping bag doing its magic so far, first wake up since I put him down at 10 . It's the first night so I won't count my chickens but good sign!