December 2015 #2

[toadierocks]

As the 1st trimester sets in, its all sick-bags, ginger tea and laxatives! All aboard!

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I have a long ago girlie weekend planned in a couple of weeks. What excuses do you use for not drinking and being tired constantly.???

mega I'm gutted for you, sweetheart. So sorry to hear. Hope you've got lots of real life hugs and support. Take good care, and see you back here soon

sharon good news about your scan. High hcg levels is a good thing - except the puking bit.

Welcome newbies!

bean if they're close friends, the kind you'd lean on if it all went wrong, I'd just tell them you're preggers. Makes it soooo much easier, and you might enjoy the weekend rather than feeling like a fraud. I only use the '12 week rule' with work, less close friends/acquaintances etc.

bean if you don't want to tell them, I have used the following so far, either alone or in combination:

1. Fake drinking - order yourself soda & lime and pretend it's a g&t; order non-alcoholic beer; order a coke and pretend it's vodka & coke.

1. Antibiotics - feign an illness that you're still getting over, say you can't drink with the antibiotics (and this helps explain you being tired, too).

1. General health kick - harder if it's a special girly weekend rather than just a night in the pub, but you could say you've been overdoing it a lot lately and have sworn off the booze for a whole month. Maybe say your DP is doing it too so you can't drop off the wagon for fear of letting him down, need to stick to it in solidarity.

1. Similar to 2 - feign illness/other drugs. I suffer from epilepsy and although it feels horrible and like tempting fate, it's an easy one for me to say that I've had a fit and need to stay off the alcohol for a while on doctor's orders, or to say that my medication level is being reviewed and I'm off the booze while that happens. Not an excuse I've enjoyed using, but have used it once.

Alternatively, you might feel comfortable telling a BFF or close friend who's going to be there, but not the whole crowd. I'm in a similar situ with a hen do I'm going to this weekend. I've let slip to a really close friend who's been organising the do, and that way she can help cover for me so that the others don't find out!

May I add to sweets suggestion and just say you are SO hungover.....helps with looking tired too! X

mega so sorry. Give yourself as much time and space as you need and as many cuddles with DS as you can. Its tough and you can feel as sad as you want to. All the best for the future.

In regards to avoiding alcohol, I found that people were far less observant than i gave them credit for. Have a big soft drink to start with as you are 'really thirsty' then make that last an hour or so after that point the beer goggles are on most people and you can order non alcoholic drinks that look alcoholic.

Wonky - that's wonderfully devious. I love your method.

Sweets - we are trying your third method. But I think our friends are just incredulous "Flor & OH! on a health kick! pull the other one".

Bean - I would go for the 4) point of Sweets advice.

Yesterday, I used the I'm-pregnant card for the first time. I was desperate for a wee and the coffee shop barista across the street from my bus stop said the loo was for customers only when I kindly requested to use them. Cue big puppy eyes and a quiet "I'm pregnant and I'm desperate. Could you make an exception? " It worked!

Has anyone else had to pull The Card out yet? (aside from getting DP/OH/DH to make you another cuppa)

mega so sorry, nothing I can say to make it better, big hugs.

Mega I'm so sorry for your loss xx

Booked in with Gp and been referred to community midwives no booking in till 12 weeks apparently!

Lol at the Costa loo story! I've nearly used it on my bus commute when the driver pulls off before I've sat down! Don't gel like I would be believed without a bump though!

As for the drinking thing. I went out for a meal for my birthday with my friends last week and ordered a j2O no one asked me anything! The others were mostly on softies anyway as driving. But this was a Thursday night with work the next day not a weekender.

After feeling like death all day I've just eaten a meal! Woo! Energy boost!

Thanks for the advice guys.
Sweets - all sounds good. I haven't even told my mum yet so to tell friends almost certainly the word will get out. i need antibiotics...!!!!

Hi whohas we're in a similar situation, lost at 16+3. Paying £££ for private testing to rule out the same issues Poppy had asap. I won't be convinced until I've seen a heartbeat at 10 weeks and has the chromosome results at 12 weeks.

Fingers crossed for healthy babbas who and lab how tragic for you. My heart goes out x

I'm so sorry to hear that Mega, it is a sad day today for me and you.

I'm also out of this one, the scan showed what I have feared all week, that my little bean has just not made it this time. Same as last time though that I don't have any symptoms so I'll be referred as they'll have to intervene medically. I'm just so desperately sad. It has been lovely to share the time with you ladies and I wish you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy's.

I'll leave the Stats up but I can't figure out how to make it so everybody can edit it so perhaps someone could start a new one and cut and paste?

Wishing everyone happy and healthy pregnancy's xx

Toadie I am just so very sorry. Sending you much love xxx

I'm so sorry Toadie.

toadie I'm so sorry, my love. A sad day for you both. That's particularly hard it's happened before. You and mega will be in my thoughts.
Take good care of yourself.

A sad day for the bus - losing people is hard, and such a reminder of how precious and precarious this baby-making palaver is.

Oh no Toadie so sorry

I'm so sorry Toadie & mega. Thinking of you both

I've never felt this tired and it's making me feel so unwell. Poor ds is getting the brunt of my bad mood today

Oh no! toadie! You poor poor love. What an awful thing. Look after yourself x

Abi I've never known exhaustion like this either. I feel like I have flu. Did you not remember feeling like this in your previous pregnancy(s)? I don't know how people go on to have more children if it makes them feel this unwell!

Toadie, I'm so, so sorry.

chops you forget! I vaguely knew I'd felt crap last time, but NOW I remember how bad it really was. I spent one horrific work journey to Manchester, when I was about 11weeks, on my knees in one of those God-awful Virgin pendolino trains toilets, puking nearly the whole way. Then I had to pay 30p to vomit again in the loos at Manchester Piccadilly.

It's a bit like labour, really - it becomes this sepia-tinted happy time...

toadie and mega I am so sorry my loves, Look after yourselves and I hope your dh's are there to support you.