The angry pubes of bumsnet grad bus!

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Come put your feet up in the Zen den and let the dh's wait on us hand and foot whilst we nurture the fruit of their loins in our bellies :-)

Congratulations Oyster!!!!!

wood My friends are at the same stage... they've been referred by their doctor and have some tests booked. I don't think its a quick process, sadly. Have you had any initial tests done yet? Has your dp had any SA tests done?

Oyster! Wonderful news!

Congratulations oyster! You said you had some cramping and was sure af was coming yeah? That was my symptom too. I wanted to say that on bumsnet but wasn't sure if it was appropriate (ironically)

Yep had, and am still having, some cramping. My boobs feel really sore and swollen. I've also had headaches and dizziness. I get all of this to some extent every month but it usually lessens as AF time gets closer but this time it got worse.

I'm going to be so anxious until I can have a scan. Both my mum and sister had ectopics for their first pregnancy.
It doesn't feel real. Deep down I just had this feeling it would never happen for us.

Does someone want to take over the stats? Will hang around here still if that's ok but might miss updates.

Of course mummy!

Can everyone post their stats again and I'll figure out a spreadsheet or summat!

Hope you're doing OK mummy xxx

Ooo yes got headaches early on too big time! Only lasted a week though, before the rest of the preg symptoms kicked in! Lol! Try not to worry about an ectopic, things don't always run in families. I thought I was gonna suffer from hyperemesis because my mum and sister did but I just have nausea, so I count my lucky stars there!

Thanks Chops
It's not supposed to be hereditary, I think they were just unlucky so fingers crossed. DH is so worried already because I drank a fair amount during the tww. I've told him to chill out, it wouldn't have implanted before the worst of it and I'll be booze and caffeine free now I know.

What do I do now? Call my doctor?

What stats are needed?

Oysterbabe, 34, carrying DC #1, EDD 31/01/2016

Mummy I'm so, so sorry about your baby How are you holding up?

Morning, could I please join you? I was on the Bumsnet ttc threads until a few weeks ago so hopefully we'll remember one another. Basically I struggled to keep up and post regularly, so mainly lurked and generally kept my head down when things kicked off. (not one for confrontation, me)

I got my bfp on Thursday; I'm just over four weeks now. I had an early mc 2 cycles ago so I'm fretting at every minor cramp and twinge atm. I was hoping you guys might keep me sane.

It's lovely to see so many familiar names on here.

There, I've done it. I've joined an antenatal thread

Yay Mary we can be noobs together

Mary I remember you. I'm wotsits with a name change lol

CONGRATULATIONS Mary and Oyster!!!!!

Congrats marys!

Anyone happy to do stats, I created a google spreadsheet of everyone so you just need to join Google sheets and send me your email address and I will give you access to the sheet.

I am in some pain but bleeding has slowed. Wish it would pick up pace so I can stop thinking about it. I haven't had any heavy bleeding yet. It's hard having it all planned out in your head to have it all taken away. Due date, plans for a heavily pregnant Christmas, plans for a wedding next year in Italy with our 8 month old. Just

Oh Mummy
That's so hard. I hope your getting lots of support.
How is your DP? It's easy to forget how difficult it can be for them too.

Hee Also with things in a very closed way. Wen his dad died a couple months ago he just carried on working and cried once after the event and was the only one not sobbing at the funeral. But in the hospital I wanted a reaction of some sort and instead he said something stupid so I told him to fuck off. I felt bad because I am sure he is hurting. He is currently tidying tools in the garage, has fixed his mums garage door then he is doing ironing and our washing machine is on with about 5 things in it. He just keeps busy and ignores what's happening. Which is hard.

That was meant to say he deals with things....

Lots of typos on my crappy substitute phone after breaking mine. Sorry!

Don't be too hard on him mummy I'm ashamed to say I deal with grief in a similar way. It looks uncaring and unfeeling to the outside world, but inside you're screaming. Its like you think that if you pretend its not happening it will go away. Im sure he cares about you and how you're feeling very much but probably feels helpless. Do you have a mum/sibling/best friend you can have a cry /hug with?

That's such a male response, try to just tough it out and carry on. Big hugs to you both.

Oh Mary congratulations to you too! X

mary hello again, congratulations that's fantastic news. Welcome to this board.

mummy everyone deals with grief in their own way and it must be difficult for you both. He is going to need time like you but when you feel strong enough you will need to talk to him about it. Sending our love and thoughts to you both and your ds.

Mummy I'm so sorry you're going through this. It sounds like you're both hurting I hope you've got lots of support around you.

Congratulations to oyster and mary.