The angry pubes of bumsnet grad bus!

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Come put your feet up in the Zen den and let the dh's wait on us hand and foot whilst we nurture the fruit of their loins in our bellies :-)

I hope you all don't mind me sat here crying. It's where I feel most comfortable. Family is 300 miles away, have been on the phone to everyone. Best friend is away at the minute, next closest one is 12 weeks pregnant. She has been texting lots though. I'm close to sil and she is coming round after work for a cuddle. I felt bad for snapping at dp. He wants took to park tomorrow and may let him so he can come to terms with it all.

*work tomorrow

Mummy just wanted to offer a big hug and to hold your hand.

Xxx

Of course no one minds Mummy stay here and cry as much as you need to.

Thanks boris and oyster.

Hi girls. On the train and seems to access to first class wireless despite our cheap seats

Mummy, don't beat yourself up for struggling to communicate with dp. Situations like this test our relationships. You will both feel your way through this and come out stronger as a couple. I'm sure his every thought is about you and what he can do to help you.

Mary! Totally remember your story from the buses. Congratulations ma dear! That's super news after the last few months. It's and inspiration. Well done and welcome welcome welcome!

Oyster, I'm so delighted you got your honeymoon bfp. Well played!

Oh mummy, you cry as much as you need to. We are all here for you lovely xx

Oh my stats are babsbunny, 33, 1st child, edd (i think) 29th Dec

Oh mummy. Lots of love to you. X

Mary's, so lovely to see you again and especially with such lovely news. Congratulations!

Thanks everyone for the kind welcome messages. Congrats Oyster. Yep, we're the noobs!

Mummy I'm so, so sorry you're going through this. It's truly awful. There are no words I can say that will be of any help to you at the moment. It will get easier for you though, I promise. My dh dealt with things in a similar way to yours. I think it's a common response for the supporting partner to try and just 'get on with things' so that you can relax and take time out to grieve. What I really wanted was for him to break down and show some emotion and prove to me that he was sad too.
Feel free to pm me at any time, or just chat on here. I also found some great support on the 'ttc after mc' thread, if/when you feel ready.

Giddy, you were also on the 'ttc while bf' thread, yes? How's it going? (apologies if I've remembered incorrectly)

You're right Mary's, well remembered! 14 weeks now, touch wood, all going well. Told parents and family this weekend so had a fab bank holiday. :)

Little one still has milk before bed and if he wakes at night. Are you still feeding yor daughter too? X

Just popping my head back in to give a huge congrats to oyster and marys. oyster you've proved that having lots and lots of sex really does work! Don't let that egg have any wriggle room eh!

mummy you and DP will get through this. You look after yourself and take each day as it comes. It will get easier xx

Thanks DizzyN In contrast to Oyster my dtd effort this month might have seen me flamed alive on certain other threads .

14 weeks?! That's great. Dd has pretty much weaned now. A combination of my mc and her no longer napping meant we had reduced her feeds to twice daily a few weeks ago. We were just doing one feed until this weekend. It's a bittersweet feeling but she's 2.6 and I know I would have wanted to wean her by now, regardless of whether we conceived.

mummy Please sit here and cry, scream, wail and do whatever makes you feel like you have some release.

When I had my mmc someone said to me; "If someone told you that you had to go through this first to get your baby... you would do it". It didn't help me much at the time, but when I had dd in my arms I thought... yep, I would go through it again to have her.

I don't know if that helps at all now but maybe in the future it will help you like it did me.

Sending you hugs xx

Afternoon everyone Lovely to see so many of you here.

Congrats to Oyster and Mary!!!

Mummy I echo what others have said, please stay here and cry or chat about anything you feel comfortable with. I can't imagine what you are going through, take it one day at a time. It will get easier, although that is probably the last thing you want to hear right now. Sending lots of hugs.

I have been cleaning the house as it had started to look embarrassingly dirty I'm ashamed to say. DH is very laid back about these things but he had started looking a bit like this !!!! Right, time to get the duster and hoover out I thought!!!

Sorry, that should said

Thanks Tessie

I can't type today

I think it's all in the timing DTDwise but you're guaranteed to time it right if you do it constantly!!

Anyone else exhausted?

Aw you've done brilliantly Mary's. :) I am trying to get ds to self wean before no 2 arrives (touch wood) so deliberately feeing him with in the night garden or something on TV so he gets distracted and he is taking a lot less. Bless him. Totally understand the bittersweet thing. X

Babs, also knackered but you will feel better soon. Til then, keep eating cheese sandwiches. Or is that just me?!

Cheese sandwiches? Really?

I'm shuddering at most food today. Going to have mashed potatoes with vegetable soup for dinner. It's a random combination but goes down easily just now

Oooooooooh yeah. Lots and lots of cheese sandwiches. Or if I'm feeling really pathetic I go to bed and demand cheese on toast be brought to me. I don't understand it as I can see it could turn some stomachs but I just crave the stodginess of it. And I wonder why I'm huge...

It is an odd combination but if it goes down and stays down it has to be a winner. Enjoy!

I'm really tired too. I put it down to the fact that I'd normally have consumed 15 litres of strong coffee by now

And I don't really feel sick but my mouth is sort of watering the whole time, like it sometimes does if you are feeling sicky.
Eating helps. Just had a big bit of wedding cake