The November 2015 bus is back on the road, chugging through beautiful scan pic landscapes, picking up plenty of Dairyleas, muffins and whathaveyous on it's way!

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Did the last November bus crash without a new thread? Worry not, here we are again! Toot toot!

There's a number but I already called at the end of last week and they said they would be contacting me shortly, so don't feel I can call again just yet. if they don't call by the end of this week I'll call again monday, as she said on the phone they normally do booking in at 9-10 weeks so I should atleast know when my appointment is by 10 weeks. I've never had problems before, I don't live in a busy area. maybe I'm just being impatient

Thanks guys! I think I might be like this through most of my pregnancy. Last nights tears was because I realised I really miss my mum and that she's missing out on sharing this experience with me and it's all she ever wanted was a grandchild and as I'm typing this I can feel the tears and since I'm at work I'm going to stop!

I also feel for my unborn child as it won't have a "Granny" as such, OH's mum loves 4 hours away and is an alcoholic! We don't speak to her as it is. OH tried to build a bridge and she has now let us down twice so I'm not even bothering with her. He's going to have to phone her to tell her but trying to leave off doing that as she will just phone constantly!

Aww crying that's a shame for you no wonder u get upset xxx

Sorry for the long message below I just needed to get it off my chest! I find it difficult speaking to my OH about it!

Two bees I haven't got my scan date yet either, but I have had a "pre booking" and I've got my real booking in next week and then I think I'll have an idea of scan date I'll be 10 weeks when booking in. I kind of want to get on with the scan now so I can tell my kids! I seem to be blabbing to random people and my kids don't know I must gaffer tape my trap shut!

So I think you are probably right being a little impatient it's all waiting waiting at this stage init!? But once you do get your appointments then you will have a flurry of activity! And it will pass quicker.
I should be entertained for a few weeks as I'm starting a new job in a few weeks! Back to hairdressing I can't wait!

Aw crying, I would feel exactly the same, it's natural to get upset!

I would leave telling the MIL until after the 20wk scan maybe... delay the constant phone calls, and when they come, your partner can field them.

Oh Crying. . If it's any consolation lots of us have family issues. I've been non-contact with my Dad for almost 5 years (emotionally abusive/bully) and whilst I love my Mum (who's still with him), we don't see each other that often. My worry is that I'm going to tell her in early May and then my Dad might want some kind of contact.

Also, I don't think your child will miss having a granny figure if they've never had one. You and DP will give your child more than enough love and that's all that matters!

Bowies I don't know how long he wants to delay telling her but I know how long I do.... Lol. I'll always support his decisions when it comes to her! It's not been easy for him since he was a kid! She only has his mobile number which is partly a good thing as it means he will get the calls but when he hears her drunk he goes all which breaks my heart! It's sooooo difficult!

Thanks crumbelina I just really needed a moan about it! Lol. My baby will have plenty aunts and uncles and adopted granny's and 2 grandads along with a great granny and great grandad!

I feel for you too, it sounds a lot more difficult especially since your mums still with your dad.

Ahh, it sounds like your child will have oodles of love from so many people!

It's a shame that Mum's still with him but she's made her choice. Non-contact is lovely (me and my sister should have done it much earlier) and it'll be a very easy decision to say "no" if the issue arises. I'm not having any negative influences around the little one. Luckily my in-laws are super lovely and we're very close.

My thoughts exactly about the negative influences! Hence why I'm trying to hold off as long as I can with MIL! When she came up for a visit before Christmas she didn't touch a drink all weekend until the Sunday and then got wasted. my OH spoke to her on the Monday about it and told her that if she did it again in our house we would never welcome her back! She didn't appear the last time she was due up so I dunno when the next time she will want to come up! I half hope it's before baby is here just because if she drinks I'll be putting my foot down!

Oh dear, many unmumsnetty hugs for cryingbabymess.

Crying, definitely not the same at all, but I am usually crying daily or so, because pregnancy is throwing up so many childhood experiences of my (now lovely) parents going through a separation that rendered them insane literally and my entire teenage was spent in fear, and I have to say being at the mercy of a frankly abusive mother - nothing will erase the fact that "mother" to me means nothing but grappling at straws. She's fine now, and we talk regularly, but there will forever be a child in me that's lost and scared.

And now I am having a child? Oh gosh, there the tears go again. It's literally like there is a lost child inside me whose entire adolescence was nothing but scared and fearful.

Sorry for the me me me post but just sharing that you aren't the only one crying, so be strong, there are others with you.

Oh, that’s horrible, Focus - I can completely understand why you feel like that. Bloody parents, eh?

At least you can see where your parents went wrong and you've got a very clear motivation to ensure that your child doesn't have to face what you've been through.

I guess it's a tricky situation with our mothers. It's difficult not to feel a sense of resentment about the past (and that she's always put my Dad first) but I do feel sorry for her.

On a lighter note, I've eaten Jelly Beans, Monster Munch and even more fizzy sweets today. I don't have nausea, but I'm stuck in the habit of eating lovely kiddie treats.

Hi ladies, I promised to pop back with any news so here I am to tell you I have a bfp! EDD 31 Dec so I'm not too far behind all of you! Hope you are all ok

I think pregnancy throws up a lot of feelings and you're already a big ball of hormones anyway!!! My tear jerker is thinking about how different this pg is to when I had DS, and how much better a father DH is to DS than his real dad, and then feeling guilty... Not fun!

Congrats miss

Wow - that was quick Mrs! Congratulations! An NYE baby - what a fab way to start 2016.

That was quick MissMrs! Big congratulations. Early pregnancy after miscarriage is a very stressful thing so hope you're ok.

Oh MissMrs I'm over the moon for you!! A new years baby! Woooo!

Oh missmrsmummy!!!!!! What fabulous news!! This is so lovely! Fingers crossed for an extremely stubbornly decidedly sticky bean!

How is everybody doing? I have my 12 week scan on Monday when I should be 12 weeks exactly. I had been doing some research on the harmony test that my midwife told me about and it said they could tell you the sex of the baby by extracting the babys DNA from maternal DNA (via blood)
Desperate to find out what we are having so I did some research and found a company that did it. Got our results today and apparently we are having a girl! 4 weeks til we have a gender scan to comfirm

*confirm

Congratulations MissMrs!

Hello all,

Think I've just about managed to catch up, such a busy thread!

Congrats MissMrs that's really wonderful news, I wish you a worry free boring pregnancy

I had some bleeding last night - red/brown when wiping and completely freaked out. Thankfully it was my 12 week scan this afternoon and all is well with baby (and very pleased to get a 1 in 22600 score on the nuchal). Apparently it's not unusual to get the odd bit of blood/brown discharge at 12-13 weeks as the placenta implants and I hadn't heard of that before so thought it worth sharing!

My EDD has moved AGAIN to 30/10 so will update stats at some point, apparently it won't move again now. Oh and we are having an alien...

Congratulations missmrs!!!

mama how exciting to know already! Good luck for the 12 wk scan.

hahaha lady that made me laugh! What a lovely alien! Glad you got such a good result on the scan and lots of reassurance. With that revised due date I think you head the list on this thread now