The September crew fly through to the second trimester, baby bumps galore! :) (Thread 7)

[Treaclepie19]

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Thank you sauv yes I'll try and get an appointment, good idea.

Thanks maths I pop in now and again to check everyone's ok, just lurking rather than posting :)
Cannot wait to find out if it's a winky or a fifi in there ha ha!

Welcome soontobe and congratulations everyone on your scans.

sauv no not having another scan and don't want to find out what I'm having either. (will have to see if I resist forever as DP quite keen to, but not at all pushy) DP quite fancies a 4d much later (28w ish) for fun and interest rather than reassurance. He has grown up children and didn't have anything like that then, but we'll see. I've checked they can do it without revealing sex!

Was discussing people's anxiety with my mum last night. She said she doesn't remember people struggling so much when she was pregnant other than wanting to get past 12 weeks. We wondered whether we all just know, understand and can see too much now. (though not like she knew nothing as her and her friends are all children's nurses so see bad stuff, I guess managed to keep perspective) I'm a real researcher as I find it interesting, but I'm lucky as it doesn't really cause me worry. Mainly since 12 weeks I've been quite relaxed with the odd moment of concern. I am likely to stay like this until the baby is here as I know nearly all are born perfect, but also have grown up being v aware of many rare but bad things through my mum (and now sister too). So I don't expect to feel better or worse after my 20 wk scan, just excited, fairly relaxed, but the odd moment in the back of my mind which I have to push away.

I think it comes down to us all being different.
Some of us have experienced early losses, late losses or have anxiety.
Personally I'd rather spend £39 to reassure me than spend 8 weeks worrying.

some of us would be on beans on value toast for a month so have to suck it up

If I tried to "suck it up" I'd end up making myself ill.
I don't have loads of money, luckily dh has done some overtime.

Sauv no I actually had no idea it was common to get a private scan at this point. Certainly none of my friends ever do though some got a 4d one nearer the end of the third trimester. Don't remember people getting private scans at all in my first ante natal group. I wonder whether sometimes a couple of people do and then others get the idea?? Nothing wrong with that if that's what you want and it doesn't make you want one every week (think it would me!) but yes not my bag really. Also honestly don't remember many people debating the nuchal etc tests in my other antenatal group. It was all weird symptoms and heartburn. Strange!

Totally off topic but thanks Dela for mentioning beans on toast. I literally can't stop thinking about this particular culinary creation this pregnancy!! Random I know but I am glad it is that rather than lobster or caviar!

Whilst it would be nice to have additional scans unfortunately im in the boat of not having the money spare :-/ currently having to pay for DS to attend preschool two mornings a week (too young for funding) so thats that. I suspect also it would only reassure me for that day then id prob worry again.....so best thing i can do is just try not to worry and pray everything goes ok. Im one of the lucky ones tho - although ive had an early mc previously, my last pregnancy went well with no major concerns (suspected iugr at one point but consultant soon dismissed that and my BP went up at 41wks tho it was easily controlled), and i have a wonderful team of midwives who i have absolute faith in, plus a manic toddler and full time job to keep me distracted!
Everyone is different tho and we all cope/react differently, just keep remembering that it will soon be Sept and babbas will be here!

Hi all just popping in again to say my 12wk scan went ok couple of weeks ago and now 14 weeks. Edd of 1st oct so may sneak into sept! Dd edd was 2nd oct and arrived 28th sept....

Hope you are all well. No time to catch up at the mo.
I feel ok, no symptoms still, no bump and feeling generally negative. Jo date for 20 wk scan yet either

monkey we get 2+ funding. absolute godsend although I only send him 2 mornings a week as I think 5 is too much

deladion we're very lucky that DS doesn't absolutely have to go as my parents can have him, but we decided to put him in 2 mornings so he can be with other kids etc but cant bear the idea of any more time at the moment! Was going to increase in Sept when funding kicks in, but now debating that as babba is due 7th Sept and not sure it's fair on DS if his hours are increased just as his bro/sis arrives.....so will wait and see. Am tempted to go for a longer day next year to prepare him for school in Sept 2016 but its all such a scary thought, hate being away from him so much now & will feel dreadful sending him off when im on mat leave.....being a parent makes u feel so guilty all the time! Just glad he loves it ay preschool, else it would be horrendous!

ovumahead I've just understood your nickname and am chortling away to myself

Terrible headaches recently - at 16+3 but has been going on a week. Midwife not too concerned and reckons I'm a bit dehydrated, so chugging the water. Hard not to wibble a bit as I'm almost guaranteed a visit from my lovely friend pre-eclampsia but hoping I can stave her off as long as possible! It generally appears after 20 weeks anyway.

On the subject of scans I get them every 4-6 weeks cos I am super speshul one of the good things about living near a big teaching/research hospital is the studies! I'm in one looking at factors affecting foetal growth (the pre-eclampsia with DD puts me at risk of small babies, though no-one told all 7lbs 12ozs of her). So I go in, they scan me and take the measurements. Next one is next Friday and they may well be able to see if it's a boy or girl! DH has given me permission to find out - just as well, since I'm so convinced this is another girl I need time to get my head around the idea of a boy...

Let's just be kind to each other on the subject of anxiety, please. I can't speak for everyone here but I have an anxiety disorder which goes a bit crackers in pregnancy. There are also some ladies here - me included - who haven't had an easy time with a history of miscarriage(s) and/or very difficult, traumatic births. I'd love to be sanguine and relaxed about everything but that isn't the way it works for me, and I think for several other ladies. So let's all be excellent to each other

So I had my 16 week appointment this morning, all very straight forward and heard the heartbeat! Very happy baby in there apparently

Glad all was ok choccy :)

I agree commander

I'm trying to be light. I have my ow demons to face, as we all do. extra scans, extra this that and the other simply aren't a way I can deal with those. finance is a huge issue for some of us.

Same as Dela as in have my own anxieties and past miscarriage plus difficult first pregnancy but also don't find extra scans etc good for me unless I'm told to have them obviously! But wouldn't judge others. Just sometimes do feel people feel everyone else is getting scans and using dopplers and it doesn't help everyone to go down that road. That's not being unkind but just explaining how I help my own anxiety in case it helps others.

PS I do have to have extra scans late on in pregnancy so making the most of not having to keep going now! Though already had to go once in second trimester for bleeding!

commander when did they start your growth scans? Mine aren't til much later, think something like 26 weeks!

At 9 weeks - but it's for the university's study, so not really anything to do with the NHS other than the department of medicine is based at the hospital. I had an NHS growth scan at 37ish weeks with DD as by that point I was weeing enough protein to make Quorn* and they wanted to check that DD was measuring correctly as had she been small-for-dates they would have hoicked her out. As it was she was a normal size so she got to hang on to 40 weeks before eviction.

I got to see my kidneys that day too, which was fun, because obviously your kidneys are on your back and trying to manoeuvre a 37-week bump so you can lay on sort-of your front is... interesting!

*it is possible that I'm exaggerating. Possibly.

Ah I see. Heehee re the Quorn! Gosh no way would I fancy lying on my tummy at 37 weeks!!

Commander thanks for the name appreciation! :-) also well said about anxiety - we all deal with our worries in different ways. Each to their own! For those who can't afford extra scans, it really is no biggy, it won't change the outcome anyway. Better to spend the money on good nutritious food and try to relax. Pregnancy is such a perfect time to practice acceptance of uncertainty, isn't it?! Can't say I'm particularly good at it but I do try.

Talking of relaxing I am going to try to go to Pilates tonight for the first time in ages. The class is at 8pm so a fair chance I might be asleep at the end of it but I need to move these bones!

Is pilates relaxing? I've only ever been to one class and found it hard and boring which was a bad combination. I do love yoga though... Hope it was good!

Had 16 week appointment today which went well although midwife did absolutely everything else before listening for the heartbeat. Drove me mad! Then couldn't gear it properly because baby was moving so much... Did hear it fleetingly but would have been nicer for longer!