April 2015 Thread 13: The babies are creeping in one by one and the gardens really need seeing to!

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We’re in the home stretch ladies, we've had the first baby, how many more threads can we manage before the last baby is here?

I honestly don't know how you do it daholster. I like to think I'm pretty stoic but even I'd have given up work by now if I were you. Your dad sounds like a good 'un.

Congratulations babiecakes (I love the name Sarah, ever since I read A Little Princess) and Rusty - your little man certainly kept us all waiting!

I'm also a little bit of all of you still DTD. Mind is willing, but between the bump, PGP, cramps, carpal tunnel and general clunkiness, there is no position we have found that I can stay in for any length of time. I end up in pain, which kills the mood for both of us

I need to empty our freezer before I batch cook. DH has been in charge of cooking the last few months, and he doesn't label anything. Freezer surprise will be featuring strongly in the River household for a while!

Daholster I am quite a stamp my feet and make shit happen sort of person. Have to remember some people take a more zen approach to life and good for them having said that my BP is always at lower end of spectrum so being permanently cross doesn't seem to be doing any damage

Nunkie your greedy weekend sounds immense. Make the most of it while you still can.

mswibble - and see above - I'm furious that you, the preggo, were the one on the sofa after a row. Totally with you on no house guests with a new baby. It's not like we're in an episode of Downton abbey with a whole host of servants to run around catering for guests is it (more's the pity).

33+6.

Congratulations rusty I'll start the post-natal thread in a bit and then when you're feeling brave you can put the gory details up!!

ooh wine thanks for the recipes, I'm currently compiling a list of 0% effort things that I can stock the freezer and cupboards up with because I''m going on cooking strike as soon as this baby arrives! Nothing I cook can really be frozen and there's never leftovers because we're gutsy greedy folk I have been going through the cupboards and making DH help me inventory them, he thinks this is so I know what to put on the food order each week but it's actually so he has no excuse when he suddenly finds himself in charge of all the cooking, he can't say he doesn't know what's in the cupboards when each one has a list!!

mswibble I would totally feel the same. Will your OH sort things so that MiL is not coming? I remember theboomonster saying last week 'no is a complete sentence'! I am freaking out enough about visitors never mind someone staying for a whole week.

Ah Chicken I hadn't thought to look in boots for clothes. Have promised myself I will stop buying neutrals now though and wait for girl/boy things when baby is here.

daholster your plan about work definitely sounds good, get the paperwork finished off and leave! Hope you get on ok with your GP and they are able to offer some support.

LOL chicken!

that garden for me is just slightly trimmed with a razor in the shower and that is that... Natural look in the way to go...

Congratulations Rusty!! Hope all is well!

Definitely can't keep up with this thread! I say it every day
What's the deal with the Facebook group? I have Facebook but don't actually write updates or anything like that on it, other than the odd photo and Babygaga automatically updating my pregnancy week every Monday Is it worth me joining?

Having one of those days today where I'm scared about labour and birth again. I even wrote a thread this morning in Childbirth
I suppose it's just going to happen and I've just got to get on with it, it's just hard telling myself that sometimes! Doesn't help that I'm so squeamish, either

RE perineal massage, thanks to whoever described it for me, it kind of made me go ! I thought it was going to be a good old fashioned back massage or something! Looks like I'm very naive. Is it something you get your partner to do? I think he'd be a bit too rough, if you have to concentrate on a particular area/method. He's not very patient!

On a lighter note, I'm off to a local beauty salon soon (after I've tackled the washing up) to have a look at the prices of massages etc. I want to book something for me and my mum for Mother's Day, but possibly the Monday. It's where we usually visit. I say usually, I mean when I have the money, which is normally about twice a year!
I'm thinking to book myself a pedicure, as I can't paint my toenails anymore! And I'm not into the idea of a pregnancy massage.

Sadly not penguin, its seems I'm a selfish bitch who cannot understand that he wants his Mum here and NO, she cannot stay in the Travelodge 5 mins down the road, she has to be on our sofa (oh but wait, he's going to fork out for a sofa bed now, make it all comfy for her). I'm getting to the stage where I'm thinking fuck it, come. I wont be making small talk in the living room. I'll be sleeping when the baby is sleeping and I'll be feeding on demand. sigh

I agree ms wibble that its a shame it was you that had to kip on the sofa!
And you want time to bond with your baby before being descended upon, and no doubt having well-meaning but annoying advice coming from all directions!

I'm in something of a dilemma myself - can't wait for the grandparents to meet their first grandchild, but also want to leave space clear for DP and I to get our heads around the situ, esp since its our first. Therefore, i think the best solution is they get invited for a day, or a day and a night, or something, rather than moving in and getting comfortable for a week! (there wouldn't be to much room in our flat anyway, so that neatly solves that one!)
Is the MIL putting pressure on to visit a long time, and OH caved?

Re DTD: Like the jogging, I am very infrequent but still doing it, cos I think its good to keep things ticking over (and i'm not worried about hurting Peanut. If they can get thru 36 weeks rattling around in my gut, being put on aeroplanes, taken running, and made to eat all sorts of odd things, i reckon they're tough enough to stand to a little light humping! !)

Frankly, it's a bit like trying to manoveure a beached whale at this point, but I want to enjoy it while i still can, before another person takes all our attention, ruins my vag and makes me squirt milk in DP's eye! :0D (I guess us not having kiddies already makes things easier, as we can put aside a weekend morning when i'm not so tired/achey/unconscious :0D)

I do even feel kind of dutiful about it at times, for the fact that DP never pesters and has been the perfect gentleman throughout the pregnancy. That deserves a little lurve back, i think :0)

Oh, Dances good to hear of Tiger's progress - glad they're on top of the infection thing. I hope she'll be back with you soon.

Saire, noise them up. My heart was causing issues on Wednesday and I was seen at cardiology on Friday. Getting an echo is quite embarrassing. They have to move your boob out the way which I was not expecting. Wee bit of a conversation killer being man handled.

Mswibble, that's not on at all. You should not be sleeping on the sofa. Give his a telling off!

Can my handover notes consist of me writing 'it's all turned to shit and Im struggling to care'.

mswibble!!! I missed your post sorry!!! OK so even if you went downstairs to sleep even if dh didn't want to apologise I would expect him to come down tail between his legs and offer to swap!!! No he has no idea does he? Its precious family time week 1, so precious. Our parents volunteered to stay away until invited - visit in hospital then nothing for a week until we asked. And yes they would drive hours just for a quick visit and go.

As a parent myself I would hate to think that I was upsetting my child in any way - which your MIL is doing cos your dh is unhappy. All this should take is for him to explain how you feel as a couple about week one and how you are worried you just want family time. Unless she is entirely unreasonable and has different maternal instincts to what I imagine is the majority of the world This should make her back off and wait for an invitation.

So dh just needs to pull his finger out! And stop being a dick, can't believe he let you sleep on the sofa!!! Hope you told him he will need to be decidedly less selfish in a few weeks time, dc will come first, always, not his worry about what his mum thinks or whether he gets the bed!!!

kismac yes, your handover notes can say that!!!

nunkie lol!!! About the squirting milk in dp's eye in particular!!!

Mrswibble, how far is she coming? My MIL comes from Scotland (I am in London) but DH knows the first 2 weeks are sacred for us. it was the same last time...

I really really put my foot down...

is there anything so important in your MIL's life she can't postpone the trip by one week???

and for whaty it's worth my mum said she would much rather come when the baby is more interactive than when they just eat and sleep, so they are coming at 8 weeks-ish (from a different country) when she will hopefully be smiling and being more interactive

I don't even know if its MIL to be fair, I think this is all coming from him but then again I wasn't asked about any of it, they had decided everything and then he told me what was going to happen. OH is unhappy because I'm a selfish cow who doesn't understand that he wants his Mum to be part of it all. Because I'm putting my own recovery and wants of establishing BF without being gawped at, because I actually want him to spend his paternity leave bonding with his baby and getting to grips with it all with me, not running around after his Mum. I think its the fact that we've already been through this, I made myself very very clear that I didn't want her staying a week and yet he obviously thought I wasnt serious, or he could just ignore me - I think thats what seriously pissing me off, more than the MIL situation itself.

Your lucky Skyra my DH won't eat left overs. so anytime we have any I always dutifully stick them in the fridge thinking I will finish that, only to chuck it when it's been sat there a week. Think I'm doing a pasta bake tonight it'll be a bit of a hodge podge of ingredients but should have at least 2 veg in it if I put peppers and sweetcorn in. Do you count the tomato and onion if it's a jar sauce? Oh and I have mushrooms too so they count. (Not really sure how as they are a fungus not a vegetable but I'm sure I read somewhere that they do count) Should be tasty with some bacon and pepperoni in it for good measure. (Will have to hide the pepperoni though as DD would eat the full packet if she spots it)

Can't remember who it was that felt bad for feeding their DC buttons for tea. Well last night DD ate a chicken nugget, a good 2 tablespoons of peas and sweetcorn and then finished it off with some haribo. Hardly a well balanced meal but I was grateful she ate the peas without being prompted.

Can't wait for this week to be over, then I'll only have 2 weeks left at work. Having nothing to do day in day out is driving me crackers. I'd much rather be at home doing nothing. (It just feels wrong being paid to sit around trawling the internet to pass the time)

Apparently tomorrow my boss and a couple of other people are coming down to go through the book stock to see what needs moving. That will give me something to do for the next 2 weeks. I've hated being down here in the sticks even if I am on more money and in charge. Its just rubbish if your only in charge of 1 person and some days you see less than 10 students. Where is the incentive to get any work done? Can't wait to go back to my little job in a busier library in December, I'll just be a dogsbody with no responsibility. Turn up, do as I'm told, go home. It'll be bliss.

Got my fat pants on today so I'm not squished and bump it just sore at the top where I have something nobbly poking out. Not had any hiccups for days so no idea if we are still the right way up or not. I'm so asking the mw tomorrow which way up she thinks as the last 2 appointments she just wrote longitude in my notes.

This turned into a bit of a mammoth post sorry

Rusty, congratulations on the safe arrival of Harry, and I hope you feel a bit more rested soon!!

Crikey, perineal massage. Something else I really should start doing soon. Gulp.

Oh, mswibble, that sounds horrible. I hope some of your worries and concerns got through to him and that he's suitably apologetic tonight. And if he isn't, I'd make it very clear that he gets full responsibility for keeping her busy, as you're going to be otherwise occupied...

Chicken, I'm thinking about the garden-garden too - can't wait to sit out in it with the baby and enjoy the sun! I've got the window open now and birdsong pouring in... bliss.

Somebody remind me why I thought that the third trimester was a great time to set up a new big project at work... it's something I've been wanting to do for ages, but I've spent the morning wading through excited e-mails from people wanting to be involved... Not to mention the other big project I'm already handling. Ah, the blessings and the curses of being the sort of person who does things.

NCT class tonight. It's the one about interventions. Lets see how squeamish we all get, although after hanging out on here I doubt there's much that's going to come as a complete surprise.

kismac I think I'll steal that for my own handover notes! I pity the poor sod they get to cover for me, though maybe they will blow the whistle and expose the utter incompetence of the management!

tiny, she'll be coming from Ireland. I think a weekend is the only compromise I'm going to offer. My suggestion of leaving until a month was shot down immediately and if his Mum was going to be 'banned' from seeing the baby then my Mum and Dad were banned too. I've realised it will be an ongoing battle to be honest, the whole Christening thing will undoubtedly raise its head, Christmas will be another one, 1st birthday ...

In happier news I'm off to buy a baby bouncer today. The Argos Baby Event has started and there are some good deals if, like me, you still have a few bits and bobs to cross off your list.
MW appt too tomorrow, I need to mention the the pain I get at the front, suspected SPD, and also I think I now may have cystitis! Hopefully my urine sample will be clear of sugars too as I dont want to be sent for a third GTT!

Mswibble I'm hoping my sample will be free from it's usual trace of protein. I'm having an afternoon appointment so I'm hoping the trace was there because I always struggled to pee in the pot before my first thing appointment. It was only the second wee of the day and I think that's the cause of it.

oof, this baby is an octopus. Keep getting bumped in the cervix by 'something' and poked all round the sides at the same time.

rl the fb group tends to be a bit easier for people to update with impromptu hospital visits than trying to update here through the app, and because everything is comments on posts it is a bit easier to follow what's going on as each post is a different topic rather than everything happening at once on one thread. it's also much simpler to upload pictures as you can do it via the fb app whereas you can't on the mums net app.

lauren that was me, though my dinner didn't turn out to be much better in the end, we ordered a pizza because DH forgot to go via the shop, and I had 2 slices of pizza and a couple of chicken bites and that was about all I could manage this morning she's had yoghurt tubes and blueberries, I went to feed her a blueberry muffin as I'd finally finished cooking them with what was left of the blueberries and she's gone to sleep! I'm glad everyone else's kids have days where their eating is a bit dubious!

my sling arrived! I am seriously impressed with the speed given that I only ordered it 2 days ago! and there was a mini pack of haribo in the package which i just about managed to hide from DD

Oh my god mswibble I think I would have killed him - either for ignoring your wishes or for letting you sleep on the sofa! It's a tricky situation with parents visiting from far away but he is being totally unreasonable about the whole thing. Hope you get it sorted soon.

Hee hee dh's home town is on bargain hunt! We drive past that antiques centre every week! Oh the little things that keep me happy!

Have turned on my training portfolio... its been open 5 mins and I'm falling asleep already!

Haha! Thank you for your reaasurance as I did have a bit of a wobble wondering if I am being a hormonal, unreasonable cowbag!

chicken and annia - I am v excited to get the back yard (no euphemisms here!) sorted. I'm waiting for a nice sunny day and then the pressure washer is getting dug out, everything blasted and then I can go mad tidying up all the planters and get the bedding plants in. We only get the sun for about 4hrs a day, between 10 and 2pm so with working full time I've never really had the chance to enjoy it. I'm hoping for a lovely summer this year though so me and bambino can enjoy the sunshine.

boo I love pizza and yet even I have never eaten so much pizza as I have in the last three months or so. Its been all we can manage some nights to light the oven and shove a frozen pizza in! I am truly amazed by those of you who have other children to look after, I can barely look after myself!

mswibble I am convinced that I'm sleeping better this time around bc I'm so tired from looking after DD while being preg. I remember finding sleep really tricky at this stage first time around. Silver lining!

Oh and of course you're NBU. Your OH is BVU and you're having to deal with the consequences which is rubbish.

Boo hope you enjoyed your little hidden treasure.

Mmm pizza sounds good, shame I'm having a mugshot for lunch. I didn't have time to make a sandwich this morning but I chucked the rest of my lunch in my bag so not too bad.