April 2015 Thread 13: The babies are creeping in one by one and the gardens really need seeing to!

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We’re in the home stretch ladies, we've had the first baby, how many more threads can we manage before the last baby is here?

Ooh an appointment on Saturday....We can barely get seen other than the only day the midwives come in at my surgery.

Room has been glossed and ceiling painted. Wallpapering starts tomorrow I think!

And finally... it transpires I am not v intuitive when it comes to baby positions, this one has its head down after all my confident claims for transverse. What do I know? Bugger all it seems.

I don't want him to be head down bc he's not coming out that way! Turn around small boy turn around!

Ten years ago we build a corner Pax wardrobe, a huuuge thing, took us a whole bank holiday weekend... Relationship survived

I love building flat pack furniture, as long as I don't have to do too much in one go. It makes me feel like I have built it from scratch!

Feeling terrible today. Hardly slept last night as I felt sick if I was lying flat and when I propped myself up with pillows bump was really uncomfortable. I was up several times with an upset stomach too. Haven't eaten all day, my belly just doesn't feel comfortable and I don't fancy anything. No contractiony pains, just generally uncomfortable. Moan moan moan

35+5

Hope you feel better Banana. My bump is aching horribly but I know i've done too much over the last couple of days. Hopefully little one will get their kick on tonight and all will be well.

Afternoon everyone hope were all feeling ok.

Banana why do I keep thinking it's you that is the same stage as me? I'm 34+5, unless you've made a typo
I had a similar night to you. Not as bad though so I can't imagine how you're feeling today
Couldn't get comfortable, felt like I was awake every 10 minutes, and kept getting hungry too.

Skyra you sound like a little bargain hunter like me
I love trawling through charity shops too.
A few weeks ago I got some gorgeous little brown John Lewis booties from a charity shop, for 99p! They don't like as though they've been used at all and are in perfect condition

Hope everything's going well Chicken!
I've just read through the Maternity services booklet I got given months ago.
I just don't know whether to find out more about an elective cesarean or not I'm definitely not too posh to push. I just keep working myself up about labour and birth and giving myself palpitations. I suppose it's because I don't feel like I know enough about either natural birth or cesarean. I don't know who is best to talk to, the midwives, or the health visitor who I'm meeting on Tuesday morning, or when I go for the growth scan on Tuesday afternoon. I don't feel prepared enough!

Had to buy yet more new leggings today. It's not that I've gone up in size recently, as I went up to a 14 a while back now. It's that they keep splitting on the same area, around the gusset! It can't be coincidence as I've had pairs from different places, it must be my thighs trying to escape through them! I saw so many lovely pairs of patterned trousers in Asda, but for one I would probably feel uncomfortable in them around the waist, and secondly I don't know what size I'm going to be properly after the birth! So I'll carry on living in leggings for now.

Thanks Fi.

RL it was definitely a typo, am only 34+5 sadly! Sorry you also had a difficult night. Are there any clinical reasons for an ELCS or just worries about birth?

Ah it's not my baby brain then, Banana
No clinical reason as such other than my ectopic heart beats. I was discharged from a heart unit at a hospital near to me a couple of years ago, after being on/off monitored for a year. I won't dress it up to be made worse than it is, as like I say I was discharged with that as a conclusion. Although one of the midwives did seem more 'concerned' about it than others. By concerned I mean asked questions about it, when others didn't.
So although it's not a valid reason, it worries me that my heart might not be able to cope in childbirth overreaction probably, I know. I might just give it a little mention at my next midwife appointment anyway and see what they say, and hopefully they can reassure me!

Right, going totally off subject, I have a question after seeing a comment on a baby name thread (I'm obsessed with the baby name threads!).
To those of you that aren't married, is your baby going to have your partners surname?
My baby is going to, with the exception that I might add my surname in there too but not 100% sure on that as they don't really 'flow' together!
The reason I ask is because the person stated her son isn't going to have his dad's surname as they aren't married and she'll be the one doing the school runs, GP visits, etc and for that reason wants him to have the same surname as her.
I couldn't understand this. Mainly because even when my mum and dad divorced when I was around 4, I always kept my dad's surname, and as far as I know there's never been any 'complications' or anything? Does it matter of babies surname is different from mums with things like GP visits? ??

I'm married but iv have kept my name mainly due to all the paper work I'd need to do for work.
However there is no way I'd give my baby my surname instead of my husbands.
I think it means a lot to his family since he is the only son. Also I think most men would really want to carry there name on and have that connection with the baby. I think it's harder for men to connect sometimes because they don't carry the baby and also baby never gets passed to them first even when it's a section midwives don't routinly give baby to man to pass to mother.

Then it's kinda the mans jobs to register the baby with his name.
I'm prob bein old fashioned- but I wouldn't take this away from my husband even if we divorced.

It doesn't matter at all if babies names different to mums.

Saying all that my mum and dad weren't married- I started with my dads names but when mum married someone else we all changed names. However my dad was an alcoholic bastard- when my mum did night feeds he was drunk. He also tried to say I wasn't his ... So in that situation I think mum was def right!

Had a lovely lunch with my mum today we were out for hours!

I'm very uncomfortable and having a bit of a quiet baby day. I'm certainly feeling movement but it's a bit subdued I reckon I've got arms and legs at the back and I'm just getting the odd body stretch. It's actually picking up a bit as I'm typing so must have been a position thing. I'm really tired today, proper struggled to get out of bed. I've done the ironing at least and I found a light weight dressing gown while out with my mum so I'm pretty chuffed. Apart from my makeup, notes and chargers the bag is done. I repeat the bag is done!!!

Now all I have to do is take the plastic off the Moses basket, strip it and wash the bedding. Everything else can wait till baby is here.

No I totally agree with you Cavetroll. This is why I wanted to ask because I feel the same as how you've just explained.
Although my partner has a daughter (6yo this year) he was never put on the birth certificate (awkward ex) and she doesn't have his surname. He also wasn't told about the birth etc, so obviously didn't have the instant connection there either.
So all in all above everything else that's some reasons why our baby will be having his surname. Plus with him being a boy, unless he decides to change his surname for some reason when he's older, he'll carry on his dad's family name. And there aren't many of >insert surname< about, for one it's a very uncommon surname and two, there isn't any other men other than my partners dad, and his dad.

How strange, right on cue, the Simpsons episode is talking about ancestors and family trees!

I woke up actually choking on vomit last night BananaToast so definitely feel your pain!! Just ate too close to bedtime as we had tea early so was hungry again.

RL20 definitely talk to your midwife not hv unless she has been a midwife in her previous career. I think generally once you're there you get on with it and you don't worry because you have something to focus on but you have to go with your gut feeling. I am married and we all have the same surname but when I give the boys names they always check my surname everywhere never assume. When my parents divorced and my mum remarried everyone assumed she had my surname but it's so much more common now for women not to take their husbands surname/not marry/separate and remarry that no one assumes. I used to mind a little girl who had her parents surnames double barrelled then her mum married her dad and took his name so the little girl was the only one with the double barrelled name and the parents both had the dads . It certainly meant a lot to Dh for dss to keep his name and would have fought his ex had she tried to change names (they were married but she threatened at one point to change her and dss name back to her maiden name, never has).

Thinking of PenguinPoser and ChickenMe today

Well what a mixed day!!!! Didn't sleep great, woke up with alarm and lounged for a bit before getting up in time to get myself sorted, this wasn't enough time for DH and it was my fault for not waking him up so he sped off in a proper mood with me. It was my parkrun's birthday so we had a lovely morning with lots of people, cake and a journalist from local paper :) tools car for MOT and it failed so I've been stuck home with the boys and Dh at work. Cleaned whole house which it really needed and done ds1's homework. Been for a nice dog walk with the boys and DH should be home in 45mins and we can eat. Hope he's cheered up since he left this morning and being more reasonable. Miss him but don't want him home in a strop either. Feeling very teary all day about baby and possible induction but trying to be positive. So feel like I've let him down somehow already :(

We gave DD DHs surname as we weren't married at the time but we had discussed it and it was something we would get around to eventually. We got married last year so now we are all the same I remember the clerk told us when we registered DD that we would have to come back if we got married to change my name on her birth certificate. So I'll be doing that when we register this one.

Ooo ow that BH hurt a bit. Must have some trapped wind again

Thanks for thinking of me. I am waiting to find out about induction as I don't think they are happy with my progress. Any induction stories welcome!!

Aww sorry it's not going quite as fast as you wanted it to Chicken. I was induced but it was a planned one and took days to get it all started properly so not quite the story your after. yours would probably be faster than that if your already in labour. It might just give you the push you need.

Sorry to hear that Chicken but at least you're in the right place. Hope things progress soon for you and baby

Chicken, I was induced last time for gd.
Pessary in Monday, contractions started Tuesday, waters broken Wednesday, dd born Thursday... Emcs because her neck was bent...

But a woman in my ward had the pessary at the same time and her baby on Tuesday so much quicker

I was induced with both mine ChickenMe. Ds1- gel at 9.30pm weds and started having twitches and being uncomfortable straight away. Examined after a bath, walking around ect at 4pm thurs( didn't examine before as I was clearly having contractions) and was 4cm, waters went and taken to delivery suite. Felt like I needed to push at 8pm and pushed 1.5hrs. Change of midwife and she decided I was only 5cm dilated and had to fight contractions. Waited a long time for consultant and eventually had syntocinon drip and epidural at 3am fri, fully dilated 10am left another hour and pushed ds1 out at 11.20 with no assistance, still back to back little bigger

Ds2- gel 9am went home via a stop for a McDonald's brekkie and dh's prescription for tooth infection. Went upstairs for a lay down 1.30pm and contractions started full on. Called hospital at 2.30 and they told me to come in, 30min drive and 30min walk from car to ds! Examined and 8cm, waters broken. Not sure time of pushing but midwife then discovered a lip on my cervix so had to rub it away before I could push again. Ds2 born at 5.30pm without assistance.
With ds1 cervix not at all favourable and with ds2 it was high but thinning and 1-2cm dilated.

lauren that's strange on the name changing front, my mums maiden name is on my birth certificate, both the short version they got when I was born and the long version I paid for a few years ago...

On the weight thing, DH is overweight and he does try to diet, but the second he stops seeing a week by week weight loss on the scales he gives up. I'm going on Slimming World when baby comes, once I'm back on my feet and we're in a routine and as I'm the one who bothers to cook he'll be on it by default.

Went into the city today with DD to get some vouchers for DF's birthday. MiL had suggested we get DD a doll, and I was confused by all the options so I took DD into a local store to pick one herself, so we are now the proud owners of an interactive baby annabel... of course we got home to find PiL were on their way over, MiL complained that it was too big, too expensive and too heavy, and had us turn off the noises within a few minutes of DD showing it to her how was I supposed to know when she said doll she meant something closer to a Barbie size thing?!

I've been on my feet and moving round so much today that I'm certain baby has dropped, keep getting hiccups that feel like they should be outside my foof they're so low down! my foof aches too :(

ooh lots of ladies in imminent danger of having their babies excited face

Oh my! I don't check this for a couple of days and babies start appearing! Congratulations everyone. Hope you and your little ones are doing well.

For those not feeling well, maybe take a urine sample to your GP. I had really sore lower back, upset stomach, vomiting and was bloody exhausted. Turns out I had a UTI.

Had productive few days - all the baby clothes are washed, the stickers and border have been put up in baby's room, done some more batch cooking and I've tidied away all random paperwork that I had lying about the place. But have made the decision to get cleaning company in to do a big deep clean. The place is horrid after having builders in for weeks and I am worse than useless having to lie down whenever I have heart palpitations funny spell.

Boo I would have assumed real baby not Barbie too. It should be a proper doll though so your DD can copy you and feel involved and be just like you with your real baby.

My DD got baby born for Christmas it wees, poops and cries. So the baby is bringing her a book, a bag and a tshirt. Perhaps an outfit for one of her babies so she can dress it like the real baby. Not very imaginative but I can't handle another doll in the house. She has 8 dolls that's more than enough!

Does anyone have any experience with breech babies? I'm 34+2 and baby has decided to spin after being head down pretty much the entire pregnancy! Mw said they will check again at 36w and go from there... What are the chances of him turning himself? Anyone have experience with ECV?

Hi ladies

For anyone who isn't on Facebook group or hasn't seen

I've had a lovely baby girl this evening by ventouse delivery following my induction of labour. She's small at 6lb 1.5oz, and so perfect. She won't latch on yet but is contentedly sleeping on daddy. Mummy is absolutely zonked out! Not the time for the birth story but I have been looked after absolutely amazingly and am so happy with our little family.