The due in September crew head into the second trimester! :) (Thread 6)

[Treaclepie19]

Hi all! Stats sheet here :)

I'm having a minor facebook panic. Is everyone absolutely certain that my friends can't see my posts or posts that I've liked etc. in the group?

Yes, its completely secret Strawberry

After the scan yesterday I booked a private gender scan :D I'll be 16+5 when we find out if little Jimmy in fact has a little Jimmy or not! 20 week scan is booked for 29th April when I'll be 20+4 :) I'm so excited :) bump seems to have really popped out now, I'm going to be friggin massive at this rate!

It's totally normal to cry at the compare the market advert about baby Oleg, right? :p

Ive added myself to the spreadsheet & want to start getting more active on the treat. Im watching but not really writing. First one of my friends to have a baby so I'm feeling a bit alone at the moment. Doesnt help DP is on night shifts .. hope you ladies all are OK tonight. Ive had a rubbish day & cant wait for it to end.

Pahahaha treacle normal? Not really. Normal for a pregnant woman? Absolutely! I keep bloody crying at home & away. I seriously wish they'd stop sending my favourite characters away or getting them in accidents!
Oh no ambient. When I had my first, she was the first baby I had ever had contact with. I had no friends apart from a couple of old work friends I'd see every few months. I know how you're feeling. It will get better, I promise. Could you go to any antenatal groups? Maybe yoga even? There are a couple of groups on Facebook in my area of 'babes with babies' and that sort of thing where people reach out to do meet ups etc, you might even find someone nearby who's feeling very similar :) Then once baby is born there are so many groups you can go to. I found once I had a baby I was out and about so much more so I never felt lonely as such. And then once bub starts pre school or stay & play there's a whole load more people to meet :)
Now I have 2 dds and another on the way, I long to feel lonely for a day ;)

Hehe spam I cry at everything now.

Just found the dulux room visualiser app, it's great! Applies the colour to the room you're in.

Ambient you're always welcome here, I was the first of my friends last time too and you feel like you're cheeing their ear off with baby talk.

Ambient I agree with spam - you meet so many people once baby is here, I had no friends with babies before DS either. It also made our move to Leeds in September much easier as I could just start going to toddler groups and meet people there. While I was pregnant I met a few people through aquanatal classes, pregnancy yoga, NCT etc who I continued to meet up with after the babies were here.

Also ambient my DH is a restaurant manager so he works a lot of nights and weekends too. I often felt really lonely before DS came along as everyone else seemed to be with their families when I was in need of company. It was easier once DS was here as I could take him to parks, shopping, museums etc on the weekend. Whereabouts are you?

Morning all!
Ambient I'm one of the last of my friends to have babies but as they were all so far ahead of me we didn't spend much extra time together once I had ds. The mn group I joined has been amazing, there was always someone awake to share problems with no matter what time I was up feeding. We met up loads as well when the babies were small as there are lots of us near each other.
I also went to the baby group at my local children's centre and met a lovely group of mums and we meet at least once a week most weeks. Also don't give in if you don't meet nice people at the first group you try-one of our group was on her third or fourth baby group before she met us!

I'm sorry to hear your news elio am thinking of you and kitty and hope that you get a good outcome from your CVS.

Haven't got my 20 week scan til 11th May when I'll be 21+6! So we've booked a private gender scan for when I'm 18 weeks. We can't wait any longer to know if we're having spud or spudette! Just thinking about that to take my mind off the harmony test results although I know my odds are nothing in relation to some xx

Speaking of NCT groups and the like - when are you supposed to sign up? There's a few in my area buy holding off til after 12 week scan then all being well, will sign up - is that right? X

Thanks all. spam I think im holding off until my 20 week scan before going to groups etc. I havent even picked up a baby before though so I think ill need lessons in keeping one alive! The trouble is, I work full time & go to college once a week & have essays to write so by the time I get home & get food/college/washing done it's bed time!! College is only until June though! ... I am hoping that I will meet people though at groups once baby comes but because I am 21, I feel like everyone else will be older then me & not want to talk to me! Think I need to stop worrying, to be honest and take it how it comes. I'm so excited to be a mum though, that's the one thing I'm really not worried about.
I'm in lovely Manchester guvas.
Speaking of groups, I have a surestart centre a 2 minute walk from my house. Do they do antenatal classes or just classes once baby is born? I have tried googling but it just gives address/number so I don't know what they actually do. Also, do the NHS offer you classes or should I book privately?
Once again, thanks for all your support its nice to know people have been there. I just can't wait to hold my little minion! xx

ambient You will be offered free nhs classes but many people choose to do private too (often nct). Nct have a reputation for being helpful with breastfeeding. This is my first baby so I don't have personal experience, just what friends have said. I booked mine as I thought I could always get a refund. (i think minus an admin fee but sort of assumed they wouldn't do that if I'd lost it but who knows!) My friend was 30 when she had her son (i'll be 33) she said she seemed to be a lot older than most other people so try not to worry about your age, I'm sure there's a mix.

I have no idea how old most of my mum friends are. I can guess based on attitude/dress/whether we like the same music etc but it has no bearing either on whether we're friends or whether they're good parents

I would suggest going to your local children centres they offer a wide variety of classes each an opportunity to meet new mums and go for coffee after.

ambient what area are you in? I'm 22 and expecting my first, it's definitely exciting and a bit scary! I agree with others that she won't really matter it's the shared experience of being pregnant/having babies at the same time that bonds you and hopefully other things in common of course!

Ooh ambient I lived in Manchester for 9 years before moving to Leeds in September! I miss it *sniff. Where in Manchester? We lived in Castlefield for the last 5 years, I loved having a baby in the city centre. There's so much to do - the art galleries and museums almost all do free baby and toddler sessions and the baby group at the St Peter's sure start is fantastic. I'd go along to your sure start and ask in person as I could never find anything out online. I'm over in Manchester once a month or so still, if you're around you can practice on a nutcase 19 month old!! I agree about the age thing - it really doesn't matter at the groups and I'm often surprised by people's ages. It did seem older at NCT group though, I was the youngest at 27 and did notice it then. I think maybe because the babies hadn't come yet and I didn't know them, I felt so young! I still meet up with them now though and haven't even thought about the age difference since.

ambient I'm in Manchester this is my second DC but I didn't really do the groups and mummy thing first time round. Manchester and surrounding areas has loads of great stuff to visit, I tend to get the tram a lot as it's relatively buggy friendly. I find it a good excuse to get out and about, and you tend to find that people will randomly start talking to you, especially when baby is tiny!

I'm fairly close to Manchester too and that's where my other bus had local mini meets.

What's everyone's thoughts on baths? I'm desperate for one and having a crazy moment.

Treacle why can't you just have a bath?

I want to but ive read so many stupid things about how they can harm baby.
That's only if they're stupidly hot though isn't it?

Don't think there's anything wrong with baths? I don't have them as hot as I used to but I think as long as you can get in in one go i.e not easing yourself in a bit at a time because it's too hot then it's fine!