April 2015 Thread 12: Where are the carseats and are the bags packed, the babies are threatening to make an entrance!

[TheBooMonster]

Welcome to the 12th April 2015 babies thread!

Here’s the stats as they currently stand:

Unknown/Surprise
Tannyloo, 42, unknown, EDD 3rd March
*Misty414, 30, #1 edd 25th March
Fingerscrossed, 33, #2 EDD 1st April
PenguinPoser, 27, #1 EDD 3rd April (ind ~37 weeks)
ChickenMe, 38, EDD 4th April
MoominMama, 28, #1 EDD 4th April
LadyStinky, 35, #1 EDD 5th April
solstice930, 30, EDD April 6th
Rustyzilla, 34, #1, EDD 7th April
*Floppypotato, #1, EDD 7th April
LittleGreyCatwithapinkcollar, #1, EDD 7th April
Nunkie, 39: #1 EDD 7th April
*BrixtonBunny, 26, #1 edd 8th April - Surprise (but more likely to be girl according to sonographer)
Nerdsgirl, EDD 9th April
Chiliplant, ?, #1, EDD 11th April
usernamefeefifoe, EDD April 11th
Heyitsholly #1 EDD 16th april.
Wineandchoccy, 33, #1, EDD 14th April
AnniaFausta, 32, #1, EDD 15th April
AbiBanbury, 38, #1 EDD 18th April (but ovulate early so likely to be more like 14th) -
BitchPeas #2 EDD 19th April
*Kismac, 29 #1, EDD 19th April
NinnynoodleNoo, 37, #6, EDD 19th April
*CherryLips1980, 34, #2, EDD 21st April
*Chococroc, 31, #1, EDD 22nd April, (but will likely be a couple of weeks earlier due to health condition) -
*Lauren82000, 30 #2 EDD 22nd April
*Ivegotacavetroll, 30 #1 EDD 23rd April
Cowbiscuits, 35 #2 EDD 24th April
FIRaffe 30, #1, EDD 24th April
*OneDay, 27, no DC, MMC June 2014, EDD 26th April
Squidge14,#1, EDD 27th April
*JaneyTea, 34, #1. EDD 29th April

One of Each!
Littlesupersparks, 32, #3&4, EDD 30th April

Boy
RiverRocks, 30, #1, EDD 26th March
*Cisforcat, 31 #2, EDD 1st April
houghtonk76, 38, #1, EDD 1st April
Lindalove, 38, EDD 2nd April
*Lila35, 35, #1, EDD 3rd April
*Cinnamongreyhound, 33, #3 edd 6th April
littleash789, April 6th
Obeliaboo, EDD April 7th
berberana, 34 #2 edd 11th April
Suzybean, 39, boy #2, due 12th April.
Hidingthefear, 25, #1 EDD 13Th April
daholster, 32, #2, EDD 14th April
*BonjourMinou, 32, #2, EDD 19th April
*BananaToast, 26, #1, EDD 20th April
RL20, 22, EDD 20th April
smogsville, 33, #2, EDD 22nd April, csection booked for 16th April
LadyNovember, 24, #1, EDD 23rd April
*Mswibble - 29, #1, EDD 23rd April
*StuntNun, 38, #4, EDD 27th April
*Mel0drama 36, dc #2, edd 29th April
Brummagem 39 #1 edd 28th April
*catsofa 35, #1, EDD 30th April

Girl
Roastpots 35, #2 EDD 1st April
*Babiecakes11, 23, 4th pregnancy, 2nd baby EDD April 1st (ind 36)
minipie, 34, #2, EDD 4th April
Skyra13, 26, #1 EDD 6th April
*londonlivvy, 39, DC#2, EDD 8 April
*EbwyIsUpDuffed, EDD 8th April - Girl?
*TinyTear, 41, DD2 EDD 11th April (ind 36 weeks)
*TheBooMonster, 25, DD2, EDD 11th April
*Mamabear0315, 24, #2, EDD 12th April
ToutDeLeFruit, #1, EDD 12th April
*SquattingNeville, 25, #2, EDD 20th April
blackwidow74, DD#2, EDD 22nd April
MustBeDueSomeBetterFeet, 36, #2 EDD 23rd April
FizzyBubbly, 32, #2, EDD 23rd April,
*HippoPottyMouth, 38, #3, EDD 25th April
LondonSuperTrooper, 41, DC# 2, EDD 26 April.
FreedomHuntress, 40, #2, EDD 27th April
*Siarie, 26, #1, EDD 27th April
Zahrah5, 38, EDD April 27th
*LucyandPoppy EDD 28th April

Born
Dancestomyowntune, DD

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We’re in the home stretch ladies, we've had the first baby, how many more threads can we manage before the last baby is here?

My dd has never been left overnight anywhere.
When she was 11 months I had a business trip overnight but she stayed with daddy. Since then I probably stay away overnight once every three months but she always stays with daddy...

My mil is 78 and very old and frail and my parents are 72 so I wouldn't leave her with them... Maybe sil but she lives too far... Sil did offer for the birth last week but if she had offered months ago we could have had trial runs. Now it's too close to just do it...

Morning ladies, Is anyone deciding to use birth centre instead of Hospital?

I'm planning to skyra, but mine is within the hospital so only need to go downstairs to delivery suite if I need more attention/help. I really want to use the pool and try to avoid intervention/strong pain relief so birth centre sounds great to me.

Morning all! It's our women-only NCT class this morning, so that should be interesting...

stuntnun, hope everything's OK.

babiecakes, good luck for today!!

I've now developed an exciting new symptom, namely muscle tension along the top of my left leg, around the groin and gluteal area. Hurts when I walk/stand up and so on. It came on in the middle of last week but wasn't too bad... however, it's got worse/more consistent. Managed to just about make my appointment with the osteopath yesterday (very late because I thought walking would be fine, and was it, well, not really), and she's given me some advice for posture/sitting/ice packs etc. plus a 45 min appointment next week to really have a go at it. But it lends a whole new meaning to the word 'tightarse'.

Midwife thinks I will be better at birth centre due to white coat syndrome when in hospital makes my blood pressure go sky high, only thing that slightly worry's me is if something does go wrong its a 15 min ambulance drive to hospital.
It makes sense to me to use birth centre as I want to use water and I don't want an epidural they cant do that there and its lovely and calm in there.

Waiting for approval from consultant over if I am able to use birth centre due to high BMI but they are now looking to take people with high BMI whos pregnancy's have been ok.

Do you mind me asking how high skyra13? Mine was 35 with ds2 and I could have been in birth centre had I not been induced. If you're boarder line and midwife is happy to support you definitely fight it.

When I had ds1 i got mastitis and felt very poorly for a few days. Dh was working as he had to do a lot of overtime in those days and my mum came over and took ds1 for a walk while I had a nap. She knew I didn't want to express or him have a bottle that early but was happy to just have a bit of time with him and I felt so terrible. She didn't really push herself on us but I knew how important time and cuddles were to her and although yes it is your baby they care a lot about them as well and I think grandparents/relatives are important. I agree about taking baby for a whole day and I am a massive overprotective mother but a couple of hours between feeds is good for everyone imo. I feel like a piece of me is missing every time I'm away from my two but it's better for them to form a couple of extra strong bonds other than me and Dh. Ds2 met my mum before he met ds1, we came out of hospital at 9.30pm so he was asleep, we popped in so mum could meet him and have a cuddle and she brought ds1 home when he was fed and dressed in the morning to meet him.

Morning everyone.

On the subject of leaving children, I'm probably with the majority of you in that I don't want to leave baby often at all.
Only because I've seen how it's affected my partners daughter. She's nearly 6 now and we started having her fortnightly weekends from about the age of 1 1/2 years. Her mum went back to work after around 39 weeks which I'll be doing the same. But she has been passed from pillar to post between a regular childminder who also looks after other children at the same time, her grandma and grandad very regularly (1 or 2 nights a week), her stepdad mostly as her mum works all different shifts including nights, and now at school has to get up very early to go to a breakfast club at school before even starting. After school either her stepdad picks her up or she goes straight to the childminders.
So we've had episodes in the past couple of years when shes come to stay with us for the weekend but she's been very upset and cried because she misses her mum, not because she's come to stay with us but because she rarely sees her any other time either.
I understand it's because of work etc but I feel like she's never had a proper routine, ever.
I was always a homesick child too even though I stayed at my dad's house every weekend, and my grandma and grandads a few times but always wanted to be back home!
So if that's going to run in the blood the I definitely won't be leaving baby a lot!
When I go back to work, luckily my mum works different hours to me and I'll be going back part time so she has offered to have him for those hours.

They will currently take women of 35 But midwife said they are trialling to take higher BMI if pregnancy has been fine my BMI is 37 so only 2 above the threshold. I have only gained 7kg my midwife is happy with that so she really wants to get me into the Birth Centre.

I have had mastitis due to an old piercing its was horrible!!

Re the grandparents looking after children I am happy to leave them over night I say this now I may change my mind when she arrives lol

Just watching gogglebox and they are watching the birth programme its so funny!!

Good news skyra, sounds promising for the birth centre. Are you using panty liners? I gave into them weeks ago to keep knickers dry

FiRaffe I wouldn't have wanted to go on a hen when DD six weeks (or four as Squatting says) even if I hadn't been BFing. And I wouldn't do it second time around either. You are perfectly within your rights to politely decline. I did go on one when she was 11 months, leaving her in the v capable and loving care of her dad and grandparents and even that felt mildly transgressive.

Ebwy, Chicken, Hiding - you have to go with how you feel. No need to justify it at all. I had some NCT friends who were happy to leave (bottle fed) babies with (registered, reputable, totally kosher) agency night nannies after a few months so they could go out for a bite to eat with their husbands, wouldn't have felt right to me but everyone's different. Plus I had no desire to get dressed of an evening, run a hairbrush through my hair and go out but that's more indicative of my lax grooming standards than my attachment to my child

London - yes you're right. I count myself very very lucky that my mum (and dad) are so brilliant and that me, DH and DD are so comfortable with their involvement. Sorry if that sounds smug, not meant to.

Not sure Penguin. I didn't have a bassinet attachment on my pram. I would have thought some sort of sheet though, does the pram manufacturer's website suggest anything?

daholster - I felt a bit queasy en route home last night too. V unlike me. I feel like something's shifted over last 24 hrs and I am suddenly achey and uncomfortable everywhere and really pleased I only have another couple of weeks of going into work.

Sorry to hear about the muscle tension Annia, hope the osteopath's suggestions bring some relief.

Well I'll be using a baby sitting agency, we have zero family here and no friends that I know any better than an agency.

So unless we want to spend the next how ever many years staying in every evening we will have to use a baby sitting agency.

I have pre warned the bride and we are playing it by ear (said to her as soon as she asked me!).

I'm hoping to use the birthing suite at our hospital Skyra if the consultant signs me off next Tuesday and have a bmi of 35.4 I think at booking. I don't know about where you are but round here in Surrey they are starting to encourage mums of a higher bmi to have that option, which is good for us.

Baby has just started kicking under my ribs... ow!

I'm at Maidstone so about an hour from you Fi, My midwife said the same they are encouraging mums with a high BMI to use birth centres.

The birth centre is 10min from me so not to far if we were to drive to the hospital it would be 45min drive.
If get transferred via ambulance for any reason they can do it in 10 to 15min with blue lights sounds like fun

Siarie, I haven't been out at night wioth my DH for over 3 years... Have gone out by myself to theatre or dinner with friends while DH stays with DD and vice versa...

For 'dates' and cinema and meals out we go when she is at nursery and we take the day off

daytime is the new nighttime

But looking forward to September (or is it October) when I am going to see Hamlet with the lovely delightful Benedict Cumberbatch at the Barbican!
My first night out post-birth!

When babies are very small its easy to just take them with you to a restaurant. Just stick the in the car seat and munch away. Wouldn't try it anywhere posh but if your just nipping out for a curry or chinese it'll work fine.

I do most of my babysitting through an agency called sitters Sairie, the youngest I've looked after is 3 months which surprised me but at the same time all sitters have a minimum 2 years experience with children, crb check, first aid qualification and 2 references and an interview to join so I guess it's the best way to go. I had to google swaddling as I never swaddled mine and didn't want to look daft when she told me to swaddle the baby by saying 'how do I do that' but other than that nothing else has been different to what I do day to day. It is amazing how much people assume is normal when actually it's normal to them. My first minded little girl I was given a bottle and a tin of formula and the mum was shocked when I asked for instructions she just assumed I must have made a bottle before!

Siarie I genuinely didn't mean to criticise anyone using nanny service.

As I say, I had scant desire to go out of an evening having been up since 7am (once DD a few months old and settled into a routine) tending to a small person. I'm 33 now, was 30 when she was born and did a lot of going out and carousing until the early hours, painting the town really rather red indeed etc in my 20s so am quite happy with evening sofa time or dinners at friends'/ ours now. If you still have the energy, good on you! I'm more of a long lunch person these days.

Tiny well done on getting tickets! I am always too slow off the mark. I have a couple of brilliant single friends who sometimes snap them up and then offer me one. And as I never have any evening plans in the diary I can generally say yes.

Wow! It's tough to keep up with these posts! Might be worth joining the fb group, who do I pm?

My DD is 2 now and she's never stayed away over night anywhere. But that's not by choice, my family are in the US and DH's are in Ireland so they come to visit but we don't have local family. We've gone out before with babysitters but we're always back by 11-12. I agree with daytime dates! DD in nursery (which you're paying for anyway), a movie, lunch and a pint is lovely

In fact, I don't think DH has spent a night away from her...I was away for 4 days for work, but it's always one of us who puts her to sleep or gets her in the morning. It's actually making me nervous about labour! We have friends who can come stay with her while I'm away but she's normally with one of us. I know she'll be fine, but I don't want to be worried about her when I'm in labour. Luckily, the in-laws will be around the week before and after the due date (and my daughter loves her grandparents when they visit), so hopefully this one won't be too early or late.

My best friend had her hen do when my DD was about 2 months old. There was no way I could make it, she was still feeding every 2 hours and wasn't taking a bottle! Plus it was far away...if it was local I might have been able to do an afternoon, but not much longer than that. But, one of the NCT girls was away for a week when her DS was a similar age! They had moved on to formula at that point so feeding wasn't an issue. I don't think I would have been emotionally ready to be away that long, not until she was a bit older.

smogs I was number 20000 in the queue at the barbican when someone told me the Telegraph website had tickets... a wee bit more expensive, b ut at least I got them!!

solstice If you message TheBooMonster with your email that you use for facebook she can add you to group :)

Tiny. A queue of 20,000?! I mean why would they bother telling you you were in it?!

Just had my 34 week midwife appt everything is ok and I have been referred to the birthing centre which is a stand alone unit so if I needed any more help/epidural/c section I would be blue lighted to the hospital which is 15 mins away.

We have our last antenatal class tonight on breast feeding, where are the weeks going it is all becoming very real now.

We have booked tickets to go and see paddy mcguinness in December and DH said have we to book a hotel and make a night of it but I'm not sure how I will feel although I am planning on going back to work next Jan and I work away quite a lot so maybe it will be a good trial run.
We are really lucky that both our parents live 5 mins away and my brother and SIL also live close by if we needed babysitters.

Im v grateful for family support and I know our baby is already loved to bits by a lot of people. But I think with new Mums, family can sometimes over step the mark. My Mil, who i know will love the baby to pieces, has nonetheless irritated me a bit - eg saying my baby is "her baby". Despite being told off about it by OH she continued to say it, insisting and refusing to be told otherwise. She thinks it's hilarious but I'm hormonal and growling inwardly. Probably not her finest hour.