April 2015 Thread 12: Where are the carseats and are the bags packed, the babies are threatening to make an entrance!

[TheBooMonster]

Welcome to the 12th April 2015 babies thread!

Here’s the stats as they currently stand:

Unknown/Surprise
Tannyloo, 42, unknown, EDD 3rd March
*Misty414, 30, #1 edd 25th March
Fingerscrossed, 33, #2 EDD 1st April
PenguinPoser, 27, #1 EDD 3rd April (ind ~37 weeks)
ChickenMe, 38, EDD 4th April
MoominMama, 28, #1 EDD 4th April
LadyStinky, 35, #1 EDD 5th April
solstice930, 30, EDD April 6th
Rustyzilla, 34, #1, EDD 7th April
*Floppypotato, #1, EDD 7th April
LittleGreyCatwithapinkcollar, #1, EDD 7th April
Nunkie, 39: #1 EDD 7th April
*BrixtonBunny, 26, #1 edd 8th April - Surprise (but more likely to be girl according to sonographer)
Nerdsgirl, EDD 9th April
Chiliplant, ?, #1, EDD 11th April
usernamefeefifoe, EDD April 11th
Heyitsholly #1 EDD 16th april.
Wineandchoccy, 33, #1, EDD 14th April
AnniaFausta, 32, #1, EDD 15th April
AbiBanbury, 38, #1 EDD 18th April (but ovulate early so likely to be more like 14th) -
BitchPeas #2 EDD 19th April
*Kismac, 29 #1, EDD 19th April
NinnynoodleNoo, 37, #6, EDD 19th April
*CherryLips1980, 34, #2, EDD 21st April
*Chococroc, 31, #1, EDD 22nd April, (but will likely be a couple of weeks earlier due to health condition) -
*Lauren82000, 30 #2 EDD 22nd April
*Ivegotacavetroll, 30 #1 EDD 23rd April
Cowbiscuits, 35 #2 EDD 24th April
FIRaffe 30, #1, EDD 24th April
*OneDay, 27, no DC, MMC June 2014, EDD 26th April
Squidge14,#1, EDD 27th April
*JaneyTea, 34, #1. EDD 29th April

One of Each!
Littlesupersparks, 32, #3&4, EDD 30th April

Boy
RiverRocks, 30, #1, EDD 26th March
*Cisforcat, 31 #2, EDD 1st April
houghtonk76, 38, #1, EDD 1st April
Lindalove, 38, EDD 2nd April
*Lila35, 35, #1, EDD 3rd April
*Cinnamongreyhound, 33, #3 edd 6th April
littleash789, April 6th
Obeliaboo, EDD April 7th
berberana, 34 #2 edd 11th April
Suzybean, 39, boy #2, due 12th April.
Hidingthefear, 25, #1 EDD 13Th April
daholster, 32, #2, EDD 14th April
*BonjourMinou, 32, #2, EDD 19th April
*BananaToast, 26, #1, EDD 20th April
RL20, 22, EDD 20th April
smogsville, 33, #2, EDD 22nd April, csection booked for 16th April
LadyNovember, 24, #1, EDD 23rd April
*Mswibble - 29, #1, EDD 23rd April
*StuntNun, 38, #4, EDD 27th April
*Mel0drama 36, dc #2, edd 29th April
Brummagem 39 #1 edd 28th April
*catsofa 35, #1, EDD 30th April

Girl
Roastpots 35, #2 EDD 1st April
*Babiecakes11, 23, 4th pregnancy, 2nd baby EDD April 1st (ind 36)
minipie, 34, #2, EDD 4th April
Skyra13, 26, #1 EDD 6th April
*londonlivvy, 39, DC#2, EDD 8 April
*EbwyIsUpDuffed, EDD 8th April - Girl?
*TinyTear, 41, DD2 EDD 11th April (ind 36 weeks)
*TheBooMonster, 25, DD2, EDD 11th April
*Mamabear0315, 24, #2, EDD 12th April
ToutDeLeFruit, #1, EDD 12th April
*SquattingNeville, 25, #2, EDD 20th April
blackwidow74, DD#2, EDD 22nd April
MustBeDueSomeBetterFeet, 36, #2 EDD 23rd April
FizzyBubbly, 32, #2, EDD 23rd April,
*HippoPottyMouth, 38, #3, EDD 25th April
LondonSuperTrooper, 41, DC# 2, EDD 26 April.
FreedomHuntress, 40, #2, EDD 27th April
*Siarie, 26, #1, EDD 27th April
Zahrah5, 38, EDD April 27th
*LucyandPoppy EDD 28th April

Born
Dancestomyowntune, DD

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We’re in the home stretch ladies, we've had the first baby, how many more threads can we manage before the last baby is here?

I'm not massively worried about DH stopping drinking, we would never drive to hospital as it's central London and nowhere to park for any period of time so don't need him entirely sober for that and if baby comes early I'll just have an EMCS under GA anyway so don't need him for labour. Also he doesn't really get out much to drink what with long working hours and DD to look after at weekends! In any case he doesn't drink enough to render him insensible.

I understand your concerns about the bike rides being quite lengthy though Lauren.

Smeg! I'm due 11th April, the 25th April (14 days after due date) mum and dad go abroad. I'm willing to bet money I'm going to go the full 14 days overdue and need inducing because we'll be a set of parents down

I totally see Dh as an essential to labour, he was my rock with both mine!

Yeah me too cinnamon. I don't want anyone else. I'd go it alone if he couldn't be there. (V unlikely).

I agree cinnamon plus he would be devastated to miss it.

One of the guys at work said he bets I go early. Said he'd put 50p on it when I laughed at him.

Getting a bit stressed now about packing for Southampton. Need to do it tomorrow night once DD has gone to bed. Not looking forward to travelling without her we will be such a long way away and we've never gone longer than over night without seeing her. I know she will be fine but I'm going to miss her so much. My mummy instincts are screaming at me to keep her close. It's very unsettling.

No more contractions here which is a relief as the last one lasted four minutes. Baby has changed position, as far as I can tell, and my back is still agony so I'm wondering whether I've hurt my back.

How old is your DD, Lauren? Just curious because I cant imagine leaving them overnight and OH thinks Im being silly when I say im not leaving our LO..just wondering what the "general consensus" is. I mean, I'm a nightmare with the cat so I'd think it normal to be torn at leaving a child. His Mum goes on about taking LO over night (er s/he's not born yet) and it pisses me off!!!

We've left DD overnight a couple of times to go on a mini break and to weddings. 3 nights for a trip to Istanbul when she was 2.5, 2 nights for Geneva when she was nearly 3. But she was with my parents and my mum has looked after her 2 days a week since she was 1 so I had no concerns and she had a blast. I did miss her little face but to be brutally honest it was lovely to wake up in the morning... and then just roll over and go back to sleep again!

Right on tube home and my left rib cage is agonising! It would be better if I stood up but obviously I can't be arsed. Going straight to bed with a tea when I get home I think.

RL our hospital does tours every sat and Sunday.I also noticed the other hospital I have to go for checkups had a sign on the wall saying they do it too but you have to phone to book. May be try calling the hospital where your going and asking. Deffo worth it. My hubby wanted me to scream At him in the car on the way to put him under pressure like the real thing but I thought it was a bit OTT!
I'm not telling my hubby what to do, he's a grown man and will have to make the right decisions himself!

Hello ladies how is your evenings going?
Had my scan all is well and baby growth Is in perfect line so very happy she no longer coming up big!
Consultant said I don't need to go back but midwife wants me to do one more appoinmwnt with them to get them to confirm I can use the birth centre, hoping this will happen as birth centre is only 10 min from home.

So things are looking up happy that I may now be able to use birth centre as they thought I might not of been allowed :)

Parents ed meeting was boring no one really engages with the poor midwife so I ended up piping up alot felt bad as it was my midwife running it lol
Not sure what happening in my down stairs department (tmi) keep finding my pants all wet so gonna put a pad on an see what's causing it, if its baby's head as she is partly engaged making me leak abit of wee or maybe waters! God hoping not waters lol

Chicken- DD is almost 4 she's had fairly regular sleepovers at my mums for a while now which is fine by me it's just the being 5 hours away and her staying here that is getting to me. It's not like her routine is going to change much as she is still going to nursery so it's only who drops her off and picks her up that's different plus staying at my mums. She seemed quite happy with staying over at JuJu's as my mum is going to bake cakes with her

Mine probably didn't sleep over at my mums until about 18months old but that's because mum wants them not because i want them to go and Dh gets annoyed at me because I get up and want to go get them instantly! They probably have tea then sleep at hers about once every 2-3months, pick them up 11ish.

I'm getting worrid about leaving little one - supposed to be going on a hen-do about 6 weeks after i'm due. Eek!

MiL took DD into their room a few times in the first 6 months after I stopped breast feeding though now we're in our own place they've only had her a hand full of times over night because they do most of the day time childminding, my mum started taking her for a weekend every 6 weeksish from about 9 months. It doesn't seem that strange for me because my gran was my principle carer whilst my mum went to college and work until I was about 5, and then she'd have me every weekend, and most of the school holidays until I was about 14, I think DH is more uncomfortable with it though...

Eek fi. If you're not happy just tell the hen you can't commit. She would surely understand that.
I'm twitching already that I will have to go back to work after a year and leave LO. Trying not to think about it.
As for overnight stays-my stock answer (gleaned from MN) to ILs is "yeah maybe when s/he's 18". They are now on about MIL must get a new car to take LO out in. I'm being really pfb I know (and I don't care!!) but (gritted teeth) stop talking about taking my baby out!!!!!S/he's staying in her sling for the next year permanently attached to my nipple

I don't leave my kids except for emergencies/hospitalisations.

I have left them once to stop with their "nan" while my fiance and I needed to talk and do some shopping which they'd have hated, and I spent the whole time wanting my beasties back!

We're trying to work out how to tell his parents that we don't want them (or anyone else) to visit us in hospital - the beasties will be staying with them and I don't want them upset which they would be if they saw me and were then forced to leave me there.

TBH I don't want anyone to visit us in hospital except for my fiance - no-one should be meeting the baby before her big brothers, right?

www.project-b.com/competition for anyone looking at reusable nappies there's a competition here for a tots bots nappy bundle.

chicken ewby can be a bit smothering can't it! I defo think your right that brothers and sisters should get to meet first, will make them feel special. Im hoping that if I can have a home birth that we can keep it secret for a day so we get some peace and quiet but I don't think DH agrees. His gran has already "ordered us" to tell her as soon as he coming no matter what time of day or night it is. Yeah right love, not a chance. Parents will be first to know before her, pfff thinking she's some sort of Queen.
DH keeps mentioning about going to concerts, shows, night out etc and his mum or dad or gran whoever having him overnight. He seems to forget about the fact I'm breastfeeding and that he can't just rely on the hope I can express enough. plus the fact for the first 6 months I was ds sleeping in our room, for bonding and routine. I'm glad my mum lives abroad and my dad hates kids so I'm pretty free from pressure on my side of the family, just handling the in laws is the tricky bit lol
hope Tiger is home with you soon dances
34 week appointment tomorrow and then breastfeeding workshop in afternoon so should be interesting.

Totally don't know how I will feel about leaving baby overnight. Keeping an open mind but not imagining it happening particularly soon. My mum has got a crib at her house so she is definitely keen..!

Random bizarre baby question - please humour me..!
I have my pram. Looks nice and cosy with little mattress pad inside. Do I need a sheet for it? Envisaging baby using it for naps and walks. Or if no sheet do I put a bottom layer blanket down? Or nothing at all? Worried I am missing something

penguin I have had the same query and am getting some sheets for my pram.
Hiding yes keep it a secret. You and baby are number one. Granny and her demands are not a priority. Get DH on side. Yep I've had the same "plans" from OH-why are they so keen to give baby to their parents?!? OH didn't know much about bf-ing but now he does know he realises that you can't leave a breastfed baby until later. I told him about the 4th trimester too. I'm not carrying this baby for nine months to hand it over to someone else!!

penguin you buy bassinet sheets for pram cot tops - like Moses sheets.

squatting (was it you?) - been there, thinking will have a little sleep and dd runs over and pushes me and shouts "Mummy WAKE!!!" Oh well!

Am awake because in trying to get ready for bed (loading the dishwasher) I suddenly felt SO sick... Could hardly face putting the pasta bake I made away for the smell. I gingerly got ready for bed and decided I needed a distraction so have Night at the Museum on DVD on in bed and am trying to resurrect my old iPhone 4 (not happening) so I might have a phone that works...

Feeling a lot better now but baby is wriggling like mad!

Best make an alarm on my iPad... My phone is dead at the moment!

Ah yes! Leaving the baby...

When I had dd1 this was a major cause of anxiety for me. In laws couldn't wait to get there hands on my baby and continually asked to have her. Sil (who had COMPLETELY ignored me until a couple of weeks before the birth) kept talking about me going to her house for a sleep so she could keep an eye on dd. it never happened!

When dd was about three months old I made a compromise and said mil could have her for a couple of hours every other Friday. They still pushed it, and before long it was every Friday, and the hours got longer and longer

Now dd1 is 12, they stopped showing any interest at all really when sil had her children. Although they do seem to be more excited about Tiger-Rose. Probably because she will be the last grandchild. (Sil has had hysterectomy and I am going to get sterilised as soon as possible).

Gosh families are different. Last time i would have loved someone to take DD for a couple of hours whilst I slept. Particularly one week when she and I were both ill. hideous. But we have no family nearby and my parents are too old (73) and infirm to help. DH's parents are down under.

DH's mum came for a month and was brilliant. I sobbed when she left. She even did the night shift on Christmas eve (with expressed milk). It was wonderful. She and I did lots if walking and talking and she did walks with DD and held her when she was endlessly unsettled.

I am sad she can't come this time and look after DD whilst I deal with dd2, but that's life. once paternity leave is over I will just have to suck it up.

So those of you who have endlessly enthusiastic parents, I know it can be wearing, but it is a bit sucky to not have any support either.

MIL came when DD was 6 weeks old. also I was v lonely as we'd moved to a new area and DH was doing a part time masters on top of his job, so was basically never home. It was the most miserable time of my life, stuck with an endlessly screaming baby. So if you have keen family, perhaps think what would be useful for you and ask for that. perhaps they could come to the pool with you, hold baby whilst you swim, say (after six weeks). or look after baby whilst you get hair cut.