April 2015 Thread 9: Let the chatting continue!

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Quick new thread as only 2 posts left on old one! Any newbies or lurkers please join us!

PS it's my GTT test tomorrow. Am really hoping I don't have it, do you have to stick needles in your bump if you have GD? I didn't need the test for dd because I wasn't fat enough Am purposely keeping off the choccies tonight in the hope it will lead to a good outcome in the test tomorrow; no problem fasting from 10pm, I'm normally in bed by 8.30/9!

minipie there's a book and an app.

Chicken at the beginning when I was less confident about getting DD latched on I would prefer to be in a quiet room by myself. Once I'd got used to it I didn't care at all. Also I bought a fair few bfing tops from JoJo which mean you can be super discreet if you want, they're especially good for once you're in the swing of things and don't need your whole boob exposed to feel you're getting baby latched on without any fuss.

Our nursery is yellow with blue and white star curtains. I must have had a secret inkling we might have a boy after DD hence opting for a non-gendered 'scheme' (if you can call it that).

well it was fab in that it was nice and fast mini there was a lady who wasn't induced in the bed next to me and she had a 52 hour labour in the end!

Phryn that's the most amazing news! Congratulations hoping and praying all goes well for you all

Is it nieve to think labour can't hurt as much as a ruptured ectopic? That was single handedly the most painful experience of my life every shallow breath was agony and I couldn't eat or drink for 11 hrs while waited for surgery. Ouch! passing kidney stones was also not pleasant. I really don't want an epi if can birth naturally I know they do billions of them but the thought of a mahoosive needle anywhere near my spine makes me nervous. There's 0 point having pethadine either that's beyond useless!

We're hoping to move house either before or just after little one is born just waiting on DHs work to sort his new contract out then can arrange the mortgage. Still it's cutting it fine even on a 6 week no chain lightning completion. As we live in a rented flat we can't decorate anything and Little one will be in our room until we move. It's now stressing that property is so bloody expensive that the mortgage means we can't live in the same area so will have to move somewhere less nice which kinda sucks.

If I was to decorate a nursery it would be neutrals then use different colours for bedding cushions etc which is completely and utterly unoriginal they had some lovely stuff in verbeaudet or whatever the catalogue is called!

Agree with Squatting brummagem although again haven't experienced it myself, I think it will be a totally different type of pain. I'm keeping an open mind about all pain relief options, had always said I'll have an epidural (have a low pain threshold!) but hoping to just see how I cope and have one if it's too bad. Bit worried as it can slow labour down but advantage is pain relief sorted if end up needing forceps/stitches etc so pros and cons. I don't think I'm going to make a birthing plan other than 'get the baby out ok and make sure I'm ok at the end!'
Your house move sounds exciting - hope you'll have plenty of people to help if you'll have just had baby!

We have gone for owl patterned wallpaper on one wall in the nursery with border around the rest of the room. If I hadn't seen that was going to go for pale lemon paint. Love the nursery can't stop looking every time I go upstairs. Even though I know baby will be in our room at first it's still exciting!

Have no idea what I've done but my back is killing me. It's right where my bra strap would be and paracetamol just isn't touching it.

I was very susceptible to induction minipie, contractions started with one gel with both ds's but had an incompetent midwife with ds1 who had me pushing at 5cm dilated and then had fight the urge to push when midwife changed which slowed contractions so I had the drip. With ds2 I had gel at 9 am, proper contractions by 1.30pm, got to hospital 3.30pm already 8cm dilated and he was born at 5.30pm. The only problem I had with it was that they insisted on constant monitoring and they lost his hb every time I got up so couldn't be upright as I wanted to, otherwise managed with tens and g&a so very positive really.

Reasons I didn't want an epidural was because it increases chances of intervention but I'm not sure if that's mostly because you're on your back. I had to be told when to push which I didn't like with ds1. I had epidural put in when I had syntocynon drip was put in and I had been labouring from 11pm weds until 3am fri but it was still under quite a lot of pressure from
Hcp. I did get to sleep a bit and pushed him out without intervention so I guess that's a positive story really.

Did I mention my arm really hurts!?! Not being a baby at all

Has anyone bought the Ikea Gulliver cot? Im trying to distract myself from the ongoing horror of the new bathroom by thinking of nice stuff for babys room. Mum and Dad want to buy the cot but I dont think its worth going mad on some fantastic, expensive thing when you can get a very nice cot for £55 from Ikea. Id rather a fancy matress than frame to be honest. I want a natural wood finish so if anyone has any reccs they would be gratefully received!

mswibble we have an ikea cot, not the gulliver but v similar. It's done fine but with hindsight I slightly wish we'd got a cotbed (bigger, 140x70) as it would have lasted longer, we are about to move Dd 26 months into a cotbed. Mind you if she was a better sleeper we could probably put her in a bed by now!

Ps thanks all for your induction and epidural stories! I think I might still try to manage without the epidural even if induced ... possibly depends on whether the gel works for me or if I end up on drip.

Ive ordered the cambridge cot bed from babies are us. I wasnt sure so went to see it in store. Looked really good quality so waiting for free delivery now! I think the natural ones £79
Been buying in asda baby sale. Clothes werent great but i bought some of the essentials off my list so im feeling more prepared. Found myself going aww at newborn nappies. I must be going mad lol

hiding I would also be realllyyyy annoyed with the name thing! friends of ours recently had a baby and decided to name her one of the 2 names we had decided on for a girl which when we spoke to them a few month ago was nowhere on the radar at all we weren't very happy but there's not much we can do!

Another really hoping to avoid an epidural, I'm planning on telling my OH not to let me have one under any circumstances but I might live to regret it!

Also don't forget minipie, no one can force you into an induction it's your decision. You can see how how the gd is going and don't put your faith in growth scans too much when deciding if the baby will potentially be a biggun. Ds2 was going to be over 10lb according to growth scan at 36weeks. Born at 40w+13 he was 9lb 2, not small but quite a bit less than predicted.

I've been reading up about that cinnamon but it seems like the reason they induce isn't just because of big baby but because of increased risk of stillbirth which they can't really monitor for predict... so wouldn't want to risk that obv. I will talk to the midwife about inducing at 40wks rather than 38 tho seeing as I'm only just over.

Thanks for sharing your stories, both BFing and birth.

Yes Bonjour my MIL is on about taking baby out, to her work etc and in my hormonal state I think this upsets me because I feel the same as you-baby is not being left until I decide. I know it's not meant as such but I feel it's riding roughshod over my plans to BF, thinking that I'm just going to leave baby when of course you can't and wouldn't if it's BF. That's why their idea of buying their own pram upset me because I feel like they think they are going to take baby out for the day straight away. I know its Unreasonable but it's an instinct thing. They are the nicest people its just hard...

I'm under the consultant (fibroids) so bang goes my fantasy of a water birth at the MLU. 50% of an ELCS (a bit scary) but no idea which way it'll go.
As inductions sound painful I would have an epi for that.
If not, I am not sure. I have the idea that I want to move around and also that epi might be more likely to lead to intervention. But then pain can be exhausting..

My friend has just had a baby
She was due to be induced in the morning, I got a text this evening saying she wondered if it was starting, then one at 21.02 from her husband saying "be on standby" (as I was on list for looking after their DD) then at 21.17 I got another text saying "come quick!!"
I was at their house 5 mins later (live literally down the road) and she'd had the baby by then! Unassisted home birth! So I have seen a v fresh and squidgy newborn tonight
They have had to go into the hospital to be checked over as there was meconium and my friend potentially had GD, but all seemed fine before they went. I'm so happy

Aww Hippo that's lovely

I thought it was due to the potential for the baby to get larger and then risk of shoulders getting stuck minipie, hadn't heard a stillborn link. I think what worries me about induction is once you've been induced you can't go back so if the first step doesn't work you move on to the next and so on but I know ladies whove had one with a second baby and had a much easier time because the body already knows what it's doing and induction has gone more smoothly. My friend who has gd had a home water birth for her first on Christmas day and then an induction at 38 wks with her second and although she said it was more painful and she found the monitoring hard she had a good birth with g&a even with the drip.

Quite scary HippoPottyMouth! I have a friend who had her ds in an ambulance on the side of the A11 as she only manage to get about 5 miles down the rd before she started pushing!

My male friend caught his son outside the front door of the maternity wing at our local hospital - he's so proud of it!

Must be lovely to get that preview /reminder of how small a newborn is Hippo!

I'm on the way to the hospital for the 28 week growth scan. I know it's silly and there's no way they'd trap me in the hospital for induction for today but I couldn't leave the house this morning without putting all of my maternity clothes and underwear from the laundry bin on a wash cycle so that everyone knows exactly what clothes to bring me if it does happen...

All the stories of people giving birth outside of the hospital scare my far more than the traumatic but in the delivery ward stories :p

How come you have a 28w scan Boo? I think I missed quite a lot of the end of the last thread?

I'd never trust DHs to bring the right clothes. They would bring a thong and high heels haha!