June 2015 - thread 7 - finding out our teams!! Pink/Blue/Yellow which are you?

[jazzyjenbo]

For ladies expecting very late Maybees or Junebugs 2015

Good luck to those having scans - hopefully for the last time before you meet them!

Well my scan was good although the little tinker was not overly cooperative and was more interested in showing us his new trick of touching his toes than lying in a better position for measurements to be taken. So it turns out that I get a bonus scan in two weeks time to complete the measurements checklist, which is quite nice! All looks well and they don't have any concerns. Here is a pic of our little monkey playing with his feet - also posted on FB. Hope everyone else's scans go well x

Bub wanted to echo what everyone else on here has said. It seems you are getting great care. I hope your break gives you a chance to relax.

Happy birthday mrse!

I've another scan today as the anomaly scan showed his legs were a bit tiny. No great surprise since I'm not even 5ft tall, but they just want to check up on him. It means I get to see him again, so it's fine with me! I already heard his heartbeat this morning at my midwife appointment. So right now I am watching Calamity Jane in front of the fire with a cup of tea.

Hope you have a great time bubalou.

Ots, even Count the Kicks say that you shouldn't count kicks any more! You should be looking for a pattern and seeking advice if there's a change to the pattern. It is still a bit too early according to their information, it says that you may start to notice a pattern at this stage. But as I've said lots, there was no pattern at all during my last pregnancy due to anterior placenta so it might be the same again for me. I felt less than ten movements a day, count the kicks used to say it should be 4-100 an hour! I recorded the movements in a diary (so i could show the midwives etc) which I've kept in DD's memory box. I've got one of the bracelets but will mainly use the L and R for breastfeeding.

Great news croon.

croon great news, lovely scan pic!

bazza good luck with your scan later, I am jealous of your fire and Calamity Jane viewing, I love that film!!

Just need to vent - I don't know whether to bang my head against a brick wall or this idiot i'm forced to work with?! If you can't tell me what value it adds why the HELL do I need to include it?!

...and breathe....1....2.....3....

Sorry just needed to write what I felt as saying it diplomatically several different ways is not working for me right now. WIll come back to baby related stuff shortly.

Oh when I had my DS I told DH in no uncertain terms that nobody was coming to stay with us for a good while afterwards. I just could not have coped with worrying about 'putting people up' when I was healing/trying to get breastfeeding established and feeling exhausted/overwhelmed.

We have no family nearby so when my parents/In laws tend to come they stay over as its a 2 hour drive plus.

It all depends on your relatives but I know my in laws wouldn't have mucked in so we would have been left cooking for them/changing bed sheets etc when frankly we had enough to deal with.

He was on board and told his folks the same (I told mine). It was fine. Both sets of grandparents drove down and back in the same day to see baby.

We have no family within a three hour drive. My parents have jobs which aren't flexible with leave whatsoever (even having an ELCS didn't help!); DD was born on a Monday and they visited on the Saturday, just for the day (three hour drive each way). We were actually really glad to have those first days to ourselves; it gave us time to adjust to being new parents and I was getting to grips with breastfeeding which was tough. DH's parents were thousands of miles away and couldn't visit until a month or so later.

I know someone who lied about their c-section date second time around, so they wouldn't be bombarded with visitors.

Oh and friends didn't visit until at least couple of weeks after the birth. My parents and sister came to visit as above but no one else from my family came - they all waited until we visited them a few months later.

I had no visitors in hospital other than my husband!

My in laws asked my DH if they could visit us in hospital (this was before I had even gone into labour).

They had done so with their daughters (DH is the only boy in their family!) so had assumed it was the 'done' thing. I told him absolutely no, not even my own parents came to the hospital.

To be fair I didn't know I was going to be having a section, for all I knew I'd be out within a day and a visit would have been pointless!

If we have a section I'm unsure about telling people the date actually....

Plus post natal wards in London hospitals are chaos. Not the place for hoards of visitors IMO.

I'm calm again..well calmer.

Croon - what a lovely picture. Lovely show-off baby.

I've been reading the horror stories of the parent/in-laws/relatives visits too. I'm an only child so I'm sure my parents will be round in a shot but only after checking with me (they are very considerate and would do anything for me to make my life easier at that point). The in-laws? I'm not sure what will happen with them. I know hubs wants to have a big BBQ a few weeks after so that all our friends can come over and meet the bubba. If he's cooking/cleaning up then I'm all for it.

MrsE - hope you're having a lovely birthday.

The BBQ sounds like a great idea Trying, just make everyone bring something so you don't have to do anything except look after the baby!

I was really glad I had no visitors at the hospital. I just hoped that other people on the ward didn't feel sorry for me as everyone else had them! I only spent a day and a half in hospital after my c-section (two nights but I went in late and had an early morning discharge) but I didn't get any sleep due to wanting to check baby was still breathing/ babies on the ward crying/ a woman having a tantrum/ midwives checking blood pressure etc every couple of hours etc. This time they've said I should have a 24 hour discharge after my section, thank goodness.

Visiting times for the father were very good - 9am-9.30pm apart from two hours at lunch time. They were much more limited for everyone else though. I was originally supposed to give birth on the midwife led unit where you get a private room with a double bed and husbands can stay over too, was gutted when I had to have a section!

I'm lucky in that dad's can stay 24 hours on our postnatal ward, albeit sleeping on a chair/in the single bed with you, but DH may go home to check in on DS I imagine!

I found that I could hardly sleep either. Every time I dropped off a midwife came in to check me/take blood pressure/give drugs etc! The sooner you are out the better.

24 hour discharge sounds great after section. I was in 2 nights with mine too.

I feel terrible if it's a close friend and I don't actually go to visit them in hospital. to be fair it's clearly mutual - we're given a time it's ok and we fit in with that, and it's also normal to stay in hospital for a few days at home so would usually visit 2-3 days after. But with the family all in australia we will definitely get visitors for long periods! My mum and dad are coming a couple of weeks after, for a couple of weeks and overlapping with my sister coming for a few weeks, but i dont' mind any of them being around, they definitely don't count as 'visitors' and I am looking forward to it. I wouldn't really want my inlaws coming to stay at that point though,lovely as they are. They are coming for a couple of weeks sept/oct which sounds perfect.

Re: family etc visiting. Both my parents have died so nothing on my side, as extended family all Yorkshire based so would probably have a few days away and travel round to see them all (my Mum was one of 14 so huge family). OH Mum lives a 2 hour drive away but isn't too well so we would probably drive down to see her at some point.
I have lots of adopted Aunties and Uncles but all will probably respect is needing time for ourselves, especially as I am aware the birth will probably bring back a lot of memories of my parents.
Ideally, no one at hospital and then at home just my brother, aside from him would like time for OH, OH dd, my Brother and I to get to know the baby. Plus I am conscious that I don't want my OH little girl feeling too pushed out, which could happen if people come to visit are only interested in the baby. Altho by then, we may have moved so no one may know our new address.

My parents and sister, and my in-laws all came to see us on the day DD was born, each for only an hour or so. It was lovely and I was quite lonely after they left. DH had to work the Monday (DD born late Sunday a little bit early so nothing in place for pat leave at that stage!) so I was by myself all day.

I invited people round quite quickly after getting home, I've not been one for believing in the 'babymoon' and all my visitors were capable of making me a cuppa so they were most welcome!

I had my parents and sisters and in law laws visit the day I had my Dd too, but they only stayed an hour then it was just me and Dh I found it fine but that's just me... And all of the above are not hard work so that helps!

Sure the same will happen again with this one too.

sun hope your scan went well today, and everyone else who was having one..

We have some unhelpful relatives, one lot in particular came up for weekend and unfortunately it was just as my Mum was beginning seizures, so on the early hours of the Saturday morning she was hospitalised. By time I got home at lunch the "family" had left all breakfast stuff out, dirty pots/pans from making a fry up for 6 of them. We showered and went back to hospital til 8pm and came home to more dishes as they had got themselves a takeaway but didn't bother to think we would need to eat. The next breakfast they did the the exact same thing, despite them knowing I had only the day before been told my mum had weeks to live.
Safe to say, they won't be coming to stay unless they book a B and B.

elizabeth I can completely understand why people who act like that would not be welcome! I would be the same if any of my lot behaved so poorly..luckily they are all good as gold!