July 2015 - more and more beans are seen on scans

[StoneBaby]

Here's the new thread

Please come and feel it!

We will be using a mid-wife led unit attached to the hospital as well. Unless high risk or elcs everyone here uses it. They were fab last time, and when dd1 was having breathing difficulties, Dr was there in minutes and she was down on nicu 10 mins later.

I'm not allowed to use it even if I have a natural birth this time because I had a c-section last time due to dd being breach. Assuming that's the same everywhere?

Got home from work yesterday to find the scan letter finally turned up! Um, too late!!

When is your scan then Small?

I'd love to use the mlu but it's 40/50 mins from the hospital so too risky for my liking. I don't intend on having any drugs again and love that I could have dimmed lights, scented candles and music going on at the mlu... but you never know what will happen and if baby was in distress and I needed help, that journey would be horrendous and I'd be in a state of panic. You can get a transfer there after birth to recover though although I will just want my own bed and to get trampled on by my dd!

want, I'm in a total state at the min and I'm v shouty and stressy. Most unlike me and I feel dreadful getting all horrid with dd (we practice gentle/natural/attachment parenting so being calm and understanding is what we do normally). I know I have major 12 week anxiety and am so so worried about my scan next week but it doesn't excuse my temper at the mo and I feel so guilty - especially as I can't explain anything to dd! Hope your dh is cool with you again and his book is helping him to understand what's going on.

pipbin Yesterday morning!

I want dimmed lights and music.

Broody that seems strange having the mlu so far away, ours is next door, makes far more sense. Not surprised you are anxious, it must be a stressful time, are you still feeling sick etc? That is my everyday reassurance.
PS I think you should remember Treacle from ttc after mc, she has got a bfp this morning!

Same feeling as me broody, I wouldn't feel comfortable with any transfer time to the hospital should anything go wrong. It would have just majorly added to the stress when dd1 was born.

Ok so I'll be brave and post my bump. This is first thing this morning pre - breakfast so definitely not a food baby!

Thepurplegiraffe

I always thought if you had a c-section you had to go to hospital but I have since been reliably?! informed that it is entirely up to you how and where you give birth as long as you have been informed of the risks.

I have had 2 sections, one EMCS one ELCS, I did want a VBAC last time but unfortunately could not.

I was told this time would be a ELCS, but someone has said to me it is still my choice and ultimately no one can force you to do anything.

This now has me toying with the idea of VBAC again, although I cannot have an epidural (spinal fusion) and cannot be induced (so if you go too far over you have to have the ELCS)

The ELCS is of course the most straight forward and planned in terms of no labour, picking a date etc but in terms of recovery a VBAC may be best, especially as I have two kids at home and want to be back at work in 6-8 weeks.

I will be demanded to see everyone possibly from anaesthetists to consultants to get what I feel comfortable with.

I've moved away from the 'being told' what I need to do.

My ELCS with my DC2 was amazing, but this time I will have to have a GA so not so keen!

I had DS on labour ward and DD in MLU, definitely preferred DD labour but then I was ready to push on arrival! Both units side by side but I just have a feeling this time I will be getting a home birth?! Could be amusing for poor OH

Morning everyone. Wow good bump Nature!

I m 11 weeks now and finally feeling good again. Actually able to cook a meal for the first time in over a month last night. DH was delighted.
Got a date for my scan on the 20th Jan. Hurray!

I'm 11+6 today, feeling glad that tomorrow I am 'officially' 12 weeks according to the hospital.

Can on Thursday, so nervous about it and gutted that OH can't make it!

(He's a teacher, on a school trip that day)

Loving the bump pics, ladies! I haven't got one yet, but then I'm a good couple of weeks behind most of you. I'll post a pic as soon as there's anything to see.

We haven't got a MLU near us, so I'll just go for the hospital again. Don't know if there'll be time for candles and music. Got there 20 mins before DS2 was born last time. With DS1, I was in the bath at the hospital (think the pool was taken) from about 6cms-fully, and that was great. Warm water is definitely soothing, so I'd definitely recommend it to first-time ladies, or anyone expecting a long labour. Only trouble was getting out of the bath when I was ready to push. I couldn't find my legs!! DH had to lift me out and carry me to the bed. Oops..

Hi ladies

Great bump nature!

Just had my scan, baby was v naughty, took 3 attempts! Nt measuring at 1.7 so relieved :) they have put me forward a week though and dated me at 12+6 when my dress say 12+0 and chaned EDD to 17 July. Apparently that the date I will stick with now! I that's the case though I must have ovulated on cd 8 which I know isn't the case

Will post a pic later! Just told all work colleagues and there is great excitement in the office now :)

12+0/12+6

Good news Want! It sounds like lots of people are ending up with different dates to what they expected /know to be the right dates so obviously these scans are not as accurate as I had thought.

I have my scan this afternoon, am 14+3 by the private scan so too late for nuchal but I guess it will give me my 'official' due date. I had also been ttc quite a while and was pretty certain of my ovulation date so was surprised to be dated 4 days later than expected (in fact that would make the day of conception a day when DH was away for work ). It might change today though I suppose, although I think earlier scans (i.e. 11-13 weeks) are more accurate for dating aren't they?

Brilliant news WantToGoingTo

I want my scan! stamps foot

Good luck Mister

Raines100 i'm not sure you'll make it out of the house

I'm feeling pretty happy today.

My boss has said he is happy for me to take 10 'Keeping in touch days' so I will be having 6 weeks maternity leave (full pay apparently not 90%!) then 2 weeks of KIT days then 2 weeks holiday. Then back to work full time.

Hopefully will be feeling ok after 3rd c-section, but will defo have to get straight back in to a routine in order to keep up with the 5am morning rush.

mister it is strange but then the date they give you is the official one that all future appts and tests are based on and what maternity leave is based on :S guess I better get used to being 13 weeks already then!

I feel really odd about telling work.

I know that the moment is almost here but I just can't do it. My boss isn't in today and I want to be the one to tell her but I had the perfect opportunity to tell a close work friend this morning and I just bottled it

I am also putting off sending a message to my group of close old school friends (we have a what's app chat that we gabble on all day) and I don't know why. I fear being judged (they all have kids and I usually duck out of their birthday parties etc.) as I think they had me down as never having children.

Am I the only one to be like this? Or am I perfectly normal to want to stay in my bubble of just close family knowing?

Good news Number. Will you have to work those KIT days or are they just paying you for them? I said I was willing to do some KIT days last time but wasn't needed to in the end.

Mister we had that last time. You can conceive a few days after dtd, but dd1 was dated so that it would have been impossible to have conceived at that point (1.5 weeks before we had dtd!). The scans really aren't as accurate as they make out, and it all depends on which sonographer measures you as well.

I have finally got round to adding myself to the stats sheet

Glad the scan went well Want. I would just keep a note of the date that you think you should be due, just in case of pressure to be induced if you go that far over.

Not too long to wait for your scan now number. Such a shame that your Dh can't go though. I am married to a teacher and I don't think people realise just how restrictive it is in terms of having time off. It was part of the reason I opted for the 1-2-1 service we have here as I can have more flexibility in when my scans are booked, so can have them later in the evening so Dh can definitely get there.

Fleur I think that is normal. I think people feel like they lose ownership of their pregnancy a little bit when everyone knows. It is a nice little secret to have, without all the bombardment of questions that you usually get. Your friends will be really happy for you I am sure.

fleur I felt the same, it was really nerve wracking and I was losing sleep over it! But now I have told them it is such a huge relief and weigh of my mind :) jut have to bite the bullet as they will all be excited and pleased for you

Fleurchamp one of my bestie's is 18 weeks, she hasn't told work (she has a very highly paid job in insurance and would certainly be penalised, although we know this is wrong, it does happen) and she has still only told a close group of friends.

I had breakfast with her the other day and she isn't showing yet, but admits she will have to say soon but doesn't planning on announcing just letting people work it out for themselves.

Nothing wrong with that at all!

Naturegirl82 i'll have to work them but will be on my terms, so it's fine!

He was all set to come to the scan but the date was on a pre-arranged school trip. Hospital refused to change the appointment.
Thankfully he already came to the early scan.

I was thinking of asking the sonographer if I can take a very short (10 seconds) video of the heartbeat to show him, but I bet they say no