July 2015 - more and more beans are seen on scans

[StoneBaby]

Here's the new thread

Please come and feel it!

Sounds amazing!

Ok so the ex replied and said he cannot afford to pay anything, he only works two days a week.

I said fine, have the kids more often, he replied "i work friday and saturday nights"

How convenient.

Government jobs however mostly get 6 months full pay!
Teachers don't. 4 weeks full, 2 weeks 90%, 13 weeks 50% + smp.

We are lucky as I inherited £15k about 6 months ago and I've got other savings so I guess we can get by on that for a bit.

Number3 if he only works Friday and Saturday nights, can he not have them more during the week??

No - and he knows this, which is why he is saying he works those nights.

He lives in Peckham, we live in Essex.

He doesn't drive.

So they cannot stay at his and get to school.

He is being a prick as usual

I'm not even sure why I am allowing this waste of fresh air raise my blood pressure!!

Definitely not worth it. I would stop all communication with him until you absolutely need to, that's the attitude I'm taking with my exH.

Its horrible though, because I really don't know what I ever saw in mine, although I cannot have regrets because of my two beautiful DC. I just know I'm doing the best I can for them, and they are definitely in a better place now than we all were two years ago.

I guess at least you have a safe distance from him Number3 - there is a 10 minute drive between me and exH, definitely not far enough!

Sorry pip was thinking mostly civil service who do get 6 months rather than teachers.

It is hard managing on smp as you don't really have any lower outgoings so I found the only way to cope last time was savings.

Overtiredbackagain I had to, he is violent and nasty.
I am not sure why I persist with trying to get him to see the kids.

He doesn't actually know where I live, only that it's in Essex, safer that way.
He has made countless threats to 'stamp on my boyfriend's head' and 'pull his eyeballs out' he really is quite a treat.

I do not know what I ever saw in him, I am glad I have the children, but that is all I am grateful for from him.

Over - like you I have achieved more in a year than I ever did with him.

13 long years we were together. Oh the times I have thought how I would have done less time for murder. But then, I am not the violent type.
I leave that side of life to him.

Enough about me anyway, rant over haha x

want, I defo wouldn't have fancied driving that far when I was that pg with dd and I don't plan on doing so this time round either. You're in the mids aren't you? If you're looking for beaches and strolls and pubs, why not try east a bit? Hunstanton is lovely and not too far - think it was two hours for us (east mids).

Sorry to hear all your ex-husband woes. I have ex-wife woes myself (not mine, obv, but DP's).

We're allowed to see his daughter one day a fortnight (about 9 hours) and his son from a Saturday morning to a Sunday evening, once a fortnight and often these visits are cancelled or cut short because she's made other plans.

We'd love to be more involved but it's a fight even to get copies of school reports.

She's the only thing that causes stress in our relationship so I'm strongly encouraging DP to take her to court re access. At least we'll then have some certainty.

If you need to calculate maintenance payments, go to www.gov.uk/calculate-your-child-maintenance Certain deductions can be made from income such as pension payments and overnight stays.

Zampa

This is what absolutely infuriates me.
There are some parents out there desperate to see their kids more often and do all the right things, but others who just don't give two shits.

I hope your DP manages to get regular access via the court and that ex-wife is prosecuted if she doesn't stick to plans!

Although I only get statutory I am fortunate that DH has a good wage and we won't starve.
He does however want to do shared paternity leave which will mean I will have to go back FT after 6 months

I have just said we will see how we feel once the baby is here. He will only dig his heels in if I say no outright.

The thing is, I am hoping to return PT (3 days per week ideally) and worry that his plans will mess this up as I won't be able to go back FT for 6 months and then ask for PT.

We would struggle on just my PT wages, especially as I know my DH's plans would include a daily newspaper, coffee and pastry adding up to at least £40 a week

Well didn't say anything at work in the end, my boss told my 3 colleagues in EU for me over xmas, but asked them to keep to themselves (which I know they would) and then also told me one of the girls in the team who sit next to me had a mc over xmas, so I didn't want to make any scene about my pg, and haven't said anything. A few people who are on my fb have come over and said a quiet congrats which was nice, but other than that I'm going to let the rest of the floor find out as and when!

Feeling a bit crappy today, first day back and all. I bought in what I thought was enough food for a snack every 2hrs, yet somehow managed to eat it all my midday bar a soup... So had to go out and get something substantial for lunch as I had the real shakes and felt sick for needing food! not a good start lol.

On the plus side though, I found out I won an award from one of the other areas of the business (I work in IT) for my support and helping the other areas of the business (namely sales) bring in more customers with my reporting and product support. They gave me a £50 retail voucher which is redeemable in Mothercare! Result!

Miss woop woop!

Shame about your colleague, I guess it doesn't hurt to be a bit low key for a couple more weeks.

I had already eaten lunch by breakfast. I am so fat.

I need to go to the gym !

I worked as a family lawyer for a while when I first qualified. I quickly realised that I am not tough enough for it as I would take my clients' problems home with me (and would constantly receive emails over weekends on my blackberry with the next instalment).
There are some really nasty people out there, it all became too upsetting.
Generally I found the NRP wanted to hand over as little £ as possible as they saw it going to the ex rather than the children. So sad.

ok, I will be honest and tell you what I have eaten so far, this is pretty bad.

M&S chicken, honey and mustard pasta

Cheese and onion sandwich

2 bananas

Fruit salad.

WTF i'm still hungry and nauseous!

Sorry to those who are dealing with the additional stress if ex's. Just being pregnant is bad enough...can't imagine the extra stress.

I work at a private school and although my salary is better than it would be in a state school I am pretty sure I'll just be getting the statutory size weeks at 90% and then SMP after that....although getting hold of their maternity policy is easier said than done!! However, definitely can't complain as DH gets a free house with all the bills paid for with his job so we can definitely afford to live on just his salary as long as he stays in this job (it's a pretty stressful and tiring job but I'm hoping he'll stick it out for at least another year as it means we get to choose about me going back to work or not).

Ladies, could any of you recommend a good treatment for a dry, flakey scalp? I have a patch of dry skin on my forehead and into my hair line and it looks awful! I can treat the dry skin on my forehead with moisturiser but obviously I can't put that on the patch on my scalp without leaving myself with greasy hair! Please help!

ladies - please note Aldi are recalling some chocolate which could potentially contain salmonella - not trying to scare monger, but just making you aware. Looks like midlands only ladies.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-birmingham-30683560

number you just reminded me I have a banana in my draw

Well done miss and great your voucher can be used somewhere useful.

I'm struggling this afternoon. Definitely think I need to switch to maternity jeans for work as sitting at my desk is uncomfortable. Just spent a fortune on asos but it's fine as half will be sent back as I didn't know what size to order so bought everything in two sizes

broody I am in south, so now considering East Sussex beaches or Isle of Wight. IOW is bloody expensive though - 1 bed cottage for £700 per week! nearly fell off my chair!

Miss I have exactly the same issue. A colleague who sits right by me mc at 11 1/2 weeks just before Christmas. We aren't close so not sure I feel comfortable telling her but not sure she will want to find out on the grapevine earlier. She is off for a couple more days which is lucky as it's so hard hiding it when I feel so crap. Not telling anyone at the mo, though my boss knows already.

Sorry to hear there are some nasty ex's out there, I just cannot understand how they can treat their own children like that.

I'm working from home at the moment as the heating is broken in our office. I never thought I'd complain about not doing the immune but this is day 5 of this now and I miss my team! On the positive side, I'm comfy in my new maternity jeans (not sure why people stop wearing these after the baby comes, so comfy!) and with easy access to food supplies.
My manager and director have both guessed about baby (no wine at Xmas party gave it away), but I'll tell them officially on Thursday after the scan as there are some H&S things they need to do ahead of a work trip I have at the end of the month.

*commute not immune! Stupid predictive text.

My dress is now busting at the seams after lunch i am wearing a jacket which I have done up (fortunately it is quite loose) to conceal the paunch.

I have eaten:
Porridge
Cheese toasty
Cheese crisps (I am obsessed with cheese)
Smoothie

Not the healthiest, will have to get some vegetables in later