April 2015 thread 7: Our viable, wriggling bumps have us walking belly-first into the new year!

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lucy yes it was. MNHQ seem fairly sure she was being deceitful. It is truly horrible. The poor lady who lost her dd in such a harrowing fashion had been pm-ing the OP and tried to take her mind off things by knitting the OP's baby a blanket and sent it to the NICU for him. What a slap in the face. Luckily she asked for it to go to another family if the baby in question couldn't be found so there is some small amount of solace in that it will have been appreciated by someone. What a way to make a truly awful ordeal worse.

I am awake due to poorly dd waking at 02.30 and coming into bed with us, and her being clingy and noisy etc and unable to settle poor thing. Eventually I got to sneak out to the loo at 03.30. I came back to find her fast asleep (thank goodness) but across the top half of my side of the bed. Dh is merrily snoring.

I have therefore got out a big jumper and am top and tailing with about half of my share of the quilt that I an trying to squeeze the rest of me under. Can't go to the spare room because she could easily roll out, she's such a fidget. So I have my legs stuck along the side of the bed in case she rolls that way.

To go with it I have a pain in my right leg like a deep ache. It started in my calf. Wondered if I should be considering DVT but I don't think so, it seems muscular and is in the back of my thigh now too. No sleep for me tonight!!! Shame I'm due at work in 4hrs

RL20 make the most of being able to have the telly on!!! I'd love to watch a bit of trashy telly in bed right now! I'm grateful you posted, it's nice to think there is company out there

Oh and I did the pillow thing last time but haven't needed to yet. Maybe I should try it for my leg. Oh wait dd has both of my pillows!!! How can a 20 month old take up so much space?!

26 weeks today!

No sleep. Gave in and got up with dd who was nattering at 05.30. Today is going to be horrible...

I saw that too daholster hadn't been following the whole thread but what I had seen sounded totally believable at the time... Awful. Hope you're ok and managed to get some sleep

Well said daholster.

With that in mind I am trying (again) to be sanguine about DD climbing into spare bed with me this morning around 6ish (after we'd taken off her night time nappy, done her poo, put knickers on etc) and doing a wee!

Managed to whip the sheet and mattress protector off and into machine before any damaged done to actual mattress but it's not really what you want at 6:11am!

Daholster - sorry you had a crap night's sleep

banana the stretch marks usually fade. I got loads on my boobs and thighs when I finally hit puberty at about 16! after a year or so when they'd stopped growing they completely faded. you could feel them slightly if you run your finger over them but they went back to skin colour. I used Bio oil but only coz it was bought for me, I don't actually believe that it makes much difference.
I don't have any on my belly yet but my bump doesnt seem that big yet. My boobs on the other hand are a lovely shade of purple and have been since I was about 3 month preg. they just seem to be getting more and more purple.

thanks re the registering. We are married so at least i know i can go on my own. Paternity leave is all going to hinge on if he has a new job or not before then so he might not be able to come with me.
Dreading the idea that if he does have a new job i'm going to be going it alone when baby arrives unless he can take hols at short notice :/

Sorry to hear those of you that bad nights! Sil was texting me just before I went to be about funeral arrangements and my mind then didn't stop and I couldn't sleep for quite a while. Once I'm asleep, that's it for me though!

thanks for all the well-wishes, girls.

managed to eat some cottage pie last night, can still feel it like a hard ball in my stomach. The baby seemed happy, though - I drank some (gone flat) cola for the glucose and the baby spent about 3/4 of an hour kicking and wriggling in all directions.

I'm going to have to manage to take the eldest to school today, though I won't be going to the midwife appointment (despite it being at the sure start centre in the school grounds) as I honestly doubt being able to walk there and back 3 times in one day and don't want to spread this to the other pregnant ladies! it shouldn't be a problem, it's just a weekly blood pressure check.

last night I spent most of the night dealing with sobbing kids. a bit of a bed-swap one - ended up with the youngest in bed with my partner, me and the eldest in the youngest's bottom bunk because no way was I able to get up into the top one with him as he wanted and we've tried all 4 of us in the double bed before and it meant everyone got some sleep except for me as I was the only one in danger of falling out!

between that and all the pregnancy toilet-trips, no wonder I'm always knackered!

daholster I was reading that thread and really rooting for her, was very sad to hear it was a troll. So awful to hear about the other lady's baby, I don't want to read the details or I'm sure I won't be able to think of anything else. I've been having a read of the Birth Centre April birth club forum and there are a few ladies on there who have already delivered or had pprom and it's just so scary not knowing what's going to happen. Hoping this little one stays put for a lot longer yet.

Im thinking of trying reusable nappies too. Planning on getting the Tots Bot kit. Im going to get some disposable nappies to start as I've heard the first poos are really horrible and sticky. Im going to use Cheeky Wipes too.

I didn't sleep very well last night either. Aqua natal class was cancelled, so I went swimming instead and ended up with a pain in my bum and groin. Spent rest of the night hobbling about. Silly me.

DH has been sleeping in spare room cause he has a cold and my crazy brain decided that this meant he was avoidingme, so ended up crying like a loom. He of course came in to settle me down and was really confused as to why I was upset. Pregnancy hormones are bloody mental. I hope this doesn't get any worse. Not sure I can cope being this loopy.

RL20, I tried sleeping like that a few weeks ago but it didn't really help and the extra pillow ended up getting kicked out of bed ;) It might help when the bump is bigger. At the moment I'm putting two normal pillows into an upside-down v at the top of the bed and snuggling between the two of them - seems to make it easier to stay on my side.

This is the only MN thread I follow, but I'm very sad to hear from y'all the stories about bad behaviour elsewhere, particularly around such a horrible experience.

I decided to treat myself and signed up for a Project B box yesterday (thanks for the indirect recommendation, Boo)... only to mention it to my parents and get told off for not seeing whether there was an equivalent box for expecting fathers!! I have told DH that this can be his next internet start-up idea, as apparently there isn't anything serving this particular niche. ("What should go into an expecting father's box?" I asked him. "According to M [his friend who now has a 2 and 4 year old], Lego", he replied.)

The other downside of Project B is that it's revealed to me all the other boxes you can sign up for to have delivered... which I can just see myself signing up for in a rush of keen and then not using any of... that said, I'm going to keep the Nonabox and Bookbuggy in mind for later as they actually seem to include things that might be useful.

Just had a read of your blog Boo. I really like it . Can't wait to read more.

reusuable nappies - not all suit all babies! or mothers, for that matter. I tried traditional terry towelling squares and rubber pants - NOT a success for me. I tried bambino mio ones, they were great! easy to use and the wraps were so simple. My ex refused to use them, said they "confused" him.

And I was given some prefolds by a friend, birth to potty ones (don't ask me what brand, because I don't know) which worked well too.

I'd get a couple of different types to start and see what suits you and the baby, then get more when you know.

I do a lot for the environment, but nappies is just something I won't do... bad enough the potty training poos and so on, I want to handle them as minimally as I can...

My DD who has been properly potty trained since August-ish has now had a few accidents in the past week... I was expecting some regression when new baby comes, but hoped it would be a while... oh well... at least it's not too many... but had one playing in the garden at nursery yesterday and the playground on saturday...

but did call me at midnight to help her to the toilet, so that was a good thing... yawn

26+3

Ebwy these are for you

Tiny - just dropped DD at nursery and told teacher about this morning when after weeing on me in my bed, DD stood in middle of kitchen with legs apart and did a whole massive wee through her knickers onto floor (was alerted by gushing sound).

Teacher didn't bat an eyelid, said she's doing it for a reaction, ignore it and it will stop.

We will be trying oh so fervently to stick to this advice from now on.

I know smog... as long as it's not the carpet, it's easy enough to clean...

Too right Tiny. I'm glad we went for the dark version of the massive cheap ikea rug!

Squatting this is for you

rl I have a long pillow the size of me that has been a life saver, not least as a block for DH's wandering hands >.>

annia I looked at the other boxes and I'm desperately waiting to be far enough along to start getting Sassy Bloom boxes, if you give them babies name they sometimes include personalised stuff, and it looks like it's quite easy to get discounts on the boxes by doing unboxing videos and things. I've signed up and have a referral code somewhere.

A box for dads to be would be fab, but if DH is anything to go by it would have to have useful information hidden in crude comic strips for them to even look at it. I have given him two books to read: Commando dad for pregnancy and Natal Hypnotherapy complete with stop start stick on tabs so he can skip all the nonsense and they've both been sat there unread whilst he's suddenly discovered an interest in reading about coding... HE keeps asking me things like "surely the baby can hear me now" and I keep saying, I don't know have you read the book, the book would tell you...

it has taken a few months of my getting up every two hours to have a pee and a drink and last night mrBoo finally noticed that I do it, he stomped around complaining about the awful night sleep he had last night courtesy of waking up every two hours :P I suspect he's quite forgotten what the early baby days are like...

We ended up with 3 in the bed last night too. It's bloody DH letting her in thinking it was nearly wake up time when in fact it was 10mins since he last put her back in her own bed. Me and DH ended up sharing a pillow and DD had DH's side of the bed to herself!

She has stopped coming to my side to try getting in as I just turn her round and send her back. DH just gives up and lets her in so she only goes to his side now which he moans about! I just tell him it's his own fault for letting her in all the time.

That made me laugh Boo! Where do I get one of these pillows from?! I could do without wandering hands too! Although I do feel a little bit guilty that I'm neglecting him. Just really not up to it.. I almost forget about it sometimes? A few ladies said to me "has pregnancy made your hormones go crazy? If you know what I mean" and I've also read in a few booklets that a lot of ladies sex drive goes crazy too. Not mine though!
Maybe it's because I feel the baby wriggling around a lot more now? I don't know.. X

rl I got mine from Aldi back when I was pregnant with DD it's a bit like this but without the hinged sections. I wouldn't mind but every morning he tries it on and you'd think when for 5 months 'morning crotch grabbing' has failed to garner results he'd just give up instead of kidding himself that this morning is the morning and considering it a victory if it takes me more than 5 second to elbow him in the face... There is something that's a serious turn off about feeling the baby moving round when DH is trying to set some action in, tbh it's just as well he's not bothered to read his pregnant dad books, because if he had i'd wake up to the books open on the 'your partner should be like a dog in heat right about now get some action in' pages, complete with highlighting as a subtle hint...

I have been using a body pillow since like 15 weeks? If I don't use it I can't walk the next day. I didn't take it on my long haul flight and ouch. Serious groin pain the next day from my round ligament. So I always have to sleep with it, plus it keeps me on my side so it's handy and comfy!

I'm going for disposable nappies, I don't fancy having to clean the reusable ones but I commend anyone who does.

So excited that my new changing bag arrived yesterday, it's beautiful and I can't wait to start using it.

He he. I got a rather 'adult' present for Christmas from DH, so he's clearly feeling a bit neglected. Ha ha. Oops. I don't think I've ever blushed so hard in my life.