July thread - we are nearing the end of the first trimester, announcements will be made soon!

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New thread, as the other one was nearly full! Can someone please post the stats page, as I'm useless with things like that!

broody

Had a good nap this afternoon and went to a French chemist to get some proper laxative so fx I'll feel better soon

pip it also says on the letter that it is not an internal scan

broody me too. Promptly burst into tears twice today for no reason. Feel v miserable, only just got out of bed. Tried to explain it to DH he thinks it is just pregnancy hormones. I hope it is. I hope you feel better soon, thinking of you

Merry Christmas everyone!

wantTo I think for the early scans you need a full bladder as the uterus can still be low down behind the pelvic bone, a full bladder pushes it up a bit so they can see better (or something like that anyway!) By the 12 week scan it is high enough anyway that it doesn't matter. I haven't had a full bladder for either of my 12 week scans and had no problems at either.

to those worrying, it is quite normal for symptoms to drop off after about 10 weeks so fingers crossed all is absolutely fine.

I would gladly take some symptom easing! Threw up two breakfasts on Christmas morning within the space of half an hour, then had to spend the rest of the morning cooking with horrendous nausea. Luckily it settled enough for me to enjoy at least some of my Christmas turkey! 12+4 now and no signs of morning sickness easing, I really hope it's gone by the time I have to go back to work

I have a bit of a work dilemma, haven't told them about the pregnancy yet (very small team and my job is quite specialist so I'm quite nervous about it) and on my last day before Christmas my boss took me aside to say that they would like to give me a big promotion, won't go in to details but a brilliant career opportunity for me but the drawback is I would need to go up to full time (currently 3 days per week) and it would start in February. I'm so torn as it involves managing a team so I don't feel I can accept it for 4/5 months without making a commitment to come back full time and take a much shorter maternity leave than I had planned. Does anyone else have any plans already for how much leave to take? Anyone planning to go back to work full time early on? We don't have any relatives nearby who could help out so not even sure that 2 preschoolers in full time childcare would be affordable to us, we'd probably be worse off than if I didn't work at all! I'm also terrified of the thought of putting a 6 month old baby into full time childcare, anyone have any experience of this? I have to give my boss an answer on the 5th so not long to decide, though he has said if I say no my old job will definitely still be there for me. I appreciate I'm very lucky to have the choice!

mister I don't have experience but my mum went back to work when I was 3m old and I was in full time childcare 8-6 mon-fri. I turned out fine! I went to a childminder's - she looked after several children under the age of 5 in her own home so lots Of interaction with other kids which was great when I was a bit older. I wouldn't worry too much plenty of women got back to work early and don't take a year. I will be taking 9m which includes a month before birth so baby will go into childcare at 8m

Yes mister, I know some people do experience symptom easing but it's unusual for me. With dd, I was constantly sick or terribly nauseous for nearly the entire first half of the pregnancy. With my last pg, my symptoms stopped at this point and I mc, which is why I'm worried. I know each pg is as different as the individual we are carrying but, for me, sickness equates to an ongoing pg.

Hugs back atcha want

Broody. Will they give you an emergency scan for that?

broody I hope it's just your symptoms easing. Try to enjoy your birthday.

I have been relatively symptom free for a while. Apart from tiredness. I cannot get enough sleep atm

10+ 6

Broody, I totally understand why you are worried, really hope it's nothing and your symptoms come back with a vengeance tomorrow to wish you a happy birthday. I know that has happened to a few people on this thread.

When I had my 12 week scan last time I definitely didn't need a full bladder, in fact she made me go to the loo first so I won't be worrying about that this time round. Which is good as I am terrible for needing to go at the best of times.

We have spent over 4 hours travelling today (still going) to see a friend for 2 1/2. I just love the M25!

mister I can take 20 weeks full pay with job security. I could extend to 30 weeks but it will be 10 weeks unpaid and the potential of not going back to my job should they need to reshuffle staff around (very rare but it can happen).

I know I'll take my 20 weeks and DC will go to nursery from 20 weeks. Unfortunately not the same as DS as it's a bit further and there's another one next to DS's school.

20 weeks full pay is amazing!

broody my symptoms come and go, I spent all day yesterday telling everyone about how my sickness has stopped only for it to come back with a vengeance today! Sending lots of positive vibes your way x

Update - I've puked and am feeling bloody horrid. Hoorah!

Thanks for listening today, ladies, I know you're probably thinking I'm a stupid worry wart but honestly, can't even consider mc again, it would kill me.

You are not being stupid Broody. I'm thinking just the same.

mister, you only get 10 to 12 weeks of maternity leave after the birth over here, so it is very common for young babies to be in full time care. I don't know how mums do it...

Great news Broody, hurrah for feeling terrible!

Hurrah Broody! Nobody thinks you're stupid, I'm sure we've all had our moments of all-consuming worry (I know I have even though I've been lucky enough not to have previous losses to make it worse). I'm only trying to reassure as, from outside the situation, I know that stressing won't change anything and is no good for you. Totally appreciate how hard it is to step out of it when you're feeling like that though.

Wow that is short fatty, nearly as bad as the US. We are very lucky with our leave here and I appreciate lots of people wouldn't have the choices I have. DS started nursery at a year and it was ok, if a bit traumatic to start with but that was only part time and not sure how I would have managed to leave him there when he was younger (not to mention he was still breastfeeding every 2-3 hours until about 10 months!) He goes to a childminder now which he mostly loves, but I just couldn't imagine leaving a baby there. She works with an assistant and has lots of after-school kids, so it's just too busy for such a little one I think, she doesn't have any other babies. I might suggest that DH take a career break this time to avoid the issue, don't see why I should be the only one conflicted between what's best for family and what's best for my career! Also shared parental leave is coming in isn't it? So I guess DH and I could share the year of leave to make things a bit easier on my work.

mister I don't know myself what I'm taking yet, I need to ask work what my options are and then I'll work things out. But one of my friends had a baby last year (well his wife did) and she only took 6m then the baby went to a childminders. This was because she had only been in her new job which she had been head-hunted for, for about 5m before she fell pg and was a Manager of a brand new team to the company, so she didn't want to risk the team losing respect for her for being away for a year when she was only just starting to build it up. I think it's really personal choice what you do, but if it were me I would be thinking a promotion, with more hours now, would be a great way of adding pennies to the pop for baby fund... Maybe work out how much childminders/nursery is near to you and compare that to the difference in salary to see what would be better for you later on?

stone are you in the UK? If so you can take 6 months maternity and legally they have to give you your job back, over 6 months and they have to give you an equivalent job. You would also get stat mat pay after the 20 weeks.

mister it's a tough decision. Why do you feel like you would have to go back sooner if you took the promotion? I was promoted whilst off on maternity leave last time but didn't return any earlier. I went back full time when dd1 was 7.5 months, but she was full time with my MIL.

I'll be taking off until March 2016 as PIL are away for the whole of Feb so we need childcare for dd1 anyway. Most will be maternity, some annual leave. I finished at 34 weeks last time as I started to struggle with the commute and pressure, so may finish at a similar time this time. It's will be easier to take longer this time though as my company have just enhanced their maternity package and because I've been there so long it's pretty good now. I just had stat mat pay last time.

broody hate to say it but glad your feeling sick again

I'm slowly getting better. Seems to be taking a while and I'm still completely wiped out but getting there.

On another note, after telling my family yesterday, I found out me and my two Dsis's birth weights... Apparently my Mum's side of the family all had small babies, and me and my sisters were 4lb8 (me - eldest) 5lb8 (dsis1) and 6lb8 (dsis2). My Nan (mum's side) said her babies were on the smaller side too, I think she said around 6lb for all 5 DCs. So I'm REALLY hoping this follows trend and I get a similar sized baby rather than 8-10lb!!! I'm yet to find out how much DH weighed when born, but he thinks he was smaller too, so fingers crossed!

MIL is staying with us at the moment. She told me that she never had any morning sickness with her 4 pregnancies, in fact she felt better when she was pregnant than normal. DH was 9 lb 12!

No symptoms today except I'm tired and very thirsty all day.

Pipbin it's quite normal at this stage for symptoms to calm down. Also I had 4 days of no symptoms a week ago then they came back with a vengeance. If you're worried ask mw but I think it's quite normal. My nausea has gone abc I'm feeling much better.

Don't pee on sticks it just causes anxiety. Try not to worry

11+1

pip my mum said the same to me! She said with all three of her pregnancies she had no symptoms at all, no sickness or anything and worked right up until when when her waters broke as we were all "early" and she was feeling fine. Also had quick & easy births. My nan said the same thing, that my mum was really lucky with all of her pregnancies, apparently she was only in labour for a FEW HOURS each time! Wishful thinking hey!?

nature I'm in Guernsey, Channel Islands and I'm a civil servant. 20w is good over here as some private businesses get less than that.

Not sure how much difference family birth weights make DMum smoked in pg with me and Dsis we were 6lb.
dP was about 8lb
DD 7lb10 (slightly early)
Dn were 6lb and 9lb - poss gest diabetes.
Both Grandfathers were 10lb+
The size of baby is maybe more to do with your blood glucose control (mine isnt good). But also how early baby is etc.
Anyway it doesnt always make birth easier/harder that seems to be position and hip shape etc.
As arent 2nd babies quicker but also often heavier?

naty I'd heard second babies are often bigger and quicker. Had a quick birth with dd1 and she was 9 lb so not sure what to expect with this one!

Bigger babies are sometimes easier to birth as the weight of them helps.