July thread - we are nearing the end of the first trimester, announcements will be made soon!

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New thread, as the other one was nearly full! Can someone please post the stats page, as I'm useless with things like that!

Ooh can't see all the scans as on my phone, will have to check back on the laptop later!

Lovely pictures ladies! It does surprise me that you can definitely tell there's a baby in there- it's really remarkable how quickly the beans grow.

Vain question- what did you wear to your scans? I don't fancy having to strip off, would jeans and jumper be ok?

Fleur if you're having external you just pull jeans down a bit and pull top up. I just wore leggings and long jumper

Had my 12 week scan today , measuring 11 weeks 2 days so I've got another scan booked for the 30th so I can have the Down's syndrome test. Scan went well, we have a very active baby! X

Thats strange bustherb as on my sheet that is right on the acceptable end 11+2. I guess they think it wont be as accurate.

Fleur, bare (sp) in mind it coukd end up internal if youre having NT and babys in wrong position.

Ladies, I need your help! Especially those who have previous child but this their OH first child.

Right after last times mental breakdown, I feel very strongly I need to feel in control. I have told my other half it is my wises are

1. I don't the DS screening as I'd rather deal with news once babies here, as I can't bear the idea of being a complete wreck for the remainder of my pregnancy and also all the drugs and peri natal mental health stuff I'd be subjected too.
2. I don't want to know the sex, mainly because I have no preference and I think it will be much more special, also I flipping hate cliched pastel baby clothes (the idea of a wardrobe full of baby blue or pink is enough to make me run for the hills)

Tonight's he's rang and said he feels like he has no say, he understands but he would much rather me have the test and find out the sex. We had a rather frustrating phone call that just went round in circles.

I kinda feel my mental health is way more important than anything else, any ideas, suggestions would be massively helpful

Tia all x

Oh naty1 that is strange. She said I have to be 11&3 for the testing, she did check the back of the neck and said it was small but said at this stage they can't be accurate. X

Its difficult no reason for the sex, that wont change anything.
The DS is more difficult as you need to be on the same page about keeping a baby, looking after it.
Maybe he feels he would like a say in knowing if there is something wrong so he can adjust.
I think its a very difficult situation as the decision to keep the baby is ultimately the womans but they both are responsible for it.
If you would never do anything about it, it may be best not to know.
I found once i knew the odds were low i just forgot about it completely, yes there is always the chance but it meant i could make decisions if i wanted to.

But he needs to realise this is one thing/3 trisomies being tested for and there are lot of other possible issues with a baby you cant identify in advance and could be more severe.
Your MH is very important though and he needs to understand you are the one carrying with all the stress that causes.

Bust very interesting my letter says 11+2. I think its probably it can be done but as you say more accurate in the middle of the range.
The letter says from .. To. .. But nhs says between.
You may find the baby has 'caught up' by next scan anyway a bit.

When i was looking at my date of 14+1 it said it went down in abilty to measure from 95% to 90% at that time due to baby moving to different position etc and the measurement might be less accurate.

Hi all. Great scan pics! I had some spotting today so I'm booked in for a scan tomorrow when I'll be 10w. Really hoping everything is ok.

Fx Tiny xx

Good luck Tiny.

Hope it goes well today tiny.

Fx for you tiny

Ugh I feel rotten today. It is getting worse! Had DH work Xmas do last night - 3 course dinner - could only manage a bread roll and fruit salad. Felt so sick! Then this morning I wake up feeling sick but revving t the same time. Forced some cereal down and feel a little better, now nibbling on oatcakes... I hope I can eat my Xmas dinner next week! I find oatcakes are doing well so here's hoping :)

9+0 - into month 3 woohoo!

Hope everything's ok tiny

I am also feeling worse, I just feel hungover. Ugg

10 weeks today and baby is officially a foetus, woohoo!

leela hungover is good description! Nauseous, dodgy tummy yet also kind of hungry...

I'm 12+0 today

Feel completely fine beyond not being able to drink coffee

11 weeks today and been feeling rotten again last few days (since flu jab). Had to call in sick for last day at work, with important meeting and Christmas party! Feeling sorry for myself, and feel like I've let everyone down.

In other news, apparently hospital new electronic records system means they are in appointment meltdown. MW is going to ring hospital get me a fast track scan appointment. "Pants" is the word that springs to mind when thinking of antenatal care in my area!!

tiny fx

Morning ladies, migraine is still on and off 3days later, hence why been quiet. Been taking 2 lots of paracetamol a day to keep it down, but seriously considering asking Dr's if I can take one of my super dooper migraine tabs DH was ill again last night too and has said he's not going to his work xmas do tonight now just in case.

On another note, I have all of DH's family over tomorrow for early xmas dinner. So I'll be cooking roast for 8 which I've never done before. We're also going to tell them at the same time, so I'm really really nervous! They'll be the first to find out bar bosses. Just wish I'd already had my 12wk scan to make me feel that tinsy bit more confident though DH reckons it wouldn't make any difference to how I feel as I'm a big worrier

Oops 10+5

FX Tiny

I am having quite sharp stabbing pains again today. No particular side, I really don't like it. I still feel very nauseous if I don't eat, but if I do eat I feel bloated and yuck? anyone else like this?

itsnotthatdeep This is DC3 for me, DC1 for OH.
We discussed the testing, we both want to know so we can deal with the outcome together.

As for the sex, this is causing a bit of a problem for me.
OH keeps going on and on about it being a boy, he is massively into footy (coaches, is a PE teacher, and footy is basically his life). He seems absolutely adamant it will be a boy.
I said to him before that it was upsetting me as I feel like he won't be interested if it is a girl. He said of course he will, but it will give him time to get his 'head around it'
This worries me as my ex was totally uninvolved with both of my pregnancies, he came to one scan (DC1) and never came to another appointment again. Infact, he wasn't even there for my DDs birth!
(He came to see her the next day - we were still together at this point)

OH has said he is only kidding, he doesn't mean it, he would love a girl but you know how guys always want a boy first. I got pissed off with it and feeling a little mean I told him I have a gut feeling it is a girl (half true)
He now keeps asking if I still think it is a girl!

Now I don't want to be too harsh on him, he is a bit younger than me, this is his first long term relationship and he is a very lovely guy, I just think he needs to stop saying it's going to be a boy because I feel like it is pressure on me?

I did say to him that if it is a girl then that's down to him as his sperm is the one that decides. I also said I am not finding out the sex if he carries on, he looked devastated haha

Am I being mean? he is mega excited, I know he will be a great Dad, I just don't want him to feel at all disappointed if it is a girl?

That sounds bad doesn't it?

I think the truth is, he worries if he has a girl as then he will have to deal with issues such as boys later on in life!!

Ahh, just called the hospital and there are no other available scan appointments within my dates for nuchal scan, so they said I just can't have one They have booked me a dating scan for 9th Jan and said I can have some blood tests at 16 weeks to test for down's syndrome (anyone know what this is?) or suggested I get a private scan. I'm pretty annoyed, I informed them so early about the pregnancy and they didn't even get back to me for over a month, now change the scan last minute to the one day in my 3 week slot that I can't make with no other options don't know what to do.

Number3 - my DH was so keen for a boy first. Was doing similar things etc. I had a very strong feeling baby was a girl, which was confirmed at the 20 week scan.
He was obviously a little disappointed, which drove me nuts. Especially after everything we'd been through to get her! Wasn't interested in clothes shopping etc. Grrr.

BUT, as soon as she arrived, he completely fell in love with her. He adores her. They have so much fun together. And this time round.... He's hoping for another girl!

I kinda wish he could have been more excited before she was born, but I guess he just couldn't picture it.

Try not to worry. Whatever flavour baby is, he will adore baby.

Mister- could you ask to go on a cancellation list? They must have them (sadly) and if you can be available short notice, this may help?

That's appalling! Can they refer you to another hospital? I can't believe they can just throw their hands up and go 'oh well, nope, can't do it!' and get away with it...