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April 2015 (and some Marchies) miscarriage survivors... can't believe we're half way there

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TinyTear · 09/12/2014 20:28

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Woohoo

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LittleBairn · 06/02/2015 18:13

Forgot to add I managed to get good reflux meds for the dr last night and today are the longest I've been free of reflux since conception!

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LittleBairn · 06/02/2015 18:14

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Shetland · 06/02/2015 19:31

That's good little My reflux has started in earnest now - though tbh I think I've been lucky so evade it til now, and gaviscon is doing the trick so far.

3 weeks left at work!

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TinyTear · 06/02/2015 20:59

All packed and ready to go... We have a long day tomorrow..

1 h on the bus to Edinburgh, then a little break to meet a friend for lunch, then train for close to 5 hours and then we either get a bus or just splash for a cab, depending how knackered I feel...

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LittleBairn · 06/02/2015 21:35

Tiny goodness I hope you get time to nap on the train. I've done that journey a few times its exhausting.

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Toucanet · 08/02/2015 02:56

Hi again ladies, sorry to see reflux & other troubles. Lucky so far with just occasional reflux & cramp here. Gross Pregnacare fish oil repeating more annoying.

Tiny hope you had a smooth journey. I found it passed quickly in Aug coming back -once the lager-swilling loudmouths got off at Preston.-

LIG good luck for a retest. Thankfully my GTT was ok (body so used to high chocolate intake that processes it efficiently)?

Bump a lot bigger the last 2 weeks. Reassured by 28-wk scan (+ being more obvious'd be ridiculous to try & hide it still), so more relaxed at work since. Though not flaunting either & 3 more people told hadn't noticed (genuinely)! Mostly sat unobtrusively/often out of office though. Think one woman's clocked it but not said anything. Perhaps should wear tight top Monday to bring it in the open/get that conversation over. Just not sure what to say if people comment re keeping it quiet. Boss told Director who congratulated me late one night re being a dark horse - ended up admitting to her lost a couple hence caution - but not sure want everyone to know. (Only few days off sick & working from home with them unnoticed what with often being out anyway. And thankfully? on holiday when embarrassing leak/flood from retained placenta 7 weeks after the 2nd)! S'pose comment re cautious as things can go wrong/till felt it or something will do (particularly given colleague's wife's stillbirth). Providing don't say more/get upset.

DH finally told a few more colleagues! :) Though still nervous of others' (real or imagined) ridicule due to his old age. Think has realised that can get some helpful comments. We've still not bought any more than clothes, though booked a session at John Lewis.

Little sympathy re the bump - definitely mine getting in the way now too - twice I've opened a door onto it! Must adjust spatial awareness! Going to book a wax late March.

30 weeks today :) (7 more at work)?

Toucanet · 08/02/2015 03:17

Babie cross-post, what a scare, sorry to hear that. Glad they're on top of it and got a plan. Hope still a fair chance she'll turn herself?

(Breech-footling here too, at 28wks anyway (& placenta still low), but 2w4d behind you. Unsure re movement - anterior placenta doesn't help but movements seem more first thing and last thing anyway that not feeling anything for ~7hrs mid-late Sat didn't worry me excessively. Not really got a pattern as such though). But thank goodness you acted on it & went in!

Smiling forgot to congratulate you on finishing work, even if you were torn about leaving your charges. Enjoy focusing on you now :)

TinyTear · 08/02/2015 08:14

Trip wasn't too bad but we came home to water marks on bedroom ceiling and a drip!! Ahrgh. We have an upside down flat so might be the washing machine, a pipe or a heater pipe up in the kitchen. DH will look into it first and then we will have to call someone. Gah!!

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StuntNun · 08/02/2015 08:16

Toucanet my DH hasn't told anyone at work except his manager. I'm wondering exactly how he's going to break the news.

Toucanet · 08/02/2015 16:16

Oops Tiny, though suppose better now than in a few weeks! Hope it's a straightforward fix.

Stuntnun at least the manager can plan! But yes he'll have to let some know pretty soon won't he, even if only planning 1/2 weeks paternity leave not Shared Parental or anything longer? I thought the longer mine waited the odder/sadder it would seem to people so might as well try and act confident & get it over with, not sure how he did phrase it though (fwiw he's 49 & contemporaries do seem to have kids ~8-18).

(We're still waiting on work policies re SPL but think he's not really keen, though if his enhances it might make sense for him to take some not me once I'm on SMP). We'll see. Definitely still anxious about baby health/viability but worries re birth & after on the increase!

TinyTear · 08/02/2015 20:56

Fingers crossed it's OK now... It was the in pipe to the washing machine... We changed it and did a few test loads...

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LittleBairn · 08/02/2015 21:33

babies glad your reflux has improved hopefully you are sleeping better. That sounds like a scary situation!

Toucant I understand the awkwardness of telling people and wondering if they would understand why you haven't shared the news. I'm lucky in that I can hide at home so I can avoid most people.
Other than my PIL none if the in-laws know because PIL don't want them to know just incase the baby dies. Hmm
My mind too is starting to worry about things going wrong later, I worry about this baby not being active enough being a 'sign' but logically I know its because of my anterior placenta.

My DH is 46 he's not too bothered about being an older dad but I do wonder if we have more children (not too likely) would he be more bothered when he's 50+. He says most people are just shocked when they realise he has a much younger wife. Grin

LittleBairn · 08/02/2015 21:34

Tiny oh no what a miserable home coming after such a long journey. Kets hope its just a minor issue.

30 weeks today!

Toucanet · 08/02/2015 22:28

Little congrats to us on 30 weeks!

Most folk do know I'm ~10 yrs younger than him too :)

Also assuming that anterior placenta to blame though wish there was a count the kicks app that you just clicked and would record the time over the whole day. From what I've seen they're just a reminder to count them for x minutes which sometimes could give several sometimes none. If looked for 10 in 2 hrs would be calling the mw every day!

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 09/02/2015 09:11

Yayyyyyy for 30 weeks little and toucan Grin

DP is 12 years older than me, he will have a newborn, a 12 year old and a 17 year old Shock he is so excited about this baby he tells everyone, I can't imagine having to keep it a secret, not that I could my bump is huge, I keep bashing it on door frames Confused

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TinyTear · 09/02/2015 09:20

door frames here for me too!!

i open doors and then wonder why I can't get through!

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TeaandHobnobs · 09/02/2015 09:35

And me - yesterday I clunked into one of those massive iron latches on really old doors (at church). Flipping heck, that hurt Sad. And I am always misjudging how much space I need in order to get out of the car when I park in the car park!

Hope everything is sorted at home now Tiny. And big congrats on making it to 30 weeks Little, that's awesome Smile. Hope you are resting Babies and little one can hang on a bit longer. DD is breech too - I have a MW appointment tomorrow (35+4), so if she hasn't turned by then, I guess I'll be referred back to the hospital for a presentation scan. Spending my evenings hanging upside-down off a chair trying to get her to flip!

As luck would have it, I have a totally manic two weeks of work now. And my dad was admitted to hospital at the weekend, because his pressure sores have become so bad. At least he is in the ward directly opposite the delivery suite Smile

Have a good Monday everyone! Brew

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 09/02/2015 11:02

Sorry to hear about your dad tea

I've been sitting on my birthing ball as that's supposed to help the baby turn, he did turn on Friday evening, I felt him but the little bugger turned back an hour later.

I'm starting to panic slightly now as if he's breech I won't be able to have a home birth.

TeaandHobnobs · 09/02/2015 13:51

smiling I'm on my ball too Smile She did shift into a different position at the weekend, but I still don't think she has turned head down. I desperately want her to turn because otherwise it is ECV, which I'm really not comfortable about, or ELCS, which I really don't want (but will have if I have to). I kind of feel that I am owed a nice normal birth after last time though, dammit!

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 09/02/2015 14:00

I'm refusing to allow them to try and turn him, the statistics of it actually working are too low for my liking so I've come to terms with the fact if he doesn't turn I will be having an ELCS.

I know he turned into the right position I felt his head drop down so It's given me hope he will do it again. I was breech till 37 weeks so he is possibly just awkward like his mother Grin

EbwyIsUpTheDuff · 09/02/2015 14:24

ELCS isn't that bad, it's quite peaceful really.

I hope for you that the babies turn, but don't stress if theydon't.

StuntNun · 09/02/2015 16:16

Smiling have you looked at the Spinning Babies website?

TeaandHobnobs · 09/02/2015 16:26

Agreed smiling - I had a read of the RCOG / NICE / RCM info on ECV (wish I could remember which it was now!) and it seems the success rate is

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 09/02/2015 16:51

I tried spinning babies but found the positions so uncomfortable they weren't sustainable for long.

My midwife told me sitting upright opens up the pelvis allowing space to encourage beanie to move and the best position is sitting on a birthing ball, it's really helping my hips too so that's a bonus.

Plan A is baby turns and we go for a home birth.

Plan B he stays breech and I book in for an ELCS

We found out on Saturday that DP can stay with me on the ward so I'm now much happier if I do end up having to go in.