April 2015 (and some Marchies) miscarriage survivors... can't believe we're half way there

[TinyTear]

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Oooooooo great suggestion Little! Just looked up the instructions to mine online, and it looks like the bag of bolts and barrel nuts we found at my mum's house the other day do in fact belong to the crib and not to the cotbed we have at her house (as I thought they did). I am saved!

We just built an ordinary crib (it is actually the Saplings Space Saver Cot as that was the biggest "cot" we could fit in our room at the time) without the drop side on, and pushed it up against our bed and tied it to our bed frame, stuffing a rolled up towel/blanket down the far side of the cot mattress to make sure it was flush to ours. It happened to be exactly the right height, but my dad was all poised to make some new holes if we needed to adjust the base height. Suited DS until he was 8/9m (as he was little).

I'm afraid I've indulged a little and bought a second Ewan the Dream Sheep - DS still has his at bedtime, so I didn't want to pinch it for his little sister! I had to ask specially for an old version one, as they've recently changed the harp music setting on it, and I don't like the new one I have fond memories of us all drifting off to sleep to the harp melody on many nights...

Hello,

When we couldn’t find some of the cot screws we managed to get some online. Look slightly different but you wouldn’t know unless you knew what they were meant to look at.

Got an appointment with the doctor tomorrow at the diabetes clinic. Spoke to the mw about retesting but she was quite adamant it cannot be done. However, did say that if my blood sugar was under control I could still give birth in the midwife led unit but wouldn’t commit to being able to leave immediately after birth. Said the doctor could discuss it with me. I am still going to discuss getting re-tested with the doctor and also have print outs with how the GTT shouldn’t be done when ill. I am still quite angry with myself for doing what the midwife said rather than going with my own instinct and waiting until I was feeling and eating better. If it is genuine GD I am happy to do what is best for the baby but do not want to go through all the grief for something that is very borderline and most likely explained by being ill, losing weight and living off ice cream, fruit juice and sweets for a week. Not sure what I will do if I have to stay in for 24 hours after the birth though…..I hated every minute in the hospital and didn’t get any sleep last time I was in the hospital.

I'm going to get a Ewan the sheep tea - a lot of people on my ante/post natal thread with DD2 had them and swore by them. As we need pretty nothing for this baby I shan't feel guilty indulging!

LIG Good luck with the doctor - not sure what the midwife means by can't be done?! Surely 'not willing to do it' would be more accurate?

Little I already have the instruction manual. Unfortunately I can't buy the drop sides plastic plates anywhere. And DH couldn't find the middle plates and top plates :(

Tea what a good find!

LIG I hope that your doctor has more sense than the midwife. Is she saying no purely because of the costs of the test?

I would like to co-sleep with Bunny. Unfortunately my budget can't stretch to the bedside nest/ crib. I do have DS's old moses basket but it's been in my mum's loft for the last 7 years. How can I clean it and make it hygienic for Bunny?

It would be silly if it was the cost of the test since I imagine regular growth scans, testing my blood sugar, heel prick tests post birth, keeping us in hospital for 24 hours is much more expensive than re-doing a GTT. (However, maybe it is out of different budgets or something equally silly in the NHS.) I think it is more that I have now ticked a box for borderline GD and they cannot undo it. But hopefully a doctor will have a bit more autonomy than a midwife allowing him/her to be a bit more sensible. I would however like another scan to see ds as not had anything since 20 weeks. (Ironically with dd, I had a growth scan at 30 weeks because my bump was too small! This time my bump is spot on for weeks but I have gained slightly less weight but more has gone on the bump so I am slimmer elsewhere .)

I don't think you need a co-sleeper to co-sleep although I imagine it is pretty cosy. I do know quite a few people who just sleep in the same bed with their kids. (I know one couple with a 5 and 2 year old and they all sleep in the same bed at some point over the night. It does sound like musical beds as they all seem to move around when they get uncomfortable. On the rare occasions I have co-slept with dd, I usually oust dh! Our king size is not big enough for the 3 of us.

London we have just sent our buggy to buggypit stop and also sent the carry cot which ds will sleep in. I think it will work out around £100 in total but we should then have a nice clean & serviced buggy and carry cot for his arrival. They are based in London so there should be one near you.

Tea euan the dream sheep is pretty popular. We just had waves on the monitor for dd - need to figure out what to buy for ds. Maybe one of them is a good idea. I drop lots of monitors so have decided there is no point in buying the pricey ones with sounds/lights etc. because we only ever used the waves on dd's one and then broke it pretty quickly.

Tea yay I'm glad I was useful.

LIG I would ask to speak to the head of midwifery for your area they usually have more power so she can agree that if you blood sugars are stable then you and baby can leave. Get it in writing too.
Try not feel angry with yourself its difficult standing up to them when they are putting on so much pressure and you are ill.

London The mosses basket will be absolutely fine. It's reccomended that you get a new mattress I've seen some online for as little as £8.
In regards to the co-sleeping crib. I certainly won't be buying a new one they are so expensive. The NCT do 6 month rentals for £100+.

I will probably actually co-sleep in bed but I was thinking more for naps. Or if DD is premature so very tiny plus by the point of getting home used to her own space/crib.
I'm just a ridiculous planner, I need to control my urge to plan for all eventualities!

I've just hoovered and wiped down the moses basket, washed all the linen and bought a new mattress. With DS I had it up next to the bed and did a mixture of co sleeping in bed with us and him being in there. I hope to do something similar this time. We have a super king size bed, and can have the baby in between the pillows, so no danger of ending up under the covers too far or overheating.

Lig it sounds like a real pain in the arse if you're borderline. I hope you get a better result from your consultant. Mine has been great recently and has relaxed about my age, but it's taken some time to get there.

Really knackered atm and having some pains. Kind of hoping to be early, but really want to hold on til 37+, otherwise I'll have to go to hospital.

36+1

Thanks little that is good advice. Sorry you have had so much experience with standing up for yourself with the medical professionals and know who to talk to. I am not really sure where to begin. Hopefully, tomorrow the doctor will be good tanny and be reasonable and at least allow a re-test or some budge room if I turn out to not have GD. It is also in the NHS' interest to not waste money and resources if not necessary.

It's finally here, my last day at work, Just 7 hours left

Enjoy your last few hours smiling

I'm currently lounging in bed while my mum cleans the house. Talk about being spoilt!

I'm being very unproductive I am dealing with the plasterer and several deliveries of radiators, bricks, flooring and a hearth and I've done some washing, apart from that I haven't done anything apart from clock watching.

It doesn't help that I was up most of the night with a wriggly baby, he was very active between 1 and 4 then I had heartburn but never mind from tomorrow I can nap whenever I want

Yay Smiling

Little you have a fab mummy!

Ok someone slap me, 30 mins to go and I'm hiding in the bathroom trying not to cry I'm crying I so need mat leave and I'm planning on coming back but I feel like I'm leaving my charges

Don't cry!!! You will come back soon. Give them a massive hug and email photos of the baby...

Smiling, you did it! I understand the tears, but you will feel relief in the morning, I guarantee it...

I cried all over poor DP when I got home but I'm ok now. The relief that I don't have to get up early and go to work is overwhelming

I've reached a new milestone ladies....I can no longer see my fanny over my bump.
I'm not sure when that happened, I wish I realised it was going to happen I would have put more of an effort to get myself in order.

little that's quite a milestone Just wait till you can no longer see your feet even when laying down, DP keeps calling me the yeti because my legs are so hairy! He does shave them for me occasionally bless him

Little that's an amazing milestone! One I can identify with. Preparing to take DS swimming the other day was made tricky as I had no idea where any stragglers were! I'm not particularly neat down there at the best of times, but for public appearances I tend to make a bit of an effort! Well, did what I could and had to hope that the bump was enough of a distraction

I want a mum like yours! Mine comes round and wants me to entertain her, never offers to do something "useful" and then leaves me to clear up after her.

One more day, one more day... Can't wait to go back home... A week at the MIL is too much!!

I can't bear to be away for more than a night by this stage! Impressed by a week

That is why we came now and not later in the month...

We took the office to have the warmest room but the sofa bed there has been terrible for my hips... And DD has been teeth grinding in her sleep and I hate the sound!!! Ahhhhhh

smiling my legs were full on yeti too I only delt with it because of my compression stockings were making me itchy. So sweet that your DP will help you out I might need to get DP to help at some point.

tanny I'm sure the bump hid it all.

tiny enjoy your last night. A sofa bed must be agony when your pregnant.
I'm going to have to visit the in-laws for 2 weeks once the baby is born. Thankfully they haven't pressurised us over it.