April 2015 (and some Marchies) miscarriage survivors... can't believe we're half way there

[TinyTear]

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Woohoo

22+3

Just had another consultant appointment... GAH bloody woman, had a different one than the other times and she spoke to me as if I was dim

And then was saying how they want all babies to be on the 50th centile line and mine was too high for the abdominal circumference...

i know she has a big tummy and probably because i hadn't started dealing with the GD but don't speak to me as if i was dim, i know centiles and if everyone was on the 50th they would need to change the charts!

ahhhrgh

Good on you smiling
not long to go now!

little my birth plan last time was just "no pethidine" in essence... i had more padding, but that was the only thing i really wanted

Stupid woman tiny does she not realise not everyone is the same.

little my birth plan sounded bossy and rude so I decided not to use it, instead I've told DP exactly what I want to happen and what I'll agree to if that isn't possible, then I made him repeat it back to me twice. I do realise things change and I might not get the birth I want but the important thing to me is to be treated as an individual not just part of a conveyor belt and I need to know he will support me and be my advocate if I'm not able to say what I want.

The NHS choices website has a birth plan you can fill in, it's tick boxes so might not be as harsh little

3 more days left at work, I'm not sure I could go on much longer I'm just glad I only work part time, well only 3 days a week I still work 36 hours.

My first antenatal class is on Saturday, it now seems very close to finally getting to meet my baby, I still can't quite believe ive made it this far.

32+4

And I am 2 days way from the magic 30

Thanks tea - I wouldn't know where to start with hypnobirthing - I will look at your things. Not sure how good I would be without a class as I tend to find that sort of thing funny. Dh and I couldn't stop giggling during breathing classes in our nct class -maybe that is why I went into such a panic in labour. But I think I should at least give it a go. I don't remember the transition last time as I was too drugged up on pethidine.

Smiling - glad the mw has got involved with what you do at work. Not long now till you finish!!!!

Tiny - you are rightfully annoyed about the percentiles! Will you have more scans for your gd?

Little - your pregnancy will feel like the longest one ever as you haven't had the distraction of every day life and you have been counting off each day. For me as I get further along it gets quicker and quicker as the worry of mc starts to go down but you haven't had that. I imagine the stress must be pretty draining after all these weeks too. So good you are past the really critical days and every day is a bonus.

I had my mw appointment earlier. My bump is perfect size which is good, after a small bump last time, I was worried that it was so much bigger this time and I may need growth scans for a large bump. Have agreed to do my gtt tomorrow but a bit worried that my diet of fruit, juice and ice cream may have impacted it. I guess if I do fail it I can refuse treatment and ask to get it redone when I am fully better and not eating vast amounts of sugar. I just cannot face proper food at the moment. Haven't eaten meat all week!

36 hours is full time smiling! Isn't 37 a normal working week?

I have never worried too much about a birth plan as if I put the effort into it, I would want to follow it and get annoyed if I couldn't. Last time - My idea of a water birth went out during labour as a warm bath was incredibly annoying. They offered pethidine and I was desperate for anything to take the edge off the pain so said yes and the next few hours is a blur. I was adamant I did not want an epidural but ended up in theatre with a retained a placenta and they gave me one after the birth. It was lovely and I wish I hadn't gone through birth without one. I think this time I would choose an epidural over pethidine but ideally just want gas and air so I can go straight home from the delivery suite. Just hoping this one doesn't go back to back during labour and get stuck!

In the nannying world lig I'm a part timer, I was still classed as part time when I worked 4 days (48 hours) because I had a day off according to the agency advertising the job

yep, next scan in 2 weeks at 32

Tiny I found it was often the femal Obs that spoke to me like I was dim.
It is so bloody patronising.

The nannying world is very odd the average working week when I was in London was 60-70 hours anything less than 40 and others though you had an easy life.

LIG I do certainly have stressful days due to too much time to think about all the dreadful scenarios. I do try and keep myself busy but as time goes on there is only so much tv, Internet, reading and knitting one person can do. The thing I miss most is cooking.

I don't think I would try pethadine I've heard to many people say it made them feel awful.
I do love the Gas & Air so hopefully I will mange with it.
I had a local for my stitch and I was suprised by how much I hated being unable to move so not sure how I would feel about an epidural.
But I've got a feeling they will want me to have it in early just in case I need theater due to my reflux sickness (and vomiting in surgery with my stitch) they really don't want to have to give me a General.

It not so much a birth plan my situation is so unpredictable it would be pointless anyway. More of a case of basic guidelines that they are suppose to follow but conveniently forget about consent for VEs that sort of thing.

smiling I agree I don't want to come across as rude but I do feel the medics sometimes need a reminder that we are people too not just an incubator that the birth experience can have a serious long term impact on a woman.
I really hate the whole "well as long as the baby is ok" of course that's the main thing but it shouldn't be an excuse to leave women traumatised.

After not being hungry for days and I am 1 hour into my 12 hour gtt fast and now I feel hungry!!!

I've been a bit awol for a while, sorry, but I have been lurking. Glad everyone is still here and chugging along!

I've had a hard couple of weeks just trying to get my head around the fact that we're having a baby soon. Sounds daft, but I've been so anxious about staying pg, that what happens at the end had seemed like a fantasy!
I've done a bit of navel gazing (those movements are fascinating!) and started to prepare a bit more, so can join in now without scaring myself...

I had a mw appt today and my growth has been slow this week so I'm back next week for another measure and to discuss my birth plan. I've had both extremes with epidural and monitoring all the way through for my first and water birth with gas and air for my second. They were both fine and remembered fondly, but I'd like to see if I can do water birth again at my local centre as option one.

I promise to join in more!

35+2

That percentile comment is almost funny tiny -she clearly doesn't understand how averages work!
Funnily enough though, a friend of mine had an almost identical comment from her consultant. Weird.

Wow - 3 days smiling - hope they fly by. Glad the housework is off the list now.

I had pethedine first time round - made me feel a bit sick but did pretty much nothing else! I didn't have an epidural then but wished I had, but second time round was so quick there wasn't any time to have anything at all. I will have an epidural this time if I think I need it.
My birth plan usually says 'get baby out' I don't want to set my heart on a particular plan because it can all go out of the window and this way I can't be disappointed!

28+0

I had epi last time... Loved it... :-)
This was after contractions on and off for a few days and trying just gas and air...

But I was induced and had the drip and I think it is more painful

Hi babiecakes mil is staying out of my way I think she realises I'm about to snap.
I have next Mon, Tues and Thurs left to work then I am on holiday for a week before mat leave kicks in.

DP is out with a friend and despite the fact that I'm really tired I can't sleep, I keep listening out for him coming home. Also as lovely as it is to spread out in bed my hips are really painful as he isn't here to prop me up, pillows aren't solid enough.

Last day of work tomorrow!

Pleased you're hanging in there Babie, although it sounds as if you may be first to graduate.

Smiling am completely about the hrs you work, roll on next week, eh?

Enjoy your last day at work tanny

I am off for a week next week (woohoo) but then still have to work until the 13th March...

tanny I'm so jealous that today's your last day

I'm still in bed, I got up to fed the dog and let her out in the garden for a wee then came back up, I don't seem to have any energy today.

That's feed the dog obviously

Can't quite believe that's it! Done! No work for six months!

Yay Tanny I'm so jealous

I still have another 10 weeks to go

27+5

Enjoy your rest while you can tanny