April 2015 (and some Marchies) miscarriage survivors... can't believe we're half way there

[TinyTear]

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22+3

Damnit, that's the problem with taking so long to post Sorry Ebwy! Will correct it now...

tannyLoo due date 03.03.15
teaandhobnobs due date 13.03.15
smiling Due date 23.03.15
Ebwy Due date 08.04.15
tinytear Due Date 11.04.15
Lig1979 due date 17.04.15
shetland due date 23.04.15
London Due date 26.04.15
StuntNun due date 27.04.15

tea i actually just phoned the GP and asked for the MATB1 to be left in reception. they didn't need to see me for that

Thanks tiny - I spoke to the MW on the phone last week, and she said she would leave it at reception for me, just need to go and find out if she did! But she is in the surgery today, so if she hasn't done so, I can ask her to do it today.

tea I'm sorry about your dad, my gran had horrific bedsores because she hated being turned, she said it made her feel like a pancake! We found this cream m.boots.com/h5/cat_hub?path=%2Fen%2FDrapolene-Cream-200g_1670%2F&unCountry=uk really helped them to heal much faster than the stuff the dr gave her. It's also the best nappy cream I've ever used for nappy rash.

Sorry your Dad's so bad tea It's awful isn't it :(

Wow - some of you are really quite close now! Can't believe we will have our first thread babies pretty soon!

Yes - it is very close for quite a few of you before the babies start to arrive? Are people ready? I have done very little. I do blame the mcs but not sure if I would have been any more organised even if I hadn't had them. Last time I had a partially packed hospital bag when I went into labour but in reality didn't need most of it.

Still ill and very fed up. Also, very bad timing work wise but really don't feel I can even work from home as my head is so foggy. Going to the doctor later but fairly sure she will tell me it will take time.

Tea, hope that your dad can hang on to meet your DD.

LIG , I hope that you feel better soon. If you need some sick leave, then take it. You've got to look after yourself and the baby.

I haven't got or done anything for Bunny. I'm planning to tidy up the spare room which is currently full of boxes of when we moved house last year . It's a mammoth task and I anticipate that it will take me all of February to clear out. I'm usually too tired in the evenings and can only work a few hours at the weekends before my back & hip start playing up :(

Then DH will have to paint the room in early March and we can start buying a new mattress and all other nursery stuff - I already have DS's cotbed. I'm aiming for the room to be ready by middle of March.

I will have my hospital bag packed by the time I'm 35 weeks - it's going to be a few busy weeks ahead :)

30 weeks today. I'm winning! (thought I was going into labour a couple of nights ago, was very worried. False alarm, though!)

Beanies nursery is done, he's hospital bag is packed, my bag is almost done and I've washed all his clothes, so I think I'm ready.

lig I hope your doctor is helpful and that you start to feel better soon, don't worry about work you and your baby are more important

I'm still hanging in there I had a really tough couple of days mentally but I had a good scan and chat with my consultant yesterday.
He's a really great Dr he was so reassuring that they will do their best to keep the number of people in the room to a minimum, quite likely 6 and only at the very end the paediatricians can wait outside till needed.
And now I'm past the magic 28 weeks the baby is less likely to be rushed away and once she leaves for neo-natal DH should be able to join her within 30 minutes.
So I'm feeling so much better.

Tea I'm so sorry about your dad I hope the bed sores improve. My grandfather was much the same way near the end with taking food supplements its so hard when they are stubborn like that and doing themselves so much harm.

smiling I'm sorry about your bosses I had a feeling they might act like that I've seen it happen quite a lot with other nannies. I know despite the fact I had a great relationship with my bosses and worked for them for years there was an attitude change once I was leaving to get married.

london we moved house 2 years ago and our dining room is still full of boxes! Our plan to rearrange the 3 bedrooms isn't going to work now just too much work and not enough time for DH. So he's planing on painting our bedroom and moving the boxes into the unused attic conversion.

Ewby goodness glad it was a false alarm.

28+3

Yay Little you are still with with baby in tummy!!! I was wondering about you just earlier...

Got a chest infection so now on anti-biotics. Hoping they will start to work soon. (Although I don't have a great track record with antibiotics and chest infections but not had anything for 10 years now so I am hoping.)

Managed to sleep all afternoon which was nice. The trip to the doctor and chemist completely wiped me out and that was with a lift there. At least now, I have decided to take the rest of the week off work rather than keep hoping I will feel better the next day.

Little - such great news on reaching 28 weeks. There is such a good chance of all being well this time.

Aw ligo, hope you rest a lot and feel better very soon

lig chest infections are horrible, I hope the antibiotics work quickly for you

little DP was asking about you this morning, I shall let him know your doing ok

My boss was lovely yesterday so I've got no idea what's going on, I've decided I don't actually care anymore I've got 4 days left so not much longer to put up with it and I'll deal with whatever happens at the end of my mat leave.

31+3

little yay for 28 weeks :) What a milestone - I imagine you must look a little bit like this

LIG boo hiss to chest infections - hopefully the antibiotics will kick in quick.

I just found out that my work exam hasn't been paid for and the deadline is Friday. They assure me it will be done tomorrow - but I'm feeling slightly anxious to say the least. If I don't do it now then the next chance is September, when I'll be on mat leave with a 5 month old. When the DDs were 5 months old I could barely string a sentence together I was so sleep deprived, never mind pass an exam.

Shetland - sounds stressful. can you pay and then claim back later? I agree heavily pregnant is better than with a 5 month old especially if you plan on breastfeeding and leaving them will need planning.

I think so LIG I'm going to go in on Friday armed with my credit card just in case - there is no way I'm not sitting it this time round.

LIG, I hope that you feel better soon. I had chest infection a couple of weeks ago and it was horrid. It sort of reminded me to start doing my pelvic floor exercises!

Shetland, that sounds like a sensible plan. Which exams are you doing?

I'm at hospital doing my GTT, I hope it comes back negative. Slightly worried as my bump was measuring 5 weeks too big at my 25 week appt.

Hope that everyone else is doing ok.

Sorry about the chest infection LIG, that's rubbish hope the ABs do their stuff soon, and please take it easy.
Fingers crossed for your GTT London

I went along for another hypnobirthing session last night - I really like it / buy into it, but I am finding it so much harder to do this time around. I keep getting all these unwanted / unhelpful images popping into my head while I am trying to relax I guess I just need to keep practicing...

Morning all. got a better sleep last night which was a relief but still not good. i am getting better at taking it easy and now watching the tennis.

Hope the gtt goes well London. I am going to try and get mine done tomorrow. I just hate the lucozade!

tea - hypnobirthing sounds great. I had a very quick start to labour last time and got into a bit of a state and not sure if that made things worse. I don't really have time for a course now so hoping that the fact that I know what to expect this time will help relax me. (I am a bit of a planner so I think my nct teacher explaining how labour would come on gradually meant that I planned for that and not for nothing to 3 minute contractions in less than an hour.)

LIG I don't think you even need to do a course. Read through a good book (I recommend Marie Mongan) to get your mind around the principles, then find some relaxation CDs/downloads. There is an app called "The Hypnobirthing Centre with Katherine Graves" that is a good place to start.
It is about deep relaxation techniques, basically - that's all. For example, I recognise this time that I did start to panic when I was in transition, and begged for an epidural (even though I was 9 cm and could probably have kept going) - so I'm aiming to maintain my confidence if I recognise that happening again. Positive thinking

london they are just work-professional qualifications, but I need to pass them to keep my job!
Hope the GTT is ok.

LIG oh no a chest infection sounds dreadful.
For what its worth I was doing pelvic floor excersise 3x a day in hospital didn't help at all.

smiling awe bless him you can tell him I'm doing really good.
Although I do feel like my ribs are trying to seperate the joys of the 3rd trimester!

Tea I'm debating getting a hypnobirth CD but I listened to some samples and I'm not sure its that appropriate for my situation with phrases like 'this is the perfect time' 'the baby is the right size...its time' I could see myself arguing with it in labour. plus DH pointed out in labour I hate when people talk I like silence.
But I've heard really good things about them, at the very least it helps you stay relaxed in early labour saving energy for the later part.

London I hope the GTT goes well.

Thank you for my 28 weeks congratulations I honestly didn't think I would ever get this far its amazing thank you so much for the support and a safe place to moan.
I was saying to DH recently that this feels like the longest pregnancy ever and he pointed out I'm 2 months further on than with DD so yeah it has been longer. I not think I was quite prepared to be so pregnant.

I'm not sure hypnobirthing is for me, a friend of a friend runs classes and offered me a discount but like little I can see myself arguing with it, also I'm not good at meditating at the best of times, I'm a control freak and like to be on the ball and in charge, labours going to be very interesting

Was worried I'd gone into premature labour last night, I had such bad lower back pain and stomach cramps, thankfully it was a false alarm but it's really hammered home that I need to be resting more. The midwife suggested bed rest for a few days but we compromised on resting as much as possible and I have a letter for my bosses stating that I am not allowed to do housework and that I have to rest as much as possible so I took the kids to school, stuck a casserole in the oven and have had my feet up ever since.

smiling I'm really glad to hear that. I know its harder for families with nannies to make adjustments but they do need to be reminded sometimes employment law apples to them too.

I'm also a control freak, I'm also very good in the worst of circumstances for advocating for myself. I almost feel sorry for the Drs & midwives!
I was thinking of writing a birth plan but it sounded so harsh I though best just to have a chat with the midwife when I arrive.