April 2015 (and some Marchies) miscarriage survivors... can't believe we're half way there

[TinyTear]

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Woohoo

22+3

So I've had an eventful morning.

Went to kidney specialist as planned, blood pressure 160/90 so she upped my labetalol dosage. Went upstairs to maternity for scan, all looks good. Baby is still a girl and all growth etc looked good. Went in to see consultant and the wheels started to come off. Blood pressure was 148/106 and protein in urine so sent to day assessment for bloods and monitoring. Eventually let out three hours later but I now have to see midwife twice a week and REST! I have four other children! Rest seems unlikely. Bit concerned this is going to be a recurring problem and I'm not going to get past 34 weeks.

28+2 today.

easy for them to say rest... are you at home? how old are the other children and can you bribe the eldest to help distract the younger ones?

smiling I'm pretty much the same after being blue lighted into hospital the first time and them deciding without having met me they were taking to surgery (I refused) I'm fierce about protect my rights too.
One thing I make clear now is there is no presumed consent in regards to my care you must get explicit verbal consent from me to touch my body or perform any procedure.

There is a really horrible misogynistic under-current towards pregnant woman, we are automatically labeled as selfish if we so much as raise concerns because after all we are just incubators what does it matter if we are left physically and mentally damaged?

I will just put the soap box in the corner for the next time.

dances that sounds like an exhausting morning. Any near by family or friends that you could arrange play dates with so even if you can't rest all the time you might be able to carve out a regular period of time each day?

Tbf it isn't too bad. All the children are at school, (12, 8, 7 & 5 yrs old), and dh finishes work in time to do school run. This afternoon he will take them all to dance class and I now have to see the midwife twice weekly. Trouble is the more I worry about it the worse it's going to get.

Glad you had a good scan Tea.

I only considered a hb for a nano second, think I may well be happier at the hospital and DP was totally against the idea to. Although everyone I know who has had a hb loved it!

Dances, heres hoping you do get to rest up. Hopefully you can keep that little one in and cooking for a good while longer yet!

Excitingly I ordered my Foot Muff and matching bag today, just got to send the fabric I have sitting here off tomorrow and it should be here in a couple of weeks! I'm just about to post a link to their page on the fb page, honestly it hasn't worked out that much more expensive than the bag and non matching foot muff I was looking at but not entirely loving elsewhere! Also picked up a changing mat for £3.49 in the mothercare online sale and our monitor is here now to. Next job is to order the pram and DP found that at £40 cheaper with the raincover thrown in for good measure.

I have to have a GP antenatal check next week instead of my 31 week MW appointment, and my whooping cough jab. ANyone else have to see their GP?

I've not seen my GP at all this pregnancy - booked in with the MW and that has been it. Whooping cough and flu jabs have been done by the practice nurse.

Only time I saw my gp was because I had thrush (got to love this pregnancy malarkey ) apart from that it's been midwife, consultant and nurse for flu and whooping cough jabs.

Just got in from work, it's been a very long day 2 weeks or 7 days to maternity leave, I can't wait

Evening all,

I am having the week from hell. Was already manic work wise but my whole area has gone into chaos after a senior manager was fired and one of my team now has to leave in about 6 weeks to return to his home country. Also, had an ex - neighbour who has severe health problems needing me to talk to our management company about her debt and now dd is home sick from nursery. I dread to think what my blood pressure is doing and the impact on the little guy. He seems to be kicking and wriggling as normal.

Dance - hope you are at home and resting rather than stressing. I hope your dh is looking after you.

Home births - I was quite tempted by one as dd would have been a very quick labour if she hadn't turned back to back and got stuck. However, I ended up in surgery post - birth for a retained placenta so a bit wary incase that happens again. However, I think I should be a little prepared just incase getting to a hospital isn't an option. I also need to sort out very local childcare for dd as not sure I could deal with such a quick start to labour and her being there. Think it would be very upsetting for her. I think what I really want is a hospital birth and then to be discharged straight from the delivery suite. The mw seems ok with this.

I have my gtt on Monday. Trying to eat low gi in preparation for it. I have pcos and part of my problem is insulin resistance so I am at much higher risk of gd. However, I have been doing low gi for almost 4 years (after discovering pcos during my 1st mc) so hoping it is under control enough now as long as I don't eat too badly. I just feel quite unwell from all the sugar in the lucozade as my body isn't used to it.

London- that is tough expecting you to delivery a project on your last day. What if you have to go on mat leave early for medical reasons? Although with all the grief at work I am thinking I will be manic till the end and then have to go and leave everyone in the lurch as it is not possible to get everything done but at least I know that and so there is no point in even trying.

Smiling - so of you only having 2 weeks left.

Blimey - I have quite a lot to catch up on!

Glad you're still going babie 30 weeks is a good milestone and you've got a few more to go before February.
dances Seems like you've been through the mill a bit today. Hope you can get plenty of rest

Yay for a good scan tea

LIG I hope you've had all the stress you're going to get for this week! The work thing must have been a shock - or did people know it was coming?

I have 6 weeks left til maternity leave starts - feels quite close now.

Home birth has never appealed to me tbh - mostly because of distance to the hospital if something went wrong though. I had my first 2 on the labour ward but might go for MLU this time I think.

26+6

Never wanted a home birth myself... i live in a top floor and even though i am 10 minutes from the hospital (walking) I wouldn't risk it... my ground floor neighbour did have one a year ago...

and because of induction with GD last time, this wouldn't have been possible anyway...

also have consultant appointments today - thyroid specialist and also diabetes dietitian I think - haven't heard after the GTT but the monitoring I have been doing at home makes me want metformin or something as diet alone doesn't cut it for the fasting and breakfast levels...

Stressed last night as DD has a streaming cold and last two big ones she had she ended up with high temps and at home for a few days and I have TOO MUCH work to do... but temp was only 37.8 at highest and even though her nose is streaming she seemed fine and slept well, so gave nurofen and packed her off to nursry. but of course... it meant I didn't sleep well as every little noise made me panic...

babiecakes glad baby g is holding on and 30 weeks is a great milestone and every week now is a bonus x

I think I'd be less inclined to consider a hb if I was further from the hospital. Also they won't let me give birth in the mlu because of my BMI so it would be the general labour ward and they have a scarily high percentage of medically assisted births which I'd really rather avoid if possible.

tiny I hope your DD feels better soon and doesn't need to stay home from nursery.

lig hopefully today will be less stressful

LIG that sounds like such a tough week. Try not worry about the baby they really are quiet tough.

Babies there is some evidence to suggest that IV fluids can increase amnotic fluid that night be something to suggest. I'm not sure if that's just for ruptures.
I've done a lot of reading up on such things due to two pProms, I'm surprised my sac is still intact (especially when it's slightly detached) I'm sure its down to the 1000mg of Vit C I've taken everyday of this pregnancy.

smiling I can't believe they are making such a big deal over your BMI of 31! Most places don't even mention its 35.

Tiny I hoe your little one bounces back quickly to un-snotty health.

little I'm sick of hearing the words BMI to be honest, apart from baby weight I haven't put any on the whole of my pregnancy. It just seems like it's an easy way out for them, "oh no you can't have a home birth because of your bmi" "no you can't use the mlu because of your bmi" it's really starting to wind me up I was even told I couldn't use the birthing pool.

its one of the driving forces behind wanting a home birth, I can hire a birthing pool and have the birth I want without having to fight for it.

So, GD and start metformin at dinner tonight... Start with one a day then move to breakfast too... Let's see how it pans out...

Glad they've finally diagnosed and started treatment tiny

tiny - Sorry your suspicions were confirmed. does the met have lots of side effects? hope your dd is ok.

Babiecakes - well done on reaching 30 weeks. The odds are really looking good now for you .

Finally finished work for the week but it has been crappy. my 1st interview for my mat cover was disappointing. loosing another one of my team at the beginning of March and my dd was off sick from nursery and I was up from 1 - 5am last night as dd kept waking and then couldn't sleep between wake ups. I don't think shattered quite describes it.

Dd much less snotty thanks. Temp only 37 before bed which was great...

Hope your dd will be better soon

Ahhh stressed! Have dd's 3rd birthday party today... 7 nursery kids coming at 2pm... Stress stress.

Good luck tiny. I don't envy you. Children's parties are so stressful. Thinking this year as we will have a newborn for dd's 3rd birthday I think we will pay for a hall and some entertainment. Dh and I used to work in a sport centre and both used to take children's holiday clubs and parties so it seems like an excessive luxury but not sure we can manage it all this year and dd loves parties and I think will insist on one!

I am at home again whilst dh and dd go to another party. I am suffering from a horrible cold. luckily dh is off this weekend so I have hardly moved off the bed/sofa but I am really struggling. Paracetamol helps with the temperature but only really takes the edge off - need some proper cough medicine and decongestant. Thinking about trying to have a nap in a recliner chair as didn't sleep well last night and whilst I sleep 7pm till 9am - I woke up 20+ times to cough or blow my nose. Damn pregnancy illnesses!

Sorry your feeling poorly lig hopefully it will start to clear soon.

tiny I love kids parties, at work we have an easter picnic, Halloween party, Christmas party and birthday parties. I keep thinking about a change of career and becoming a children's party planner.

I have awful heartburn, nothing seems to help and despite sleeping quite well am so tired all the time. I'm not anemic all my blood results came back as being way above average so it's just pregnancy.

I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable, I probably am but I'm furious with MIL. She has invited her grandaughter to stay, despite the fact she's DP'S niece I've never met her, she's 25 and lives in London, so the first week of my maternity leave when I just wanted to sit around in my pj's watching TV I will now have a stranger in my home. This would all be ok if MIL had her own lounge to use but since she refuses to declutter hers is currently filled with about 60 boxes and is unusable, MIL spends most of her time in her room which is huge and has an armchair, TV etc in it but you can't expect a guest to do the same so they will probably be in ours add to that the fact MIL doesn't have a spare bed as her sofa is a sofa bed but is under said boxes she has assumed we will allow the use of dsc room, I don't want a stranger upstairs in our part of the house when I have to get up 5/6 times a night for a wee, I want to be able to wander around naked

I'm being unreasonable aren't I? I've just been looking forward to mat leave for so long I feel completely deflated

Smiling - you mil does sound very difficult. Considering a few weeks ago she was going to make you homeless, inviting someone to stay and expecting them to stay in your bit of the house is particularly thoughtless on her part. Maternity leave or not you will be heavily pregnant at this point and do not need the added stress and someone you don't know in your personal space. Also, what if the baby comes early?

Holding kids parties would be a fun job although your working hours would be limited. Although, there is a sports class near us that do classes and parties and also do weekday pre - school classes so I guess that keeps money coming in during the week.

Tucked up in bed and hoping for an overnight recovery as dh is working tomorrow. Either that or trying to get my mum or sister over to help. Decided I am not well enough to do my gtt tomorrow and been eating way too much sugar so would like to get well enough to do it. It does however mean I am leaving it late as already 28+2.

Fingers crossed for a speedy recovery lig it's hard enough looking after children when your ill never mind pregnant as well.

I am 32 weeks today I'll be 35 weeks when she comes to stay plus I've just realised it's half term and dsc will be here too so she won't be able to sleep in their room. Thankfully I've got annual leave the week before so I would at least of had a week to myself but I'm not happy, at least with dsc I can sit around in my pj's watching TV at 11 and 16 they are pretty self sufficient and are happy to laze around with me plus they belong here and are part of the baby if that makes sense, I was looking forward to spending a last lazy half term with them before beanie arrives as he's due just before the easter holidays so will either be a tiny newborn or ill actually be giving birth next time they are here.

I suppose I should just be grateful she's stopped talking about selling.