April 2015 (and some Marchies) miscarriage survivors... can't believe we're half way there

[TinyTear]

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She got huffy because she claims her shower keeps flooding, I said ok well get a plumber out. The mistake I made was not saying that we would pay for it. So she's left it for weeks and keeps moaning about it. Yesterday she spoke to her sister and we were obviously made out to be extremely unreasonable because she came into our lounge and declared she wants to sell up and live alone and her sister says it's unfair that she is expected to pay for a plumber.

I told her I had never said anything about her paying only that she needed to organise a plumber to come and look at it/fix it as both DP and i are at work. It also seems my pain in the arse sil has been stirring (the one that never visits) so she had a few other complaints about various other things but ended the conversation by saying she would see how things go.

I have no intention of signing anything until after the baby is born so she can't sell unless I do but it's not exactly going to be a great environment to live in.

Babie so sorry to hear this. I am going through bereavement at the moment too, and whilst it is hard at any time, at the moment it seems even harder, especially as you end up with all that emotion about them never meeting your LO. Big hugs.

Smiling any thought of unnecessary upheaval is horrible. Is your MIL letting off steam? It might be that she just needs to vent a bit. My mum is constantly threatening actions that she never follows through! It gets wearing, particularly after all this time, but she can usually either talk herself or be talked out of any rash decisions. And Lig is right, in the long term it might be best for you, but right now seems a bit

I am on a roll, and filled in my MA forms, found all the paperwork and is now ready to send. I've also given notice to the childminder.

Today I'm going to find the old car seat in the shed. It will need a really good clean and washing the padding. Really hope it's survived out there, I don't have the money for a new one! This is real "baby on a shoestring"!

I had a terrible night's sleep last night and am only just ready to get up. So bloody uncomfortable, I even thought about sleeping in the bath! Everything aches, I've been getting more stretching pains, baby seems to be really active between 2 and 5 am, and I'm getting loads of BH.

Oh well, getting there, that's the main thing...

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Smiling cross posts! Yes, huffy overreaction, it's such a pain in the arse!

Oh no smiling. I can slap your MIL for you!

Is it really final or will she change her mind?

Ah just read the updates. Hope things do improve...

She threatens it every couple of weeks, usually when something hasn't gone her way or after speaking to her sister or sil. I think we may end up selling but I'm not dealing with it at 30 weeks pregnant or with a newborn so she will just have to get on with it for now.

Apologies for the tmi but earlier this morning while having a bowel movement when I finished it looked like some blood in the toilet. Aahhhhrgh.

On wiping there was none at all, so I hope it was just from a small fissure or pile (ugh)

I put a pad in and been monitoring and there hasn't been anything since...

newbie kicking and moving, so not too worried now, but blooming scary at first...

Sigh

I always get piles when I'm pg, if it's any consolation. No matter what my diet is, or what I do/don't do. If it's just when you poo, I think it's possibly worth a GP visit for some medication, and I'd keep an eye in the meantime. Mine always feel a bit tender, so I tend to know what it is. They go away by themselves, so I tend not to get them treated.

An extra bowl of bran flakes won't do any harm

Got GD now, so will have to be porrige... Maybe extra pears... To get things moving better.
So far hasn't happened now..

Tiny fingers crossed for you that things have stayed ok today & newbie still moving lots. And the All Bran is going down well :D

Smiling hope your MIL shuts up for a while. You'd hope she'd be more considerate at least at this time, even if it's not her usual habit. Once the baby's here fingers crossed she realises the impracticality/callousness of actually doing anything and stops the threats too.

On the baby stuff front, doubt we'll get given much as a) don't know anyone with babies but few of my colleagues & brother - still using theirs/miles away. b) hardly anyone knows anyway/won't until it arrives if DH has his way.

Only immediate (indifferent) family + a few (supportive) friends from an activity I've had to drop so hardly see now. After saying he didn't want to meaning I had to concoct answers to various questions, he got drunk & eventually announced it to some of his mates when we went out the other week. But last night I had to cover up physically & in answers again as socialising with his colleagues he doesn't want to know. (Afraid of ridicule as at his age most others have teens). Am sad that he can't enjoy/embrace pg fully because of that, though he says is happy for us. Do understand though as similar myself - & 10 yrs younger though'll officially be an older mother. Do fear being judged. Not sure in that respect whether to mention mmcs if other colleagues ask about pg when they twig. Feel mentioning mcs before have a DC, while it would explain that actually we didn't leave it quite as late as it might look, also just seems (is) sad/emphasizes that we shouldn't be trying 'at our age(s)'. So prefer not to mention at all or maybe only that it's 3rd time lucky if/once it arrives ok. Afraid while none of their business that might feel I have to explain/justify though. But must decide what to say asap as bound to be noticed soon.

Have a cold now but must get back on with some work - failed to do as much as intended this weekend (but did take the plunge & bought some baby socks & sleepsuits. Hard to find much gender-neutral beyond that)!

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Thanks, all fine... No more blood so was a one off...

Phew. Glad to hear it.

(1st consultation response Q1 answered, only the rest & other consultation response & gazillions of calculations to do in the next 0 minutes... am looking forward to mat leave/swapping this for a different type of work)!

Glad your ok tiny

toucan I'm impressed you can still hide it by 26 weeks my bump was huge and even my baggest tops weren't hiding it. I find talking about my mmc helpful so would probably tell people we had kept it quiet because we had lost a baby but you need to say what your comfortable with.

I'm not sure how much longer I can cope with work, my bump has exploded over the weekend and I'm struggling to sleep, eat and walk comfortably getting up at 6 this morning was hard and I feel really ill because I'm so tired. Got to work and the kitchen looks like a bomb has gone off, I haven't been upstairs yet so god knows how much of a mess their bedrooms and playroom are in and to top it all my boss is working from home so the opportunity to take it easy and sit down is unlikely. She's taken the eldest to a medical appointment so I'm taking the chance to curl up with youngest and watch kids TV before school as it's the only rest ill get all day, I desperately just want to be at home, I went to bed at 7.50pm on Saturday and got up at 9.30am on Sunday and had a nap in the afternoon, my body just needs a break.

I'm so stressed with work and now mil (although yesterday she was acting normally and talking about buying a mirror for her bedroom) that I could just curl up and cry

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Tiny sorry to hear that you've got GD :( Good luck in controlling your sugars.

Toucan I'm also counting down to my maternity leave. My last working day will be 10 April :)

Smiling are you sure that you are a nanny? It sounds like you do an awful lot of cleaning. When is your last working day? And glad that MIL is back to normal.

Babie how scary! I hope you will get some reassurances from the midwife. Why are you having a growth scan?

Speaking of scans, we're thinking of having a 3D for Bunny. I feel guilty though as I couldn't afford to have one with DS.

babiecakes I'm so sorry you've got even more worry, I can't offer any practical advice as beanie is my first but would be calling the hospital ASAP, fingers crossed everything's ok

london I think since my youngest charge started school my role has slowly altered to nanny/housekeeper, tbh I don't mind doing extra bits, my problem is that it's become expected and they aren't taking the fact that I'm pregnant into account. I don't expect to get paid for just sitting around for 6 hours but I would like some flexibility or acknowledgement that there are some things I just can't do anymore and that things are taking longer. I've been completely honest with them that I'm struggling but it just doesn't seem to sink in.

My maternity leave starts on February the 16th, I've requested annual leave for the week of the 9th but being able to take it depends on them finding cover. So my last working day is either 5th or 12th February.

Good luck babies. Hope it will all be ok...

If you get kept in and there is no internet tell your DH to keep us posted... we don't want another littlebairn situation
We want to know how you are doing

smiling are you near London? I'll hire you from next january to look after newbs... not much cleaning and we don't have a playroom

I'm in Kent tiny so not to far but the commute might be a bit much

Sorry babies I crossed post with you.

I second getting your dh to update, I find myself awake at 4am wondering how Little is

Good luck Babiecakes

Ah yes, and I am in NW so you'd have to cross all of London!

You could always move to Kent tiny

and take your MIL's flat?