Feb 2015 - Creeping closer towards the third trimester!

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you cannot help how you feel the good thing is they do go almost as soon as baby arrived.
you are not a bad mum I personally think you are pretty fab staying in that work situ as long as you can to provide for your baby....I would have ran away from that stress

Long bottom I'm 26+4. I'm feeling quite positive about things. At the moment baby is giving strong kicks which is very reassuring.
Frenetic I'm sorry things aren't going well for you. I'd definitely get some independent advice from cab.

Frenetic,

Sorry to hear you are having a tough time, I personally would bypass citizens advice and speak to an employment lawyer, they might have more clout. Any chance you can work from home? I'd also make sure you have a good list of contacts, might be worth thinking about looking about for a new job when you are coming to the end of your maternity leave...

Nothing exciting to report here, like others I'm a bit bored with being pregnant, just working away and waiting for madam to arrive

aah frenetic- i can't believe they're still being such shits! How big is the company? Is there anyone higher than HR that you could escalate it to? I'd definitely second making a log of all the incidents

Another non-event of a midwife appointment for me- in and out within three minutes- I did get the exciting new development of being measured and listening to the heart beat though, so that was nice- a bit different to the usual blood pressure and wee in a cup routine

The temp has cooled to 21c in here now (I insisted a window stay open, lest I vomit everywhere) and a colleague is sat shivering in a coat. And I'm a bad guy.

Really? I mean... really?

21? send him to me on his local market in jan when it is minus 5 the big pussy

Isn't there h&s legislation that an office environment cant be over a certain temperature? I'll have look on sheets we have at work

Sorry you're going through this frenetic. Unfortunately, while there is a set minimum temperature for a workplace, there is no upper limit. The guidelines simply state that it must be 'reasonable'. I know this after many years of protesting against over hot classrooms in the summer months, kids wilting at their desks and senior management refusing to provide even a bloody fan!

I thought there wasn't a Limit to what people have to work in by law BUT you have a right as someone who is effected by heat to not have to work in it when you told them you have a medical condition that is effected by heat, also being bullied because you are pregnant is not on CAB will find some sort of solution for you it may be telling you to take it further or giving you more info i. What you can do.
In the mean time you need to tell them where to buy thermals

I have cracked on with my xmas shopping today, wanted to get more but I was shattered

I think i'd just puke on said colleague's desk. But I'm like that. I used to fart on the way out of the office of a colleague i didn't particularly like

Bangles I think we are the same types of people.
I would be tempted to make some cakes for my last day as a peace offering and lace them with laxatives

bangles and Memphis you are naughty (said Kenneth Williams carry on style!!)
frenetic they really do sound like a bunch of tossers. On one hand I'd go the whole log keeping, consult CAB and tell your HR dept that you are doing so because of their inaction. On the other hand, whilst shite, they are obviously not worth wasting any emotional energy on. I know it's easier said than done but if there's no enhanced mat pay to worry about qualifying for on return then it's a matter of weeks until you walk away from the lot of them. And don't tell them you're not coming back, that way you get to mess them about by 'changing your mind'. Then, next year find somewhere more deserving of your talents and make sure they all find out how much happier you are, and how adorable mini-fox is to boot.

You've all cheered me up so much today - thank you! Went from tears in the toilets to giggling uncontrollably - particularly like the farting suggestion.. it's just a shame it's a shared office!

I think the reason I was most upset is because I was getting on really well with a couple of people until I fell pregnant - it seems to 100% be fuelled by jealousy. If I behaved that way over something others have I want... I'd be very alone, since I lost my Dad two years ago and still feel a pang of resentment when people share "my Dad rocks" stuff on FB. But christ, I'd never behave differently with people because of it.

It is totally unreasonable of them frenetic. My boss and his wife have been ttc for years, diagnosed unexplained infert and have had several early miscarraiges including since we got pg. It has not stopped him being supportive and showing an interest on a personal level even though I know it's hard at times for him. I lost my dad 3 years ago and similarly I would never get stroppy with someone just cos they had great times with theirs. Or even tell them how ungrateful they are when having 'issues' with their dad, shit, me & mine had enough but I still miss the old git And as much as this child is wanted and we were trying a long time, it IS hard to be constantly cheerful and 'grateful' when you've had no sleep, feel nauseus and light-headed, you're constipated and the blighter is pressing so hard on your bladder you can't stand up straight. And that's a good day! So thumb your nose at them and know that you're above their pettiness

So I've been sleeping on my back a lot still. Does this make me a bad person?

My mom and sister are squabbling in the kitchen prepping dinner. It's like a morecome and wise sketch. My mom is only staying a week in the end. THANK GOD because apparently she can't now cook a meal on her own, so she'd be about as much use as a chocolate teapot once my sister leaves as I'd have to look after her and my stress levels would ho through the roof. So much for bedrest. Her face when I asked her what she was going to cook us for dinner on Wednesday, while my sister packs, was pained - lol!!

Reading back now for your updates

Lovely and wise words Geeky

Donkir just read your at 1cm, I was at 11mm so basically the same thing, but I had funnelling. Are they doing a stitch? Daily progesterone? Stay off your feet! How far are you now?
I'm back at 3.4 for four weeks running after all of the above. Praying for your bubba to keep cooking longer

Viper they've not said anything just sent me home. I'm a bit concerned as everything I've read says I should be in bed rest and having progesterone. I'm seeing my own consultant next Thursday so will have a list of questions. I'm 26+4 today so not sure if I'm able to have a stitch this late on. Thankfully I haven't got funnelling.

Viper that is a great improvement! I did laugh at the comment on your mums fsce though! I asked my mum if once bany is here she can cook me liver and bacon.....she said yes then said m&s do a great ready meal bless her she is now living alone and after 25 years of cooking from scratch has hung up her oven gloves!

Frenetic I agree about looking for something else near the time of your return while telling your boss you are going back this will ensure your mat relacement finds a new job to move to while leaving them in the shit!

I worked for a company and I sold my house making a lot of money on it that I intended to blow. I stuck out my job as I loved it but then area manager turned on me when he found I didnt find him sexy so did all he could to get rid, he then sent in extra staff from his workforce to 'help' on my stocktake...I failed my stocktake on the boxes they did which means I got a warning.....I waited until he was at the airport with his gf and her family to quit with immediate effect meaning he had to leave airport and come to open my store I loved walking by that afternoon to wave at him. Best feeling ever....oh I also didn't tell him the toaster didn't turn off meaning it set of fire alarms for whole shopping center, meaning evacuation and a fine from fireservice

Frenetic I can't really add to the good advice you've been given today. Sounds like your hr department is completely incompetent. Not sure telling them you're keeping a log will get them to pull their finger out, but at least they will know loud and clear that your concerns are very serious and that you are prepared to do something about it even if they aren't!
I also have pulled the farting card in the past, it's pretty satisfying. Even in an open office, just drop your bomb then go make a cuppa

Donkir can you bring your consultant appointment forward? Or request progesterone from your gp in the meantime?
I'm taking cyclogest in the 'rear entrance' before bed (my consultant said that, DP loved it lol).
Maybe self certify yourself off work for the next week at least. Every day minidonk stays in it's stronger.

Donkir I've done a search and can't find time limit for stitch. Some places mention preemptive stitch where cervical issues are known at 14-18 weeks. But you've been monitored for changes (as have I) and I had mine at 21+4 when changes were found. Don't know why they couldn't do it later on though. It would stay in until they remove at 37 weeks or before if water breaks or labour starts.

Sorry if this is TMI! How is everyone managing sex these days?! Is anyone still managing it missionary?? I'm finding it so uncomfy on my belly these days, it won't do the baby any damage will it?

I'm not very body confident and obviously even less so when pregnant so any other position panics me! I'd need to be drunk but obviously that's a write off!

Haha Bangles & memphis

Frenetic did they do your work risk assessment? Our office is always freezing so I did put the working environment on there as a risk. Also the risk assessment is meant to be reviewed regularly for any changes.

donkir I agree with Viper you should be taking it easy even on bed rest. Can't believe they didn't tell you that.

Hahaha, memphis, thst is the best quitting work story ever! Frenetic- you can do something similar, right? At the very least, cheese behind a cupboard as you leave for mat leave

Bang, i'll be honest, my sex life had been a bit of a write off these days!