Old bird graduates, gather round....let's talk chicklets!

[Gingerbreadlady1]

For the old bird thread graduates and any other slightly older mums to be, please join us. We're a friendly bunch.

Congrats super, what a wonderful surprise!

Et voila......! I think anybody can add stuff by just cutting and pasting the list into the "Add your message here" box, then adding to it....Or I'll do it! (here's hoping another 200 women don't join the thread!)

snooky17 40, edd 18th May 2015
stubbornstains 40 (will be 41) ,baby no.2, edd 31st May 2015.
hexyqueen 42, baby no.2, edd 8th June, ELCS booked for 1st June.
bingobonkers 39, baby no.3, edd 21st June 2015 (summer solstice, nice!)
tranquilitybaby 36, baby no. 3. edd 23 June 2015
overtiredbackagain 40 (will be 41), baby no.3, edd 7th July
probablyme 40, baby no. 5, edd 12th July
supersupershock 42, baby no.2, edd early Aug 2015?!

Wow, look at all these summer babies - aren't we lucky?! I always wanted an early summer baby, although I was thinking that blackout blinds are going to need to be invested in, with the sun coming up at about 4.....

Congratulations hexy! Another one safely scanned! So, you're booked in for a CS the day after my due date.....will you have your baby before me? (Very probably I'd say, given that DS was 17 days late ).

Well, the ultrasound/ DS test lady told me that if my results came back high risk, I'd probably get a phone call yesterday or today. I've just spent 2 days glaring at my mobile daring it not to ring, and it hasn't (well, not with that phone call anyway), so hooopefully....it's going to be OK.

On a totally unrelated note, because I just have to vent, and can't quite be bothered to start a whole new thread, I am reeling with woe and injustice. I very, very lightly scuffed my neighbour's lovely shiny car yesterday (and that's something I haven't done since I was last pregnant ). Every other flipping car in the street is a scruffy, filthy, battle- scarred old wreck like mine, and hers is pristine (she uses it for her job). It turns out it's only leased, and the small area of chipped paint is going to have to be repaired absolutely perfectly.....apparently it's going to cost TWO HUNDRED AND FORTY FUCKING POUNDS!!! Waaaaaaaah! I keep on trying to digest this news and not feel terrible about it, but I just feel sick .

Oh arses about the car!!!!!!

Everyone ok today? X

Hey Overtired - had a mixed day, my DS's are somewhat trying at times! I'm feeling nauseous quite a lot but still no vomiting. I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself at moment. I'm completely knackered all the time and DP works away during the week. All I want is someone to make me a cuppa!!

Hi overtired, I'm good. How's things with you today?

Good luck tomorrow tranq & bingo, will be thinking of you both.

stubborn, I'm on my phone so would massively appreciate if you could add me please, dc1 edd 18-5-15, 38.

Very quiet on here....

I'm ok thanks Ginger, had DD home sick from school today so had to throw a sickie, no holiday left

It's very quiet on here.

How are you all doing guys? I'm now on ondansetron as well as other 2 meds for hyperemesis now, and tho v nauseous at times, have managed to eat 1/2 a 10" pizza & keep most of it down! Very pleased. May actually get a chance to do some Xmas things now I can stand up without puking :)

How many of you have told family, parents, friends etc now? Dunno if I can keep it secret much after 13 weeks, but really not looking forward to telling 17 yo DSS.....

Good luck for scans tomorrow, Tranq & bingo (think it's you too, but my brain is mush ATM ).

Xxx

Hi everyone,

Thanks for the well wishes. Can't quite believe tomorrow is almost here. Half keen and half anxious.

Have had to break out the maternity tops. Honestly I'm ten weeks and my stomach is huge. My boobs only just stick out further than my tum.

One friend guessed and I've been feeling so sick I've been laying low and not really seen any friends because I just feel so rough plus the DC can be right pickles at times and I can't face it. Pathetic parenting or wot. The DC haven't made any demands about going out so that's made me feel a teeny bit less guilty. Will tell people after the Harmony results if they are good news. Then need to tell people before the Gob of Facebook tells the world before we are actually able to. Hate FB sometimes.

MS seems to have gone away first thing but by the afternoon I feel floored and sick. I am literally eating my way through it. Getting dehydrated doesn't help.

hexy, really glad u seem to have turned a bit of a corner. This pregnancy malarkey is tough so god knows how you are coping with dc & no nutrition.

bingo, I thought it was today, good luck. I was 14 weeks before we told extended family & friends, it's still off the fb gob.

Let's see some bump pics old birds !

gingerbreadlady 38, baby no.1, edd 18th May 2015
snooky17 40, edd 18th May 2015
stubbornstains 40 (will be 41) ,baby no.2, edd 31st May 2015.
hexyqueen 42, baby no.2, edd 8th June, ELCS booked for 1st June.
bingobonkers 39, baby no.3, edd 21st June 2015 (summer solstice, nice!)
tranquilitybaby 36, baby no. 3. edd 23 June 2015
overtiredbackagain 40 (will be 41), baby no.3, edd 7th July
probablyme 40, baby no. 5, edd 12th July
supersupershock 42, baby no.2, edd early Aug 2015?!

Aaww...I thought I was feeling more energetic today...then 5.00pm arrived, and I suddenly got hit by a wall of exhaustion like a bus....so I've spent the whole evening in bed, eating cold macaroni cheese out of the tin . Classy .

I've just been on a bit of an orgy of telling people, at 13 weeks....now I'm getting The Fear, and think I should have kept quieter for longer! I still haven't told my parents or DS though, funnily enough! I'm saving it till Christmas, when I'll be seeing my parents face to face. And I can't tell DS before that, or he'll let the cat out of the bag! DP has told his dad though, who promptly burst into tears! This will be his first grandchild, and considering DP is 46 and his sister has never wanted kids, his dad must have been wondering if it would ever happen at all.

Good luck with the scans tomorrow, bingo and tranquility xx

Thanks girls, I'm mostly dreading it at the moment, but hoping all will be well and I can enjoy the experience.

Only thing at the moment is I'm in a lot of pain. Wondering if I have a UTI, but no burning when I wee, just intense burning tummy pain across my c section scar and needing to wee frequently. Any ideas?

Hope you're all well

Hello ladies. But the way stubborn - my EDD is currently 15 July :) - sorry, should have said before

I was wondering... where do you need maternity clothes from?! I can't remember from last time. At the moment boobs are bigger and squashing into things. I seem to remember about 3 months needing bigger trousers, but I am sure it will be before then now I am an old bird! I hate stuff tight on my tummy as it is

If all's well in a couple of weeks, I'm contemplating not actually announcing it in Facebook, when random vaguebook friends I have will just be nosey and spread to the word to all and sundry.

Instead, might just text those that matter friend wise, including a scan pic. X

Good luck for tomorrow tranquility. I imagine it is scary and exciting at the same time. Can;t wait for mine but will definately be feeling a scaredy cat too!

Good luck Tranquility I've been having a similar feeling on and off (worse in the evenings for me) but I've come to the conclusion it's a stretching thing. Apparently - or so Dr Google says - it's worse if it's not your first baby.

Morning ladies - was just wondering if your midwifes tell you that you are 'high risk' - I spoke to doc and he said I am not and not to worry about my age (42) - however people keep saying oh you are high risk, you midwife will tell you that :(

Oh, bloody "high risk"! Yes, I am, apparently . When I had my booking in appointment, my actual midwife was a bit busy, so her colleague started off asking all the questions, and managed, in the space of 10 minutes, to:

-go on and on and on about my past recreational drug use....yes, I took a few Es 20 years ago FFS!
-go on and on and on about precisely when I stopped drinking (was able to tell her that it was precisely 11DPO, OK? Any problem with that? Good).
-tell me that the termination I had 2 years ago "may have caused problems because it can scar the lining of the uterus";
-imply that DP doesn't know how to put condoms on, because we were using condoms when I got pregnant that time;
-generally make me feel ashamed of having had a termination (the first medical professional to do so- well done that woman );
-tell me that I am automatically high risk because of my age, and that I will have to have a consultant-led pregnancy and an automatic hospital birth.

What a bloody charmer! Thank God she isn't my actual midwife! I have the consultant's appt. on 23rd December (was earlier, but I had to change it- this pregnancy, seeing as I already have a DC, Every Bloody Appointment has been bang on school pick up time ), and I bet when I go to see him, he'll just ask me why on earth I'm there!

(ahem, rant over!)

tranquility I've had plenty of burning, needle like pains too...some very low down, below the uterus, and some about the level of my belly button....I just assume it's these fabled ligaments stretching....

supershock, I can't remember about the maternity clothes either! I think it partially depends on how tight you wear your clothes anyway, and what's in fashion IYSWIM.....I had DS 5 years ago, and it was dead easy, because those smocky tunicy things were in fashion, which were pretty much maternity wear anyway. Luckily, I live in a fashion backwater, so you can still get away with wearing that stuff....I've already been rummaging in the back of the wardrobe, and found all my old fat, post baby clothes from last time, and am hoping many will see me through until nearly the end.

Ah my midwife was great when I spoke to her over the phone (booking not until the 8th) and said that I wasn't particularly old and that the average of first time mums at her clinic was 40. The doctors, however, have been a different matter and have all but done the "sharp intake of breath through the teeth" thing and gone on to tell me that I'm old, will have lots of complications etc. Stupid arses. I've had to defend having a baby at my age to them and it's made me quite down after appointments - I've seen Dr's twice because of mild anaemia and under active thyroid.

I'm going to have to get round to having a good old Google about possible pregnancy complications in 40-somethings compared to the rest of the childbearing population....I bet when it comes down to it there's not much difference.

Stubborn I am utterly shocked at the way your midwife treated you. Unbeleiveable. That must have been either really upsetting or made steam come out your ears. My past is much the same as yours in several things you mention, why does recreational drug taking 24 years ago matter now? I have had a perfectly healthy DS since then. And if they dare to make me feel bad about any decisions I made on previous pregnancies all I see is me giving her a punch on the nose..................! At least I am prepared for it now so thank you for sharing your experience.

I had pre eclampsia last time so double high risk... sigh!

My doctor told me I wasn't old for pregnancy and had nothing to worry about.He is such a lovely man and must be near retiring age so has probably seen it all

Tranqulity how did you get on?

Quick post, stubborn, I'd be putting in a complaint, that is horrendous! And hardly conducive to a open future relationship, daft boot! And as super said many many of us will have less than perfect pasts. I'm so angry for you, I do also know you're no shrinking violet thankfully but must have been very upsetting nonetheless.

super I'm low risk but currently with a consultant but (queried it today at my 16 wk) it's due to past fertility treatment and will revert to mid wife led if everything goes ok. How you getting on lady? Do you have some support on rl? Is the father any help at all? Have you told anyone yet? Dc? Sorry! Interrogation lol!

She didn't listen to the hb, gutted! Luckily I bought a cheap Doppler from eBay which I use daily.hehehe

Wonder how today's scans went?

Scan today. Turns out the baby is measuring a week and one day ahead. So had first half of Harmony done and then had to go back for the nuchal instead of coming back in two weeks. Also had to pay an extra few pounds because the baby is older than the desired size for Harmony.

Scan was going well until at the end of the nuchal the sonographer said that the nasal bone was absent which is one of six markers indicating possible Downs. He said the average odds of a 40yr old is 1:92 but as the five other markers where fine my odds are 1:265. However I stopped listening and functioning as I heard Nasal Bone absent and turned into a bit of a confused wreck.

The guy doing the scan said that hopefully Harmony will give the desired results but as far as he was concerned there wasn't really too much to worry about as he said some babies nasal bone develops later and is present at the 20wk scan. Husband doesn't understand the importance of lack of nasal bone and why I'm a bit shocked as he is basing his thoughts on the fact that the risk after the measurements were taken decreased.

I'm still unsure how to process it and was hoping to tell people about being pregnant but I'm not sure I want to just yet and maybe wait until the Harmony bloods are in. Knowing my luck they will be inconclusive!

If all ok I will get a call with my results. If not I will be asked to attend an appt to discuss the results and next step options.

Hate the not knowing.

bingo I'm so sorry your scan hasn't given you the reassurance you were hoping for. I did some research on this exact thing & it's really really common to be missing at this scan & everything to be fine. It's only you that can decide whether to tell people or not hon. I think I'd be clinging on to the fact my odds were now less than 0.38% when they were 1.1% statistically before than I went for the scan. Plus the sonographer wasn't worried.