Old bird graduates, gather round....let's talk chicklets!

[Gingerbreadlady1]

For the old bird thread graduates and any other slightly older mums to be, please join us. We're a friendly bunch.

Congrats Tranquility on the scan, glad all was well with your baby girl

Have NC as feel ashamed

Scan showed we are having a boy. Was certain it was a girl, still feels like its a girl - feels all wrong to say its now. I know its awful but the shock has been quite harsh and I feel really low . Being an old bird there will be no more chances so I will never have a daughter.. sob

Congratulations tranquility

Oh feeling, I felt just the same with DS. I was on my own when I went for the 20 wk scan, and I was sobbing so hard when I left that the sonographers called the MW to get her to check on me . These feelings are nothing to be ashamed of- there is a difference, and when I found out it was a boy this time around as well, I wasn't as cut up as before, but I did feel very weary at the thought of years spent chasing another little whirlwind around....I don't naturally like physical activity or sport!

But, you know, DS is wonderful- so affectionate and loving (when he's not being an arsey, oppositional little sod- but that's not gender specific ) and quirky and intelligent...and I think -"what does his sex matter weighed against the fact that he's a lovely little person?" So, to get another one like him is not going to be a hardship.

I do feel weary at the prospect of more chasing- but not all boys are incredibly active OK, most are, and some girls are handfuls too....I was somewhat mollified, at DS's party, to notice 2 of the children escaping together- apparently trying to make it back to the village on their own- until they were mere dots in the distance, and one of their mums had to sprint after them........yep, they were girls .

Do you already have a DS? I'm also cheering myself up with the thought that room sharing's going to be easier.....

Thanks stubborn

Yes I already have one DS, a teenager. When pg with him my preference was for a boy and I was sure all the way that I had a boy. This pregnancy was so different in every way and from very early on I was just convinced it was a girl. My intuition on things in life is usually quite good and I felt it so strong i created a whole world in my head about my DD to be. Silly, I know. Didn't really realise I was doing it until it has come crashing down today.

Forgot all about the chasing them around, it was so long ago! DS was a lovely, happy little bundle of chunkiness and is still very attuned into me and my feelings. He is happy to be having a brother though

Glad to hear I wasn't the only one in a state at sonographer. I could not stop crying. Luckily had DP with me. They gave us quiet room to go into afterwards to recover!! I do feel awful. I know how much I will love this little man. Just so want a girl too

Aww feeling, you are allowed to feel a pang of disappointment. Don't feel bad for feeling that way. Once you've given yourself time to accept it, go and and indulge yourself in some little blue outfits and take comfort in the fact you'll be well looked after in your old age! Hugs

Feeling, I felt the same I would have bet good money this one was a boy and it was a huge shock to be told it's a girl, I felt so upset, then guilty bcos it's a healthy baby and after 2 MCs I should be greatful, I'm gradually getting my head around it but your not alone in how you feel.
Congrats tranquility on your scan.
Had a shit day phone call to say my nan died massive heart attack then stupid fucking family jungle drums kicked in and Sis got narky with me for something I hadn't done/said grr. 700 mile round trip to funeral tho has me worried hips proper hurt from short journeys.
Sorry for mammoth post ladies

Oh feeling. Both DP & myself realised after we found out the gender quite how much we had wanted this one to be a girl (she is).
But I hadn't understood quite how much brain power I'd used to convince myself it was a boy in order to temper the disappointment I would feel if it actually was; I simply couldn't allow myself to think it could be another girl. All I kept saying to myself was I'd love it whatever & like snooky I'm just grateful after a mc and being 42 that all is well so far. It was one of the reasons I had a gender scan at 16 weeks to give me time to get my head round if it was a boy & work thru the disappointment.

Sorry for your loss snooky, families can be hard work (especially sisters...). Big hugs x

Thanks Hexy, your post was very enlitening thank you for posting, think I felt similar but didn't actually realise till now.

So sorry to hear about your man snooky, hugs.

Oh dear god cucumber is evil ! Chocolate doesn't give me mega indigestion grr

Is everyone here on their last baby, or any thinking of another?

DP said to me we could have another (think he was just trying to show me that my dreams of having a daughter not necessarily over). At first I was like, no way I'm too old but it's got me thinking. Its not just about trying to have a girl as odds are it would be another lil boy but it just keeps twinkling in my mind :)

feeling number 4 was meant to be my last but I'm here again having number 5 as my DP would like a boy ( my 3 older children are with a previous partner) I do worry we could have another DD and he may want to try again, but to be honest I would like this to be my last , but I did say that about no. 4 !!!

This will def be my last only because the 2 MC n the last year 5 months apart were soul destroying for me I couldn't cope with the stress of that happening again.

Lola can I ask how old you are?

I'll be 41 when I have next baby

Lola You're still a spring chicken then I'm older already!

Snooky I understand that

Yeah, I'm with snooky; life after mc is hard and pg after mc far more stressful & worry-filled than I anticipated. Couldn't go through that again. With several long term health conditions between DP & Me, I doubt if we could cope with any more kids anyway, on top of the stroppy teen. Plus I'll turn 43 when baby is 10 days old!

Every now & then I'm completely shocked I'm pregnant this time cos he was so unbelievably dead set against any more kids, we has blazing rows over a very long time about it. But he changed his mind & here I am 22 weeks upduffed!

I haven't experienced a mc and I expect pg is a very tough time, however after my bleed I do feel very anxious about this pregnancy and every time I feel a little bit damp I do panic... I feel this is going to be a long pregnancy and I doubt I could cope with anymore

Third and last baby for us. After an extopic and MC last year, this pregnancy has been so worrying. Get huge pangs of excitement now and again, but then reality hits and I keep it under wraps.

It does speed up as you get further along lola :)
Eh, tranq we are over halfway now, had the 20 week scans & we are allowed to get excited now xxx

Hello!

I'm in! I'm actually in week 28, due end of April/start of May (I don't like to focus much on an actual EDD - a six-week window seems a better fit for my brain!)

I am 40-odd, and already have a little boy. This will be our last baby, not because of my age, just that DH and I are perfectly happy with two.

blue, I don't know how old you are, but there is no reason to not at least try for another baby after your little boy. See how you feel later - you may well feel perfectly content not to have a girl once he is here. Hugs to you.

Would someone please remove me from the stats / list. I have miscarried.

Blessings to all of you on your journey to a healthy and happy baby.

I'm in a much better place now Hexy, excited!

Oh 45, I'm so very sorry for you. Take care xx

Sorry to read your sad news Monty xx

Sorry to hear your sad news Monty x
Thanks hexy for the reassurance