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Old bird graduates, gather round....let's talk chicklets!

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Gingerbreadlady1 · 21/10/2014 12:44

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AbsInTheClub · 07/02/2015 12:27

Flowers, Monty.

stubbornstains · 07/02/2015 20:06

inshock73 41 (will be 42), baby no 1,edd 14 April 2015
FreedomHuntress 40, (may be 41 by birth), edd 27 April 2015. Girl. DS is four.
Absintheclub "40 odd" Grin, baby no.2, edd end April/ beginning May
gingerbreadlady 38, baby no.1, edd 18th May 2015, boy
snooky17 40, edd 18th May 2015
stubbornstains 40 (will be 41) ,baby no.2, edd 31st May 2015.Boy.
mrs extraordinary nearly 35, baby no.6, edd 6th June
hexyqueen 42, baby no.2, edd 8th June, ELCS booked for 1st June.
clearlyopaque 39, baby no.1, edd 9th June 2015
bingobonkers 39, baby no.3, edd 21st June 2015 (summer solstice, nice!)
tranquilitybaby 36, baby no. 3. edd 23 June 2015, girl.
tilly73 41, edd 4th July 2015
overtiredbackagain 40 (will be 41), baby no.3, edd 7th July
supersupershock 42, baby no.2, edd 15th July 2015
miss twister 37, baby no.1, edd 31st July
nottalotta 37, baby no.1, edd 5th August 2015
MrsSmithChips 41, baby no.2, edd 29th August 2015
lolababy 40 (will be 41), baby no.5, edd 12th September

stubbornstains · 07/02/2015 20:08

I'm really sorry, monty Sad.

It's a nervewracking thing, getting pregnant at our age, and having to wait.....and wait...through early pregnancy.

AbsInTheClub · 07/02/2015 20:37

Thanks for the stats update, stubborn! Grin

I am still wracked of nerves and I am now in the third trimester. I think I'd be the same if I was half my age though.

stubbornstains · 07/02/2015 20:42

It's also amazing the amount of people I've heard say have worried more in their 2nd pregnancy.....does this increase with every pregnancy though? Are we going to have to coax all the 5th timers down off the ceiling on a regular basis? Grin.

I know why I'm more worried this time...yes, I'm 5 years older. But crucially, in my 1st pregnancy I didn't have an internet connection at home. It makes all the difference!

AbsInTheClub · 07/02/2015 20:49

I was probably equally anxious last time round, four and a half years ago, tbf! I wish I'd let myself just enjoy this, especially as this baby is our last.

HexyQueen · 07/02/2015 22:53

So sorry for you monty. Hope u have RL support around you. Take good care of yourself, there are mc boards on mumsnet that are really helpful xxx

Snooky17 · 08/02/2015 11:04

Stubborn, I'm with u, the Internet has increased my anxiety with my oldest who is 20 and my 14 year old no internet connection, whilst in can be a great help it does just add extra worries for me, but I am a worrier so is my own fault. Anyones OH just doing their heads in ?

Lolababy00 · 08/02/2015 11:32

Totally agree with the thoughts on the internet, it's great to be able to find answers quick but sometimes it's just tmi which then fuels your worries. Also I think I didn't worry much at all when I was younger... My youth allowed me to take on the attitude " everything will be fine ".

snooky my DP is being quite well behaved this week but last weekend I could of throttled him ..... I think it was my hormones though!

AbsInTheClub · 08/02/2015 18:43

I had the Internet last time round too, so same same for me really.
DH doesn't trawl MN or similar, and he is just so laid back about it all.

HexyQueen · 08/02/2015 20:13

DH is doing really well at not pissing me off. But my mother...fuck... Am trying really hard not to just shout, or up sticks & move to Scotland. We're using the answer phone facility far more than usual as it's better for my blood pressure!

As for internet & anxiety, having 3 long-term illnesses means I've already trained myself to NOT employ Dr Google if at all possible, but things like MN and FB can be a double edged sword. Absolutely wonderful to have groups like this & the ante-natal group to sound off and share on but also stuff comes up which you wouldn't otherwise find out & worry about, plus the number of people who have had miscarriages is high which makes you more aware of risks in the very early stages.

stubbornstains · 08/02/2015 20:37

I'm afraid I got rid of my OH, such was the extent to which he was doing my head in....Grin

Flippant reply really- obviously it's not ideal, being a single mum, but he seems really on board wrt the baby, and also to maintaining contact with my older DS, which is a godsend.

Even less flippant is that the reasons for the unacceptable behaviour that led to the split have become clearer- he's just had a bit of a breakdown, and it transpires that he has been suffering some quite bad symptoms of mental illness for quite some time- just been trying to conceal them from everybody (not always successfully). At least now it's out in the open, he's getting help with medication, and has been referred to the local MH team, which means they're taking it seriously and he should get lots of support.

stubbornstains · 08/02/2015 20:40

BY the way, I completely agree with you about MN being a double edged sword, hexy! So much support, yet so many stories to stumble over that you wish you hadn't read....Sad.

Snooky17 · 09/02/2015 09:54

Stubborn, good news that finally he is getting the help he needs, would a reconciliation be on the cards at any point ? Or has too much happened to even consider it ? My OH was diagnosed with severe depression is on anti D, it does get better. Is good that he is still in contact with your DS that says a lot about him.
26 weeks today, it's going fast but slow at the same time lol

stubbornstains · 09/02/2015 10:45

I don't know snooky; it's confusing, tbh. It's like he was maintaining a facade of "normality" whilst covering up what I think can only be described as paranoid delusions, which would occasionally slip out as quite nasty behaviour, while he was really nice the rest of the time.....apparently this has been going on for the whole of our relationship (2.5 years)......so, who is he, really? That's some confusing shit Sad.

I think it might have destroyed the way I felt about him for good, although I really feel for him in his distress, and also admire the way he is determined to be a good father. Thing is, this was years brewing, and I honestly think that it will take him years to really confront all his stuff.

But, day to day, it still wasn't a fraction as bad as living with someone with major depression, so hope your OH is doing well snooky?

On another note, I was 24 weeks yesterday, so have passed the point of viability- goodbye foetus, hello baby! Another milestone!

stubbornstains · 09/02/2015 10:49

Also.....I've just realised that it was about a year ago that gingerbreadlady1 started the original Old Birds TTC thread. That thread appears to have fizzled out now.....because so many of the original contributors got pregnant- some after a really tough, long journey. Amazing how so much can change in a year, isn't it? Smile

Snooky17 · 09/02/2015 12:08

Stubborn, yay on viability does make you breath a little sigh of relief doesnt it.
My OH is also an alcoholic something that only really became apparant after he met me, I do have to admit at some points I wonder if it's because of me, wonder if I really know him at all, makes you second guess your gut feeling at times,Men!
It's good to see so many old birds getting BFPs I never posted on the old thread but did regularly stalk it.

AbsInTheClub · 09/02/2015 14:47

Hexy, sorry your mother is being a pain. Is it so bad you really want to move?!

stubborn, glad your ex is getting his help at last. It may well change him in a big way, for the better.
Yay for reaching V day for you!

Snooky, must be so hard being with an alcoholic. I hope you are doing ok.

I am counting my blessings with DH!

Tranquilitybaby · 09/02/2015 16:56

Happy viability stubborn, can't wait to get to that milestone.

BingoBonkers · 09/02/2015 21:02

22 weeks tmw. Come so far yet still ages to go.

Agree about the comments about the Internet and forums being double edged swords. Dr Google has had me self diagnosing all sorts and usually some serious horrible stuff. Natural to think the worst I'm sure.

Lolababy00 · 10/02/2015 07:14

Had my booking in appointment yesterday, all went well HB agreed as long as CS doesn't return which because I had it quite bad, it is likely to happen again but not 100 %. Won't be going over 40 weeks as they don't let us 40 plus do that due to risks to the baby. Scan should be roughly in 3 weeks just got to wait for appointment from hospital . Same midwife as I has with my DD which was lovely. All a bit real now !!!!Smile

Tranquilitybaby · 10/02/2015 07:41

Ah glad it went well Lola. X

stubbornstains · 10/02/2015 09:43

That's good lola....what's CS? I can't work it out!

Lolababy00 · 10/02/2015 10:04

Cholestasis CS or Obstetric cholestasis OC, a problem with liver that causes severe itching on hands and feet ... Puts baby at risk and can cause still birth.

stubbornstains · 10/02/2015 10:16

That must have been worrying....did you have to be monitored a lot in your last pregnancy?

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