Old bird graduates, gather round....let's talk chicklets!

[Gingerbreadlady1]

For the old bird thread graduates and any other slightly older mums to be, please join us. We're a friendly bunch.

My nuchal was 1.6, and risk 1/1100. Yay for extra scan meaning you get to see baba again.

Thank fuck you can't put vids on here ginger, the horror at baring 42 year old tum one and all on a public forum shudder
Wonder if I can pm you it? it's only 38 secs long but rather freaky :)

So sorry for your split stubborn. Sounds like he's a twat and you are better off alone though. Big hugs. Xxx

Welcome lola. We really are a nice bunch here, congrats on your BFP.

Both of your risks are really good. For some reason I was expecting as an old bird to get about 1 in 65

Anyone had Harmony test

Stubborn - its really so much to be better on your own with baby than in bad relationship Think I said about my experience earlier in this thread. Wish I had dumped that twat earlier as he gave me nothing but stress and grief which was energy wasted when I should have been totally focussed on bubba. Hugs

Stubborn totally agree that it's not good raising baby or child in a bad relationship. I split with ex when my eldest was eight and one day out of the blue she said "it's nice at home when there's no shouting "... Also they have a great relationship with their dad now which I don't think they would of if we stayed together .

Aw....you've seen your baby super, congrats! Want to post a picture?

My risk was, I think, 1: 1875 (or thereabouts), and nuchal measurement was 1.something . I posted a musing upthread about how the NHS literature says old birds (over 40s) have a 1:100 chance of DS, yet everyone so far has had a much, much lower risk, and wondering how they arrived at those figures (knowing how many of the stats for fertility in older women seem to come from extremely questionable sources once you look into them). Anything greater than 1:150 is officially low risk.

lola I understand not wanting to go on The List until you've had your scan- I was so paranoid I didn't even come on this thread until then! It's a horrible, draggy, scary time, isn't it?

So super, does that mean that Twatbadger if officially Out then?

I'm really feeling quite calm and positive about being on my own again- if, that is, ex steps up to the mark and does some fathering- and carries on seeing DS. He seems to be quite fixed on coming to the 20 week scan on Monday, which is a step in the right direction, but I worry that he has form for running away and hiding from anything difficult- for example, he was absent for the whole time his mum was dying from cancer- "couldn't deal with it" . (This would not be entirely unconnected to some of my reasons for wanting to end it. He has a lot of growing up still to do. Which is rather tragic in a 47 year old).

Welcome to our hang lola!

Ive had Harmony Super what would you like to know?

My NT measurement was 1.4.

Hi girls. Not a happy post from me tonight as I'm plagued with negative feelings and really I'm just waiting for the inevitable to happen. Any ridiculously vague symptoms I had are now gone. No discharge, no boob tenderness or tingling, no stretching pains. Just feeling completely normal, 6 weeks tomorrow and I clearly remember all my symptoms disappearing before I lost my pregnancy in February last year.

It's horrible but I've been expecting it. I keep pondering having an early scan but I can't see the benefit really even if it temporarily gives some positivity back.

(holding your hand sebs).

You know it might mean nothing, right?

Lots of ((hugs))

Bloody hellish 8ww.....

Hi it is a scary time .... Don't feel I can get too excited yet.
Sebsmummy1..... It might mean nothing my first 3 pregnancies I was sick up to 20 weeks, last pregnancy nothing until 28 weeks when I was sick to 38 weeks.

I didn't have a scan picture today - they said they would do it at scan next week.

Harmony - I don't know what I want to know.... I thought if my DS risk was high then would go for Harmony rather than invasive further testing. But your NT was low - what was your combined? I am not even sure I am understanding all this properly....! Having had the NHS combined thingy what were the benefits you found in having the Harmony. I'm not making sense am I!

Stubborn - I was referrign to twat father of DS many many years ago :)

Sebs - can you give the mf a ring tomorrow for a chat about it? Hugs

I think most people wait for their combined test results, and only go for further testing if the results come back as high risk. That's when you'd be offered the CVS or amniocentesis (both invasive), or could opt for Harmony (non invasive) instead. Although some people want to be 100% sure, and go for a Harmony test anyway.

For me, having had two losses, I wanted something the gave me as accurate risk as possible (think nuchal scan is around 80% accurate vs. 99% for Harmony.) it tests for three chromosome abnormalities.

My combined result was something like 1/3000 but the Harmony came back 1//10,000. X

Sebs hang in there, I know it's scary and until you get to have a scan, limbo isn't a nice place to be. Could you have a scan next week for reassurance?

Welcome to 2015 Cluckers!

Well Christmas and NY were quiet which was perfect.

I'm 17+4 now and huge! Feel sick still. Eating like a pig to combat the sickness. Lethal combination as have really stacked on the weight and my boobs have gone up three cup sizes already.

I had the Harmony too as wanted to know. Nuchal said 1:265 and the cut off for low risk is 1:250. Harmony results came back as 1:10,000.

sebs thinking of you and sending sticky thoughts.

Where are the bump pictures? Go on, you know you want to...

Hi bingo. Brilliant news on the harmony!

I took a pic last week but my bum's bigger than my bump! Lol

How are you sebs?

Hey. I'm ok. Still the same, zero symptoms, don't feel pregnant. Meant to be 6+1 today.

I feel I am just treading water at the moment, it's a very strange feeling.

I didn't at 6 weeks really, just bit tired. Hand holding x could you book a scan?

sebs I didn't feel any diff till around week 8. Why don't you book a private scan, think ours was £37.

See, your first thought when you see this is probably "Why has she got a pterodactyl sticking out of her bum?"

And the second is probably "Smeary Mirror!" Hey, what do us fertility goddesses care for housework!

The third is probably "God, that's enormous for 20 weeks (tomorrow)"......

Wow that is a bump stubborn! I just look fat at 16+5!

Yep stubborn you win! My bump is quite significant for 17wks too. By the time I hit 30wks I am going to be heeee-uge! Getting in and out the bath is already a comedy of errors.

seb being in limbo land is proper rotten and messes with your mind. Here to hand hold.

I am genuinely a bit worried about the bump size, re: gestational diabetes. Luckily, I have my 20 week scan on Mon, so can check if all is OK.......it's also worrying that, if I continue growing at the same rate, I'm going to have to hire some kind of industrial lifting equipment to get me out of bath/ bed in the last few weeks...

Yay!!!! Bump picture! That us a fantastic bump stubborn, I think you look fantastic. The same thought had occurred to me re: what will I look like in 18 weeks time? Surely I can't possibly become twice as big as I do now!?! But I love my bump, it's the extra weight I'm not such a fan of, but will be worth it.