April 2015 thread 2 for miscarriage survivors. today we are pregnant!

[TinyTear]

Thread 2
Nearly at the 12w mark for all and we can start some stats!

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Utterly disgusting little Absolutely no excuse for it. As an NHS worker I really do find that so shocking! I hope you get a resolution AND apology.

Good luck for tomorrow smiling

Little I'm very shocked and appalled at your treatment. Nonetheless, I hope that you had a good anniversary last night :)

LIG & Tiny hope both of your DDs are on the mend. And wow at reaching the biscuit tin - that's truly a milestone!

Smiling best of luck with your scan today.

Mammy welcome to the group.

Morning all,

hope it goes well today smiling.

Little - it does sound that you have had an appalling time with the nhs. I hope that this other hospital is better and obviously that this pregnancy goes better and you do not need their help.

I do love the milestone of reaching the biscuit tin and can relate to that whole sinking realisation that they can do something new that you then need to stop them doing.

dd is still unwell and from the sound of it outside it sounds like the perfect day for a duvet day. Not working today so don't need to try and fit in work around having someone attached to me.

Good luck today smiling!!

Good luck smiling keep us posted

My DD is ok now and the biscuit tin thing is great... she had reached it when she bothered dragging her little step stool over and stand on it, but now she can do it without the bench... I hide the chocolate bourbons and stuff, but leave malted milk and plain rich tea ones in the tin, as I don't mind her having one of those once in a while (she asks for a plain biscuit)

Besides It's good to have independence of sorts. We have a low fridge under the counter and she can go there, open it and get a babybel or a yogurt out which is great
:-)

Good luck smiling

Good luck today smiling.

Smiling I hope the scan has gone well.

Thank you for all the support, I was starting to wonder if I'm just a difficult customer.
Still waiting for GP to call will give it another hour then I'm calling her.
I haven't had breakfast yet because I know the minute I do GP will call.

TMI warning and I could do with some time in the loo.
Heed my warning if you have pregnancy constipation avoid eating green lentils and puff pasty, especially if like me you are lactose intolerant....

Scan went really well, beany is growing fine and everything is where it should be.

We are having a Boy

yay smiling
Hooray!!

I just had to spout off to someone on a babycentre board as she was moaning the NHS scan told her nothing as the baby was in a bad position so she needed a private scan for the sex.

don't these people realise a scan is a medical procedure? not just blue or pink hun? SIgh

smiling lovely news on the Boy and good scan.

Tiny that pisses me off too along with people telling others to fake bleeding to get an EPU appointment.
They just don't seem to get its a healthcare check for the baby not a chance to wave at it. Nice if you get more from it but that's not the point.

Last week there was one imbecile going off at the songraphers and receptionist that he and his wife had waited a whole half hour for their appointment and they needed to get back to work. Really abusive.
There are plenty of signs around stating that some patients may need more time due to unforeseen circumstances.
The other mother and I sitting around the corner in Fetal Medicine were both furious we had waited far longer and were just hoping our babies were alive!
We were stressed enough without having to listen to him. I suggested one of us go remind him he didn't have a uterus therefore surplus to requirements.

We seem to have cleared up our prescription drama a little. Seems like a GP I've never met queried why I was getting Asprin the midwife shrugged so they just cancelled it! Come on its fairly common in pregnancy surely one of them would know its for repeated MC?! And why not call to ask?

Its been reissued but if DH can't get it tonight I won't be able to get it till Wednesday seeing as its too far for me to walk mainly because I need to go up and down steep hills.
DH is still cross about how its been handled especially cancelling it without warning and wants to write a letter of complaint.
I'm not happy either but I really like my GP she's been amazing support and she was so apologetic. But I do worry this might happen every month.
It seems my hospital/consultant may share part of the blame as they haven't passed on anything to the GPs despite them requesting to know whats going on.

Congratulations smiling :)

Good news smiling.

little you can get 75mg aspirin from Tesco wthout prescription. I decided to self medicate myself with progesterone and aspirin after 2 mcs and aspirin is easy to get hold off. I just order it online with my Tesco shop. Can a dr decide without consulting you to cancel a prescription? Surely that cannot be allowed.

I think some people do have a very different view of scans. I think for some it is a chance to see your baby (and get a picture to show everyone on FB) rather than a medical scan. That said, I did not really think about the medical purpose of the scan until my 20 week scan with dd as I was more thinking - is it alive? I think that was partly why I wasn't too worried when they couldn't do the 12 week nuchal as in my head all I had planned for was whether there would be a heartbeat. Once, I saw that I switched off. It was only after that I thought about the possibility of health problems with him.

Who has announced their pregnancy on FB apart from Lila? DH wants to but I don't want to. We never did with dd although a few people outed us by not realising it hadn't been formally announced. But I didn't hide it after 20 weeks by allowing photos of me but not posting bump shots or anything like that.

I haven't, I told a few friends by email but will not make any formal announcement

and the ladies in my Feb 12 birthgroup also know

LIG I knew you could buy it but I though you had to provide the pharmasist with an explanation and I'm a bad liar I didn't think they would give it me me of I said I was pregnant and my prrescription is cancelled.
I will see if our Tesco have any thanks for letting me know.
Where do you get your Progesterone? I've been thinking about that myself.

I was thinking about the ethical issue of Drs cancelling prescriptions too but I've just spoke to my mum who is carer and she says it happens constantly.

I don't have FB but I'm sure my family have totally ousted me to anyone they have ever met.
My in-laws don't know if I get to 24 weeks we will tell them not sure how they live about 500 miles away. Maybe send them a card with a scan photo.

Congratulations Smiley

Little I buy my aspirin from my local boots. It's v cheap, under £2 for a bottle.

LIG I didn't realise you can buy protesgerone without prescription.

I haven't and won't announce my pregnancy on Facebook.

Yay! Another boy!! Congrats smiling!!

The progesterone you can get online but it is not as good as cyclogest. It is a cream. But it extended my luteal phase from 9 days to 11 and I continued it till 12 weeks as a boost. Can see if I can find the link if anyone wants to buy some?

Great news, Smiling!

The scan thing annoys me too, the main March thread felt like everyone thought it was the pink/blue scan and nothing else. It was a major milestone for me as it was a "regular" scan like everyone else has.

I announced on fb when I was 13 weeks! No photos or scan pics, and it was more about celebrating getting so far after all the MCs. It was really well received and I had tons of messages of support.

Congratulations smiling !!

I sometimes think the scan attitude is a naive thing. With DD1 we were totally naive and genuinely saw the scan as a chance to have a loomk at the baby. Obviously knew it was a serious thing but in terms of how we felt about going, we were excited. We were lucky in getting pregnant -happened the first month we tried - so we had no experience of anything difficult in the process and viewed scans in the same way.

In contrast this time, following 2 MMCs in 6 months, all scans have been utterly feared and sitting the waiting room feeling like you're about to go up in front of the firing squad just hoping the heartbeat is there let alone anything else is a completely different process.

I even had an infuriating experience in the EPAU once, a young girl had come in for a scan for whatever reason, and as you know anyone in the EPAU is sat there waiting petrified. Anyway this girl had her scan, she was lucky and everything was fine, and the mother was joyfully showing all and sundry the scan picture, I mean talk about insensitive!!! People were sat there literally miscarrying and she was flapping about with a photo saying how overjoyed she was! Ridiculous!

Oh yes meant to comment on FB announcements, yep we announced on FB at 13 weeks with a scan pic - the lot!

We use FB. A lot as we live a long way from family, so whilst we told them about the pregnancy over the phone we uploaded photo for people to see better online and got to share with friends too.

It's lovely when people send nice messages, I always feel excited when I see friends and family post scan/baby pics!

Totally understand it's not for everyone though!

LIG do you use it for TTC or do you use it during pregnancy.

London is that baby Asprin? My pharmacy is Boots so I'll see if I can buy over the counter so I have a supply should I need it.

mammysam gosh that really was insenstive behaviour. At one of my EPU appointments I wasn't pleased when so,women turned up with her friend and newborn baby. I understand sometimes people need a lift and some support but I really did feel upset by it.

I'm feeling leaky again but I'm beginning to wonder if my bladder is just broken.

I was utterly naive at my first scan - I can honestly say it never occurred to me that there might be a problem :( Needless to say, all scan since then have not been such innocent occasions.
I don't begrudge excitement to those who still see it the same way I did.

I haven't announced it on Facebook, and I won't - but I did tell my Nov 12 babies group.