December 2014 thread 8: turn up the heat - the Christmas turkeys are cooking!

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No guidance whatsoever. Guess it's off to Google for me!

The new babies are all still in hospital but doing well.

Right, the only guidance I have had is from my lovely parents ed class tutor. She said to have a look on the internet for sample ones, find the questions comments and things you want to mention and make your own. Don't put masses of info, and bullet point it so they actually read it. Anything that is very important to you make BIG or RED!

She also said ask the following questions when things get a bit iffy.

Is my baby ok?
Is there anything else we can do?
Can we give this any more time/what happens if we do nothing?

Another useful thing to mention which I very much liked is if you are going down the natural route ask them not to offer you pain relief, tell them you will ask for it when you need it. Otherwise you end up thinking you need pain relief because they are asking you whether you need it, if that makes sense?

I started doing mine and freaked out so I need to calm down and bloody finish it!

Peace if you've given them adequate warning and the opportunity to correct themselves, then you will be fine. You were perfectly within your rights to complain about the noise and you hold the moral high ground. Any harrassment go straight to the police.

I had a pervy neighbour experience last year. Lovely family man pillar of the community new dad who just happened to like watching people in their showers(through frosted glass which faced out on to private gardens) and playing with himself. By people I mean me. It was horrendous and I agonised about calling the police. I did. They took him in and spoke to him. I was so worried about him getting his revenge. Its been a year and he still goes red and crosses the road when he sees me.

Evening ladies - sorry no time for personals. Am really struggling to sleep, woke 5 times last night and eventually gave up and slept on the sofa (so says to avoid DHs snoring) from 3am. My nausea and vomiting it making a reappearance which a) sucks and b)!is making work very difficult - spent most of the morning running to/from the toilet thinking I was going to vomit......fun times.

On a better note, off to ikea for final bites of furniture for nursery on Sunday so can then start unpacking and organising all the stuff we have. Have started on my hospital bag too :)

Hi MN, haven't forgotten you all but MN is being a bitch. Urgh.

Birth plan seems far away! I don't want anything ruled out, don't want to be left too long if C-section is needed, I do want a presentation scan to find out how baby is lying, and I do NOT want baby given formula, especially not cows-milk-based. Oh, and I want skin-to-skin contact asap, and to breastfeed if possible. Will that do you reckon? Having never done it before I haven't a clue ;)

Heartburn killing me. Dr prescribed Gavison Advance, no idea of the difference, but seems to be helping? Not sure.

Baby attempting to escape via my stomach, using its bottom. Keep telling it that it won't work, but they aren't listening! Got hiccups earlier and was obviously not impressed - see video! Here!

FB ladies seem to think I don't wear clothes... Well, as much as I can, I don't! :) 33+4 today, baby shower on Sat, coffee with friends tomorrow.

Why is MN being a bitch?!

I am full of the cold. I have a sore dry cough and every time I cough or sneeze, I piss myself. It's truly joyous....

So it's an elective c section for me at 39 weeks. I can still change my mind. It is the right option for me, after the damage sustained from my natural births but I still feel a bit sad. I loved meeting my babies after labour - it feels more, correct if that makes sense.

No one I know has even used their birth plan in labour. It was a case of suck it and see on the day. I have never written one. I think sometimes the best laid plans just fly out the window!

Can't believe these awful neighbour stories

36 week midwife appointment today. Got a shopping list for the home birth (new hose and adapter for the kitchen tap, cheap sieve, old towels and shower curtains), everything else will be provided by the midwife. And I got confirmation that it's ok to have ds present/in the house.

Dh has agreed to sit down with me to write the birth plan in the next few days, as I really need him to understand what I want and why so he needs to know what's in it.

Baby isn't yet engaged (she's too busy sitting in my ribcage, stopping me breathing, bending or eating), I'm measuring small at 33 weeks but ds wasn't a big baby so they're not concerned, and the urine test showed + glucose for the first time, but mw didn't seem overly concerned.

Morning all!

Baby has discovered a new toy - my spleen! Ouccchhhhhhh. What I would give to sleep beyond 5am. It sounds like we're all in the wars for this final stretch!

Today I can look forward to unpacking the hundreds of boxes I'd packed back into the flat :(

Hopefully this weekend we can get the nursery painted between midwife appts and antenatal classes. What colour has everyone gone for? I'm liking this for my surprise yellow bear....

Morning ladies!
Im off to the shops later to get all my hospital bag bits! Then out for lunch and ante natal class this afternoon!
Finishing work on friday due to being owed five weeks annual leave which will take me right upto when i finish for maternity leave :D
Struggling to sleep at night/stay awake during the day, dreadful heartburn around 2am every morning! Sore feet, sore sides, sore back-just bloody sore everything!
32+3 and feeling like a whale!

Sasseh, we have proof that you don't wear clothes, it's not our imagination. It's all good though,I'm embracing ny nakedness too, although going to my mum's later - don't think she'll appreciate it much haha

I was in so much pain this morning that as soon as I got into work I turned back around and got a taxi to the walk-in-centre. The taxi driver made me cry first off, because he said "the hospital is only five minutes away; don't you want to walk?" I cant walk, I wailed. He got a bit nicer after that. The receptionist made me cry next, when she told me the nurse won't be able to treat me, only assess me. I just need help, I wailed further. Next up was the nurse, who saw me very quickly (crying and being pregnant seems to help when looking to queue jump), and was very very nice, which made me cry again. She made an emergency appointment with my GP for me, and even let me use the staff phone to call DH to ask if he could take me (he didn't answer). So I got another taxi back to work, rang DH to ask for more money for further taxis, and hopped hobbled into another one to my doctors surgery. The receptionist was rather snooty and informed me that I was an hour early for my appointment. Yes, I know, but it was either wait here or at the hospital.
Kept trying to visualise an ebbing tide on a tropical beach to deal with the pain but I almost fell asleep! Sitting straight up and very still is the most comfortable I can get. The doctor was a bit stern but after I cried for the fourth time today, she softened up a bit. She poked me and made me do all sorts of excruciatingly painful things like breathe and move my arm, and then prescribed me 30/500 co-codamol. I've just taken one now and am hoping to be in a daze all afternoon, or at the very least, pain-free. Suffice to say nothing is getting done at work, but I've got to be here as an extra body.

Such a cry baby, I know, but my god, I just can't bear this pain anymore. Eight days left at work.

Oh no Peace! Huge hugs to you. Sounds like a really rotten day.

Hope the painkillers are working. Where's the pain? (Ignore if I'm just being nosy, can't help but investigate medical problems )

Thank you Aziz! I'm taking all the sympathy I can get right now. I feel like a ridiculous drama queen - I make ~sex noises every time I move, it's agony.
It's in my left shoulder blade and shoots down to my elbow and up to my neck, hurts when i move, don't move, sit, stand, lie down, breathe, yawn, hiccup, get touched, argh. It's turned me into an absolute dragon at work as well :( poor volunteers got the brunt of it this morning. I took two tablets two hours ago and they haven't touched the pain, which is really worrying, because 30/500 usually knocks me right out in under half an hour!

I'm starting to think labour is gonna be a walk in the park compared to this!

Oh, at antenatal night we tried out a TENS machine! I didn't like it much, just felt like something was stuck to my arm and loosely vibrating. Sorry NCT, you're not getting my dollar. DH and his new buddy were both turning it up to max and making their hands flex on their own

**at antenatal LAST night

Ooosh sounds horrible! Did your GP come up with a plan or are they just hoping it will go? It sounds maybe like a trapped nerve, I never know what kind of private specialist deals with these sorts of things (osteo/chiropractor etc) but if your 30/500 isn't hitting it sounds like you need another plan. If it is nerve pain there are other classes of pain killers but possibly not suitable in pregnancy.

It's really sucky that on top of all the rubbish symptoms that pregnancy brings you have such pain elsewhere :( (and be careful with the codeine and constipation, I don't know about you but my Bear has definitely impacted my pooing ability!!)

And lol at your hubby, it's the little things in life hey! ;)

Hi ladies, im back on facebook. ..would someone kindly message me the details totalk on there? Im due dec....6 weeks to go eek x

Just remarking. Couldn't find you as I was looking for dec 2013. Bloody plonker!

Next door are hammering. It's 9:20pm. Why do people think that's ok? Just fuck off will you stupid next door idiots.

Hi America, I just opened the fb group. Search for Jingle Babies - DD Dec 2014 and request to join. I'll close it again sometime tonight :)

Pourquoi do you live on my road? Sounds like we share neighbours >: ( hope they stfu soon!

Monkey - I tried searching on FB. Is it still open?

So I took three doses of co-codamol throughout the afternoon and it didn't touch the pain whatsoever, and when I tried to lie down to go to sleep at about 9pm it was so painful I involuntarily screamed. DH phoned 111 to see if I ought to go to the out of hours GP or A+E, and of course at the first mention of chest pain they send a bloody ambulance out. Ambulance control phoned DH and he said we don't need an ambulance; ambulance control agreed and told him to drive me to hospital instead. Still all far more dramatic than it needed to be. At hospital they started freaking out because pregnant + chest pain obviously = blood clot. I had an ECG (where I had to get my tits out unexpectedly) and a canula put in, and FOUR arterial blood tests (seriously uncool). They told me they would keep me in overnight because of the mere suspicion of a clot. Then at the very last minute the doctor changed his mind and said there's nothing they could do for me because it pretty much definitely isn't a clot (I could have told them that), so go home and hopefully the pain will go away. Paracetamol and hot water bottle. Fuck. So I'm still in the same excruciating pain, can't breathe or bend over or really walk any distance at all, and I definitely can't lay down. So here I am at almost 2am with sofa cushions propping me up in bed. Thank god a volunteer agreed to open the shop tomorrow because there's no way I'm getting any sleep tonight! I mean don't get me wrong - I'm very glad it's nothing serious like a clot, but I went to hospital because I was utterly desperate for some pain relief, but apparently there is nothing they can do for me. I'm not angry at the hospital or the doctor, I'm just angry with the world because I'm in so much pain and no one can help me feel better :( :( :(

I can't stop crying, I'm in so much pain I can't even lie down, and I don't know who else to ask for help. The hospital was my last resort and there isn't anyone else. Crying makes it hurt more!

I'm starting to wonder if it's in my head.

:( so sorry to read you're suffering so much Peace. All I can suggest for overnight is distraction and hope that you can get some sleep. You need the emergency GP appt in the morning and to insist on a plan plus proper pain relief until then. It may be that co-codamol is your only 'hard' option at this point in pregnancy. Perhaps they could add an anti inflammatory?

It's important that you don't take more than 8tablets (4g) with paracetamol in 24hrs (sorry if stating absolute obvious but it's easy to exceed as you can have it 4hrly and you're in so much pain)

I'm glad they have ruled out a clot, but at the same time your pain is real and needs addressing. I hope you have managed to drift off x