December 2014 thread 8: turn up the heat - the Christmas turkeys are cooking!

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Peace - I remember reading somewhere that you should give your midwife a call if you feel a lot of downward pressure in case it's your baby planning an early escape.

merry sunday everyone.
been lurking rather than posting for a few days, as carpal tunnel now so bad that I can barely type, and can't reliably do anything on the tablet :S

kusmile, I'm exactly the same; not 'out' on FB, and actually, unless someone has seen me face to face since I have been showing (last 6w tops) then I am not out in RL either. As a serial MCer, I am absolutely terrified of having to 'un-tell' people, and getting really irate when DS can't keep his mouth shut.

Feeling really coy last few days. TMI, but constipation has set in with a vengeance, and have had several mornings (and in some cases days) of zero warning projectile vomiting :(

DH deserves a medal the last few days, having spoilt me rotten, and done everything that I have even vaguely mentioned I wanted...
Yesterday, he organised baby stuff that my Aunt had been sneaking into the house and him then sneaking into the attic for a the last few weeks (me being to scared to jinx things by allowing anything in the house), into the nursery when I had a wobble after the early contractions and talk of steroids. He then hid it again when I had the usual 'jinxing' meltdown. He had to repeat this twice more as I kept panicking intermittently about not being ready or causing problems, and did so without any comment soother than big hugs, then bought pizza for tea to save me cooking. I suspect though that secretly he might think that the baby coming early is no bad thing as I doubt he really wants another 2m of irrational-neurotic-wife.

Sunday hugs to all xx

Umm, not quite sure how icky got autocorrected to coy, but that's how I've actually been feeling. LOL

peace I also have a lot of pressure down below, and can feel headbutts to my cervix quite frequently. Its horrible isn't it? If I sit Smith my legs up on the sofa and to one side IYKWIM, then it feels a bit like something is there...
Hope you feel better soon and get some reassurance from MW x

I'm not calling the midwife; I have pathetic telephone anxiety and hate causing a fuss! If I get pain I'll call in. I know I'm an idiot. Thanks for the reassurance though - and Google has actually made me feel better for once! Have loads to do today but DH has let me station myself on the sofa for the afternoon :)

Peace, 5 weeks 1 day... eeek.

If it gets any worse (starts hurting etc) and you don't feel like calling the midwife, get DP to call the delivery suite for some advice. xx

I can't remember whether I've recommended it on here, but I've been reading Birth Skills by Juju Sundin -about how to manage during labour. It's really good and has really helped me with the anxiety over giving birth. It's all about how the pain you feel is purposeful. You are not being injured, it's your body doing a job, and how to get through it (if you need drugs you need drugs)the best way for you.

I have done the last bits of shopping this weekend and DP has been painting the baby's room. The fact that the boys room is now head height with crap is incidental.....

Eeeek!! So close! What colours did you choose for the baby's room? DH shifted our chest of drawers into the (built in) wardrobe today so we can put the cot up next to our bed. I have boxes that need unpacking from when we moved in blocking the way, though, so that needs sorting!

Peace I've heard that that kind of feeling can mean the baby has gone head down & decided to engage! doesn't necessarily mean early arrival though as they need to start getting in the right position from 35 onwards anyway I believe x

MrsH I wouldn't be worried if I was 35 weeks but I'm only 30! Seems far too early for any of this engaging business

I think my babys head has been firmly butted up against that bit for a while now, bless! 33 weeks today.

The room is tiny. 2 meters by 2 meters - with ridiculously placed radiator. We've done it light yellow with a browny cream carpet (was a £20 offcut - advantage of the room being so little!). It looks lovely. I can't wait for him to finish it so we can get the cot up :)

oh sorry Hun, I don't know where I got 35 weeks from then! go with everyine saying call if you get any other symptoms!

BHLS my bedroom at home was exactly like that, decorated entirely in offcuts!

My 33 week NCT email said something about feeling lots of pressure down low, like baby is going to fall out. Email said it just baby getting in head down position.

Catface my baby is measuring 33/34 weeks, even though I'm only 30 weeks so perhaps that's caused it to engage early? I'm overthinking this I feel bloody dreadful though, really nauseous and drained. Urgh.

Peace I had this exact feeling around 31weeks and was feeling pretty chuffed that baby knew the exit route (even if I peed every 5mins). And then 4days ago the little monster wriggled itself back up and is now transverse and kicking very very hard where there is no room and definitely trying to escape via my side. Bear seems very squashed but me asking for the head to go back where it belongs is being ignored.

Had our hospital antenatal class today, it was fab. Lots of helpful pics and I even persuaded hubby to have a go at putting a nappy on a doll :) I'm set on staying at home in a little nest as long as possible and have a lot more belief that I can get bear out. Plus got to see the birthing centre and a pool, it was sooooo deep! I could definitely swim in it ;)

Peace sorry for the tmi question but is the 'falling out' feeling worse when you sit on the toilet? Especially if you are pushing out a poo?

If so, it might be a pelvic floor prolapse. It happens with the pressure and weight of your baby pushing down on everything. Good news is that it won't affect delivery so nothing to worry about there, but the best you can really hope for is to arrest it getting worse until after your baby is born. To stop it getting worse you need to increase your pelvic floor exercises a lot. My physio told me to hold for at least ten seconds and repeat ten times and then to do this as many times a day as you can remember. She suggested mealtimes and travel times so you have something to prompt your memory. I've had mine since about 25 weeks ish and it's got no worse (and maybe a bit better) since I started upping the exercises. Also, stay on the toilet as brief a time as possible as that concentrates the pressure.

My first thought was prolapse, actually, but no, it's only when I'm standing and walking around, and it's more like heaviness in the front. It has made me think more about pelvic floor exercises today, though!

At my 31 week appointment the midwife said the baby's head was 3/5 engaged but said it wasn't anything to worry about. I do feel it's head very low down but mainly if I'm standing still for too long.

Hi ho! Hi ho! Off to be made redundant I go..

Well in an hour or so...its quite funny really as I think the company thinks that it'll come as a shock to us all. Not in the slightest

I'm just pissed off that I have to get up early on a Monday.

BHLS will you get a redundancy payout? How will it affect your maternity pay?

Gosh, all the best with it BHLS. It seems a bit controversial to make a pregnant woman redundant. I hope they're giving you a good severance package.

There. All done. 40 of us in total. I won't get any redundancy as been there since Jan only but do get paid Maternity till August.

Oh BHLS are you okay about it?

Bit gutted but I feel worse for my staff. least I have some flexibility about where we can move to now. Was an horrendously stressful job anyway.