Due in November - Part 6 - The Ring of Fire is approaching !

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Here you go girls - somewhere new you for us to discuss our burning bits

Podglet, so sorry i had one of those sort of relationships with my Dad's dad.
Have no advice really, I wouldn't even know where to start but thinking of you x

poglet so sorry to hear your news, like the others i'm affraid i can't offer any advise but as has been said please look after yourself and lo as your first priority. i'm around most of the week if you need someone to talk to.

Poglet so sorry to hear your news again im afraid i have no advice but am here if you need a chat to anyone.

I have decided i am going to try my luck and ask for an elective cesarian when i see my consultant on the 27th. I know it's cutting it fine time wise and he may very well say no but i feel i ahve to at least try, here is what i will say to him what do you think?

My reasons for coming to this decision are, i have had weeks and weeks of sleepless nights due to panick attacks worrying about the birth. I am scared i will have trouble bonding with LO as i have been worrying so much i haven't had time to bond properly like i did with ds.

I am also panicking about the pain situation as i have a very complicated, detailed care plan to follow regarding pain relief in the situation of a normal natural labour, i could end up having to go through it with nothing at all except gas and air which made me violently ill last time.

Last time i gave birth to a 6lb baby and got 3rd degree tears which left me with alot of scarring which still twinges to this day, this time im estimated at having around a 9lb baby!

I know it's abdominal surgery, i know it takes longer to recover and i know it's going to hurt after plus i know i have increased risks of clotting with my medical history but it will make me so much more relaxed and able to care for myself a bit better for the last few weeks of my pregnancy and get some much needed rest if i knew i could have a booked c-section.

I don't know if it will work but im going to give it a blast, its all true what i have said (not wanting to worry you all) and i figure he can either say yes or no and whatever the response i will cope knowing i tried.

I am sleeping slightly better but still getting bad braxton hicks but thats nothing new! My sure start money goes into the bank tomorrow so im going to shop till i drop with dp and ds at babies r us! should be fun

sorry to hear your news podglet, take care of yourself and lo

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i've been getting bh all morning in the lower part of my belly, the pains in the lower part but my whole tummy feels solid.. at least thats what i think they are as i've not had them before... i thought they'd gone away but it's just started again

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Podget - So sorry to hear your news. But hopefully someone who has had to deal with this before can offer practical advice. Check if anyone in family has a free legal advice line through their work, bigger companies sometimes do and open to all employees but not well advertised.

Charlee - Sounds like you had a bad 1st experience and don't blame you for not wanting to do that again. Sounds like panic attacks need to come first, my dh dealt with them through a breathing and thought association method he was taught but won't work if you wake up with them. Try to look after yourself first, relaxation, hypnotherapy or something like that. Otherwise make your midwife/doctor explain all the options to you with pros & cons which may make decision clearer.

charlee - i think that the consultant will probably apreciate the honesty and advise you as best he/she can it's best to lay everything down straight so that they know what they are dealing with.

As for braxton hicks i felt terrible yesterday all day and most of last night, i felt like every small movement i made would make me violently sick, i think this made me feel every twinge so felt like my bump was a rock all day. It has settled down this morning although i still feel a little sick i'm more myself again, to make matters worse dh spotted my first stretchmark appearing!!!! i was never naieve (sp?) enough to think i would'nt get any but am now gutted

oh podglet i send all the love and hugs in the world....sorry i have no advice, but another friendly ear if you need one.

charlee........sounds like you had a pretty scary experience the other day with lo, mines being a bit of a pickle too. think you have a balanced view for an elective CS, hopefully you'll get what you want.

as for us sorry we'v been away for so long, weekends are always chaotic. well got mw on weds, so will get her to re-do my SSMG form so i can send it off. recieved stuff through about doing some mystery shopper work today, should be fun and get me some money for xmas!

got up the energy to take dd to toddlers today, oly problem i have is walking as when i do i get pressure in the bottom half of my tummy and down into my bits, think the gravity is moving lo down, but it isnt best comfortable.

well only 6 weeks to go from today, started on the raspberry leaf tea today to see if that makes any difference in the labour, doubt it but it doesnt taste too bad either so i dont mind!

Hi all,

thank you all so much for your messages. Have finally had a good cry and feel a bit better. There isn't likely to be a death cert for a few days as the coroners report & post mortem wont happen til Wednesday. However, I have made a bit of progress with his work perople & other stuff. I am going to go to work tomorrow so I am not pacing the floor at home.

Charlee - sounds like you have a good plan there. Is there any way of bringing your appointment forward so you an discuss it with a bit more time?

Thanks for your messages unfortunaltey i had to fight hammer and tong to get the appointment for 36 weeks he origionally wouldn't see me untill 38! My midwife rang him and had a few ehem 'strong words' with him.

I am seeing a midwife on wednesday not my usual one but a stand in i will have to get her to check my wee sample to make sure this infection has cleared and ask her a very embarassing question! Anyone else have any ideas? Sex has been a little painfull this last week or two i think it's probably the cervix and other bits moving around and just the fact that im huge but im not sure as it was never much of a problem with ds.

Anyway im off to the cinema to see Adam Sandlers new film 'Click' so have a good evening all of you.

Podglet - Sorry to hear your news, but glad you have managed to have a good cry. Sorry I cant advise on the legal stuff but hope you get some resolution soon. Take it easy and take time for yourself and LO xx

Morning all,

Haven't suffered with Braxton Hicks much this time at all, although have had them more than I did with DD.

I was really panicking last night, it got to about 8p.m and I suddenly realised i hadn't felt the baby move alot so I spent the next 2 hours trying to get it move and it wouldn't budge. Usually if i lie on my side or give my tummy a good jiggle the baby respond but there was nothing much yesterday, just very light movements so was really panicking.
Baby seems to be moving as usual this morning but am going to keep a real close eye on it today

Morning everyone

How many contractions do you think is needed before panic sets in (at 32+4 weeks)?

More infor required NJ spill the beans !

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I woke up at just gone 6, the usual mad rush to the loo for a wee over with I got back into bed and just felt funny, drifted back off to sleep and woke up at 7 another mad rush to the loo, and then realised I was achy, sort of muffled period type pain but more towards my back then normal period pain, and have since had two strong painful contractions, seems to have all settled down a bit now, still got the achy period type pain and have got (sorry way TMI) what feels like pints of discharge coming out but no contraction type pain for the best part of an hour, but I don't know what to do, especially because the pain has worn off, I don't know if it means anything or not, but DH could be anything up to 3 hours drive away, so timing is key!

I was induced last time, and don't know what the start of labour feels like, I just got bombarded with contractions the first time!

No, these weren't BH this morning, I have had times of regular and stong BH, but have always been very aware that they were only BH, these were proper full on contractions.

Sorry FHLH, I agree with Mygirl, sleepy baby, like you say though keep an eye open today, and if in doubt ring the midwife. Take it easy

Can I just ask if anyone else is feeling this? For the last few days when I get up to walk around apart from the immense pressure felt "down below" it feels like LO is pushing hard high up on my bump and is really uncomfortable. Hope I have explianed this so someone know what I am taking about LOL

Maybe the baby is having a stretch Debz? If you have been sat down and sort of slouched over a bit, then he could just be squashed?!

Take your own advise NJ call the midwife if not the labour ward sounds like you need to be kept monitored for a while.

Mmmm ... never thought of that NJ but can happen also after a while of being upright too !

No I am not ringing anyone until I have to!! Don't know if I should just put DH on a quiet alert or not though, I don't want to spend the next 8 weeks telling him not to go more than 20 miles away (not that he can stay within that distance anyway!!).