October 2014 // thread 15 // hooray, here come the babies!

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Going through these fast at the minute!

Thanks gun, need some distilled vinegar by the looks of it!

That's super unprofessional fedup. My dh works in the service trade, he's a landscape gardener, and if he lost the keys to any of his properties they'd have his guts for garters!

I know. I just don't have the energy to have that conversation. Or any conversation with them.
As much as i do love our extension I will definitely not recommend these builders. Just walked out of our bedroom with a small baby into a cloud of dust from the decorator sanding down the new stairs to the loft and brushing the dust about. Couldn't even open my mouth to say - have you thought about a Hoover. They will probably use and break mine if I did that. So shut all the doors and hoping for the best. Will Hoover when they have gone today

I'm not sure whether to feel sorry or glad that I'm not the only one with a Mil like mine. It's nice to know I'm not alone. Glad to say OH had a word with her (without me needing to ask)about expectations when baby is born and that she will have to help and he said she was fine and said just tell her what we need her to do. Food wise I'll have to make sure I stock up on enough veggie options.
london your mil joined a convent wow!

Also the sieve is for poo I'm afraid! Not the most glamorous part of the job, though stingy to ask you to brig your own. The mirror is to view descent of the baby remember it's hands off during a pool birth and it can be tricky to see what's going on without a mirror.

My back is really playing up since yesterday, went shopping today and it's really hurting. Having period type pain too. Plus increase in discharge. Also feeling so angry with anything right now, yep I'm a right catch.

Well one of our NCT ladies had her baby by emergency c section last night. 6 weeks early. I wonder if there is something in the air with all these early babies??

I too am struggling with lack of energy. I wake up and can go back to sleep an hour later. It's not like my sleep has dramatically changed. I have managed to change our bed linen and wash a rug today, but that's it. I feel awful for my poor hubbie coming home from work later when I've done nothing all day.

As for my mother and my MIL, I am expecting the worst from them both! My mom is already saying she can't help when she comes to stay because she doesn't know how our stove works and she can't remember what to do with a baby... And well I have yet to see my MIL do anything for me apart from talk about husband's ex wife!

binky try WD40 my DH got bitumen tar paint out of the carpet when he walked it up the stairs! Good luck.

Thanks Munday, I've given it a go over with Rug Doctor as we don't have vinegar in and I can't be bothered driving to the local Co-op. It seems to be a bit better so I'll have another look and try later.

I'm knackered now after painting a bit of the unit. I also feel bad when dh gets home and I'm crashed out on the sofa. Thankfully he's stopped asking anything of me now and constantly tells me to sit down

Mrsthedog's mother in law is the best kind. (My mum) completely absent she'll not even meet this baby let alone bother us with visits :-)

My twin sister on the other hand causes a similar reaction to some of you with MILs. Guess that's family.

Me23. Stab her in the eye with a tin of pledge if she eats your food again!

Congratulations Bump!

That got me very annoyed on your behalf Me23. We have tag team of parents coming to help post c-section and though they're being really helpful they're also driving me nuts with all their strange ways. My mum kept cooking meals big enough for a sparrow for example. My MIL drives me insane at best of times so dreading what it will be like when she's here. We are so lucky to have family prepared to stay and help though (must keep reminding myself that)!

I wonder how Dino is getting on?

To be honest my dh's sister is worse than my mil to be honest. She insists on knowing everything as soon as it happens. She has told us she must get a text as soon as I go into labour..... err no. Just no. You'll find out when we feel it's appropriate thanks.
Come on baby these pathetic mini contractions are getting boring now!

Man just came to read the metres and im sitting here in my pjs couldn't be arsed to hide I definitely left my dignity at the hospital, at least I was wearing a bra lol

I am massively late to this party, but tempted out of hiding by the question about an ECV.

I'm 37 weeks now (girl, due 20th October) and until last week was planning a lovely home birth. Then I had to go the hospital for monitoring last Wednesday and while I was there one lone midwifey voice in the wilderness went "Hold on, I think that bum is a head" and a scan confirmed the baby was breech. I don't know why my child's head feels so like a bottom but there you go. So I came home and lay on the sofa and cried a bit and said that actually I didn't want a baby any more but it turns out that isn't an option (well, RATS).

Yesterday I went for the ECV and it was totally fine and the only side effect is that I have a very mildly bruised abdomen, as if someone had poked me in it, which they have. The first shot at it they tried to turn the baby forwards and she wasn't having any of it- that was quite painful, but when it hurt they stopped. The point as I understand it is absolutely not to force the baby round, but just to shove a bit and see if it goes, and they checked all over with the ultrasound at every point. Then they turned her backwards and she flipped over easily, although there was a bit of a wince-making jab in the ribs on the way round. The whole thing took about five minutes and then an hour on the monitor with the baby happily wriggling about but now facing in the correct direction. I think the important thing is if it's hard then you just say stop and that's it. All in all for me it worked out fine, and now I can go back to planning to spend hours screaming in my living room- I'm sure there will be many moments over the next few weeks where I look back on the lovely, timely ELCS I could have had and wonder what I was thinking.

Um, that's all. I'll go back to lurking. I'm finding it very hard to achieve anything except naps at the moment but unfortunately have a massive pile of work that I really need to finish before the baby comes.

Me23 my FIL is just like that. When I'm on a dairy free diet I've lost count of the amount of times he's eaten my breast feeding snacks or mine and Jonas' tea, or been all "what are you eating, I'd rather have that" when he is an utter pig who can and does eat anything. It makes me rage

Ahhhh, Kirsti that makes sense!Thanks for confirming Me. You would think they would have these things in supply if they're needed to do the job! I think I will have some fun with this requirement for a 'poo sieve' as dp is terrified of seeing me poo during the birth experience . I have been teasing him that I will do it purposefully just to make him wince! Honestly though, must be really hard for him to have to watch that whilst I go through labour to bring his child into the world poor man

Sorry Binky and good lord Fedup I don't know how you haven't screamed at all of them.

George that absolutely describes me, although the feeling better days are few and far between. It does concern me about energy levels if labour comes along on one of my feeble weakling days. I just rest when my body clearly wants to. Not sure what else to do really.

Nice to hear a good experience Tatty

Yep that describes me too George, if baby decides to arrive on a day I'm feeling "meh" I'd just hope that I'd have a burst of adrenaline that will supercede it!

Guess who just called with his daily 'do you need me to fetch you anything on my way home?' query and was unimpressed with the request for a 'poo sieve'?

Wahaha.

Love it jen, he's going to have to learn to deal with poo when the baby I'd here so why not start with you as practice!

me23 see that annoys me even more when they say "just tell me what needs doing"...you're knackered & sleep deprived...can you not see what needs doing ? My MIL used to be a childminder & had 5 kids so knows how hard it is...but still doesnt think "oh I'll just do those dishes...."

I'm a frequent lurker, although I did post on the last thread. Could I join the FB page please? I go on there more than I come on MN.

38 weeks on Friday for me and am praying I go early! Having a sweep at 39 weeks so will know then if anything is about to happen. I agree with everyone who said that it depends on who you have doing the sweep re: the pain. My mw did it last time and it didn't hurt but she told me that one of the consultants is so forceful that everyone comes away in floods of tears! I haven't read the full thread but I hope you all found it ok.

I agree granny, they have spotless homes, been keeping them and their families for decades and yet somehow need permission/instruction when the bathroom or kitchen needs a clean. My MIL has a distasteful look on her face when she wanders round my place and it makes me want to shout - if you don't like it, do something about it, don't just frown!!! I just can't bring myself to ask anyone to clean my toilet for me [embarrassed]

Thanks for delurking to share tatty, what you've said is really helpful. I'm just so stuck on this idea that caesareans are frightening so the ECV is definitely the preferred choice if they offer it. Somebody posted a really positive c section story on an earlier thread and that helped. To be honest though, I think if it comes to it I'll be of the opinion that they can do whatever they like as long as the baby and I are safe. Scary to think how close I am to being someone's mother. I have serious doubts about my capability in that role!

Don't we all robin ? ...or at least I hope so.

Think it's only slowly sinking in just what I've got myself in for.

robin I was scared by the idea of a csection until I had one with my first. Granted it was an emcs and so under different circumstances to an elcs. But I would say don't be scared if you have to have one. They are fine. However it is really great to read a positive ECV story too.

So I was experiencing mini contractions earlier, much like you I think mrsb after a day of weird aches and pains. Spent a good amount of today on the loo feeling very constipated but nothing and in and out the bath to relieve back ache. I went to get my ds from nursery but suddenly felt it was all starting so got my mum to take ds with her home for a sleepover thinking it's going to kick off. Husband has come home and now nothing. All quiet again. So annoying. I REALLY thought this time it was happening. And now I feel bad my mum has my ds for no reason. Perhaps I should really use this moment to dtd and get things going....

I think being off on maternity leave is giving me too much time to think. The doubts and fears get louder when I'm not distracted. Although saying that, my boss has kindly emailed me with a seemingly unending list of questions and requests that I definitely sorted in my handover. Any ideas I had about missing being at work have disappeared for the day!

Thanks sazzle. It's reassuring to hear about people having VBAC as well. One of my concerns was that if it's cs this time then it will be if/when we have another baby.