February 2015 #4 - Scans, glows, and shopping galore!

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Onwards we go, gals!

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Thanks memphis. I found the other thread and have joined in, it's an encouraging read

HerRoyal in addition to the good advice others have given, maybe do an Internet shop with food easily prepared, and to be delivered when DH will be home. Don't get up even to answer the door. Toilet only. A quick 1 minute stand up shower every few days. Gravity is your enemy. Lie flat. At 21-22 weeks I found baby would go down even when i was laying on the couch with my shoulders up. To keep baby up nice and high I lay flat on my back, and ate on my left or right side.
If you can, def get MIL or other family out.

My situation is dif as my cervix was funnelling and thinned. I had a cervical cerclage to shut it, progesterone and bed rest two weeks ago and found out yesterday they've reversed it. I'm on bed rest for the next 4 weeks with my next appointment 12th Nov. they were every two weeks but my consultant doesn't want me leaving my flat at all.

My sister is here caring for me and keeping me company, i flew her out from canada for a month. Before she arrived DP gave me breakfast before heading for work and prepared a tray and food in fridge so I could grab from kitchen and go back to couch. I didn't even dare make myself a cuppa, just had bottled water at my side.

My mom is then coming out for
November. Having been through the last two weeks I can say having family with me was important physically and mentally. You need support at a time like this. We're all rooting for you, big hug

Herroyal

netflicks time? there must be a bunch of box sets you would like to catch up on? I'd suggest knitting or crochet, but they would be uncomfortable to do lying down. Lots of readng too?

I'm with memphis on that - list writing and reorganising plans would help get me through. Definitely get all help available. Do you have any good friends around you too that you could rely on for help with school run etc?

Morning all

Lots of love, royal- hope youre ok, rest up properly, not that fake resting that people do where they basically do everything they'd normally do but at a slower speed!

Working from home today- got a bathroom being delivered. Am very much looking forward to watching himes under the hammer

HerRoyal so sorry to hear that and I'm certainly thinking of you. Two weeks of bed rest... thank goodness for the internet, huh? Netflicks, Skype, internet shopping... Mumsnet!

I used to live in the US (had our first son there and so I completely get your worry about medical bills, healthcare was a major reason for relocating to the UK) and I don't remember there being online grocery shopping where we were, maybe that's changed now? Where abouts do you live?

Really hoping all goes well x

HerRoyal & Viperama, you're both going through such a hard time. Remember we are always here if you need us.

Lots of bedrest and do as little as possible for the next while. Netflix is a great idea.

Thinking of you herroyal I def go with everyone else in terms of getting help in where you can, especially family. My mom missed having that option so much, and IL's wouldn't even of offered so take what you can. I'm on a few days rest, luckily my favourite author was kindle deal of the day so that took care of yesterday, today, meh! And apart from Homes under the hammer daytime TV is rubbish (just my opinion!) so I'd definitely be looking at boxsets on amazon or Netflix. No signs of the cramps this morning so fingers crossed back at work Monday. Good luck herroyal, keep restinf (said in strictly style!)

Herroyal viper advice is fantastic

My kicks are now so strong my belly takes on an a world of its own where it looks like he is trying to break out. Also waking me up with a jump.....still doesn't feel real though, I think when he does arrive I am going to be shocked like I didn't realise I was pregnant or something.
There is an nct bumps and babies group for pregnant mums (who cant afford nct ) I may go to it just so it feels more real

Ds had me up a lot last night but seems so much better today, poor thing is rarely ill but struggles when he is. My sister is coming to sit with him while I go for a trip to asda (suprisingly exciting after being stuck with a sick kid)

Herroyal, take it easy and try to keep yourself busy with the great advice above. Re-do your lists and plans and watch some netflix. Thinking of you

Hello everyone,

I don't know if you remember me from back in the very early days of this thread, but I've been lurking for a while and it's been great to see how everyone is doing. I'm sorry I've not been posting; I was working through some truly hideous hypermesis (in hindsight, should have got signed off!) while looking for a new place to live (DH and I are living in the small 1BR he had before we got married) but am feeling MUCH better.

HerRoyal and Viper - so sorry to hear you're both on bedrest. It must be such a worry. I second everyone's advice to rest up and get as much family support as possible. I'm a huge fan of NOW TV (it's like Apple TV, but cheaper at only £10 once and no monthly cost although you need WiFi. Not sure if they have it in America, HerRoyal, but it's got loads of series, Sky Atlantic plus all the BBC iplayer, 4OD, Channel5 on demand, etc. channels. For you fans of Homes under the Hammer, I've been watching loads of them, and fast forwarding the slow bits :-)

DH and I are going to Mothercare on Sunday to test prams. Any recommendations? We're still looking for somewhere to live and I'm getting quite anxious as 25+1 but key among the requiremements is a lightish pram that folds, as our favourite flat so far is up a flight of stairs, although we could leave the pushchair on the ground floor. (Actually, does anyone know the difference between a pram and a pushchair? Are they the same thing?)

All the best,

Mim

Mimosa welcome back! Glad you are feeling a lot better now!

Thanks, Memphis. I recall you had some bad morning sickness too. Hope it's all cleared up x

Yes all good here thank you just constantly grumpy

Thanks all. I've been off 5 weeks already and yes netflix is a lifesaver! Have been trying to finish a scarf for DS2 also for pooh about 2 years .

We're in Texas, no online grocery shopping that I'm aware of. Awful being an expat at times like this, we have no one close to us, have put a shout out to the expat group I belong to as a backup for emergency, if/when I go into labour. But as most have their own families would be hard for daily help. I have to do the school run atm, I can swap DS1 to the bus and would need to walk to the corner to meet it but not sure about DS2, will ask at his preschool if there is any help, they do have buses to run the before school program kids to school. But as that is for only 2 weeks not sure of doing that upheaval. DH will work shorter days when I go into hospital and do the school runs. I could swap DS1 to the before school club at DS2 school so he only has one drop off/pickup point which would save a little time.

MIL passport expired which she is getting renewed. She has anxiety and won't drive here but at least she can potter about in the house and do meals. Can't think of anyone else that might be available to come over. DH is going to ring her today. He also has to tell work he can't go on business trip in 2 weeks and that he'll be working less, eek. His boss' wife is terminally ill so DH has been picking up the slack for him, it's not going to be easy in the office for awhile.

Haa tell me about the grump Memphis! My sister was reasoning with me about this today, it's the nesting / protection instinct with me. I'm trying to sort home and DP just isn't getting it. We are having inbuilt shelves put in, and getting rid of freestanding they are replacing. He said this morning he wants to keep the freestanding as well. A. We won't have room b. It'll fall on the baby when it's a toddler, unless we attach it to a wall.
I can't believe I even have to explain this stuff to him. He adores kids, but has never been around them properly (only child and only 1 cousin who is older). And I have to explain everything in great detail and then he accepts it like he's giving me a break, it's nothing to do with me, it's basic safety!!

I'm sorry that some of you are having a really rough time. It puts my little aches and pains in to perspective.

Mimosa prams tend to have a carrrycot attached or its compatible with. Pushchairs are normally for older children but are very lightweight. If you go for a pushchair make sure it's suitable from newborn as some don't lie flat.

Viper ds is 4 and dh has only just last week attatched bookshelf and wardrobe to the wall, hasnt bothered me before (because he never went near them) but in recent weeks he has to pick his oen clothes and this involves hanging off of the t shirt until it comes off hanger.
I am an extremely highly strung person, when pg last time I hadn't been with dh long and we argued a lot, I ranted a lot and was a total bitch 99% of the time...this time when not grumpy i am just quiet which dh struggles with as I talk constantly usually and trying to explain I am not grumpy/in an arse is hard work sometimes, I just feel subdued this time round but having to explain to dh that I am ok then pisses me off!

Sorry to the girls on bedrest. Makes me realise my moans are silly really.

Have come to realise we need to move house before this baby arrives!
There is no way we can fit everything in.
I have less than 15 weeks to do everything and I'm getting stressed!!

bimberley move before if you need to, we moved with a 2 week old. Total nightmare!

Although if you have a garage you can put some things into to give you extra room that would be an idea. We have friends who lived in a 1 bed flat and didnt move until their Dc2 was 6weeks old.

I am bloody loving working from home! Have done loads more than i normally would and have got two loads of washing done too- amazing stuff

Boiler is being moved tomorrow- once ive got that out the way, and the new bathroom in, i'll feel like i can properly start of project 'do baby stuff'

mimosa the tricks of the trade with fast forwarding...the only way how to watch the daytime telly

Hey HerRoyal, a Texas connection! My husband is originally from Houston so we spend every summer or Christmas there. Being an expat is so hard sometimes for so many reasons and I can't imagine how much harder when you have two children and you are on bedrest. Hope you are taking ridiculously good care of yourself and have a freezer stocked with ice cream - Bluebell Natural Vanilla bean gets my vote, it's local (you may well know it well!) and if you get that flavour there are no artificial flavourings so it tastes all the better.

Had a quick look around and I found this service:
www.instacart.com/store
I put in my MIL's zipcode and they deliver to her area - worth a shot!

Blimey ladies, its took me ages to catch up!

Sorry to those who aren't well/on bed rest ??

Glad to see a few of you have also gone for silver cross pioneer :)

Still in team lime. Now cracking on buying things! Having a week holiday before my ML starts at 32 weeks so i'm looking forwards to pending a lot of time over Xmas watching films x

Afternoon check in!

How are you doing HerRoyal? Maybe see if you can get some food parcels delivered with ready made meals that DH can just shove in the oven? Or that might be something MIL can organise while she gets her passport sorted?

All unisex clothes, blankets and towels have been washed, ironed and put away in baby's drawers! I'm so certain I'm having another girl, I'm actually going to start doing the same with DD's old baby clothes so they will be ready to use. I might have put my baby changing bag together last night too

I've also just put brand new pillows, a new winter duvet and all new out the packet sheets on my bed so looking forward to that later! DP is off out for dinner which means I can just do something quick and easy for DD leaving, crisps and dips for me! Might even pack my hospital bag