March Mummies 2015 - to second tri and beyond we go, bumps appearing and sickness (hopefully) disappearing

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New thread for the March Mums :)

We actually went and bought her wee coming home outfit at the weekend because we didnt want MIL to beat us to it.

Think I'm gonna have to put my foot down a bit.

fish that's a tough call. Really tough on you. Hope you find a way to get plenty help.

surfs congrats on team pink!

No you don’t sound ungrateful gudgy I would be annoyed too. I would have to say something if it were me or there won’t be anything left for you to buy soon! I would keep it polite and say something like ‘we’re very grateful thank you and it’s very generous of you but we would quite like to be able to choose some things for ourselves’ so back off It’s lovely that she’s so excited and wants to help out but that’s a bit much.

My mum was excited when I had DS because it was her first grandchild but she asked what we needed and said ‘Is it ok if I buy...?’ This time round she has said to make a list of things I need and she will buy a few things for me but she wouldn’t go ahead and buy loads without discussing it with me beforehand.

Well done rainbow am loving the spreadsheet!! Will update when not on phone.

I'm 18+4 and felt real hard kicks on Friday night which DH felt too. Also had the same on sat night. Just had little wriggles since then but called mw today (paranoid) to ensure that I shouldn't be 'counting' yet. I shouldn't! while I was on the phone I also checked that a 4lb weight gain was enough. She said it wasn't unusual (especially if you're tall - I am) and I should wait til scan which is next Wednesday. Feels like a LIFETIME away. perse we're so lucky ours is 1040 and we have both taken off to shop!

So hard gudgy and you are not being ungrateful at all! My mum and gran are also buying loads and even though they are not very subtle when they don't like our choices, they do go along with them. You need to find a way to put your foot down as it is such a special part of the pregnancy (the prep). The danger is that they buy you loads and it ends up in a cupboard and that would be her own fault! Good luck addressing it!

I am really dreading my christening planning (sorry gudgy, I'm worse than your fil with the bike!) as I know that my mum and gran will want a boy in a 'gown' where I think I would prefer a little, white, very fancy suit. Don't even start me on god parent choices!!! It can be so hard when others are involved. I wouldn't say they make my choices or force me but sometimes there is pressure.... (Meant with love ..... Usually!! )

Congratulations Surf!!!

It's hard gudgy - it sounds like they are v v v excited though. This is where your OH needs to step in and ask your mil to settle down a bit - maybe ask the two grans to be out for lunch and a bit of shopping once you have moved house? I think mils fear feeling left out a bit, but they don't realise they risk getting pushed away if they go ott!

The two grans have never even met each other, so it would be nice if they could meet beforehand. Otherwise the first time they will meet will be the baby shower!

I'm going to ask OH to tell her to stop. I need somethings of my own to buy, it genuinely does feel that I dont need to buy anything else. Little does she know I'm planning on express feeding now, wonder what she will say to that.

On a brighter note! My work have set me up a wee room upstairs, with comfy chairs etc for when I need some time out. I work for BT, and its an old smoking room. Might sound disgusting to some, but you can tell its an old smoking room, IYKWIM. But I love it because it smells like my grans house as she was a smoker for 60+ years, so its really comforting to me. Anyway, I was up in it there, laying down on the wee couch and baby was kicking lumps out me!! I love feeling her moving about in there

There he's just text me. MIL and his aunt have been on the phone moaning because we asked them to keep a note of what they have, so we or any of my family dont go and get the same thing and we end up with doublers. MIL is getting on at OH because he cant tell her what my family are getting, cos she wants to know whats left to buy. Its too early to go buying absolutely everything, hence why he doesnt know exactly whats left.

I've told him to tell them to stop it. Thats it, I dont want them to buy anything else whatsoever. If they're going to be like this, then they can just stop. His bloody family always making a big deal out of little things!!!

It's so annoying the other people buying so much stuff. My grandmother went crazy as soon as I got pregnant the first time buying a much crap that I didn't want or need. I gave loads of stuff to charity shops.
With regards to bedding I'd still pick stuff ypu want and just use hers for emergency poo explosion or sickness back up beading. My grandmother still buys my dd loads of usless crap and nasty clothes I hate, most of it goes straight in the jumble lol.

My mum appeared with a load of weird baby clothes she's got off ebay at the weekend, all pretty nasty looking, and some weird knitted cardigans that are very old fashioned (and also pretty hideous!)... I just had to smile and say thanks.. and just praying she doesn't get anything else!! I honestly don't know what she was thinking, but don't want to seem ungrateful!

People aren't buying stuff for me, but most of my friends have finished having babies, so they are emptying their attics and dumping it on me.
So far I have 4 moses baskets, 3 playmates and so many clothes I can barely get to the bed in the spare room - I'm NOT KIDDING!!

Any Australian mums want some hand-me-downs??

Gudgy, how will she cope if you just buy the bedding you want and just tell her that "Baby will beed more than one set" if she sees you're not using hers? If the insist on buying things then just keep it for a while and ebay it?

Urgh - families huh!? Who'd have 'em!

Gudgyx so it's not just me then?!? I've had this issue with my MIL ever since DS was born. She was ok while I was pregnant but since his birth if we even mention that we're thinking of getting something it just magically appears the week after "cos I just happened to spot it in a charity shop"...

I'm also sick of telling her not to buy too much for every birthday/Xmas - I know it's Grandparents' perogative to spoil their grandchildren but we always spend these occasions together (my family and DH's family) so all of these 8 or 9 presents get paraded out for him to open in front of my mum, who can't afford much and has bought him the 1 or 2 things that we have asked her to. I know it makes my mum feel really uncomfortable and I hate that. I think this year I'm going to have to be even more specific and honest with MIL and ask her not to buy loads of things for that reason.

keeper that is a nightmare! I hope you can reign your mil in. My mum was the same with my nephews - sil' parents bought LOADS and have infinite amounts of cash and dm struggled to 'keep up'. Our saving grace is that they don't come together as a family so there is no parade.

She's not talking to us at all now, least it gives me some peace for a while bloody familys!

Better she's not speaking to you now as waiting til baby is born, she over steps the mark, and you EXPLODE! think it's a good thing you've stood your ground!

Just had my midwife appointment to where she came round the house - got to listen to the heart beat which was lovely! She also said that here they also recommend you not to eat any prawns or salmon at all, not sure I can manage that! She didn't like that I am drinking quite a bit of milk either, it's skimmed so not loads of fat and I have only put on 1lb so far so I am not sure what her issue is!

Everyone's issues with families sound horrid, hope it all sorts itself out for you! I have issues with someone in my family too - so know what you are going through, although not even half as bad!

What's the issue with salmon?? I though they liked you to eat fish - good oils and stuff?

Salmon?! Milk?! What!?

I'm sticking to salmon which I have made so know it's cooked but that's just a paranoia (irrational) about food poisoning. I'm also trying to up my milk intake which I have done very well with - semi skimmed and gained only 4lbs (sometimes 5-6 depending in when I weigh myself but still...)

Initially I was all about following the 'advice' to the letter but it is becoming ridiculous! I read on another thread that getting the cold have your baby a higher risk of bipolar. I've had the cold for ages and worried about it for a bit... Then I just got maaaaad! I will eat well. I will avoid risk of infections and food poisoning. I will not drink chemicals. That is all. (Let's see how clever I am tomorrow when I am having a less rational day!

Btw mucjo I take it mw was not bothered with your 1lb weight gain? I have been a little concerned about lack of weight gain.

I think the salmon thing is to do with oily fish containing mercury or some such - apparently we should limit ourselves to two portions a week. Tinned doesn't count.
From NHS website:
Oily fish

Pregnant women should also limit how much oily fish they eat because it contains pollutants such as dioxins and PCBs (polychlorinated biphenyls). Don’t eat more than two portions of oily fish a week. You don't need to give up eating oily fish altogether as the health benefits outweigh the risks as long as you don't eat more than the maximum recommended amounts.

Oily fish includes:

•fresh tuna (canned tuna doesn’t count as oily fish)
•salmon
•trout
•mackerel
•herring
•sardines
•pilchards

Sorry everyone's having issues with family and over eager stuff buying. you start of thinking "how lovely" and then realise that it's really annoying and suffocating to have no say and all choice taken away
hope things calm down soon.

all is fine with me. Well, if I had posted yesterday it would have been a different story. Had my first ante-natal physio appointment and ordered as taxi to take me there as otherwise would have been two buses and over an hour's travel from work. Stupid trainee didn't know her 24hr clock and booked the taxi for 13:00 instead of 15:00 - they couldn't get a replacement to me in time so I missed my appointment [anger] soooo frustrating... I may have cried and told the manager to fuck off

all rebooked for next Monday now, which means I'll be at the hospital two days in a row as growth scan is on tues. I am getting a bit nervous as we get closer, just want to know that everything is ok

sorry for epic post

nota I am also becoming very anxious hence my constant posting on here. Trying to keep busy (not easy when off work with virus). I think I am more anxious than with my 12 week scan which I didnMt think I would be.

One week tomorrow can't come quick enough...

When is yours nota?

mine is 28th so a week today - I'll be 22+2 just hope this naughty baby has grown lots in the two weeks between scans so I don't have to go back or have to worry anymore.

M33r is yours the anomaly scan or a re-scan for something else? Sorry I can't remember and am too lazy to read back

Hope the virus isn't making you too ill! I have still got a cold - two weeks and counting though thankfully the three cold sores that set up residence on my top lip and making a slow retreat. DP is coming down with it too it seems so of course he'll be more ill than I was

and *are

Standard anomaly. Is yours the re measure after the lower quintile measure (sorry if I'm mixing you up )