March Mummies 2015 - to second tri and beyond we go, bumps appearing and sickness (hopefully) disappearing

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New thread for the March Mums :)

Hi all just back from centre parcs so need to sit down and catch up.
I don't feel sick anymore! Hurrah.

Sorry to hear you are struggling smoke, I hope you have supportive people around in real life. I completely agree with you about paracetamol, I have been having headaches and it just doesn't cut it.
There's been a lot of chat on here about not gaining any weight- I've put on 1/2 stone, so I think my bump must be part baby and part chocolate from all the snacking I've been doing to keep nausea at bay.
As for stretchmarks, I have some from uni days, so I slathered on the bio oil last pregnancy and I don't have a single mark from that. I'm doing the same this time, costs a small fortune but with it imo.

Had my 16 week appointment today (I'm 15+6). Was fully prepared for her not to try and listen to the heartbeat but she did and got it straight away! It was mad, I can't get my head around there being a little person inside me with a beating heart.

Still really struggling with anxiety and feeling down. I've been off work for a month now and just want to go back.

nota I'm a big fan of acupuncture and have found it successful for a couple of different things. I do think it's one if those treatments where it works for some people and not others though - hope it does for you!

Hi Coaster I know what you mean about hearing baby's heartbeat, so strange (and exciting) to know there's a living being inside me. It was a surprise to hear heartbeat today as my 16 week appointment is in Tuesday. Unfortunately I am in hospital again (4th admission now) with hg, but the consultant this morning was very sweet and asked if I had heard baby's heartbeat yet - I hadn't - and he immediately got the equipment and let me listen to it. Was so kind of him, really cheered me up.

Oh Durham I'm so sorry your back in again, what a bloody pisser, can't imagine how hard this must be for you. Nice that the Dr let you hear the heartbeat though. Your having such a rough time crossing fingers for you that it passes.
With my first it made me cry hearing the heartbeat for the first time.
Didn't really make me feel anything this time round, they listened to it at the scan.
Really wish I could get some bloody emotions going for this baby hate telling people as then I have to pretend to be happy about it when actually I don't want to think about it.
Sorry about your anxiety coaster, hope you manage to get it under control soon.

Thanks fishfinger I was just so relieved to hear heartbeat to be honest as I've been so sick. Has certainly been an exhausting few months.

I do understand though how you feel about trying to bond with baby. It has only really been the last few weeks that I've started to get remotely excited. It's difficult when you're so emotionally and physically drained due to severe pregnancy symptoms (really glad you are feeling better by the way, fab news!) Have you chatted to your mw about how you feel?

I haven't seen a mw since booking in so not had the chance to talk, I have a 16 week appointment next week so will hopefully mention how I'm feeling, but will probably just say everything is great and be overly bubbly like at my booking in. Think that my dh being away for the last month and a bit hasn't helped with the excitement and bonding maybe once he's properly back at the start of December we can get excited together.

Glad your starting to feel some excitement through the haze of sickness. Hope you get home soon Durham and for good this time!

I had no idea that some mws don't listen to the heartbeat at the 16 week appointment and we were told at booking in that we would be. Was so excited about it. Had my appointment and she (different mw) wouldn't do it. I cried and have been rather miserable since.

Oh no durham! Can't believe you're back in hospital! I'm crossing my fingers that your hg will ease off soon.
pickled the mw during my 1st pregnancy didn't listen to the heartbeat at the 16 week appointment either. My saving grace was that I had to go to hospital immediately after they checked my urine as she was concerned about sugar levels and the a&e Gyn listened to it. But I remember it was a huge disappointment first!

I have my 16 week app this Wednesday and my obgyn already told me they're not doing a vitality check at 16 weeks and I was fully prepared to pay for a scan until yesterday I saw a friend who used to be a midwife pre kids and she got her Doppler out for me! So sweet of her! And I can come and see her any time I'm worried and she'll check it for me! I think I'm getting mildly excited now that we will really have a baby in March!!

Pickled I know exactly how you feel! Had my 16 week app on thurs and my mw didn't listen either, was hugely disappointed! Xx

Gutted for people who didn't get to hear hb. I had mine appt at 15+1 and mw listened in. Am crazy excited. Can't stop thinking about introducing my lo to my mum and dad - blocking out the labour part!! So excited. Wish it was march now.

durham so sorry to hear you're still I'll but so so so glad you got to hear hb - gave you something a bit more tangible to explain the illness.

Thanks everyone for the cold remedy tips - have a pretty bad cough especially in mornings but not dying or anything.

Hope you guys who are finding it hard start to feel better and more upbeat soon.

I thought it was pretty standard to listen to the HB at the 16 week appointment?!?! My MW did and it was pretty great. It almost made me want to buy a doppler but I decided not to in the end.

I haven't posted in a while as have been pretty exhausted. My husband ended up getting tonsillitis and he was snoring like a monster so I didnt get much sleep and as much as I love my new posting at work, it is very draining and required a lot of attention to detail. The occupational health nurse is coming to my desk space on Wednesday to asses my seating needs lol. One good thing of being in the military. I will get a nice chair etc. I need it though, all this sitting is me - really bad coccyx pain and general back pain. Added to that I have a really irritating pain under my right boob, kind of under the ribs, well it feels like it is under my ribs and I have heart burn all the time! Who said this was the time when we are supposed to bloom? I am so uncomfortable and I look 6 months pregnant, massive bump.

I am starting pregnancy yoga this week and getting back into swimming so I am hopping these things will help with all the aches and pains. Is anyone else getting weird rib pain, heartburn etc?

on the plus side the nausea is pretty much gone and I am 17 + 3

Hi mg I also wanted a Doppler after mw appt but like you decided against it. I also have heartburn much of the time but it's not crippling. Try to limit my Gaviscon!

Glad the nausea is easing off for a lot of you now. Poor durham though fingers crossed you aren't in there too long.

I would recommend hot water with honey and lemon for a cold. Unfortunately for me I can't stand the smell of lemon since becoming pregnant.

What do people think of the name Elodie? It's one of my favourites at the moment.

Oh I love the name Elodie! Would be on my list but my husband had not taste!

Just realised maybe why I'm not really into hearing the heartbeat I spent 14 hours when I was on the induction drip listening to dd heartbeat was like torture! Lol

Hi all, I have finally been discharged from hospital. Still feeling very rough but at least I've managed to keep some food down today, which is an achievement! Thank you all for your kind comments.

As for baby names my OH and I have decided on Hettie for a girl and Noah for a boy. We were not going to find out at the 20 week scan whether we are having a bit or girl, but unfortunately as my hg is severe doctors are considering steroid treatment. However, there is a risk (albeit small) that the steroids can affect female foetus's so we need to be aware of the gender before we make a serious decision. I'm gutted as I wanted my OH to tell me whether we had a girl or boy at the birth, but realise the safety of our baby is far far more important.

I have been awol for a while. I am struggling with 'life' in general. For the past two weeks I have been an emotional mess - lost all confidence in my self; my ability to teach, my role as a wife and a mother.

Head made a very cutting remark about me two weeks ago and unfortunately it has torn me apart. She was once someone I looked up to and liked but it's awful when all perceptions of someone radically changes.

DH isn't being much help in the sense that he doesn't talk to me about my feelings; hasn't got back regarding me starting maternity leave early or about me going part-time next Autumn.

I have my lesson observation on monday. I was seriously considering not going into work but I know it's got to happen so I have decided to bite my lip and do it. No matter what the outcome is, i don't think it will change my opinion of myself.

See the MW on Wednesday for my 16-week appointment and I have a strong feeling I will go sick from that point. i have been resisting help and support for so long; so many people round me see depression as a failure (DH isn't comfortable with it, neither is a friend nor my Head). But I can't go on like this much longer. Fearing for baby's health. I was able to feel 'him' from 11 weeks - more like pushing and rolls but last two weeks I have barely felt a thing.

Love the name Elodie, that's beautiful. Although I think we are having a boy, I'm finding girl's names much easier.

Honest opinions of the name Greta please! I love it, DH not so keen. We have a 4 yo boy and I still like the girls names we had in mind when he was born (Martha, Seren) although not as much as I liked them then. We don't yet know if we're having pink or blue this time round, I want to find out but again DH not so keen!
By the way, Elodie is a lovely name

Think Great could be quite cute, when I first read it I didn't like it but after a few seconds and imagining a little Greta I think I like it.
I like Martha not a fan of Seren though, like the sound of it but the fact that it means star puts me off... I realise that star is a lovely thing for a name to mean it's just an irrational dislike for me. Possibly because it's a real word not a name to me as my husband is a welsh speaker.

I'm sorry your feeling so shit Junk, you need to talk to as many people as you can about the way you feel. Make sure you ask GP or mw for ways to make you dh understand. Counciling together? I don't know, didn't Steven fry do a documentary about depression, is it something you could get him to watch?

Thinking of you.

Stephen fry's doc was on bipolar though it features Robbie Williams who suffers with unipolar depression.

iPad playing up so will reply In The morning when on laptop but wanted to say junk I'm so sorry things are hard, thinking of you and want you to know that the people who see failure are just uneducated - don't lose hope.

durham so sorry you've been in hospital again and for everything your going through. How difficult for you.

I couldn't really remember the Steven fry documentary in detail I just had a hazy recognition of the way he worded things about the darker times in his life.