March Mummies 2015 - to second tri and beyond we go, bumps appearing and sickness (hopefully) disappearing

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New thread for the March Mums :)

rainbow I'm having the same issues re constipation but have found fybogel really helps. Not exactly delicious but preferable to the alternative.

Hi Re constipation, lots of water if you can't stomach fruit. Lactolose and fybogel (together if needed), and movicol from the doctor if that doesn't work.

We're just plodding on, 17+1 today. Ds was sick yesterday morning which set me off :( first time of actually being sick - I'm VERY good at not being sick when I really should. We're also watching a LOT of TV!

16 + 4 today, and starting to feel it. I've had things pretty easy so far, although considering I only found out I was pg 5 weeks ago that doesnt mean much.

I'm knackered :( sleeping about 4 hours a night, I keep OH up, I barely see him right now because he's on his back shift week (doesnt get home until half 10, by then I'm well out for the count, and hes asleep when I get up for work). I'm moody, headaches and sinus issues getting to me, I'm sick of sneezing constantly!! Sorry these are small moans, some of you guys have it so much worse :(

Beginning to worry about how we're going to afford everything :( I earn a good bit more than OH, so starting now am putting as much as I can afford away each month to cover bills while I am off.

I'm worrying about childcare when baby is here. OH making noises about his mum having the baby when I go back to work, but she works and there's no way in hell I want her quitting her job to look after my baby. She also is very weak, she is always unwell and I dont think she'd cope with a baby. She also lives 25 miles away from us, OH says if we are paying her to look after baby, then she can pick him up and drop him off. I'm not having it, if we are paying someone for childcare, I want him with other babies and with someone qualified and experienced to look after him, not someone whose last experience of a baby was 20 years ago.

I dont want to go back to work after maternity leave :( I want to stay with my baby. The thought of someone else telling me about things he has done etc is making me want to cry already. #neuroticmomphase

This is the antenatal vitamin I switched to which has ended my constipation issues. The synthetic ones were giving me no end of trouble - did all through my last 2 pregnancies too! Wish I known earlier!
www.amazon.co.uk/Rainbow-Light-Prenatal-Multivitamin-Tablets/dp/B00115BJ30

Gudgyx I feel for you on the child care issues. I don't want to go back after maternity either, but I don't have a lot of choice. I know that I will have to go back at least part time eventually though I will put it off as long as possible. I am a business owner and its just not feasible for me not to be there long term. But the thing have has been really upset at the moment is when MIL keeps talking about when she has the baby. Its not even half cooked yet and I feel like its being taken away from me. I too would prefer professional child care if I have to leave Baby with someone. Could your OH be stay at home parent?

Littlemissy12345
This is totally a tmi post but...
I had various veins in my last pregnancy which went ahem right up. They appeared around 20 weeks last time but arrived like magic at 12 weeks this time. Very painful in my leg but uncomfortable in my nether regions. Could possibly be what's bothering you as well. They do feel bruisey and sore. Good news is they disappeared immediately after labour hurrah.

Well I went to the docs and I have small ulcer thing so that's what caused the blood, just need to apply some cream and it should improve. I also need more fibre and fluids- I will work on that after I reach the uk.
Today is flying day!

Hi all, 16+4 today with 1st and keep thinking I might be able to feel baby moving but not 100% sure. I thought I felt a little something on the left hand side yesterday evening but wasn't feeling well so also wondered if it was just that (ahem, trapped wind ).

This morning at about 5am I woke up STARVING but before I had to get up to eat I laid there to see if I could get back to sleep and out of nowhere I felt something again on the left side. Sitting here now and think I felt it again, always on the left side but I don't know if really it's too early and I'm just feeling something else but desperate for it to be baby. Any thoughts?

Thank you threeisthe. I have a really bad varicose vein in my leg (which has got worse) and I had a suspicion that this might be the problem. Is there anything you can do to help veins in your hoo haa? Can the doc help at all?

moomaid 16 weeks is totally possible to feel first kicks IMO. I was 17 weeks with my first. I can't wait for that stage; thought I had felt some flutterings but nothing for a few days. Might have been my imagination though.

There's slapped cheek doing the rounds at the nursery, I'm pretty sure DS2 had it but not DS1, so phoned the obgyn for advice and asked me to come straight away to get checked for immunity. But what on earth do I do if I'm not immune? Keep the kids at home?? My work will love it!
I also had to register DS1 at school and really had to fight keeping tears back. Hormones I guess but slightly embarrassing.

MooMaid do you mind if I ask where you are feeling fluttering's? I've been feeling something but its higher than I expected. Belly button or higher level and to the size. I expected further down, just wondering if it is bump or if its just digestion. I'm 18+3 today so definitely possible I could be feeling something by now.

Feeling really fed up today. I've now told my mum, MIL and boss about being pregnant. Mum and MIL both really happy and excited, which is a huge relief. But boss was shocked and I could tell she was worrying about how they'll cope when I'm on mat leave. She just wasn't expecting it and didn't say congratulations or anything...so I felt a bit down after that conversation.

OH has told the kids already, even though I really wanted to wait until after I got the results of the Downs screening back. But he was excited and couldn't wait. They've obviously been telling their friends at school, as one of the mums came up to me yesterday and said "I hear congratulations are in order..." So I don't really know who knows and who doesn't, and feel really uncomfortable when I do the school run. It's a very close knit community round here, everyone knows everyone's business and I hate feeling as though people might be talking about me. I don't like being the centre of attention at all!

Don't know whether I should just do a facebook announcement and be done with it! I know I'm being silly, I just feel really uncomfortable. .I wish everyone just knew and it was old news.

And now I've got to take the car for its MOT, and it'll probably fail!

Grrr, bah humbug!

Hope everyone is feeling brighter than me today!

Lifesabeach I sooo with you on the awkwardness of the telling-stage.
My advice is to just tell a few key Mums at school and rely on the grape-vine to do it's thing. It's never as bad as you imagine it will be and it's just better to rip off the plaster than to drag on the weirdness for weeks on end.

Thanks surfsup, I know you're right and really people have their own lives and stuff going on, and probably won't be interested anyway. I'll tell a couple of school mums/friends and go from there. I didn't really tell anyone til 20 weeks the last 2 times so it still feels very early.

Just can't shake this anxious/down feeling at the moment.

Lifesabeach another sympathising with the telling people feeling awkward. I don't know why but it just feels strange. Maybe a fb post would get it over and done with. But to be honest, fb feels even more weird.

Well that has to go down as one of the worst nights' sleep ever! It would appear that our efforts to talk to 2 yr old DS about the baby made him decide to remind me what a sleepless night thanks to a baby feels like!

Bless him, it wasn't his fault and is very unlike him. He woke up as we were going to bed but just wouldn't settle again - he would lie down for maybe 10 minutes then sit up crying but not really awake again. It was like he just couldn't get comfy or something. I tried lying on the floor next to his cot which usually works (he likes having someone close to him) but nope. I then did something I haven't done for sooo long and took him into the spare room with me. He always used to sleep ok in the bed next to me and he tried and tried but still couldn't settle. He also kept doing little farts when he was sitting up so I wonder if he had a bit of belly ache? Gave him calpol at 1am in case he was in pain but that didn't work, and it was 3am before he finally dropped off. Knackered today!!

Hope everyone else is having a reasonable Thursday.

lifeisabeach I’m the same with regards to telling people. I’ve only told my closest family members and am relying on them telling others who I see less often. Haven’t told anyone at work because my boss hasn’t been in so I’ll be 16 weeks by the time work colleagues know. I’ve got a tiny little bump which isn’t too noticeable if I choose my clothes carefully, although I’m not bothered if people guess. They are hardly likely to ask for fear of offending me if I’m just fat

Going by the nub theory I’m convinced it’s another boy but DP’s sister was told by a psychic (who got loads of other personal things right) that it’s a girl. So we will see. One of us is right. Anyone else got any inklings?

gudgy If you feel strongly about the childcare issue then you need to put your foot down but don’t let it overcloud pregnancy and enjoying time with baby when he’s here. I admit it was awful leaving DS for the first couple of months after I returned to work, I was often in tears before I reached the end of our road. What made it just about manageable was knowing that he was being looked after by people I trust 100% and know will do an excellent job. That was absolutely crucial for me and I don’t think I could have left him otherwise.

lifeisabeach I've found telling people really awkward. There were a few people I had to tell properly, parents, boss etc, but then I did a facebook post. It's just taken away that awkwardness for me. I feel like it's like saying "Hey guys, guess what? We had sex without contraception!" lol. Especially as we weren't really trying.

I'm feeling quite sad today. Our best friends lost their baby to an ectopic pregnancy yesterday. It was her second ectopic so she now has no fallopian tubes so IVF is their only option. They desperately want a baby. It's all just so cruel and unfair. We called round last night with brownies I'd made and some wine and flowers, and they were just so deflated, and I was trying to hide my tummy.

I understand the telling people awkwardness didn't really get it so much this time as have had to tell people because of being so ill. Would like to do a Facebook post just to get it all over with bur I know I've got a few people on there who've been trying for years and not had any success so don't want to put it all over Facebook for that reason.

My dd woke up twice in the night which is very out of character, she was having bad dreams. I was so tried this mowning I was sick again for the first time in ages.

I had a ridiculous evening yesterday where everything went wrong, locked myself out the flat and had to break in after lost of crying from me and dd, then dd went to play in her room while I cooked dinner and couldn't get out for some reason to tell me she needed a wee so wet herself massively all over the carpet. By the time I'd cleared that up the dog had chewed up an tissue box and covered the living room in shredded tissue and the dinner was burnt. As I was serving up dd decided she needed a massive poo that required hand holding and hugging throughout so then dinner was cold! How the hell will I cope with another pooing destroying machine in the house!

In good news though I found out a friend of mine who's been trying for 10 years at least is pregnant through ivf!

fish that sounds a nightmare but what amazing news for your friend.

We found out recently that DP’s SIL is expecting a few weeks after me. Since their daughter was born nine years ago SIL has had breast cancer twice and they had been trying to conceive for a long time with no success. Although we are not very close and don’t always see eye to eye I am genuinely thrilled for her. I wouldn’t wish infertility on anyone.

Butterpuff mine is lower down more sort of above the groin area, def below belly button. But given you're further along I'd guess you're more likely feeling the right thing rather than me!

Haven't felt it at all today so perhaps it's not baby..... What does yours feel like?

butterpuff mine (movement) is around/just below belly button level to the left

Hi Misty - welcome! One of the ladies that sorts the Facebook will no doubt be along at some point to tell you to pm them!

I had my 16 week scan today and was a bit disappointed as they don't try to listen to the heart at that one here, I know some of you have heard it. And as this is my second my next midwife appointment is now not til 28 weeks; ages away! At least I have the scan to look forward to in the meantime. And the last couple of days I have felt loads of movement - I'm 16+4 - so exciting!

Sorry for late reply littlemissy
Not much can be done I'm afraid. You can get the most vilest support tights and I mean vile but I found think opaques did the job ok.
Worth asking mw though next visit as mine was on about referring me to consultant last time.
Labour was no problem at all though I had a straight forward delivery and they disappeared like magic after.

Hi everyone else.
I have a cold and I'm cross about it. Paracetamol is rubbish.