October 14. thread 11?! Will be see any babies in this thread?

[mrsb87]

Plonk your bums down ladies!

gunwalloe thanks for the tip. I love peanut butter - already looking forward to breakfast lol

I don't have gd, but I do love a bit of peanut butter on toast

I feel a bit achy today after yesterday's extreme tiredness...think its the after effects of my hydrotherapy session!

Trying to decide what to do for the bank holiday...hoping to get a trip to the beach in tomorrow, chill out Sunday but then don't have anything to do Monday! I guess it's all weather Dependant really...

it's important especially for those first timers to go with the flow and see what happens at the end of the day they will deliver your baby safest way possible and that may mean a slightly longer healing process for some of us dependant on delivery type.

Oh and remember I told you all about my sis having fast labours and being refused an induction? Well her midwife referred her back to a consultant who has said sorry don't care how fast your labours are, we don't induce before 40 weeks. So she is currently googling tips on what she needs to do if she goes into labour alone while her hubby is at work. The has been practicing with the older kids to dial 999 and just has to hope for the best that baby is born without complications and that she is able to keep baby warm until paramedics arrive. I think it's absolutely ludicrous that they don't seem remotely concerned that she will most likely deliver without any medical staff there and they haven't even given her any advice except "prepare for a home birth"

I agree with crumble, we should think about how we express ourselves on here, but we shouldn't avoid sharing negative experiences or fears because of trying to second-guess other posters' feelings. I think when our babies start to arrive, most of us will want to share our birth stories and for some, being able to share a traumatic experience may well help them come to terms with it.

In the end, we probably have as much control over what happens during birth as whether or not our babies sleep well at an early age. There may be things we do that we privately think have a positive effect and attitude and/or mindset may play some sort of role (but probably smaller than we think). One thing is certain, though, when we are all struggling with hormonal fluctuations, sleep-deprivation and the feeling that other people are controlling our lives (whether that be medical professionals, or tiny crying machines) we are all going to be more prone to taking things the wrong way, or perceiving smugness, judginess or criticism where none is intended.

So, think (a bit) before you post (and don't feed a newborn coffee)!

On the subject of leggings (again) my Asos ones have been overtaken in the comfy stakes by these boden maternity ones (over the bump). Just sooo comfy.

mum2kiss I still find your sister's situation horrifying. I really hope it all goes well for her and that her body somehow knows to go into labour when at least her husband is around!

mum2kiss that is such a shame whats happning to your sister ... She must be worried sick, fingers crossed she will know when she is labour fairly quickly and make a swift exit to the nearest hospital

Your poor sister mum, as if there isn't enough to think about!

Congrats mrsb, got maternity leave envy. A month to go for me. I've already had enough of the kids and 2 days into term. Maybe that's how they turn out if their mothers replaced milk with coffee...

Also taking iron, no side effects apart from immense constipation that even street tacos won't budge, and the vile taste, but both waaay better than the anaemia effects in my experience.

Mum2Kiss - can you tell me more about your hydrotherapy classes please?
I am suffering with SPD and struggling to walk let alone do any exercise. At the same time I am overweight and my consultant wants me to lose weight, building muscle tone etc. It's really bringing me down that I can't exercise to help move the weight.

Since there are no local aqua natal classes being run, I thought I would try hydrotherapy classes - but they have said I need to be assessed first. They're now away until next week.

Any thoughts Mum2Kiss on what I will need to do to be assessed?

missus have you been referred for physio yet? If not get on it asap. I was told the referral had to be done by my midwife but she also gave me their phone number so I was able to call and chase up the referral myself. One of the treatments they offer is hydrotherapy so I asked to be booked in and they told me when and where to attend. The class was for 30 mins and we mainly did stretching type exercises like squats and lunges to help strengthen muscles in the pelvic area. This all felt very gentle because the water supported our body weight. I don't think the session would help with weight loss but definitely works out your pelvis to help relieve pain.

The thing with my poor sis is that she only gets one contraction and then baby just pops right out! Each of her labours has been quicker and quicker with the last one only being about 10 mins. My concern for her is if she has any bleeding or tearing, or if baby has any difficulty breathing. She said she is not feeling too nervous as she is trying to read up as much as she can and has her last labour experience to go on! She's one brave lady. ..I would be freaking out and camping out at the hospital! No midwife or paramedic will be able to get to her before she delivers unless she calls them before she goes into labour and she won't know when that's going to happen!

Thank you for the M&S heads up too but I wish they were doing dark bottoms as that is really what I am looking for

Also have you been given any info for managing pgp missus? I wear my support belt whenever I go out the house, I do not walk very much at all and park as close as possible to shops etc. My work has given me a parking space until I go on mat leave and I don't take the stairs unless I have no choice. It's VERY annoying, but it has all helped keep my pain to a minimum. I'm also overweight and I would have liked to be able to keep up exercise but it's just not been possible and I'm ok with that. It's out of my control...

Do you have toddlers that you have to lift?

Well a bitter sweet day. Work is all done for me! A little sad handing in my keys but it was too busy to get all emotional! I felt a little guilty leaving them like that but I had to get to my appointment with the midwife.
Had bloods taken, urine sample fine, heart beat fine but as I had suspected I have measured HUGE! I've felt like a beached whale for about 2 weeks now, which I told her, so I've been booked in for a growth scan on Monday. I'm not too concerned as I'm all out in front because I have a stupidly short body. trouble is I would have liked dh to come with me but unfortunately his business partner is off all next week so I might have to go alone

I'm in the same boat mrs, short body, massive bump. I have a growth scan booked for a couple of weeks time. I'm not expecting baby to measure large though as Dd was 7lbs.

Don't worry too much about work...you'll forget all about their struggles next week when you are a lady of leisure!

Hi all been lurking but not really posting much been really struggling with hormones my mood just seems to change at the drop of the hat ranging from happy, to really down, to full on rage have been hiding away a bit as don't seem to be able to be very nice at the mo.
Hopefully it will pass soon I think having 3 little ones at home over the summer has taken it's toll a bit love them to pieces but they each seem to have their own set of needs and demands oh well back to the normal routine a week on tues when school starts again.

Regarding birth I've gone into denial I always seem to detach myself around now must be my minds way of dealing with it :)

Hmm, my midwife didn't seem happy to for me to wait a week and a half at the local hospital so I have to go all the way to Shrewsbury I'm wondering if maybe my dates were wrong ? I dunno. I don't fancy going on my own though, no idea where I'm going!

Do you know how far ahead your bump measures? With Dd mine measured 39 at 35 weeks and they started to panic but Dd wasn't big. Do you have a friend or relative that could go along in your hubby's place?

just my final point on the birth stories thing - I agree that it's good that people can share what they want/need to, and that worries/concerns are part of that.

I just don't personally (and I realise it's my issue) think it's helpful to say 'UGH well I'm not doing that, it's horrible', when it's something others have no choice about. "I don't want to do that' is not nearly so bad, though I realise there's not much difference.

Anyway I don't want to go on about it even though I have a bit.

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Three days of work left!

Feeling big, pregnant and achey! But given how much I worried about being pregnant at all at the beginning, and my lack of symptoms, I shall try and enjoy it all :)

Mum2 your poor sis and I bet she gets no sympathy from strangers either - my Stepmum had two precipitous labours - 40 and 15 minutes respectively and everyone would say "aren't you lucky" when actually she was really scared. A friend's sister is currently in a similar bind where the local hospital is refusing early induction for her first. She had a bad bleed at 34 weeks and the view was her placenta was breaking down, she was taken into hospital after massively reduced movements, chest pains and palpations - she's 37 weeks and just wants baby out but they are sending her home. Her Mum had two late term stillbirths but because its busy season in the maternity department she is being sent home - terrified I feel so sorry for her.

Just had lunch with a childless pal. Haha poor lass - subjected to full on toddlergate - cuddle, drink, down, walk, no like DAT, cudddddddllle, no etc. We maybe got two minutes of uninterrupted conversation when his pasta arrived. She's trying for her first thank goodness and was very patient!

As for diabetes - my highest reading has been 8.8 so far - so not massive but higher than it should be. My GP said if I wasn't preggers they wouldn't worry about readings less than 15. My readings are always high first thing in the morn. 5.8 or so. I've found porridge, or peanut butter on toast and a banana a good brekkie to help keep within levels. If I get another high reading today I'm going to take the tablets.

Gosh your poor friend yellow. It all sounds terrifying...I can't imagine needing the health care and being refused it!

Congrats to mrsb on freedom from work! Wooo!!! I have today and then 4 working days next week then FINISHED. Cannot wait, the pressure is unbelievable.

Had my check-up yesterday and the consultant scanned me to see what my placenta was doing. He then hmm'd a bit and spent a while measuring the baby's head. It is measuring 31 weeks and I am 33. He wrote in my notes the measurement of the head and 31 wks with question marks after it. I asked him if it was ok and he said yes, all normal.

But of course I am mega freaked out and upset and all over the place. Does anyone know if it's ok, or should I get it looked into more, or what?

Thanks mum, unfortunately I moved up here from Gloucestershire and don'tjhave many friends other than at work really and they aren't the type of people I'd ask for support with this. There is one girl who I've asked but we shall see. I hope she says yes! I don't really want to ask the in laws!

I don't think I would be worried unless they were worried taking, I'm sure if there was something wrong he would have said.

Actually no, I won't post all of what I was going to because I have had about 4 hours sleep in the last 3 nights and am a snarky cow.

Suffice to say, if you 'don't want to go on about' something for 24 hours, then just don't... rather than you know, going on and on about it even though everyone else has moved on.

This forum is full of horror stories (still birth, placenta breakdown, massive bleeds all on this page of this thread for example), if you're too sensitive to read that, then I'd say you'll struggle on the whole Becoming a Parent section of MN.

I think this might need to be left behind now.