October 14. thread 11?! Will be see any babies in this thread?

[mrsb87]

Plonk your bums down ladies!

Mrsb I have to agree with the others. You're putting baby first by putting yourself first so don't feel bad for doing so.

Thank you ladies! The sample is a Metanium one so will try the samples first. Now that I actually bother to open the sample pack it doesn't honk half as bad as it did to my first trimester nose once you take each product on it's own I have to say. And there are extra sensitive wipes in there too so that's great after what you've said about cotton wool. I wonder if that's why the hospital's own hospital bag list says 'nappies' but not wipes? Are they going to make me use cotton wool knowing full well it won't work?!!

Was just about to ring the Maternity Allowance people when me reply arrived in the post. Hurrah my claim has been accepted. No reason to think I wouldn't be but good to see it in black and white! Was planning to take mat leave in 3 weeks. Double hurrah!

I need chocolate...a choc dip with the biscuits to dip in...or maybe some Cadbury whole nut...a twirl would go down nicely too! Lol!

...I've just remembered Dd still has her stash of unopened Cadbury easter eggs and I'm home all alone! Mwahahahaha!!!

mrsb defo take it easy & tell them to shove it (ibvioysky in a nice polite way...you need to think of yourself & baby first!).

I've regularly been doing more than my expected hours, late night workings etc...when I woke up this morning I was going to take a sick day but decided to work from home instead...but think its time to start thinking of ourselves first now..

ROFL Mum2

Well I'm shocked and appalled! Half the stash have clearly been eaten already and the empty boxes put back in their place so that no one would ever know! Had to be my dp as my dd cant reach them. Surely this is grounds for divorce?! Except we're not married lol!

I remember using cotton wool in the hospital with Dd and getting stuck to the tar that was oozing out of her little bottom...moved straight onto wipes as soon as we were home.

I read somewhere that coconut oil is great to use in place of a barrier cream so I plan to test that out this time around as I love coconut oil...a lot less messy than sudocrem too!

Got a bit grumpy earlier- my one day off and waited 2 hours for the Health Visitor. All done and dusted now but too late to meet up with my mum for lunch
Never mind, off to find something exciting for lunch

Also think we all need to think of ourselves first. I'm taking small steps back at work as no one thanks you for working your ass off and going home aching all over. There's no need to feel guilty about putting baby before work colleagues.

Urgh! Spent all morning while DS is at nursery trying to find a pair of shoes for my swollen trotters! I ended up getting a cheapie pair of pumps which will do but wanted a pair or normal non gladiator style flip flops which i couldn't find anywhere! Obviously left it too late as all the shops seem to have autumn stuff in now

Mum2 I've also read about coconut oil being good for baby's botties and for cradle cap. It's also very tasty in food too takes bite out of baby's bum

I haven't had my mat leave stuff back - will it have come to home, or to work? I'm wanting to start on 19th September officially, but might do a week earlier, depending on how it goes when school starts back.

Pfffft to housework frankly. That's the one only good thing about house renovation - no point in dusting or vacuuming half the time, within 2 minutes it looks just as bad.

Is anyone else struggling a bit with baby's movements? The constant wiggling, and almost constant kicking and punching is quite hard work to deal with all day. It hurts.. whinge. Especially when I get a belt right by my belly button or something - actually feels like it might pop out. I figure it's normal, but urgh. Especially at night. What the hell are they doing in there?

We have maybe used nappy cream 4 times in total and J is 22 months. His bum only got red very rarely (the joyful mini break away where he cut FOUR teeth in 48 hours and slept in 20 minute bursts the entire fecking weekend - springs to mind ). The trick is to make sure their wee bums are totally totally dry after a bum change and if using cloth make sure you've an appropriate booster to keep their skin dry.

We had a wee towel in the change box for drying his bum after each change if he was looking red. If slightly red we would towel dry and put on a thin layer of sudocrem. If red and sore we skip cream and just towel dry and put on a dusting of fuller's earth powder on his bum at every nappy change. Even the rawest bum will be calmed within 12 hours. Its magic stuff. You can get it on eBay.

Reusable wipes and water are better than cotton wool in the first few weeks. We used them until weaning as BF poo genuinely isn't offensive (it smells a bit sweet / yeasty but not like a turd!) when his poo was just too grim for reusables ie at six months we moved to Huggies pure. They are really good for sensitive skin.

Goats, glad to read I'm not the only one waiting on mat leave information. I'm signed off - received letter on weekend dated August saying I had to let them know by mid July when I was taking mat leave.
I emailed them requesting a time for a call they offered and they responded saying what are your questions.

Hi all,

Happy Birthday Fedup hope you're having a lovely day.

mrsb definitely time to put your feet up and that is appalling how she left the store! I certainly would not be going in next week, but I know how hard it is to say no. This morning my MW told me to start taking it easy and don't feel guilty about putting my feet up. this is the last time I will ever have this time to myself so to enjoy it. I wanted it in writing for DH :)

Goats sometimes I find the constant moving painful, but after our Friday night/ Saturday morning scare of no movement I'm trying not to complain too much. She does like giving me a good kicking at night and first thing in the morning. I think she's going to be a bit of a diva

I posted this in the Facebook group, but had to share it on here too as it was just lovely. My MW referred me to the hospital this morning for more monitoring as baby's HB was really high. All's fine with that, she was just having a bit of a party and to start with it was fluctuating between 45 and 204 bpm anyway she finally settled down and it's all normal.

The lovely bit was that while I was in there (they put me in a delivery suite as it was the only room available) I heard a baby being born. There were a few moany screamy noisy, which had me terrified then a newborn babies cry. I was crying in there and I keep getting teary thinking about it.

Makes it feel all very real as I realised laid there on the bed that could be me in 7 weeks. I'm just hoping I only make a few screamy noisy as I feel sorry for anyone else in the unit if I turn out to be a screamer from the start!

If I'm not a shouter I'll be surprised. Not screaming - yelling, with my awful potty mouth.

Yesterday at the hospital though, I saw three different people - a midwife and two consultants - and all three of them swore. I guess they're pretty used to it.

mum how did you get hydrotherapy, that sounds nice! Have you had a chance to find out what the belt is called? I have a pointy bump too if I try to sit up, didn't know it was due to stomach muscles parting but my physio told me that they have hope they go back!

That's nice binky - glad things are ok.

I totally internalised everything with DC1's birth and barely made a sound. DC2 was a completely different matter though, and I was in delivery room 1 right next to reception - DH said he reckoned I must have put the fear of god into anyone waiting in reception .

I get the leg wobbles even just walking past the delivery suite door. Let alone going in... gibber.

I actually felt a little bit excited this morning being in the delivery suite and seeing the birth pool and bouncy ball. Scared, nervous but also a little bit excited!

Death metal singer was my birth style last time (after 4-5cm - I was all hypnobirthing om calm before that, thinking gosh if this is as bad as it gets I'll handle this easily hahahaha). A sweary death metal singer at that. I think the MW let me have the G&A much too frequently and for too long - to get some peace . I challenge anyone to 2 minutely contractions, back to back, sans epidural for 22 hours without getting a bit errrr 'shouty' .

Sorry don't know what the situ is for non-self employed re mat leave..

Awww binky that's so lovely. Glad to hear your own situation was just some baby disco grooving!

What a fun weekend away yellow he he! I think you may have found me a further use for my Primark flannels there, that'll do nicely as a bum towel.

Speaking of which, is anyone else's dp being all squeamish? He is worried he will see me poo ("can you warn me if you're about to?" Sure, I won't be busy with anything else) he claims he won't be down the business end and looks at me like I have 2 heads when I suggest that one of the aforementioned towels is for him to hold against my bits when the baby's crowning. (Hot flannel is supposed to help reduce pain by attracting blood to the skin I've read and seen on OBEM once so it must be true!!)

I figure either he'll get over himself or he's just not going to have a very nice time

I don't think my boyfriend wants to be at the business end. The midwife I saw yesterday suggested quite bluntly that 'men really shouldn't unless they are a doctor, vet or dentist, because frankly it's messy... and how can they possibly see a vagina as a sexy thing after they've seen it looking like that?'

I was just on my way out of the door as she was saying this, I sort of didn't know how to respond. Erm...

Actually, last night we were having a proper conversation about the birth bit prior to our doula meeting in a week or so, and he said 'surely it's just shit and piss everywhere?'... which made me laugh quite a lot. I think he's terrified of what might be going on at that end.

My pal who had a baby in May still gets vivid descriptions from her partner about what her poor contorted bits looked like at crowning - apparently her arsehole was so stretched it looked like Edvard Munch's 'Scream' and her clitoris was contorted, purple and unrecognisable. He was definitely scarred by the image!!!! He kept mentioning it to everyone when chat turned to the birth. If he was mine I'd have killed him.

My DH was just stunned when the doc with the ventouse put his foot up on the bed edge to brace himself as he pulled on J's head! I think that definitely scarred him more than me!

Yeah I'm fairly happy for him not to be checking it all out. Just so long as he isn't checking out football results or reading some Guardian shite on his phone instead.

If it was the other way round I wouldn't be looking either.

I just looked at some google images of 'crowning baby'. I've decided I don't want to actually give birth. Ha.